Which TYPE are you?

Different types of men

These can be men you're dating, are in relationships with, are married to, know as friends or had experience with in the past

Which type are you OR have you dated? Did the relationship last?

1. THE PATHOLOGICAL FLIRTER: He flirts with anyone he finds attractive. He considers it innocent b/c he is technically only "flirting" but the women in his life don't find it so funny! He makes every woman he flirts with feel special. PROBLEM: His woman wants to be the only one who feels special! She doesn't want other women to think that she's not the only one getting the "best" of her man. He thrives on attention & doesn't know how to smile & keep it moving when the opposite sex hits on him. He lives his whole life feeding his ego non-stop, all the while running away the few women that might actually love him. He's always crossing boundaries. This guy is the 1st to unfairly call a woman "insecure" when she calls him out on it.

2. THE SHALLOW GUY: Looks & image is everything to him. He's more concerned that you're good in bed, look like Beyonc? & make him look good more than he's concerned with finding a woman who actually gives a dam about him. He has his own shallow version of "beauty" & will argue with anyone who makes him feel bad for it. PROBLEM: He doesn't realize he's shallow. If he settles down, she'll have to be the ultimate eye candy. 2nd PROBLEM: By the time he gets married to his dream girl, he'll have a midlife crisis at 50 when he realizes that the very things he valued most (money, looks, fame, appearance, image) are the very things that don't last forever. And b/c his whole identity as a man is defined by what he has & how he/his partner looks, he'll lose his mind & sense of direction once/if he loses it all. If he's single, you'll notice he's either constantly surrounded by his version of "beautiful women" or he's often alone b/c he doesn't yet realize that he's NOT all that himself. If he's broke, he'll still feel he deserves Beyonc?. Good riddance ladies if he's actually wealthy; the more money he has, the more shallow he gets.

4. apathic to labels or stereotypes.

3.The NARCISSIST: He's very charming & confident in the beginning. He naturally makes women fall at his knees b/c he seems like a go-getter & the kind of man who knows what he wants. His ego is the size of Texas. He goes about life & relationships with the mentality "What can you do for me?" If you can't constantly stroke his ego or fill all his voids, he doesn't need you & will suddenly break it off with you with no remorse or shame. When he's wrong, he has the hardest time admitting it. When he says "I'm sorry," he rarely means it. He doesn't take criticism well. He thinks only about himself, HIS needs, HIS feelings & what HE wants. Even if you point out your feelings, he'll find a way to reverse the psychology & make it all about HIM again. When he cheats, he doesn't feel guilty/remorseful like you'd think. He justifies everything he does/says in his mind even if it's dead wrong. PROBLEM: Narcissistic men very rarely acknowledge that they are narcissistic & since he can't change what he can't acknowledge, he very rarely changes. Anytime someone hurts, rejects or leaves him, he's sad for 2 minutes, but then moves on & tells himself, "What you won't do, someone else will." Before you know it, he's found someone else & doesn't flinch when he sees you.

4. The SERIAL DATER: This guy is most likely found everywhere (clubs, bars, several dating sites, etc.) He goes from 1 woman to the next. He's the guy who has the long profile that women gravitate towards b/c they think he is their dream guy. After all, he's traveled everywhere under the sun, lists all his great qualities, seems so well spoken & seems to know what he wants. It may not even be about sex for him. For him, it's about not being satisfied with one woman. He believes that 1 woman can't "do it all" so he hunts for different women who can do different things for him. He's often called a "player" but hates it b/c in his mind, he's just playing the field until the "right" one comes a long. It's not until a woman gives him her all but still doesn't get a commitment from him that she realizes, there will NEVER be a "right one" b/c he himself is never satisfied. He's also like "The Flirter." He needs constant attention b/c he secretely believes in QUANTITY over quality. He'll never admit that to you or himself either. His neighbors notice different women in & out of his house. PROBLEM: The women dating him are so wrapped up in the attention he gives them that they don't even realize he's

...spreading himself thin in the same way with EVERY other woman too. When his friends/family ask him why he's still single (or unhappy in all of his relationships) he swears to others & to himself that it's not his fault he hasn't found what he's looking for yet & is constantly defending his too high standards. This guy will only settle down & actually enjoy his relationship when he gets over himself & shortens his "standards list" from 1,000 "MUST HAVES" to 10.

