Why

I'm really trying to understand why I've gotten cheated on in all my relationships, and why I seem to attract guys who secretly have girlfriends. It's always so dramatic. Wtf is it? Am I too detached? Am I just doomed? Do I seem like a slut/home wrecker?
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  • thecrazyariestaurus
    INTJ. Virgo⬆️ 8H Taurus🌞 11H Cancer 🌛 8H Aries Merc
    27 years old female
    I'm really trying to understand why I've gotten cheated on in all my relationships, and why I seem to attract guys who secretly have girlfriends. It's always so dramatic. Wtf is it? Am I too detached? Am I just doomed? Am I just a really butterty person and I'm attracting people like me? Do I seem like a slut/home wrecker? Do I just have really bad judgement? Am I too insecure? what is it? Is it because I have malefic planets in my 5th house? Is it my 8th house placements? Idk. I'm just venting. I'm tired of venting to my friends. I'm always the only one in the group who gets treetrunked over, and I'm sick of it.
  • No you're not doom. No it's not because you're detached. No this has nothing to do with your placements. No the situation does not result to your placement writing the chapters of your life.

    What do you mean you're insecure? Insecure of the fact that you're getting cheated on, perhaps.

    Don't worry your precious mind, take your time to evolve and realize that this doesn't have anything to do with your placement. You were just misfortuned on believing that this past relationships you had to endure were individuals that lied to you.

    On the next aspect of getting into a relationship, get to know the person first. Take your time to get to know them and realize that mofo's aren't going to be worthy of being stressed about or crying for.

    You can't control people to want you, and venting would take away the stress and emotions but worrying about hoes like them isn't worth any of your time.

    Just do you, and be proud of what you have.

  • Dolluxxe
    Just a ditzy Libra with zero boundaries hailing from a gullible nation of maids
    We're bound to repeat the same mistakes until we learn.

    Those men were your lessons.
  • Impulsv
    " http://youtu.be/25-JZp0CqsY"
    43 years old female
    Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
    I'm really trying to understand why I've gotten cheated on in all my relationships, and why I seem to attract guys who secretly have girlfriends. It's always so dramatic. Wtf is it? Am I too detached? Am I just doomed? Am I just a really butterty person and I'm attracting people like me? Do I seem like a slut/home wrecker? Do I just have really bad judgement? Am I too insecure? what is it? Is it because I have malefic planets in my 5th house? Is it my 8th house placements? Idk. I'm just venting. I'm tired of venting to my friends. I'm always the only one in the group who gets treetrunked over, and I'm sick of it.

    Ahem
    I do my research on people
    Don’t play ignorant so i never get started because i find out about before it gets started.
    But I’m a Scorpio
    I level the plane field
  • thecrazyariestaurus
    INTJ. Virgo⬆️ 8H Taurus🌞 11H Cancer 🌛 8H Aries Merc
    27 years old female
    Posted by Dolluxxe
    We're bound to repeat the same mistakes until we learn.

    Those men were your lessons.


    LOVE THIS.
  • LadyNeptune
    🌵🍋🌿
    Just gotta get smarter when you pre-qualify these dudes. Stay emotionally detached until they show their true selves.

    Not every dude is a lying cheating douche bag. Statistically speaking your bound to meet a decent one soon 🤞
  • All of them have secret girlfreinds?
  • I agree with the posters above. Also, realize you are *not* responsible for their cheating.
  • Senorita_LL
    I love to smile. I'm a happy little treetrunker
    female
    Every setback is a set up for an even greater comeback. We will get there.
  • WittyGem88
    10th House dominant
    I think you have to screen better and trust a bit less in the beginning until they prove themselves to be true to you. Dont handout your love and trust immediately because love and trust doesnt come cheap. Value yourself and it will reflect on the ones you attract.
  • Senorita_LL
    I love to smile. I'm a happy little treetrunker
    female
    Posted by _gg
    I know a few women like you. Dated one , a leo with mercury venus. I always assume its past life stuff..like you ate babies or cheated old people out of their social security checks.

    No offense but you do sound a bit detached and slow. Its probably bad judgement tho.


    All you do is nothing but post negative comments.

    Good job Gemini!
  • Chuckcem
    Four neighboring signs in four different elements...That's Me...
    2018 years old male
    You'll need to look into what it is that attracts you to people like this. Find the source of it and change that pattern.
  • Senorita_LL
    I love to smile. I'm a happy little treetrunker
    female
    Posted by _gg
    Posted by Senorita_LL
    Posted by _gg
    I know a few women like you. Dated one , a leo with mercury venus. I always assume its past life stuff..like you ate babies or cheated old people out of their social security checks.

    No offense but you do sound a bit detached and slow. Its probably bad judgement tho.


    All you do is nothing but post negative comments.

    Good job Gemini!

    Who are you?
    click to expand


    A Gemini with a Leo moon.
  • Shadowcat
    You were speaking Russian, "Bob"
    Posted by Leowwwww
    Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
    I'm really trying to understand why I've gotten cheated on in all my relationships, and why I seem to attract guys who secretly have girlfriends.


    All? Ouch. Horrible.

    Here's what I found... It's interesting.

    https://www.google.ca/amp/www.paulcbrunson.com/blog/2013/07/31/dating-the-same-type-of-person-says-a-lot-about-you/amp/


    Patterns:

    The Narcissist

    Description: His/Her charm, talent, success, beauty and charisma cast a spell on you and everyone around. His/Her conversation is scintillating! Once hooked, however, you battle with their demands, criticisms and self-centeredness.

