when to call a guy back?

yeah...i feel like i back in middle school by asking this question, but i feel as i get older, all of it gets more muddy and confusing. we've got all these books that say "men love bitches" or "the rules" or "he's not that into you" TELLING us how to feel and what to do in every situation...telling us how men are all the same and this is what ALL of them want or like.

so at this point, i don't even know what to do anymore. i date a lot. but when i really like someone, then i don't know what to do. and i feel like everyone "says" they don't want to play games (me included), but in the dating scene, it's always becomes a game, no matter what.

i got set up on a blind date with a capricorn recently. maybe 3 weeks ago. we are both doing a theatre show (separately) that opened this weekend (yeah, both shows at the same time). my friend who set us up said he was really into me, really likes me. but we haven't hung out since the blind date (he has asked to go to dinner again) but i am in rehearsal when he isn't and vice versa. and we are always playing phone tag for the past three weeks. i guess the positive thing about it is that we are still trying to call each other and see each other, but the down side is that it's been three weeks and i almost want to be like, oh well, whatever.

but, after this weekend neither of us are in rehearsals and we can probably see each other now. i called him back on thursday. he called me back on saturday...and that's the longest he's ever waited to call me back. so now i don't know how long to wait to call him back. i don't want to be too available and i don't want to be too stand-offish.

am i thinking about this too much? should i just call? i am going crazy, y'all. what do i do?

okay. i meant the book "when men love B**ches"....not bitches. wow, i hate how they change the profanity on this!

I'd just call him 🙂 Make a date and have something to look forward to...if you keep it too long he may just find something/somebody else to do!!!

Probably cap men are tbe only men I ever call back.....I have tried the never return a call on every other zodiac sign with outstanding success:-) and the only man I failed to impress and capture with my no return call was capricorn guy and it all backfired......so I'd say like DC - call him....the caps like it....slowly but surely....you know how goats go:-)

A x

so saggirl310, what happened?

i ended up calling him on monday afternoon, i took DC's advice. i got voicemail.

he hasn't called back yet. i am beginning to think it's bad timing and this whole thing isn't going to happen. i have started to being open to meeting new people. (well, i never closed that door--i am a sag, after all--i just was seeing what was gonna go down with this cap) at this point, it's whatever. if he calls, then he calls, we'll see...but if not, my life isn't over. there's plenty of fish in the sea.

hehe.