5. THE SOCIAL BUTTERFLY: This guy loves the nightlife. Even if he's committed or past his 30's, he still acts like a college boy. He can't seem to stay out of clubs/bars. Sometimes, for him it's all about getting laid. Other times, it's about him fearing that he'll lose his youth unless he's constantly doing what young people do. This guy has many "guy's night" outs even if he's married & has children. He's too obsessed with the lights/cameras/action that the nightlife gives him. When the women in his life call him out on it, he's quick to call them "controlling," like a 15 year old who swears their parents are trying to run, control & ruin their life all b/c they refuse to let them run wild in the streets. He's the guy who isn't satisfied with a beer in his hand on a relaxing night at home; he always has to be "SEEN," & out in the public eye where he feels "connected." His excuse for his partying ways is that he's just simply "Living life to the fullest." Or even better, "You only live once, right?" The PROBLEM: This guy won't mind a commitment when he gets older, but regardless of whether he's single or married, he won't let the nightlife go.

6. The COMMITTMENT-PHOBE Type 1: This guy won't commit to anyone no matter how good of a catch they are. He fears commitment b/c he associates it with losing his freedom or getting hurt (Every man's worst fears). Most likely, he's still bitter & hurting from the 1st woman to ever hurt him & punishes himself & other women by vowing not to commit and/or fully give his heart again. He won't mind taking you out, cuddling with you, having all the sex in the world with you BUT he WILL mind when it's time to take things to the next level. He can do all the things 2 people in a relationship do, but not get attached. The PROBLEM: Women don't often realize the feeling of wanting to commit wasn't mutual until he says the dreaded phrase, "I'm just not ready" way after the fact. He's the guy that can always lean on the excuse, "I told you so" once a girl is heartbroken that he won't commit to her. He won't feel bad if a woman is still throwing herself at him 2 years later b/c hey, he told her what it was from the beginning. To him, if you keep giving him all the benefits, that's YOUR fault, not his. This guy will SOMEHOW & in some way tell you or at least send clues that he's a commitment-phobe but most often, the women in his life get so caught up in the fun they're having with him, they blind themselves to those clues. This guy will "Friend-zone" you, whether you're a good catch or not b/c his issues about commitment run much deeper & are bigger than you. This guy might be found on dating sites too, but if you notice, there's always something in his profile that says "Not seeking a relationship or commitment of any kind." He's always stressing "Friends first" but yet will do everything that people in relationships do with you, someone whose just his "friend." He won't mind acting like he's already in a relationship, but he pumps the breaks once it's time to actually be in one officially. This is the contradiction that most women miss b/c they are so caught up in their feelings. When women have bad reactions once they realize they've been led on, he then uses the 1 time you've been angry or mean to him as an excuse to "let you go." After all, no man wants a "crazy" woman, right?! He'll only commit when he's dealt with his commitment issues. The chances of him having that "Epiphany" while with you is slim to none. He's not necessarily a bad guy, BUT his refusal to emotionally take things past the level of friendship defeats the purpose of looking for someone to settle

...down with.

7. The COMMITMENT-PHOBE Type 2: He's the guy who won't leave any clues that he's a commitment-phobe in the beginning. The only way women know he's one is in the end when he suddenly moves onto someone else or well, won't commit. He establishes mini-romances with lots of women. And sometimes things even get emotional on his end. Yes, he might really really like you but he has the ability to not allow his emotions to get but so far, no matter how good of a catch you are. If he doesn't cut things off with you once he develops feelings, he'll start acting like commitment-phobe type 1. You'll notice that he'll suddenly change & not seem as "into it" like he was before. He uses this technique where he abruptly stops being prince charming b/c it's the easiest way for him to get rid of women by turning them off so much, they end up leaving without a fight on their own (He's too coward to tell you that he's just not that into you). But usually, when he starts developing feelings, he'll find an excuse for a way out & quickly start something new with someone else. This guy is obsessed with the "newness" in new relationships. He craves the fast connection, fun times & honeymoon stages that come with new relationships. Once things get too serious, he runs like hell. He doesn't want to be held accountable to anyone & he doesn't want to be expected to be faithful, so he often feels he's doing you a "favor" by not committing to you. This guy literally comes into your life, sweeps you off of your feet, sucks you dry for all you've got, then suddenly vanishes as fast as he came. The women he's dating attach so quickly to him b/c he represents the kind of connection that you see in the movies, "Love at 1st sight." This guy is perhaps WORSE than the 1st type of commitment-phobe b/c he actually encourages you to get your feelings involved. And since he's found a way to get all the great benefits of a relationship without actually having to be in one, it'll take him a lot longer to actually settle down. The PROBLEM: This guy will let you meet some of his friends & family & will do all he can to convince you that you're the "one" for him. He believes himself only in the moment, but doesn't believe so once things get too heavy. This guy is dangerous b/c he's not necessarily a player, considering he might only date 1 woman at a time & b/c the only way to know if he's this type of guy is to take the risk of going all the way with him.

