Told her I like her today. ///UPDATE///

Hey guys,

If you may remember a post I made not that long ago asking for advice on asking my crush/best friend out and telling her my feelings. I am here with the prophesied answer.

She rejected me.

She waited the week to figure out how to let me down in a fashion that would keep our close friendship. Her and I have agreed to stay friends and nothing more. It hit me hard as I thought she might be the first to reciprocate my feelings and I've taken time between then and now to process it and think it over. I think the big thing here is either of us have never been this close to the opposite sex, outside a relationship for her, and we didn't know what the proper boundaries were. Everyone around us thought we were a couple by how close we were. Thats what I think it is anyway. [1/2]

[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

Posted by Ravishing
My Aries in Venus does not accept defeat.

Keep being a good friend. Look your best. Dress well. Don't show any signs of being upset over it. Be cool. And hope she comes around. 😈

Please read part two of this spiel. I couldn't fit it on the same post for some reason. I'll keep what you said in mind but I'd like to hear your opinion afterwards.

Posted by Timon
I think for your own sake maybe you need to distance yourself from her in order to get over her and then you can be friends again if that's what you both want.

Yeah, I saw it coming aswell. I knew it for certain when a close friend of mine dropped her home after a quiz night we went to and afterwards he kept looking at me like an overprotective mother. I agree we should get some distance. What I have been doing is talking to her at school and only talking to her outside of school if she initiates first. I've initiated a couple times, so it doesn't seem like I'm interested in her but I have asked her for some space and she has resected that.

Posted by Ravishing
Maybe try and distance yourself from her for a few months. See how things go.

That's a bit hard to do when we are both still in school and are in classes with each other each day. What I've been doing this far is talking to her at school and only out of school if she initiates. I've initiated a couple times to let her know I'm still interested in the friendship, as she knows I ignore things that I'm not interested in.

Don't you have holidays coming up? Use it to get some distance and focus on other things.

I know it's easier said than done but time will heal.

Rejection sucks but it happens all the time, that's life. I'm sure you'll meet someone who will like you just the way you are and will be a better fit in the long run.

All the best and happy holidays

Posted by sas0risa
Don't you have holidays coming up? Use it to get some distance and focus on other things.

I know it's easier said than done but time will heal.

Rejection sucks but it happens all the time, that's life. I'm sure you'll meet someone who will like you just the way you are and will be a better fit in the long run.

All the best and happy holidays

Yeah, there is holidays coming up so I will probably be focusing on my preliminary exams that happen in January. It sucks a lot, but hey, what can I do? I going to take this chance to learn some lessons because I think I need them. Tbh, being just the way I am right now isn't working. Judging by her reaction when I told her, she hadn't got any of my attempts to flirt and elevate the relationship so I'll need to work on that aswell as not investing as much as I normally do.

Happy holidays to you too! 🙂

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

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Yeah, that sucks but I don't think that's going to happen to me. I know where the boundaries are now and I'm going to stick to them. If she comes to me like with what happened with you then I will handle it accordingly. I feel I really was attracted to her. I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her, the best conversations I've had being a bonus. I'm mostly just working on how I'm going to improve from this. People keep saying not to change yourself but I've been through this a few times and the result was the exact same. I need to change something about how I handle my attractions. I realise I never really gave the impression I liked her before telling her so I'm going to start there.

Posted by Telemann
You sound like you should check yourself for testosterone deficiancy. It sounds like you're about to write fanfiction for whatever garbage ass female tv-show that's in rn.

I think I'm fine in that department. I may be more feminine than other men because I was brought up by my mum because dad abandoned us. This is how I feel right now and I don't understand it so I'm looking for other opinions. If your curious, I write as a hobby.

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

Yeah, that sucks but I don't think that's going to happen to me. I know where the boundaries are now and I'm going to stick to them. If she comes to me like with what happened with you then I will handle it accordingly. I feel I really was attracted to her. I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her, the best conversations I've had being a bonus. I'm mostly just working on how I'm going to improve from this. People keep saying not to change yourself but I've been through this a few times and the result was the exact same. I need to change something about how I handle my attractions. I realise I never really gave the impression I liked her before telling her so I'm going to start there.

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The only thing I can tell you which I already stated before

is as soon as you know you want to have sex with a girl be forward and direct about your romantic interest in her.

As in the first 24 hours. Learn how to just be a playful flirt. Flirt with girls you may not be even interested just in case.

Don't reveal too much about yourself.

