Sweet but Makes Me Feel Wierd :O

Have you ever meet someone who was very, very, very sweet but they didn't seem 'right' in the head?

Like, you get this wierd feeling from them when they talk to you?

IT's called GUT Insticts. It's called intuition. It's called being able to spot the signs when someone is saying something sweet but yet with unexplained intentions that you just can't put your finger on yet. Usually when you have those kinds of instincts, you're right.

It's one thing to assume that a man is being sweet but yet being full of "ish" BUT it's another thing to assume that someone is not right in the head based on the things they've said. Your gut intuition might be giving you these doubts as a way to guide you in running for the hills!

Posted by cappysweetie
Have you ever meet someone who was very, very, very sweet but they didn't seem 'right' in the head?

Like, you get this wierd feeling from them when they talk to you?

well, i wouldn't say, "not right in the head", but yea, i get this all the time. it's really hard for someone to hide their true intentions from someone's intuition. especially, someone who is really in tune with their intuition. i just give them a few days and it will usually surface.

Okay, I had to leave yesterday as soon as I created the thread. Actually, I had created the thread hours ago but I locked my computer when I as called away. I didn't get back until late and I saw that I didn't post it when I unlocked my system lol!



Anyway, posted this question because (the last three weeks) theres this guy that I encounter when I'm arriving to work that likes to talk. And I'm friendly enough so I don't mind talking to him. Recently, he likes to hold my hands while we talk :/

At first, it was cute and I thought it was harmless. However, now its starting to get alittle weird (Tasha, I corrected myself ^_^.).

I'm not sure really, he still seems harmless to me but .. like yesterday he started to rub the palms of my hands and stuff like that, and it gave me an odd feeling, you know? I'm mean, I not sure how to talk it. And he was like, "Well, I'm really happy I could see you, I'll see you next week sometime". I don't know, I got alittle freaked because things got uncomfortable, you know?

Maybe it's just part of his culture?

People dont belong in your space unless you invite them...do you want him in your space— (personal space) Keep your hands away from his so he cant touch them put them behind your back if you have to! He has no boundries with you because you haven't set them, so stop being sweet yourself and set those boundries. You've made this harder for yourself by allowing him to cross those lines in the first place!

I've learnt, Sometimes we have to stop being sweet because people of all walks take advantage of it!

Posted by sweethearts
People dont belong in your space unless you invite them...do you want him in your space— (personal space) Keep your hands away from his so he cant touch them put them behind your back if you have to! He has no boundries with you because you haven't set them, so stop being sweet yourself and set those boundries. You've made this harder for yourself by allowing him to cross those lines in the first place!

I've learnt, Sometimes we have to stop being sweet because people of all walks take advantage of it!

Agreed

Posted by *Tasha
well what is your reaction in this?? b/c if it were me i would be making it very obvious in my facial expressions he made me uncomfortable. OR i would be so nice and laugh and tell him sorry but i really hate ppl touching me.---b/c i am a germophobic anyways lol

he is probably a creep LOL

hahaha @ Tasha,

Actually, I think he's harmless but theres still that uneasiness. I don't mind being touched -- thats totally not the issue here. Its like, you know, the vibes that you get when you know somethings not right.

I'm going to try to fix this, if it does't work, then I will enlist in some help lol.

Posted by brianafay
Maybe it's just part of his culture?

*Gasp✨ Never thought about that :O :O :O

I don't know, I'm not sure what he is, I just don't want to label him as something and be all wrong.

Posted by sweethearts
People dont belong in your space unless you invite them...do you want him in your space— (personal space) Keep your hands away from his so he cant touch them put them behind your back if you have to! He has no boundries with you because you haven't set them, so stop being sweet yourself and set those boundries. You've made this harder for yourself by allowing him to cross those lines in the first place!

I've learnt, Sometimes we have to stop being sweet because people of all walks take advantage of it!

... you're right, I guess 😢

Things didn't start out this way. At first, I thought he was just being kooky yet sweet. He's older than me, I'm not sure how old, but I can tell he's pushing 40. Yes, this guy actually looks his age.

My friend that I spoke to about this on Friday said that part of my problem is that I'm too sweet -- I don't intend to be that way. I just try to give off the same as someone gives me.

However, when I'm mean, this same friend says that I can be too mean LOL! I'm like, make up your mind lol

Posted by sagigoat
yep what sweetheart said ^^^. regardless it does happen that some ppl just cannot tell the difference bewteen common courtesy and invitation of personal space invasion. they take your politeness or friendliness the wrong way. i would shut down quickly yet politely in your case. i'd take my hand back gently but immediately and continue speaking as if there is nothing wrong. if he still does not get it and try to hold hand next time, i'd turn cold on him. not mean but as cold as a capricorn can be which means shutting down everytime he comes near me lol.

