malloryor
@malloryor
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Thanks but No Thanks
Just replying late and short text. Don't ask him anything and don't act nice. He's a cancer anyway. So, he will know that u just want to be nice, not more. He will let you go in no time.
Posted by BG2This one is just plain disrespectful and vile.
"It's not you...it's me."
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXSame here.
I don't tell him. I show him.
I stop replying to their messages and move on with my life. Simple.
Although there have been times where the guy still kept texting me and texting me for weeks even though I had stopped responding weeks ago.
In that case I finally wrote them back and flat out told them in a stern manner that I was not interested in them like that.
if they aren't getting the message and keep reaching out to me, I tell them it's not going to happen an wish them well for the future. Even if at that point I'm super annoyed I still try to be polite. You don't want to have a creepy stalker situation on your hands...
Posted by cancerwomen15Now that's just cruel...
Just replying late and short text. Don't ask him anything and don't act nice. He's a cancer anyway. So, he will know that u just want to be nice, not more. He will let you go in no time.
By throwing him little crumbs here and there shes stringing him along. He'll think he has a chance.
Posted by LadyNeptuneHahaha. Really? Hmm... Maybe bcoz I don't like when people do the ghost-act. It puts me on a denial-phase and want to stalk that person even more. I have turn cancer man down with just replying 'Ok', 'Nope', 'I can't', and 'Thx'. But yeah maybe I'm to cruel.Posted by cancerwomen15Now that's just cruel...
Just replying late and short text. Don't ask him anything and don't act nice. He's a cancer anyway. So, he will know that u just want to be nice, not more. He will let you go in no time.
By throwing him little crumbs here and there shes stringing him along. He'll think he has a chance.
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How many threads have we seen that the females are crying about not hearing from a guy? A LOT and i do mean a lot. I have seen it time and time again... 'if only he had tolld me he wasn't interested" or 'he just dispeared, why—?"
yet people are advising another female to do just that to a guy? *mind blown*
No she doesn't 'owe" him anything but it is common courtesy and repsectful of another human being to communicate, even if its just to say, hey you're a nice guy but we just arent clicking.
yet people are advising another female to do just that to a guy? *mind blown*
No she doesn't 'owe" him anything but it is common courtesy and repsectful of another human being to communicate, even if its just to say, hey you're a nice guy but we just arent clicking.
Posted by MlleFisk+1
Texting? so I'm assuming you gave him your phone number and this is not through some app like Tinder and shit.
Be a woman about it, be direct and have some courtesy. Don't be that weak non-confrontational Pisces that people like stereotype about that just swim away. You gave him your number so he's under the impression you're interested. Be a big girl.
It is polite to say you are not going to date him and wish him good luck.
I did it many times and usually got thanked for my sincerity.
If he asks, tell the truth: "You are not my type, communication-wise". No need to offend him.
I did it many times and usually got thanked for my sincerity.
If he asks, tell the truth: "You are not my type, communication-wise". No need to offend him.
Posted by NevermoreI'm afraid I didn't get what you are saying....Posted by Undine
It is polite to say you are not going to date him and wish him good luck.
I did it many times and usually got thanked for my sincerity.
If he asks, tell the truth: "You are not my type, communication-wise". No need to offend him.
Also, there's some men who did directly telling that to them.click to expand
Hey, stop now, Aries.
It doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man....it is polite to say good bye after you have entertained him/her for a bit.
Secondly, it is wise too...you never know if and how your life paths will cross again...he may be in the panel interviewing you for your next dream job!
Thirdly, As the lovely Pisces OP stated, she will feel bad to do the ghosting.
It doesn't matter if it's a woman or a man....it is polite to say good bye after you have entertained him/her for a bit.
Secondly, it is wise too...you never know if and how your life paths will cross again...he may be in the panel interviewing you for your next dream job!
Thirdly, As the lovely Pisces OP stated, she will feel bad to do the ghosting.
Posted by KoniuchaLmaoo y'all are funnyPosted by BG2Also, I'm busy feeding my fish.
"I don't think this gonna work out."
"It's not you...it's me."
"I'm just super busy right now."
"I'm trying to focus on me."
"My cat died and I can't invest emotionally in anything right now."
Jk.
I'd go with the first one.
