What you want vs what you deserve

I read a quote once that went like this:

"Sometimes you have to forget what you want to remember what you deserve."

As I experience more in relationships, I begin to realize that this is very much true; but I sometimes find it hard to let go of what I want (which is something that could probably hurt me) to eventually get what I deserve (which I don't necessarily look for at the time).

It is a little difficult to make the distinction between the two.

Thoughts about this?

You know... I may not be able to clearly distinguish the two initially but toward the end of the process is when things make sense again... if THAT makes any sense 😛

I'll be pretty persistent, borderline obsessive, about going after what I want. It takes longer to remove the rose-tinted glasses regarding a romantic interest but I trust myself. I know that even in times when I am struggling with the human condition that I will come out on top. I know myself very well. It would seem that everyone knows themselves best but I have run into too many who were clueless as to who they really are to believe that.

I know that I will be required to learn the hard way sometimes. It usually happens for me in my personal relationships. I also strongly feel that there is a flow of energy within the universe. When I resist it too much, and try too hard to cut against the grain, I receive much more backlash as a result. For me, I always find my light at the end of the tunnel. So, I guess I'm not too worried about screwing myself in relationships with others.

I have faith that I will be led to where I need to go even if it's a painstaking journey. The clarity and "Aha!" moments at the end are even more rewarding for the challenges and personal obstacles I've had to overcome. I'm all about learning, growing, and transformational experiences.

All I know is if you want something for a long time...its so hard to break that want. Even if you know its not even close to what you deserve. Even if it makes you miserable. Thats what I'm finding to be true anyway.

Oh I most def. identify with that quote. There is a HUGE difference in what a person WANTS vs. what they actually NEED. Just like there is a huge difference b/w LOGIC vs. EMOTION. Logic is 1 of those things that rarely changes, while emotions are constantly changing on a daily basis. That is why it's NOT necessarily a good thing to base major decisions off of strictly emotion alone.

Some people have a hard time admitting & realizing that what they THINK they want sometimes stems from denial, immaturity, low self-esteem and/or lack of self love. For instance, a woman whose had low self esteem for many years may see a man's abusive/controlling nature as something she wants AND needs; and she'll justify this by convincing herself that her man only yells at her b/c he loves her. And this woman's lack of self-love is what often leads them to stay in abusive relationships. BUT unless that very same woman acknowledges & understand the flaws that come with making decisions strictly on emotion, she'll continually be in that abusive relationship until she is FORCED out of it. Sad but true

Plus, people rarely ever take the time out to really really figure out exactly WHY they want something so bad. Some people don't even have a valid or logical reason for why they crave something so bad. Sometimes their response is literally that "They just do." And if a person can't even logically explain to THEMSELVES why they need something so bad and/or if a person can't weigh the advantages & disadvantages, they're likely to confuse what they want from what they really really need

I'm unclear why a person thinks they deserve anything?

Just because you are alive?



You bring to you what you think about .... it has nothing to do with deserving, it's what you ask for by the intentions of your root thoughts. And sometimes, you don't even want it.

actually, most times you don't want it ... on account of people usually think about things they don't like.



Deserving something isn't even real .. that's just something your ego tells you is present, to keep you thinking that something is owed to you, to keep you obeying.