The Top Ten Signs That Youre Being Cheated On

Anyone care to share :-)

I had to ask (Sigh) LOL

No (not yet lol) but apart from that "gut feeling" nice to have any tips on what to look for, just for future reference LOL

If a SUBTLE behaviour is different.

The problem that arises, is once a person becomes suspicious, then they fabricate different behaviours .. or, more accurately, they embellish them. So, you have to be fully aware that your mind could play tricks on you and make you think something is suspect, when it really may just be your own feelings tricking you because it will be a normal mechanism inside of you to protect yourself from injury.

If you can make this division .. and keep real, real .. and imaginary in fairy land ... then you'll be able to detect minor differences in your partners behaviour.

Keep in mind, a person who is hiding something from you is attempting to do just that ... so, the clues will be subtle, not obvious ... for logic would dictact that a secret is covert. Anything he does out-in-the-open, if it's questionable, likely is NOT what he's doing wrong .. it's a diversion.

People who cheat, and keep it a secret .. means to do just that. So, the reality of this will be hidden, not in your face.

If he speaks of something way out of the ordinary, in which you know is suspicious .. then this is his cover, and not the secret. However, this difference, in itself, is reason to believe that there is something he's hiding, in which case you could at that point begin to watch for signs, no matter how innocent they may seem.

Ditto. If you think someone is cheating on you in your gut; 90% of the time they are. Sad, but true. You don't need to stalk them or bug their phone, etc. You'll know in your heart of hearts that something isn't right.

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Would getting home later than usual, and going out with friends (even though i dont know where, or who the friends are) and also, dont get a direct answer when i ask!!!!!

True...so true. There really is no question per se, it's more of making a decision and being willing to live with that decision. I don't know the nature of your relationship, ie, married, engaged, living together, kids, etc; however, I know various variables will affect the ultimate decision that is made. I hold no judgment in respect to whatever decision is made, my only recommendation is to be true to YOURSELF and do what will ultimately make you happy........

As someone who's been cheated on in every single serious relationship I've ever been in, I should be a expert at answering this LOL 🙂 1st of all your gut will tell you, something is off, not right. Don't ask him, he won't tell you & will only make you feel crazy for asking & then you'll start second guessing your sanity.

There are clues, your gut is the best one but there are others, like.....schedule change, coming home later then usual, some find it hard to keep track of all their "stories" so they'll start screwing up with that, he may get defensive if you ask him a simple question because he'll be getting nervous about keeping his story straight.

Think about when you start a new relationship or meet someone your interested in.....Don't you want to look your best around them? If he starts dressing up to go to work & wearing cologne when he never did before....that's a clue OR how about, when you 1st meet someone you think about them & feel the need to talk about them all the time......It's no different for someone who's cheating & because he couldn't talk about his new interest with you the way he'd want to....he'll find a way to incorporate this woman into conversation either in a negative or positive way, so if you notice him talking about this new bitchy woman at work ALL the time she might not be so bitchy after all.

Even after all of that, I've always needed actual proof, my gut feelings where never enough, I dunno maybe that's my earthy logic coming into play, so I always put on my P.I. hat & went to work, It's not always easy to end a relationship because of a "bad feeling" so if you really want to know.... Stalk him! LOL or not but I guarantee, you'll most likely NOT get a honest answer from him unless he's ready to end his relationship with you & move on to her. Good Luck

I know one thing...cheating is the ULTIMATE betrayal...it is non forgivable in my book....

I agree Dward, my last relationship ended with him cheating, My daughter was 6 months old, he's her father, I was completely crushed. I've never known pain like that before & it wasn't just about he & I but more then that he destroying our new family. He came back after a month or two when things started to sour between he & the other woman & I felt I owed it to my daughter to give it another chance, LOL that idea is funny now but at the time I felt it the only option.

Anyway, I tried it but I couldn't let go. Every time I looked at him I thought about what he did, I was completely obsessed with the details of his affair, I felt like I needed to know EVERYTHING in order to move past it but at the same time, hearing it made me want to vomit. I had nothing but rage left for him. It ended when I came home one day & found him sneaking on the phone talking to "her" He actually had the nerve to tell me that they were going to be friends! LOL I then proceeded to tell him to get enough things to last him a couple days & I'd call him & let him know when the rest of his things would be available for pick up.......outside my front door.

I will never again give a cheater a second chance, there is just no way I'd put myself through the mental torture that comes with it. As far as I'm concerned, the cheater chose to end the relationship the minute he let his zipper down.

^ the sex.

Threads like this make me happy to be single. When relationships go bad the feeling of loosing control is like being buried alive. It just totally fucks you up. The realization that one person can totally destroy you emotionally and maybe mentally is mind blowing. Just thinking about it makes me want to become a Nun.

LOL @ Klover
.......yeah makes one think twice about getting involved.....:::Shudders:::

Hmmm I got suspicious with my ex for loads of reasons. Like all of a sudden he would never leave his phone lying in a room with me if he had to pop out or even go for a shower - wherever he went his phone went too, that was different.

