Serious question about abuse

Why do ppl tolerate abusive behaviors from ppl. And deal with ppl who r emotionally un available? You already know these traits r no good. So why not leave. And what can one do to make them self better to not attract these behavior?

Questions that need answers...

As far as abuse goes, it's not usually visible early on in the relationship. It builds up. By the time the person realizes that things are bad, their self esteem is gone and they may think it would be more dangerous to leave rather than to stay (which, leaving an abuser is the most dangerous moment for a victim). Sometimes people think that their lover/crush/etc will change for the better.

What may look like a clear cut and dry situation to you may not be the same for another person. Many people think it should be easy to leave situations like that, but it rarely ever is that simple.

I think building your self esteem back up after this and building into the thought that you deserve the best may help these people a little bit for the future. It may not help you to avoid attracting these sorts of people but it may help you to leave quicker if you do see signs of an abuser.

Take it from this lovely song.