8. The ABUSER: This guy is the most dangerous of them all. He's the one who is the most charming in the beginning & will show NO hesitance to give you the commitment, title, ring, marriage or children that you deeply desire. Sometimes his abusive tendencies are apparent from the very beginning but often times, it's not until a woman is in too deep that she realizes she's with an abuser. The abuse starts with the little things:
*He starts complaining about how much time you spend with your friends/family
*He becomes very demanding of your time & wants you all to himself, but will try to convince you that this about him means that he truly "loves you" when he's really just being abusive
*He starts questioning everything you do/say. You might even like this at 1st b/c you associate this kind of reaction from a man to mean that he's insecure only b/c he loves you so much & can't afford to lose you (which is a relief from all the other guys in the past who didn't seem to care at all)
*It starts with a subtle push, or slap & before you know it, escalates to full-blown violence
*You start noticing how manipulative he is. And even though you know it, you still sometimes find yourself believing it/falling for it.
*Before you know it, you're no longer talking to your family/friends as much & are getting offended when they start noticing the "signs" & tell you to consider leaving him. (He convinces you that everyone is out to get him & you stay b/c you feel bad b/c your natural instinct is to nurture.
The PROBLEM: This guy will hurt you emotionally, physically & verbally & will make it almost impossible for you to get out. He blames YOU for his bad temper & at 1st you spend all your time trying to be the perfect partner b/c you don't want to set him "off." But then one day you realize that the problem is really HIM & that there was really nothing you could've done better or differently to ease his temper. LEAVE THIS MAN IMMEDIATELY! Get the COPS involved so that a paper trail starts. He may not spend forever in jail BUT in the event that he moves on & does this to someone else, the likelihood that he'll get a longer sentence increases, & therefore so does your & everybody else's wellbeing.

9. The MAMA'S BOY: This man leans on his mama (sometimes literally) for everything. He calls her 5 times a day, allows her to interfere & constantly give her "input" when he's in relationships, & does anything she tells him to do. At 1st, you think this is cute. After all, women are taught to look for the kind of man who respects his mother right? This guy might have his own place, bills & responsibilities but even still, his mother still runs & controls his life & his relationships as if he was still a child. And if he still lives with her AND allows her to run all his relationships, RUN FOR THE HILLS! This guy has no backbone, usually has a problem saying "No" & will defend his mother's over-involvement in his life, in a heart beat. He makes every woman he dates feel like their number 1 competitor is his mother. When his mother crosses the lines or steps out of her place to insult you or give you a hard time, he just shrugs it off & says, "Hey, my mom has a right to feel that way," OR "Mom always knows best." The PROBLEM: This guy doesn't realize (or maybe he does) that he's NOT a full-grown man yet. In his mind, he's just being loyal to the woman who raised him. In his mind, if it's coming from his mother's mouth, it must be true. He might feel indebted to his mother either b/c he grew up in a home where the mother controlled everything OR if he had to watch his mother slave her azz off as a single mother when he was growing up. Very rarely will the man's mother actually back off, even if he, you or anyone tells her to; she'll just cling harder & tug on his guilt for going against the grain of his family. The only way for this man to grow out of the "Mama's boy" stage is for him to get tired enough of the BAD RESULTS he's getting in relationships b/c of his mother's interference or his inability to grow up. Because it's been stamped in his head so much that "family comes FIRST," he'll most likely die a mama's boy.

