STUFF

I’ve recently moved to a new place. While unpacking I have come across items belonging to/received from ex boyfriends. I’ve placed the items in boxes. I no longer want these items, have no attachment to them or the ex, and do not want them at my new home. My thoughts are to package them and mail the boxes to them, no note, just the stuff. Some of the items are rather expensive, such as a suit, shirt, tie, shoes that I know $ 700 was paid. I would not be doing this with any intention or interest in reconnecting or communicating at all.

I’ve spent the past year or so getting my life on track and clearing negativity. Leaving these items in my new home would defeat that by bringing up bad memories.

Thoughts?

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by MissLibra
I’ve recently moved to a new place. While unpacking I have come across items belonging to/received from ex boyfriends. I’ve placed the items in boxes. I no longer want these items, have no attachment to them or the ex, and do not want them at my new home. My thoughts are to package them and mail the boxes to them, no note, just the stuff. Some of the items are rather expensive, such as a suit, shirt, tie, shoes that I know $ 700 was paid. I would not be doing this with any intention or interest in reconnecting or communicating at all.

I’ve spent the past year or so getting my life on track and clearing negativity. Leaving these items in my new home would defeat that by bringing up bad memories.

Thoughts?

You should send it back. Don't put a return address on the box so he can't correspond back or just show up at some point.

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Really? Would you like to get back the presents you gave to your ex? I think that would be very rude.

I get the giving back his stuff though 😄

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by pisceswoman123

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by MissLibra
I’ve recently moved to a new place. While unpacking I have come across items belonging to/received from ex boyfriends. I’ve placed the items in boxes. I no longer want these items, have no attachment to them or the ex, and do not want them at my new home. My thoughts are to package them and mail the boxes to them, no note, just the stuff. Some of the items are rather expensive, such as a suit, shirt, tie, shoes that I know $ 700 was paid. I would not be doing this with any intention or interest in reconnecting or communicating at all.

I’ve spent the past year or so getting my life on track and clearing negativity. Leaving these items in my new home would defeat that by bringing up bad memories.

Thoughts?

You should send it back. Don't put a return address on the box so he can't correspond back or just show up at some point.

Really? Would you like to get back the presents you gave to your ex? I think that would be very rude.

I get the giving back his stuff though 😄

No, if I gave it as a gift, I want you to have it regardless. No reason to be petty....

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Hehe. Yes, then we agree

Yeah I'd donate them if it was me.

Or burn if the ex cheated.

Donate them

“Really? Would you like to get back the presents you gave to your ex? I think that would be very rude.

I get the giving back his stuff though.”



I’m interested in your opinion. Why would you think it’d be rude?

I give really good gifts. Receiving any of them back wouldn’t bother me one bit. On the emotional level I guess receiving them back would really solidify that there’s nothing zero zilch left in that department. I’m trying to imagine what I would feel or think.

Posted by _gg
give it to a homeless person. Or salvation army. Sending it to them could be interpreted as you wanting to reopen that door.

I hadn’t thought of it that way. After having considered the responses here and taking the time to put myself in their shoes, I’d think it would really really close the door....though none of that is my intent. Just returning things that belong to them or that they purchased in the first place. Also to get the items out of my home.

Bin them. But I’m kinda lazy with sort of stuff. Take it to a charity shop? That way if he really does somehow come back and ask about them. You can tell him not to feel bad, as they went to charity.