A Fish Tale

So, my daughter runs into this guy I was seeing about 8 years back for a stint over the weekend at some fair. (this guy just "stopped" cold, nothing said or anything when he stopped seeing me)

Anyway, he get's in touch with me yesterday. Ok, that's fine. I text him and blah, blah, blah.

Today he texts me this morning about what he's doing then later to tell me he's going fishing. Ok *shrugs*

He's an Aqua btw

Afternoon rolls around, he informs me he has 2 keepers.

Me: Hmmm, u never were too good with "keepers" 😛

Him: Getting better, found out it all depends on the size of the worm and to bait the hook

Me: Is that so lol

Him: What kind of bait do I need to reel you in?
(mind you, we have not ran into each other in like 6 years and it's been over 8 since we hung out)

Me: Fish was on the line. Certainly the worm was never the problem. I think the reel itself was broken...
Me: Besides, you preferred catch and release...
Me: It was all for sport!

Him: Not true, have kept 2 nice fish. Only reason is they didn't fight.
(apparently having missed my all for sport text and probably the reference all together)
Him: Wow, so wrong!

Me: What was wrong my dear?
Me: Seemed like sport to me, yet there was no fight. Some fish just don't have it in 'em I suppose.

Him: Nothing is wrong babe.

Me: Attractive lure, juicy worm, can make them easy for the taking.
Me: Of course, a good catch may think twice about biting after a catch and release...

Him: Always loved your bait.
(I'm seriously LOLing at this point)

Me: My bait? What? Did I use the wrong hook? Reality was that the fish I thought I snagged broke the line.

Him: Had the totally right bait. Had a scared fish at the time. In waters now that we know for ourself...Packing up now. Done fishing.

Me: 🙂

Him: Can't wait to see you.

I find a discussion in references or even in 3rd party rather funny (it can make a discussion easier to have too in all seriousness)... do you have any such stories/experiences?

Back then he wasn't that into you.

Doesn't make him a bad guy. Yes he could've been more mature in the way he decided to abruptly end things but nonetheless, he did you a favor by showing you how horrible his problem-solving skills are lol

It now comes down to PRIDE.

Meaning...even if this guy is different, has changed & would never leave you like that again, would you refuse to give it another shot simply based on PRIDE alone?

There's no right or wrong answer.

For some people, they're like, "Hey, you get one chance. If you mess up, it's over b/c there are way too many other fish in the sea that WON'T mess up the 1st time"

And for others, they're like, "Well, as long as you've changed, that's all that matters."

Maybe you responded to his texts b/c you never fully stopped liking him. Maybe you're talking to him again b/c it's your way of getting things off your chest & passive-aggressively confronting him...i.e. closure

If the truth is that you still kinda like him, ask yourself if you're willing to take the RISK again. Are you willing to risk that you might end up liking this guy with intensity all over again & he end up abruptly playing you to the left again? Surely you'd feel dumb & kick yourself for letting him back in!

OR maybe if you walk away from this guy for once & for all ON YOUR TERMS this time, maybe you'll always wonder the WHAT IFs

Can't wait to hear how this pans out 🙂

Funny thing, I've been texting him, but never told him who I was or referred to anything that would lead him to believe it was me prior to the analogy. He was a player (I believe), I could have been any one of his conquests. He texted me last night "Goodnight [Lildol]'. I responded in kind, nothing more.

Maybe closure is exactly what I need(ed).

I drunk texted later (I know, shoot me!)

"You pain me... thought I let it go. Is what it is or was. You hurt me. Wasn't expecting it. Sometimes we expect more than we get... I got the short end."

His response early this morning was a simple "Sorry"

Something in me thinks (or maybe wants to believe) it was genuine. The simplicity of it, I think, suggests that.

Reading back, to clear up any confusion, he originally contacted me via email. I initiated the first text and it was just a cordial back and forth. I did not tell him who I was nor referenced anything that would clue him in (this was intentional) so I could have been one of many. Maybe he did know though. Or, maybe the smell of fish cleared his brain LOL

Posted by feby16aqua
Drunk texting!! I'd be careful about that in aqualand. I dated an aqua back when and one time I sent him the lyrics to a genesis song...he was like "oh so you're in love with me now?" yeah.

Yeah, those (crazy) Aquas... I already have two that basically claimed me as their girlfriend WITHOUT discussing it with me first (and not even a kiss).

Lord, God, Almighty (and I'm not even religious) what am I the eff to do with my dumb luck?

Posted by feby16aqua
With the same guy, we were in bed and I told him "I love you" he responded "I know"

fucker. 😛

I said that once...because I didn't feel it back...some fall sooner than others I guess!

Why did I think you were gay Feb?

Oh, Feby, certainly now. He used my name last night. I'm not sure at what point he picked up on it is all I was getting at. Like I said, maybe he did know from the start. Not that it matters, I suppose. I've basically gotten off my chest what I've had to say to him after all these years.

I don't know how I would respond if I told a man I loved him and he said he knew... I think it would depend on how he said it, e.g., cocky (of course you do bitch!) or sensitive like (as in, I know, I love you too but won't say it).