10. The CHEATER: This man finds any & every way possible to violate you & disrespect you. He'll never be satisfied with just one woman. If he's not cheating physically, he'll cheat emotionally or vice versa. It's not always about the sex though or the other woman's looks. Sometimes it's about him feeling entitled to get his needs met at any cost. This man often blames his partner for his own cheating ways. In his mind, if you aren't doing it (whatever "it" may be), he'll just go & find someone who WILL. In his mind, if you'd just do more OR less of (Blank), he'd be faithful. He may cheat on you once a month, every day or once every 2 years; his pace for cheating varies. As his partner you might notice the first warning signs & see how defensive he gets & how much effort he puts into justifying the little things like "texting other women," or "overly flirting" or "being over-protective of his phone." Even if he gets caught, he won't admit to anything he didn't actually get caught for. In fact, he may even deny the proof that you do have/have shown him. OR he might cry like a baby on his knees, beg for you not to leave him & swear he'll never do it again. Although this guy cheats, he probably won't break up with you b/c there's something about you or the benefits you offer him that he refuses to let go of. His cheating is his way of punishing YOU all b/c HE is too coward to break up with you & let you move on to someone who actually will love & respect you. If this guy cheats more than once, forget about him being remorseful by the 5th time! 99% of the time, he's more upset with himself that he got caught, & not that he cheated, once he gets caught. This guy will call you crazy & insecure when you start getting suspicious of him & is good at reverse psychology. He'll make the women in his life believe that if they'd just do more OR less of something, that he'd stop cheating & things would be happily ever after. But since the problem is really HIM, the cheating doesn't stop; well unless the relationship ends. The PROBLEM: This man justifies to himself that the cheating is worth it. He knows exactly what he's doing & exactly what he's taking the risk of losing when he cheats & takes the risks anyways. And any man who is ok with the risk of losing you is NOT the kind of guy who deserves you.

11. The MOOCHER: This guy may or may not have a job, but either way, the women in his life always seem to feel that he is financially dependent on them. He's very charming & will offer a woman a relationship title, a ring or the children she desires if it'll get him "in" so he can mooch off of her. He will tell you everything you want to hear & make you think he's got his stuff together, but if you look closely, he doesn't have much going for him. If he's a sophisticated moocher, he'll only seek out women who are fiercely independent b/c he believes that women who work so hard for what they have tend to have bigger emotional voids that he believes he can fill. If he's just your regular/average moocher, he might settle for the girl who lives on welfare or doesn't have much; as long as he's in an environment where the bulk of the bills/responsibilities don't fall on his shoulders, he's content. Once the women in his life realize he's a moocher, he'll make up 100 excuses for why he can't get or keep a job. He'll blame the economy being slow or swear people are discriminating against him. It starts with him not paying for dates, you paying for HIS things & you ending up paying the rent/mortgage for the month. If this man lives with his mother/parents while he's dating you, he'll swear that he's only living there b/c he's "saving up" his money to get his own place. But before you realize it, you're 2 years into the relationship & he still lives there & is in no better shape than he was when you 1st met him. This man's credit is usually bad, he's probably in debt to some extent & is irresponsible with his money. Don't be surprised if the few times he actually does have money, he spends it on all the WRONG things. When you start to consider leaving him for someone more "stable," he'll try making you feel guilty for not being the kind of woman who "loved him when he had nothing." The PROBLEM is that even if he has children, he'll most likely be more busy layed up with you during the day instead of taking care of them or getting his azz up to get a job! Nothing you do can motivate him to be the provider or stable man that you want him to be. And even if you leave him, he probably still won't change b/c there will always be another woman whose desperate to have a man lay around with her all day. This guy is lazy, unmotivated & will make you do ALL the work. And if you don't want any (more) children, I'd suggest running like hell when you encounter this guy.

I recognize #3 - The narcissist!!!! My ex-husband!!!

One of my friends seems to only find the moochers.

12. THE CONTROL FREAK.

Posted by PotHeadVirgo24
3. The PotHead.

lol!