Memorize the book she comes first like it's a your Bible. Look at girl sex 101 too and take tips from there also.

If you are a charming , a good flirt who makes a girl feel at ease and is great at foreplay.....

You'll be golden for 99 percent of future opportunities.

Nice guys don't exactly finish last btw . It's just they aren't appreciated by women younger than 27.

Women who are single around 30 only go for the nice guys around that age because of wisdom and the fact the want to settle down.

But those nice guys still show a strong initial interest in the beginning...so again just work on that.

I believe in you.

Lol the girl I'm trying to get over had your placements by the way.

Pisces Sun Aries Mooners are a hot commodity.

Don't worry.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

Yeah, that sucks but I don't think that's going to happen to me. I know where the boundaries are now and I'm going to stick to them. If she comes to me like with what happened with you then I will handle it accordingly. I feel I really was attracted to her. I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her, the best conversations I've had being a bonus. I'm mostly just working on how I'm going to improve from this. People keep saying not to change yourself but I've been through this a few times and the result was the exact same. I need to change something about how I handle my attractions. I realise I never really gave the impression I liked her before telling her so I'm going to start there.

The only thing I can tell you which I already stated before

is as soon as you know you want to have sex with a girl be forward and direct about your romantic interest in her.

As in the first 24 hours. Learn how to just be a playful flirt. Flirt with girls you may not be even interested just in case.

Don't reveal too much about yourself.

Memorize the book she comes first like it's a your Bible. Look at girl sex 101 too and take tips from there also.

If you are a charming , a good flirt who makes a girl feel at ease and is great at foreplay.....

You'll be golden for 99 percent of future opportunities.

Nice guys don't exactly finish last btw . It's just they aren't appreciated by women younger than 27.

Women who are single around 30 only go for the nice guys around that age because of wisdom and the fact the want to settle down.

But those nice guys still show a strong initial interest in the beginning...so again just work on that.

I believe in you.

Lol the girl I'm trying to get over had your placements by the way.

Pisces Sun Aries Mooners are a hot commodity.

Don't worry.

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Yeah, I'm 17, so that is my target audience right now. I'm going to work on the things you've said and do my best to get over her over the Christmas break, although, considering how much we talk, I am unsure how fruitful my efforts will be.

So your going through the same thing aswell? How's it going for you? And that's a proper coincidence right there with the placements like.

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

Yeah, that sucks but I don't think that's going to happen to me. I know where the boundaries are now and I'm going to stick to them. If she comes to me like with what happened with you then I will handle it accordingly. I feel I really was attracted to her. I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her, the best conversations I've had being a bonus. I'm mostly just working on how I'm going to improve from this. People keep saying not to change yourself but I've been through this a few times and the result was the exact same. I need to change something about how I handle my attractions. I realise I never really gave the impression I liked her before telling her so I'm going to start there.

The only thing I can tell you which I already stated before

is as soon as you know you want to have sex with a girl be forward and direct about your romantic interest in her.

As in the first 24 hours. Learn how to just be a playful flirt. Flirt with girls you may not be even interested just in case.

Don't reveal too much about yourself.

Memorize the book she comes first like it's a your Bible. Look at girl sex 101 too and take tips from there also.

If you are a charming , a good flirt who makes a girl feel at ease and is great at foreplay.....

You'll be golden for 99 percent of future opportunities.

Nice guys don't exactly finish last btw . It's just they aren't appreciated by women younger than 27.

Women who are single around 30 only go for the nice guys around that age because of wisdom and the fact the want to settle down.

But those nice guys still show a strong initial interest in the beginning...so again just work on that.

I believe in you.

Lol the girl I'm trying to get over had your placements by the way.

Pisces Sun Aries Mooners are a hot commodity.

Don't worry.

Yeah, I'm 17, so that is my target audience right now. I'm going to work on the things you've said and do my best to get over her over the Christmas break, although, considering how much we talk, I am unsure how fruitful my efforts will be.

So your going through the same thing aswell? How's it going for you? And that's a proper coincidence right there with the placements like.

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how am I ?

i started off listening to this song on repeat



and now 8 months later i've graduated to





lol

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

Yeah, that sucks but I don't think that's going to happen to me. I know where the boundaries are now and I'm going to stick to them. If she comes to me like with what happened with you then I will handle it accordingly. I feel I really was attracted to her. I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her, the best conversations I've had being a bonus. I'm mostly just working on how I'm going to improve from this. People keep saying not to change yourself but I've been through this a few times and the result was the exact same. I need to change something about how I handle my attractions. I realise I never really gave the impression I liked her before telling her so I'm going to start there.