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Posted by AdmiralSee this is how I feel which is why I feel hesitant to just ghost on him. I would hate for some man to do that to me, but then it sounds like a load of drama to just tell him I'm over it because we were just getting to know each other. He has tried to ask me out but honestly he has bored me so much, I could not care any less if we met.Posted by AriesLoveNo . Really just no. That's the most irresponsible thing I've heard of ever. Seriously wow so he doesn't even deserve an explanation. This is the reason why dating sucks because of stupid stuff like this.
Stop replying...no explanation needed.click to expand
Posted by KoniuchaHe has tried to get together to go out but I had blown it off because a. I had a lot going on and b. I wasnt willing to move things around (I was able to...I mean I could have...) because I was losing interest.
If he isn't a boyfriend, I would just stop texting. Have you talked on the phone or met in person? Perhaps he is better that way.
Texting non stop can be so very boring. To me, any guy that only texts isn't serious anyways.
I just idk, I keep reading post after post about how amazing Cancer men are and how great they are for Pisces but this is the second man I have tried to date that is a Cancer that I find no chemistry with. Give me an Aries or Sagg any day!
Posted by BG2The we dont click is a good one...although a bit harsh lmao but hey it works. I just want to close this door so a new one can be opened.Posted by AdmiralI agree. A detailed explanation doesn't need to be given but something. One sentence and move on.Posted by AriesLoveNo . Really just no. That's the most irresponsible thing I've heard of ever. Seriously wow so he doesn't even deserve an explanation. This is the reason why dating sucks because of stupid stuff like this.
Stop replying...no explanation needed.
If the guy keeps pestering her, then she should not reply.
Instead of saying "I think you're boring", she can say "we don't click". Idk.click to expand
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXExactly Lmaooo
Lmao at "I have to vacuum my couch"
That's fucked up....
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXLmao nah I want good karma in the romance department
Send him this.
http://i298.photobucket.com/albums/mm253/clintcatalyst/Comment% 20Responses/FuckYourFeelings.gif
Posted by whatthecrabYes! He's good looking but omg he is just so dry...talk about a flat effect. But it just goes to show you that looks can only take you so far. I need a personality and perhaps, like someone else said, he has more conversation and personality in person but I feel doubtful because he never even seems inspired to ask me about me, what I do, or anything. He just seems to lack those skills and at 30, that's a problem.
I know exactly what you mean! The ability to hold a conversation, and the ability to make others laugh are the attractive traits anyone can possess. It shows emotional intelligence.
Disappearing on someone is horrible though. God knows I've done it and I'm obviously going to hell for it. It's better to own up to your feelings of uninterest. Tell him that you don't see it going anywhere and leave it at that.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXPosted by malloryorOk, just to be clear, this was me joking lolPosted by xXxAliciaXxXLmao nah I want good karma in the romance department
Send him this.
http://i298.photobucket.com/albums/mm253/clintcatalyst/Comment% 20Responses/FuckYourFeelings.gifclick to expand
I'm not THAT heartless and "immature" 😆
Okay I'm done with all my replies...thanks everyone for posting, I honestly didnt think I was gonna get 7 pages of replies but I'm not gonna be annoying and reply to every post. I'm pretty upfront so I will probably tell him it isn't gonna work with us and move on.
Posted by cancerwomen15I wont lie this past weekend I have replied soo so late, if not at all, but it was more so because I'm looking for roommates and an apartment so I'm super stressed.
Just replying late and short text. Don't ask him anything and don't act nice. He's a cancer anyway. So, he will know that u just want to be nice, not more. He will let you go in no time.
Posted by GobshiteOh God and Gobshite you know just how I feel about Caps.
He could have a Cap moon.
Just tell him you're not feeling it and wish him the best of luck.
Posted by malloryorI tell the person straight up "I'm sorry, but I'm just not feeling it and I don't think we should waste each others time. Best of luck though. Take care"
So ladies of dxpnet what do you do to tell a guy you're no longer interested—
I had a guy ask me why not after I told him that and I was like *😕 WTF. I need to explain beyond what I just said?* so I repeated myself and said "I just don't think we clic---" and he hung up on me *shrug*. Then called me back 5 minutes later 20x lol. Now I just text my "I'm not feeling this" messages, but I'm still direct.