Hi astro-twin ^_^.

Thank you, sweetheart is right -- indirectly I made this worse on myself. I didn't even think about it that way.

I will try to fix it, hopefully what I do works. This way, things won't turn arkward :/

Posted by The One And Only cappysweetie
Have you ever meet someone who was very, very, very sweet but they didn't seem 'right' in the head?

Like, you get this wierd feeling from them when they talk to you?

Oh yes; and the girl still doesn't leave me alone! No means no! Sheesh! I mean I try to tell the girl that she's a great person and all but I'm just not interested in a relationship at the moment; being that I have too much to take care of. But NOOO. She doesn't get the point. She talks to me as if we were a couple and doesn't leave me alone!

Is that the type of person you were inquiring Cappy?

-SMiLES

Hun, I'm sweet too, I'm Libran and dont like peole thinking badly of me BUT....I've also recently learnt that people take advantage of sweet people so I've learnt to stop things before they get to that situation or quickly put a stop to something once you realize it's going down the wrong track. Generally it is much better and has less damage to nip it in the butt quickly!

Honestly he will only be upset if he is in fact wanting something more from you than just friendship because by pulling back you are telling him that you dont want that type of relationship with him. If it is just friends then no harm done!

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Posted by The One And Only cappysweetie
Have you ever meet someone who was very, very, very sweet but they didn't seem 'right' in the head?

Like, you get this wierd feeling from them when they talk to you?

Oh yes; and the girl still doesn't leave me alone! No means no! Sheesh! I mean I try to tell the girl that she's a great person and all but I'm just not interested in a relationship at the moment; being that I have too much to take care of. But NOOO. She doesn't get the point. She talks to me as if we were a couple and doesn't leave me alone!

Is that the type of person you were inquiring Cappy?

-SMiLES

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I know EXACTLY what you are talking about Smiles. Actually, I encountered this last year with a Cancer-Leo cuspy guy LMAO!!!! I love that cusp 😄 ... but I just wasn't into the that guy. The whites of his eyes were always reddish -- now, keep in mind he had blue eyes so that made him look scary as hell LOL!


No, this guy hasn't mensioned relationship yet ... I don't want him to though :O

Posted by sweethearts
Hun, I'm sweet too, I'm Libran and dont like peole thinking badly of me BUT....I've also recently learnt that people take advantage of sweet people so I've learnt to stop things before they get to that situation or quickly put a stop to something once you realize it's going down the wrong track. Generally it is much better and has less damage to nip it in the butt quickly!

Honestly he will only be upset if he is in fact wanting something more from you than just friendship because by pulling back you are telling him that you dont want that type of relationship with him. If it is just friends then no harm done!

That explains my relationship problems. hahaha, nice. I have to change my disposition if I want someone decent.

That sucks

No you dont, not at all but you do have to learn to recognise the people that will take advantage of your disposition becauses they think you're weak! You can be sweet but strong too. 🙂

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Posted by brianafay
Maybe it's just part of his culture?

*Gasp✨ Never thought about that :O :O :O

I don't know, I'm not sure what he is, I just don't want to label him as something and be all wrong.

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Yeah, but either way, like sweethearts said...you can't just let him do it if it makes you uncomfortable.
How awkward...brings back memories. I get in those kinds of positions all the time. So, I know how you feel.
It goes from a little uncomfortable to seriously creepy-fucking-awkward so fast if you just go along with it to be nice.

Posted by sweethearts
No you dont, not at all but you do have to learn to recognise the people that will take advantage of your disposition becauses they think you're weak! You can be sweet but strong too. 🙂

Sweet but strong 🙂 Well, I thought I was like this usually. Maybe I'm doing things wrong with the guy I've encountered lol

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Posted by brianafay
Maybe it's just part of his culture?

*Gasp✨ Never thought about that :O :O :O

I don't know, I'm not sure what he is, I just don't want to label him as something and be all wrong.

Yeah, but either way, like sweethearts said...you can't just let him do it if it makes you uncomfortable.
How awkward...brings back memories. I get in those kinds of positions all the time. So, I know how you feel.
It goes from a little uncomfortable to seriously creepy-fucking-awkward so fast if you just go along with it to be nice.

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Thats the way it feels too! Like I said, I think he means well ... but. I don't know, maybe I need to ask my Scorpio co-worker to play my boyfriend or something :/ He's a police officer lol!