Sex and Love....Are the two equated or seperate?

As a Pisces to a fault of my own I must admit I am in love with being in love. I guess I read too many walt disney stories growing up and took the dream for the reality. I have to ask the question about sex and love from any zodiac point of view and any sex point of view.

Are sex and love equated? Is sex just a physical thing with no emotion? Is love about friendship and caring and having to do nothing with sex?

If this is true what is the purpose of the sanctuary of marriage? Why not have sex with those partners who seem appealing and fun? Why not be in love with your best friend?

It seems that when people get married and it ends or it breaks away, the parties are so disappointed of the let down. What is marriage? What is the purpose of it?

Let me know what your thoughts are. I am exploring this whole realm and would be interested to here everyone's take on it.

PD

Thanks Scorpheart. I must admit it has taken me 37 long years to finally figure this out. I am finding I can have various sexual encounters but not necessairly think he is "the one". I always felt guilty for enjoying in simple pleasure without all that attachment. In all honesty I am looking for "the one" however I feel like I have just opened myself up to not settling .....however choosing the right one. It is like I have taken the operating knife and cut the two in half ....love on one side and sex, pleasure, and desire on another.

I think when we find someone worthy enough to spend quality time with .....it will just happen. In the mean time I am having a great time, not feeling guilty, and not getting myself attached just for the sake of thinking we had sex it must be love. LOL

Thanks for all the great answers. 🙂

PD

There are many sides to view this from M'Lady ... one right now, is I think marriage does us more harm than good in many cases.

People are so afraid of failure that they will stick it out, when the relationship is over ... or, because they are married, they will forsake it when their heart encounters another person to whom they should behold ... marriage traps the soul from experiencing quite often and I don't think that our soul is intended to embrace only one, forever.

I think we love many, many.

As for sex .. I don't think this has anything to do with being a definition of love .. it's merely an expression to share a portion of your life with someone that you love. Additionally, I don't think you even have to "love" another to have sex with them. There certainly has to be some kind of connection .. but, it can just be fondness, care, like.

Beautiful ElectroAqua!!!

PD *big smiles*

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I agree with you and it is sad that I have spent all these years thinking about love as some good girl wholesome thing only to learn to have natural desires is very natural and to act on them is not bad. I am making huge breakways in my empowerment. 🙂

PD

I definitely think that sex and love are not one and the same. Sex at the base level is only physical. Without some degree of love sex is empty and meaningless. It may be fun. But it's not love if you don't already have love for the person.

In my experience I've found that love is a very fragile thing when it's not nurtured. I was in a relatinship with a girl and at first, I was enfatuated with her (there is also a difference between enfatuation and love). She was new to me and I grew to care about her alot. I would feel butterflies in my stomach when she told me that she loved me. I would still feel them when I told her I loved her. I may have truly loved her. Our kisses were magical. It was more than just electric. I didn't have any problems being faithful or wandering about when I was with her.

Then I had to be seperated from her and we had long distance relationship. I made the mistake ( the very very stupid mistake) of kissing another girl while I was away for about a year from lust ( which is not love). From that day on, the magical feeling, the butterflies, the enfatuation and all the good feelings I had for my girlfriend were gone. When I kissed her, it just wasn't the same. The sad thing was that she still had those feelings for me.

What I'm saying is, Love is very different from sex. If you've never had sex before. Then don't even think about it. Find a friend first. Get in a relationship. Make sure the love is there first, with both parties, and then I believe it's ok to then express your love with sex. But only after there is love. If there is no love, then it's just sex.

Another thing. Sex is only a very small miniscule version of what true love is. True love is beyond sex. True love is unconditional. Finally, and this may sound crazy, but True love doesn't need sex.

There's my 2 cents. Take it how you want.