Posted by AdmiralAdmiral I need to you breathe and relax, there's no need to get this upset. I just wanted to know how others handle situations like this.Posted by malloryorJust ignore him. Geez to much work to just tell him to leave you alone. You have the right to decide who you want to interact with or not. Feel free to ghost you don't owe this guy shit. But understand as a consequence he'll have a lesser opinion of you. I still think people shouldn't be lazy in communication whatever the situation and whether or not he's a cuntwaffle because the a sooner you tell him any further tries to contact will have negative consequences the quicker he will stop contacting you. But seriously just ghost him . He's a grown man. He'll deal with it.Posted by GobshiteOh God and Gobshite you know just how I feel about Caps.
He could have a Cap moon.
Just tell him you're not feeling it and wish him the best of luck.
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Posted by PhoenixRisingYeah I told a guy (not this guy) I was no longer interested...he was younger than me by 2 years and in my 20s that can be a world of a difference. Anyway, he was persistent in trying to talk to me so I gave him a chance...he basically wanted to text all the time, never made plans to go out on a date but he was interested, so one day he says "well we havent gone on our date yet," I said "well you never asked," his lame response was "I didnt know thats all I had to do," *smack* like what!—Posted by malloryorI tell the person straight up "I'm sorry, but I'm just not feeling it and I don't think we should waste each others time. Best of luck though. Take care"
So ladies of dxpnet what do you do to tell a guy you're no longer interested—
I had a guy ask me why not after I told him that and I was like *😕 WTF. I need to explain beyond what I just said?* so I repeated myself and said "I just don't think we clic---" and he hung up on me *shrug*. Then called me back 5 minutes later 20x lol. Now I just text my "I'm not feeling this" messages, but I'm still direct.click to expand
So I told him it wasnt going to work out with us. I decided to tell him why because he likes dating older and he needed to know little things like, "not asking a lady out after 2 weeks of non stop talking/texting will not fly." I told him I like older men because in my relationships if anything, I want to be the one growing, not the one doing the teaching. I should not have to teach you how to treat a lady. Long story short the guy took my directness as we were gonna be friends or there was some chance, and has been trying to talk to me since.
Now I ignore him.
Posted by AriesLoveHe's attractive but I highly doubt he has other women on hand, he is as dry as a wall flower and just plain lazy. Ladies will only do so much with an attractive man, when there are a million other attractive men or not, with confidence and a great personality.Posted by NevermoreIf the law states a job does not have to give me a reason or notice for firing me..WHY do I have to give some scraggly man I met on a dating site an explanation??!Posted by UndinePosted by NevermoreI'm afraid I didn't get what you are saying....Posted by Undine
It is polite to say you are not going to date him and wish him good luck.
I did it many times and usually got thanked for my sincerity.
If he asks, tell the truth: "You are not my type, communication-wise". No need to offend him.
Also, there's some men who did directly telling that to them.
Instead of those "disappearing act" like an immature one.. there are some guys who did told them directly.
Some of you people avoid bill collectors in which you have a contractual relationship with but feel the spiritual need to give a man a reason.
This is why men act like this, you baby them, treat them like 10 year olds...his poor little horny feelings. This is a grown man who probably has a dozen other women on hand. Keep it moving he's not doing his job. Keeping me interested.click to expand
Posted by AdmiralI figured it wasn't a result of me but please relax, dont let peeps on the interwebs ruin your mood. You and Arieslove jusr have different viewpoints and there is nothing wrong with that at all.Posted by malloryorHoney it's not you or anything. I'm miffed because arieslove is being a sourpuss.Posted by AdmiralAdmiral I need to you breathe and relax, there's no need to get this upset. I just wanted to know how others handle situations like this.Posted by malloryorJust ignore him. Geez to much work to just tell him to leave you alone. You have the right to decide who you want to interact with or not. Feel free to ghost you don't owe this guy shit. But understand as a consequence he'll have a lesser opinion of you. I still think people shouldn't be lazy in communication whatever the situation and whether or not he's a cuntwaffle because the a sooner you tell him any further tries to contact will have negative consequences the quicker he will stop contacting you. But seriously just ghost him . He's a grown man. He'll deal with it.Posted by GobshiteOh God and Gobshite you know just how I feel about Caps.
He could have a Cap moon.
Just tell him you're not feeling it and wish him the best of luck.
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