Posted by feby16aqua

Posted by lildol
Oh, Feby, certainly now. He used my name last night. I'm not sure at what point he picked up on it is all I was getting at. Like I said, maybe he did know from the start. Not that it matters, I suppose. I've basically gotten off my chest what I've had to say to him after all these years.

That's good. 🙂 How do you feel about it now? Have you texted him today after the "sorry"?

Posted by feby16aqua

Posted by lildol
Oh, Feby, certainly now. He used my name last night. I'm not sure at what point he picked up on it is all I was getting at. Like I said, maybe he did know from the start. Not that it matters, I suppose. I've basically gotten off my chest what I've had to say to him after all these years.

That's good. 🙂 How do you feel about it now? Have you texted him today after the "sorry"?

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In true Cap style , didn't even acknowledge it as though not a word was spoken. I inquired about the BBQ he wants me to meet him at tomorrow (which I thought was tonight). He's supposed to call me this afternoon. We'll see if he can follow through.

Man hasn't seen/spoke to me in 5-6 years nor had any relations with me for 8, yet I'm back to being babe, hon and gorgeous. I'm hesitant about him having given up his player ways...

Quote, copy, paste, quote, FAIL!

bombtastic 😛

I'm a simple kinda girl, nothing fancy, don't really make myself and have a simple style . I certainly wouldn't want to look like I was making an effort either, that just draws attention and accentuates the "not who I am". I can only look like me, and if he don't like me then he can shove it! (there's plenty more lining up for me to slay LOL)

And you still had his number this whole time?! Damn

I never delete numbers even if I don't ever plan to speak to them again. You never know when it could come in handy. People have their own skill sets and connections. It's good to have an available network if necessary.

He's baaaaccckkk... I asked if he was ready, he said he wants to be caught and pulled into the boat LOL

I loved that whole fish story... awesome way to communicate.

So, by the sounds of it he is ready to have a real relationship. I cannot see him saying that if it weren't the case, Aqua or not.

Oh wow what a lovely story !!!
Fingers x sounds like he's ready
Good luck

I know it's a lil late but that was a cute and funny story. The curious nature in me would've said 'sooo if you wouldn't have run into my daughter you would've never contacted me?'

Ex is an aqua moon and he texts me abt once a wk with random stuff - what's up with that? I barely even respond. I have no problem severing the connection and we've been apart for 10 mos...he's a very confused individual.

8 years?? Danggg

@Star: The Aries pretty much stopped talking to me all together, and only said "hi" if passing me in the hall. Might have been the email I sent him about needing to take a good look in the mirror... his lack of acknowledgement doesn't phase me though.

The Taurus from last year, we were in two different places in life.

The Taurus earlier this year enjoys his harem. Hadn't seen him since early April. He did invite me over last week - I had to tell him "no, I wasn't going to be his booty call" his response: "ok" *shrugs*

DXP hiccuping again!

The Aqua is on vaca for the next two weeks, so I'll have to wait until his return to see what happens.

@Star: yes, and I still miss him dearly...

Yeah, he's on vaca. Texting me daily about what he's doing, even called 😕 Told me today he wished I was there with him. Would love to see me in my grandma role (after I shared what I was doing with my granddaughter today) and wants to cook for me...

All in-btwn a lot of sexting LOL

Some things never change...

I received a VM - he's looking forward to seeing me and excited about the possibility of us.

Now has stated he wants a serious relationship...

Why is it I feel funny when a man says that and in turn I want to run? (like role reversal or something)

Hmmm... now he's talking about us going on vacation together next year with his fam. Doesn't sound like he wants me going anywhere anytime soon.

Ive read ur story interesting as i also have an aqua bf i have thread on the aqua forum about him but yes they are tricky this one seems ready DONT RUN!!??i know u r afraid but proceed with caution and still keep a barrier just in case it backfires amd u wont be as hurt im happy for u tho

He's been working 10-12 hr days, so it isn't going anywhere. Best I get is that he thinks of me all the time and misses me *sigh*

Posted by starlover
I have had two long term r.ships with Aqua men....😛

I kno u were on a long journey

Posted by lildol
He's been working 10-12 hr days, so it isn't going anywhere. Best I get is that he thinks of me all the time and misses me *sigh*

wow typical seemed like it was just words

Starting to seem that way... I'd expect more from a 53yo man!

Hmmm... maybe there is hope after all. He dipped out of work this morning and came over to make me breakfast; wants to figure out how we can make this work given his busy schedule.

*walking on sunshine*

I kinda forced his hand... just shy of saying step it up or step on out. I was in a mood the other day after he bailed on me again this past weekend, came at him about his aloofness and that I thought I was being strung along. He apparently got it. He apologized and said he deserved it. Wanted to do lunch and the park today but my daughter had the car so he offered to come over and make breakfast instead.

We shall see how this plays out...

Awww... I thought he'd be turned off by my quirks (never had been to my house before yest) - I have two female mantids (along with toads and a houseful of animals), he said he'll try to find me a male mantid and if we win the lotto we can have a zoo 🙂

I didn't read this ... just jumped to the last page ....

You're seeing a Pisces?

I'm so glad you are finally over the Virgo.

No P - an Aqua, Venus in Pisces though (Moon Taur, Mars Cancer), been over the Virgo for a LOOOOONNNNNGGGGG time! LOL