    Consistently Dating Narcissists Could Mean: You are also narcissistic. If you’re a narcissist, the common misconception is that you love you some you. Actually, you dislike yourself immensely. Your inflated self-flattery, perfectionism, and arrogance are merely covers for the self-loathing you don’t admit—usually even to yourself. Narcissists often attract and it’s very dangerous: They’ll need each other one minute and fight the next over whose needs come first. Narcissism can be healed with courage, time and a commitment to yourself.

     

    The Emotionally Unavailable

    Description: He/She doesn’t eagerly show up for you. They are full of excuses and indecisive. He/She talks about the past a lot. They are quick to claim they like you but he’s/she’s not looking for a committed relationship for whatever reasons.

    Consistently Dating Emotionally Unavailable People Could Mean: You don’t feel deserving. Not feeling worthy typically originates because someone significant failed to stand up for you earlier in life. Someone essential to supporting your life wasn’t there, or was abusive, or was neglectful. As a result, you came away with a deep-down feeling that you are not worthy. To correct this trait, it is important to begin by confronting (and often forgiving) the person who originally failed you.

     

    The Needs to Be Fixed

    Description: He/She feels “beneath” you. You consider him/her a diamond in the rough. The person who stands before you today isn’t great but sure does have potential. Dating them feels like a project.

    Consistently Dating Needs to Be Fixed People Could Mean: You’re an over-compensator and you often make excuses for something or for what someone has done. Therefore, you walk into most relationships with extreme patience and a toolkit, ready to fix everything. This trait mostly comes as a result of overcompensating for some error or mistake in your own life. In order to really prove yourself to be someone worth dating is to stop trying to make up for what you either missed out on or something you did in your past that’s done and over with.

     

    The Commitment-Phobe

    Description: He/She has a history of short relationships and may never have been married. He has several excuses why he hasn’t met the right woman. He/She has justified their history by saying he has plenty of time to settle down. One of their favorite lines is “someday.”

    Consistently Dating Commitment-Phobes Could Mean: You’re needy. Being persistently needy, whether it’s emotionally or otherwise, means you’re going to attract men who feel the need to “rescue” a woman (but not necessarily commit to her). Being needy means you thrive on the attention you get from men, no matter how little or infrequent. This is commonly seen in people who had abrupt endings to past relationships. In order to meet a secure person wanting to commit, you have to be a secure person who upholds your “relationship vitals.”

     

    The Parasite

    Description: He/She gets helps, at your expense and assisting him often puts you in harm’s way. Neither you nor the relationship benefit from what he/she takes from you. 

    Consistently Dating Parasites Could Mean: You are insecure. Being insecure and having low self-esteem can attract needy and clingy men who use you. It’s important to have your self-esteem in order before you begin dating so that it sends a message to parasitic men that you don’t need them. I’m not asking you get all gangsta but you must assert yourself to show that you’re not a pushover either. People who are secure with themselves are less likely to attract a parasite.

     

    The Bully

    Description: He/She blames you for things that aren’t your fault. He/She talks to you like you are a child. They use an intimidating tone to others when asking for help. They criticizes your character and possibly even your children.

    Consistently Dating Bullies Could Mean: You have problems maintaining emotional boundaries. You don’t instinctively know where to draw the lines of emotional responsibility between self and others. You seek to win over others by pleasing them or casting yourself in a favorable light, to your detriment. This boundary issue typically stems from carrying the burden of others’ emotions for which you aren’t responsible. When you become clear about where to take responsibility and where your emotional responsibility ends, you can better manage the boundaries.

     

    The Pushover

    Description: He/She will agree with anything you say. He/She has low self-esteem. He/She has no sense of self-confidence. He/She is unable to voice or argue opinions or desires.

    Consistently Dating Pushovers Could Mean: You are a controlling person who tends to appear to have their stuff together. If you’re a controlling person, you easily attract (or should I say, go after and find) pushovers. These pushovers love you because they identify in you elements of maturity they don’t possess. Unfortunately, most of these pushovers never evolve and instead permanently take the role of “yes men/women.” It’s best, if you’re this type of person, to stay clear of pushovers and stay with more complimentary personalities.

     

    The Taken

    Description: He/She is married, engaged, or in a romantic relationship with someone other than  you. Please note, if he/she is married but separated, it still means he/she is married. 

    Consistently Dating Taken People Could Mean: You have low self-esteem and no self-love. No matter the excuse, if you’re carrying on a “relationship” with someone who is in another relationship, you are exhibiting one of the lowest forms of self-love and self-respect. If you’re “dating” a cheater, you are in fact a cheater yourself and likely to be snide towards the people closest to you. Chances are, your family and friends have voiced concern over whom you’re involved with and as a result, your relationship with them has grown strained. While I don’t believe friends and family are the best relationship experts, if they all are telling you the same thing, listen!

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    ehhhhh I'm worried that they weren't any studies cited in this. Some of these descriptions sound like they could be right, but others are a bit off imo
  • Senorita_LL
    I love to smile. I'm a happy little treetrunker
    female
    Posted by _gg
    Posted by Senorita_LL
    Posted by _gg
    Posted by Senorita_LL
    Posted by _gg
    I know a few women like you. Dated one , a leo with mercury venus. I always assume its past life stuff..like you ate babies or cheated old people out of their social security checks.

    No offense but you do sound a bit detached and slow. Its probably bad judgement tho.


    All you do is nothing but post negative comments.

    Good job Gemini!

    Who are you?


    A Gemini with a Leo moon.


    Cool are you new?
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    Nope. It's either you're pretending like you don't remember me or maybe you don't.

    I have no clue.
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