Or if I called him and the phone was switched off, which he'd never done before.......it's the small things you notice I think, because they tend to be very careful about how they are around you, but they are also in a constant state of having to think more about their actions etc. so they don't get caught.

What your gut tells you though really is what you should go on, if something isn't right you'll feel it. And especially if you ask him about it and you get nothing. I asked mine and he couldn't look me in the eye as he was bluffing out his excuses, I mean really how obvious is that!

I'll be happy as a Nun. God wont let me down lol

maybe the vasectomy was botched? this happens too 😢

Im with dward417
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal.
It doesnt mean that the cheater is a bad person
but it DOES mean youre with the WRONG one!

I agree with most of these however-

really good cheaters/players... will bring you around and say you are just friends. Or they will tell you when you see that number that I told you we are just friends.

biggest sign- the cell phone and it is not the numbers you dont recognize necessarily- it is the fact that "WE ARE JUST FRIENDS" if they are really just friends she/he will call you also.

YOUR GUT- is the best indication to start and the "I JUST CANT PUT MY FINGER ON IT"

I had a guy tell me one time- "if I put it in the open she thinks I have nothing to hide" He put everything in the open except for the affair part.

I had a guy tell me one time- "a woman will always forgive"

Hey choco !

I agree, once a cheater, always a cheater
and usually when that cheater does find the right one,
theyll have it done to them
and so it goes on LOL

Anyone see Oprah last Thursday? The show topic was "Why men cheat".....and the answer will shock you! I love how they put that on the end to entice you into watching LOL

Anyway apparently the #1 reason why men cheat doesn't have anything to do with sex. Most men polled said they cheated because their wife/significant other wasn't giving them enough attention or making the feel appreciated. Most men found women to cheat with at work or on the Internet. They cheated because these women payed attention to them, complimented them, made them feel like "men" again.

YET....the men also claimed to still love their wife & most felt remorse & regret for what they did........ WHATEVER, that's bullshit.

Well CanTaur the problem is the old "bait and switch" I honestly have no sympathy for women who do whatever they can to catch a man. In the beginning there are many women who pay attention to their appearance, treat their man like he's king, give him an unlimited supply of sex and hummers, never have serious arguments, and are even tempered and lovable. THEN, after they get the man all that changes. I'm not making excuses but you cant expect loyalty if you cant be real.

I totally agree Klover. When I 1st met my B/F we were having a convo, one of our very 1st's & I asked him a question (don't remember now what it even was) He hesitated to answer, I asked him why, he said "Because I don't want to say the wrong thing" After which I quickly let him know that the TRUTH is never a wrong answer.

Here's the thing, everyone who meets & wants to put out this wonderfull 1st impression & hold back their true selves may very well have a few good months of splendor....we call this the honeymoon phase. However one can only keep up a act & bat those long eyelashes proclaiming "I love whatever you love honey" for so long. Then you wonder why 3 months into it, your relationship turns to shit. Why? because you weren't being real to begin with & who you both fell in love with, is not who you both really are!

I've learned to take this approach..... I'm going to be me from day one. If he does something to piss me off a week after meeting I'm going to let him know, that's unacceptable. He can't deal with that? Oh well nice to meet you! You will learn very quickly rather your compatible or not this way & it will save you 3 months of wasted time with someone you really don't like.

I agree Klover Fish. In order for a relationship to be sustainable, both parties need to be themselves. I don't pretend about myself. Either you accept me as I am, or move the hell on. Conversely, I don't try to change someone. They are who they are! If I like someone it's because of the good and the not so good, and I want the same appreciation of me for my quirkiness (ie, I love cartoons 🙂)! LOL.

Anyway apparently the #1 reason why men cheat doesn't have anything to do with sex. Most men polled said they cheated because their wife/significant other wasn't giving them enough attention or making the feel appreciated. Most men found women to cheat with at work or on the Internet.

Well CanTaur the problem is the old "bait and switch" I honestly have no sympathy for women who do whatever they can to catch a man.

This, I've noticed, is very true - working with a lot of guys in real life - they always say they cheat because it's easier than having to deal with the emotional blackmail at home or the woman changed or expected them to change. Sad sad sad...

Plus if you observe some dxp threads, you see ye ole 'bait' ideas being thrown around 😉

I love cartoons too USCT !

I think if youre gonna play around and act like your single
"Be Single"
otherwise all you cause is pain and sadness!

1. "Don't come over without calling first only because I might not be home."
2. you call them and they call you not long after an excuse as to why they didn't pick up their phone.
3. They don't want to have sex with you as much anymore when they usually want to do it all the time.
4. They make plans with you then call right back and cancel and give some practical excuse that makes you think you didn't realize that BEFORE you called me.
***I will post the other five later,I gotta go. Seriously.***
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FuckinA

"He/she is a Scorpio"

You HATE Scorpios that much...