The grass isn't greener

-- Don't be the person that only wants to be in a relationship b/c you see other couples in them.--

1. Just b/c they appear to be happy, holding hands & in love in public/on the outside, does NOT mean that things are the same when they get home/on the inside

2. Allowing what other people/couples are doing to determine which direction you set for yourself in life is the EASIEST way to end up being the kind of person that is more in love with the concept of love/having someone than they are the actual person

--Don't be the person who compares apples to oranges.--

1. Of course your ex boyfriend looks more appealing IF he's being compared to the devil! Of course Beyonce seems more beautiful if she's being compared to Whoopi Goldberg! If you're gonna compare, atleast make it a FAIR comparison! That way you'll be able to see someone/a situation for what it really is

--Don't be the person who falsly convinces yourself into believing that starting a new relationship that's based on lies/deception will actually last--

1. If they'll do it WITH you, they'll do it TO you

--Don't be the person who thinks the grass is always greener on the other side...don't be so quick to envy another person-

1. Believe in yourself enough to know that 99% of what you swear you want/can't have in fact ARE the very things that you either already DO have, HAVE had, or CAN have.

2. Instead of waiting on someone else to "make you," make yourself! Provide the very same things to YOURSELF that you wish/hope someone else can provide for you! That way someone isn't "completing" you but is instead complimenting what YOU already have.

--And lastly, don't be the person that keeps falling in love with who they're PRETENDING to be, you WISH they were OR the person they USED to be. --

1. If you're gonna fall in love AND stay in love, atleast be in love with the person they currently ARE.

--Don't be the person that actually believes that cheating with someone else will somehow help your relationship or make you feel better--

1. Screwing someone else WON'T make your current partner any better of a cook, companion, sexual mate, etc.
2. If you're THAT tired of the relationship to the point that your only means of satisfaction comes by you 1st having to lie/manipulate/hurt others just to get it, what does that say about you?

--Don't be the woman that actually believes the taken/married man you're sleeping with is gonna leave his partner & ride off into the sunset with you--

1. Before you came along, he knew he wasn't happy & yet he STILL choose to stay in the relationship. That decision to stay is usually final & does NOT change no matter how good you screwed him or showed him "the light"

2. Besides, if you get him all to yourself in the end, are you sure you'll even trust him anyways? Are you sure he won't do the same thing to you?

3. What's so intriging about a man whose too coward to walk away from something that by his own admission, he hates & is unhappy with?

--Don't be the person who rates your ex's new partner--

1. Even if his/her new partner isn't nearly as cute/smart as you, why would you be mad? Be honest, had they rode off into the sunset with someone 10xs BETTER than you, you'd be pissed!

2. When you care too much about his/her next fling, you're clearly NOT over your ex like you go around swearing you are!

3. If his/her next mate is a hot mess, quit getting all upset like it's your loss or like their bad looks/lack of intelligence is somehow affecting you.

--Don't be the person who believes all the dirty/bad talk about someone else's ex--

1. It's 1 thing to listen to it, but it's another thing when you start judging someone else's report card...the very someone that you don't even know...the very someone that had they said bad things about you, the 1st line you'd use is "You don't even know me!"

2. Remember that half of what YOUR ex's say about you to their next fling is all bullshxt & over-exaggerated. So REMEMBER that the next time you're all ears when your new man is dogging out his ex!

--Don't be the person that continually shrugs off every flaw/bad thing others are saying about you--

1. If only 1 or 2 people are saying the same things about you, fine. But if 50 people have ALL said the same things about you, NO they're NOT imagining things. It's YOU. They're probably right.

2. If you hate hearing the same things, fix the problem by changing whatever it is about yourself that is clearly bothering/pushing away others. That way you won't have to keep hearing that you're such a coniving, jealousy, & insecure bxtch (example)

--Don't be the person that swears all men/women are the same--

1. What you OUGHTA have the balls to say is that all the men/women YOU'VE dated just so happened to turn out the same way. Translation: YOU are what YOU attract. YOU are the common denominator.

2. All the men/women you've dated wouldn't seem the same if YOU would stop attracting yourself to them or dealing with their bull when you 1st see it

--Don't be the woman who says, "I won't leave my man until I actually find/see proof that he's cheating--

1. Only about 2% of women actually get the pleasure & privelege of actually walking in on their mates when his pants are down

2. If you've gotta ignore your own intuition just to maintain a peaceful relationship, that's a clear indication that YES he's cheating on you & that yes, you're in the wrong relationship

--Don't be the person that convinces yourself that cheating early on in a relationship is "ok" simply b/c things weren't serious yet or b/c you didn't think things would get so serious--

1. If you can't keep it in your pants during a relationship that YOU signed up for, even if it's in the beginning, you shouldn't have signed up for the relationship anyways. Why be with someone if you by your own admission, never thought would go far anyways?

2. Keep it in your pants, if anything just in case things actually DO get serious later on down the road. That way you won't have to worry about having to confess any wrongdoing persay things do get serious. That way you won't have such a guilty conscious. That way you won't start out a new relationship on deception.

--Don't be the person that tries to hide your flaws/your bad side for as long as possible--

1. You're right, being open & honest about who you REALLY are may result in you being left behind, BUT trust me, your chances of being left behind are alot higher if the person realizes 2 years later that you purposely stripped them of finding out vs. them finding out 2 months into the relationship

2. Besides, aren't relationships more fullfilling & most likely to last longer if both people know who/what they're truly getting themselves into from the start? Isn't a relationship more exciting, solid & worth it if you know that your mate is in love with who you ARE vs. who you're pretending to be?

--Don't be the person that believes it's "ok" to cheat or hold on to "Plan B's" just b/c the relationship is new & just b/c things aren't serious yet--

1. You're gonna look & feel really dumb in 6 months when you realize things really DID get serious & yet you've gotta find a way to confess your dirty laundry

2. If you can't keep it in your pants, why'd you sign up to be in a new relationship? If you didn't think things would ever get really serious, why'd you commit to them or ever keep them around so long anyways?

3. Trust me, your partner will NOT appreciate that you cheated, whether you did so in the 1st 2 weeks of the relationship or the last 2 years of the relationship. Cheating hurts REGARDLESS of when it occurs.

4. Besides, you need to know up front if a person can handle ALL of you anyways. Don't wait until you're too deep in to finally let your true colors "slip" b/c you'll be the 1 who misses out the most & looks more like a fool. Plus, it's harder for the other person to wanna get back with you if they assume that the whole relationship was based off a lie from the beginning anyways

--Don't be the person that tries to hide your flaws/bad side from the other person--

1. Yes, if they find out ALL of who you are, they may leave you, BUT your chances of getting dumped are even higher 2 years down the road when they see your true colors & realize you purposely hid who you were VS. had they known 2 months into the relationship

2. Besides, how is a relationship even worth it if the only reason you're in it is b/c you had to hide who you really were? What's so exciting & fulfilling about knowing that your mate is in love with the person you're pretending to be VS. the person you really are?