Good thread

12. The IN & OUT Guy: This is the guy who comes into your life as fast as a jet, stirs up your pot like never before, then disappears quickly into the night as if it never happened. He's the guy that you'll never forget. He doesn't necessarily hurt you nor does he court you long enough to make you feel lead on. This guy may have been married or traveling in & out when you met him. Things happen so fast, the connection is amazing, he's saying all the right things & seems so genuine, you hang out a few times and/or talk over the phone/internet & things just flow so naturally & so good. He's not too pressuring nor is he too slow in his pace with you. You start praying to God "Thank you!" for finally meeting your soul mate. This guy makes you feel like you've finally found the one; things feel SO good & you're so in the clouds that your brain doesn't even have the time to form suspicious/pessimistic thoughts. This guy seems too good to be true, yet even if you have the most skeptical personality, you can't wait to explore him & see where this goes. You start picturing marriage & how your name will sound with his last name. You smile at his every text message/email & you either tell your friends quickly about him or you stall b/c you're afraid that they won't "understand" just how perfect this new dream guy is. The PROBLEM: 1 day you wake up & you notice that the texts have stopped, the emails have stopped, the phone calls have stopped. He doesn't respond to any of your attempts to contact him, even when you try to appeal to him using anger or tears. Nothing seems to work. And before you know it, a month has passed by & it's almost as if he disappeared off the face of the earth! It isn't that this guy is just simply dating someone else, b/c if he was, he would've at least let the communicate subside slowly instead of abruptly. Well, or he would've at least communicated with you enough so that he wouldn't lose your respect completely just in case he needed you as Plan B someday. No honey, he's probably married or was in town on business. He's good at coming in like a jet & sweeping women off their feet. In fact, he gets a little bit of an ego boost as he's walking out of the door to your life b/c he knows exactly what he's doing & he thrives off of the effect he's had on women. This guy rarely feels guilty about disappearing abruptly b/c he never "technically" promised you anything, nor did he stay long enough for real feelings to develop. This is the man you do

...don't know whether to hate b/c of the fire and flame he brought to your life in a way no other man has been able to, or wait for him just in case his phone fell in the toilet or some other crazy excuse we women come up with to soften the blow. B/c this guy usually doesn't immediately (or at all) sleep with the women he leaves this effect on, the women left behind often struggle between emotions of extreme anger and excitement that for some reason won't wear off until it's been too long since you've heard from him, & know for sure that your fling is over. However, if this guy DOES sleep with you, he's probably the best sex/foreplay you've ever had, which makes his sudden disappearance even more hard to bear. You may end up hating him for allowing you to fall for him even though he had no plans on catching you, BUT for some reason, you will always remember this man & there will be a small part of you that will be secretly awaiting his return.

13. The DRAINER: This guy brings emotional drain to any woman he's with. He's always mad, angry, depressed or complaining about SOMETHING. But yet there's a soft element to him that appeals to the side of you as a woman that immediately wants to run to him & nurture him & be there for him in hopes that he'll deem you the loyal/ride or die at the end of all his troubles. The PROBLEM: His trouble very rarely end. There's always SOMETHING going on. His ex won't stop calling. He swears everyone is out to get him. He needs constant reassurance. He's insecure & makes you explain yourself when you really shouldn't. He's always asking you to help him pick up the broken pieces of his life & on the occasion that you need your own shoulder to cry on for once, he makes you feel guilty & finds a way to turn things around and makes it about HIM. He's always the victim to something. This guy may have had a past (or current) drug addiction, criminal record or a childhood from hell. He's not a bad person on the inside but he has too many demons that you learn later on that you can't control no matter how hard you try. You genuinely love this guy & he actually loves you too, but he's got so much drama & problems going on 24-7 that you never have time for yourself to catch up & refuel. Nonetheless, you stick around for awhile longer b/c you keep telling yourself that this is just a "phase" but as time goes on & on, you realize that it's not & that this guy is just naturally toxic & that he's just too much to handle; almost like a child that you always have to comfort & protect. You start becoming the "man" in the relationship b/c this guy expects for you to do all of the things that you actually wanted him to do for you. He's getting all his needs met, & all the support & love he needs/expects from you, but when you take inventory & look at the big picture, you realize that HE'S the only one getting something out of the relationship. Almost as if you'd worked out in the gym for 5 days straight, your body feels drained, & your mind/heart feel stretched to the extreme. Even if you try to leave him, he'll find some kind of way to drag you back in. He'll come up with some sad sob story to wheel you back in or he'll have his friends/family beg you to stay b/c "you're the only one he trusts/cares for so much."

.... Before you know it, you're contemplating cheating on him or leaving him altogether. You only THINK you'll be miserable if you leave him, but the minute you do, you'll feel an ENORMOUS sense of relief! This is the guy whom when you look back, you say, "What the HELL was I thinking?"