The only thing I can tell you which I already stated before

is as soon as you know you want to have sex with a girl be forward and direct about your romantic interest in her.

As in the first 24 hours. Learn how to just be a playful flirt. Flirt with girls you may not be even interested just in case.

Don't reveal too much about yourself.

Memorize the book she comes first like it's a your Bible. Look at girl sex 101 too and take tips from there also.

If you are a charming , a good flirt who makes a girl feel at ease and is great at foreplay.....

You'll be golden for 99 percent of future opportunities.

Nice guys don't exactly finish last btw . It's just they aren't appreciated by women younger than 27.

Women who are single around 30 only go for the nice guys around that age because of wisdom and the fact the want to settle down.

But those nice guys still show a strong initial interest in the beginning...so again just work on that.

I believe in you.

Lol the girl I'm trying to get over had your placements by the way.

Pisces Sun Aries Mooners are a hot commodity.

Don't worry.

Yeah, I'm 17, so that is my target audience right now. .

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17!!!!

There will definitely be better girls.

I wish I can turn the clock back.

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard

Posted by Adreamuponwaking

Posted by Ownard
[2/2] After this, I have seen where I have been going wrong all this time. I have been investing too much into the relationships and not meeting the other half way, if you get what I mean? I've basically been the stereotypical "Nice Guy" that finished last. It is a really big problem for me and I have been reading literature about it and trying to improve myself to be a better man for the future. I am also struggling to get over her. I have done everything I know to try to but something keeps unconsciously dragging her back into my mind. And as we get closer trying to revive our friendship, it comes back more and more intense. Normally I get over things really quickly and intensely, but that's usually because I cut all contact, which I don't want to do here. I'm just stuck as to what to do. I don't want to jeopardize what I have by trying again, but at the same time I don't know what to do because she is still always on my mind even after I know I can't be with her.

I know how it goes.

I'm sorry I was right. Like i said this exact thing happen to me this year.

The girl also took a week to let me down.



Do you know what's the worst part though?

As soon as you move one and have a legitimate chance with some other girl this chick will finally start to show the interest in you the way you always wanted .



This happened with my ex and a girl I was in love with about a decade ago.

I was best friends with the second girl. She did try to have sex with me a couple of times and we did have a kind of romantic friendship the first two years of our decade long friendship but she really didn't want to actually really date me due to cultural and religious reasons.

In hindsight too I found out I wasn't as physically into her as you are supposed to be when you are in love with someone.

This last girl who turned me down made me realize it.

She's the only person I wanted to have sex with.

Yeah, that sucks but I don't think that's going to happen to me. I know where the boundaries are now and I'm going to stick to them. If she comes to me like with what happened with you then I will handle it accordingly. I feel I really was attracted to her. I found her attractive and wanted to have sex with her, the best conversations I've had being a bonus. I'm mostly just working on how I'm going to improve from this. People keep saying not to change yourself but I've been through this a few times and the result was the exact same. I need to change something about how I handle my attractions. I realise I never really gave the impression I liked her before telling her so I'm going to start there.

The only thing I can tell you which I already stated before

is as soon as you know you want to have sex with a girl be forward and direct about your romantic interest in her.

As in the first 24 hours. Learn how to just be a playful flirt. Flirt with girls you may not be even interested just in case.

Don't reveal too much about yourself.

Memorize the book she comes first like it's a your Bible. Look at girl sex 101 too and take tips from there also.

If you are a charming , a good flirt who makes a girl feel at ease and is great at foreplay.....

You'll be golden for 99 percent of future opportunities.

Nice guys don't exactly finish last btw . It's just they aren't appreciated by women younger than 27.

Women who are single around 30 only go for the nice guys around that age because of wisdom and the fact the want to settle down.

But those nice guys still show a strong initial interest in the beginning...so again just work on that.

I believe in you.

Lol the girl I'm trying to get over had your placements by the way.

Pisces Sun Aries Mooners are a hot commodity.

Don't worry.

Yeah, I'm 17, so that is my target audience right now. .

17!!!!

There will definitely be better girls.

I wish I can turn the clock back.

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Yeah. I'm quite mature for my age because I had to grow up quick to care for my family. Besides, in the UK it's legal so I'm home free! ☺ In all honesty, I have little left to do at school and I thought I would experiment with this before I go to university.

Haha, right now I'm stuck on that New Rules song.

Harvest Moon ❤️