14. The BORE: This is the man whose resume looks amazing. He's stable, has a great job, seems like a great provider & is the kind you bring home to your family with the hopes that they'll be proud of you for bringing such a good catch home. He probably has some fancy degree & might have even graduated with honors from fancy school. If you were to pull out your list of your "dream guy" he seems to fall into every category of what you've been looking for BUT something is just missing! Yes, he's successful, yes he seems like a family man, yes he buys you all the expensive gifts the other guys were too cheap to buy for you & yes he "technically" fits the mold for what all your friends/family think you need. This guy isn't always in & out of clubs/bars, nor is he a flirter or player like the guys in your past. Even though he's a workaholic, he seems to be focused solely on you & for that, you feel indebted to hold onto this guy b/c guys like him don't come easy. BUT there's no connection. There's no chemistry, at least none that you can actually feel. This guy might even be completely boring once you really get "in" & get him to commit to you. He talks to you about & offers you all the things you fantasized about like marriage & children, but you struggle with picturing in your life forever b/c there's not much fun or "Umph!" in the relationship. When you complain to your friends/family about how boring he is, they scold you for being ungrateful & remind you of all the Aholes you dated. Their lectures work & before you know it, you're scrambling trying to find ways to spice the relationship up. Some days he barely pays you any attention & when you call him out on it, he brushes you off like you're just having a PMS day. But you know better. You know yourself & you start realizing that you don't want "this" no matter how good he may seem to others.

...This is the guy whom you contemplate not necessarily leaving, but at least cheating on. He's so inattentive to your innermost desires to have fun & to have a relationship with "spark" that all the women he dates are in danger of cheating on him, emotionally especially. The PROBLEM: This man is simple & doesn't require much; so to him as long as you look good & aren't a total nutcase, he's content. He knows how to self-soothe & how to have the most fun doing the things most others find boring. His problem is that he secretly thinks women ought to be as simple as him & should be grateful to find such a good catch. He's not necessarily conceited, BUT he knows his worth & he knows a lot of women would kill for a man like him; this belief he has makes it extremely hard to get him to "lighten up," not work as much or have more fun with you. Since he knows he can get any woman he wants just based off the money/stableness he has, he isn't one to pay you any mind when you start b*tching. This guy will be utterly confused when you finally do muster up the courage to leave him against your family/friend's wishes. He'll think to himself, "She's an idiot for letting me get away," & while you're off into the sunset with the next guy who'll probably be the "bad guy" that good girls flock to, he'll also move on & find someone better suited for him. And the next woman he ends up with won't hesitate to marry him or stick with him like you did. 5 years later, you'll hear about him, his new wife, his beautiful kids, his amazing house on the lake & the amazing traveling he's done with his family, & although you don't really regret your decision to let him get away, a small part of you always wonders "what if?" especially since the guys after him are more fun, but most likely don't offer the same security & stableness that he did. He'll always be the guy you sort of regret letting get away, but then again, don't regret letting go at the same time. It won't be until you get with the "fun but not stable" guy that you realize you F'd up lol

15. The GOOD fellow: He's the guy whose the full package. He's the guy that you either marry b/c you weren't dumb enough to let him get away OR he's the guy that you pushed away b/c your insecurities & feelings that he is "too good to be true" consumed you too much. He's the guy who isn't perfect but is def. worth it. He has the typical "man flaws." Nothing too big or deal breaking. He is decent looking, has a job, wants all the same things you want & tries his best to make the commitment last. This guy was probably a player in is younger years, but is the best catch for you now b/c he grew so tired of that life that he vowed never to go back. He's not necessarily rich or perfect looking, but he's imperfectly perfect since he seems so "normal" & average. This guy won't cheat on you, won't leave you b/c you're being hormonal, nor will he neglect your needs. He may not be a porn-star in the bedroom, but he's def. attentive to your needs (sexual too) & does everything he can to please, provide & protect you. He won't rush the relationship, but won't let things go at too slow a pace either. He surprises you when he seems so patient & understanding with you; it's not that he's a great boyfriend/husband b/c he's a player in disguise or too good to be true. No, it's b/c he was once a player & during those times he learned a lot about women & is finally ready to put his knowledge to some good use. This man won't hesitate to cook for you, shrug off temptation from the opposite sex or be the shoulder you need to cry on when you're going through something. Miserable women dating this type of guy will push him away & will always be suspicious of him b/c they don't believe they deserve such good treatment (They've gotten used to all the Aholes). However, the women who aren't so miserable will be the luckiest to have him. The PROBLEM: B/c he's not shallow (anymore) & doesn't require much, you might turn him off by trying to use the same antics with him that you used with other guys who tried to hurt you. With him, you don't have to look like Beyonc? every day. you don't have to be perfect. You don't have to break your back to get loyalty out of him. His main problem with women is in them not realizing those things. This is the guy a lot of women take advantage of or let get away & b/c of that, this guy will eventually contemplate becoming "The BORE" b/c he won't be able to figure out why now that he's a "good guy" he's not getting any play or loyalty. KEEP HIM!!!!!

Posted by CluelessCancer
I feel like there's no good men left.

Well that's why I saved the BEST FOR LAST!!

There ARE good men left but if you don't believe so, you'll naturally attract yourself to the men who aren't so good & the cycle will continue.

The saying, "Women get so used to being treated like dirt that they don't even know/can't handle it when a good man actually comes along," is so TRUE!

It seems that the women who end up with the last type of man I listed, are the women who stopped believing that all men were the same.

It's very hard to meet guys like #15 if you're always thinking every man is out to hurt you. And even if you do come across guy #14, you'll turn him off b/c he won't want to deal with all your insecurities; he'd much rather have a woman who is optimistic about love.

There are more guys like #15 than you think! You've just gotta make sure you're not too scared to recognize him when he walks past you or too pessimistic to keep him once you find him =)

It's always wise to remember & that guys #1-14 DO exist, BUT SO DOES GUY #15!!

Posted by tiziani
Personally from what i have seen all men are the same.

Generally all people of any gender start off at a 15, go through someone that introduces them to some of the harsher realities of life and they reverse engineer their way through 1 to 14 all in an effort to get some sense of control and avoid being hurt like the last time. We have all done it.
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True. But that's only 1 perspective. The same can go the other way around too.

A man might start off as a bad guy, then turn good once he's gotten tired of the bad results he was getting from being "bad."

I personally know a lot of guys who are "good" now b/c they used to be "bad," in the past.

I think it's more of a good thing to date a man whose gotten a lot out of his system b/c if he hasn't been through some things, & experienced that "variety" stage that all men go through, you're right he'll just go from good to bad over time as opposed to going from bad to good

To say that all men are the same is to say that all relationships/marriages are garbage. That's just simply NOT true

A man doesn't have to be "perfect" or have a perfect past track record to be considered a "good guy."

Some guys get better over time, and some get worse! It's best to be aware of BOTH types of men.

Don't forget to that "good" is in the eye of the beholder! There's this stigma that all women are "good" women & that all guys are Aoles. I'm sure had I substituted "he" for "she" in this post with all the "types" there'd be just as many men who can identify with meeting those types as well

We've gotta stop blaming men for everything. Plenty of guys complain about being "good" but being overlooked or not acknowledged. They're not ALL lying.

Besides, if woman doesn't believe good men exist, it's only natural to assume that she wouldn't know what to do with one if she had one thus the reason things go south may be b/c of HER & her insecurities, ungratefulness & standards that are too high

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...with a dash of the shallow guy

#6 would fit best.

Been a bit of everything methinks.

Is there a IDGAF type that doesn't think you can categorise people like this.

Posted by LovesickCancer
I'd rather have THE BORE, but I've read this article before, and it's b.s

the list is not so good.

but the bore is the best, you can rely on him, big dependability.
i'm boring too so we can be boring together, with chemistry.

Posted by LovesickCancer
I'd rather have THE BORE, but I've read this article before, and it's b.s

Well that's odd considering I wrote this post myself off the top of my head!

Me & some girlfriends were talking about the types of men we've come across in the past, & I decided to make a thread about the types we came up with

I'm sure there are people who have made similar lists, but this list was from MY head, not from any magazine, article or other person

My response to the women who think all men are the same: All men aren't the same. All the men YOU'VE dated were all the same. HUGE DIFFERENCE:

How is this list B.S. when there are millions of women who have experienced some of these very things before! lol To call someone's experience "B.S." just b/c you haven't necessarily experienced it (yet) is insensitive & just plain wrong

If there weren't cheaters, abusers, players & narcissists in our society, it'd make sense to call it B.S. but clearly there are so don't knock the experiences or the people who have run into such people

I THINK IM THE
KILL THEM ALL AND LET SHABOOM SORT IT OUT