FlyingBurritos80
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Workaholics And Dating...
must be capricorns we tend to work a lot at this or that
don't know about scorps, but can attest to the fact that aries and leo are the worst when it comes to work first. my cap grandfather is 80 years old, still has a job and does odds and ends around his church. he can NOT sit still.
my leo would frame it as - what would you rather have, a man who gets up and goes to work everyday with the intent of making his financial position better which means his family's financial position is better OR a man who hardly goes to work, who brings no real money home but he can sit up under you and tell you i love you all day?
*sigh* i miss arguing with that man. he was right even when he was soooooooooooooooooo wrong.
at the end of the day, i figure better working than running the streets. the issue is, you have no idea of whether they're doing a combination of both. aries/leo/cap have poor communication skills when it comes to their workaholic phases. i think it's due to the fact that they don't feel the need to explain themselves and are insulted that others don't appreciate their sacrifice. so they don't want to shoot the shyte, they want to sleep. they don't want to talk about what the two of you are going to do next wkd b/c at the moment, all they can think is "relax."
some of course use "working" as an excuse for bad behavior but ultimately, it takes a very independent, not particularly jealous person to deal with these types. if you can equate their show of affection with how many hours they put in at work/how much money they bring home, you're good to go 😛
my leo would frame it as - what would you rather have, a man who gets up and goes to work everyday with the intent of making his financial position better which means his family's financial position is better OR a man who hardly goes to work, who brings no real money home but he can sit up under you and tell you i love you all day?
*sigh* i miss arguing with that man. he was right even when he was soooooooooooooooooo wrong.
at the end of the day, i figure better working than running the streets. the issue is, you have no idea of whether they're doing a combination of both. aries/leo/cap have poor communication skills when it comes to their workaholic phases. i think it's due to the fact that they don't feel the need to explain themselves and are insulted that others don't appreciate their sacrifice. so they don't want to shoot the shyte, they want to sleep. they don't want to talk about what the two of you are going to do next wkd b/c at the moment, all they can think is "relax."
some of course use "working" as an excuse for bad behavior but ultimately, it takes a very independent, not particularly jealous person to deal with these types. if you can equate their show of affection with how many hours they put in at work/how much money they bring home, you're good to go 😛
Well one, people often convince themselves that loving someone or having a family will automatically conflict with their career & with their dreams. And that's not true. If you find the right person & know how to BALANCE everything, then a person won't have to completely slack off in 1 area in order to give any energy to another area. A person that doesn't know how to balance the things they've committed to are going to cheat whether they have busy careers or not. A person not knowing how to keep that balance would've just found another reason to cheat had their careers not been an issue. While I do agree that the people involved with workaholics should take that into consideration before becoming exclusive with them, I'm also SURE also that these workaholics didn't mention "cheating" or any kind of betrayal of the relationship b/c of their careers when those "Honey, how do you feel about my job?" conversations came up either. I'm pretty sure that these 2 people thoroughly discussed with their partners what to expect & if they decided to be exclusive b/c there was an agreement that their careers would be managed, then I think it's cowardly to go back on your word & try to convince others that busy careers correlate with cheating. That's not true. Whether it's the workaholic that cheats b/c he finds intimate comfort with others when he/she's away from home OR whether it's the partner of the workaholic that decides to cheat as a way of pointing out their dissatisfaction instead of actually leaving the relationship..either way, cheating is wrong & especially if the person makes it seem like just simply having that busy career is the cause of their ways. If you cannot dedicated equal enough attention to everything you've made the decision to commit to (whether it's your job, family, wife, hobby, etc.) then either 1. Don't sign up for something that will overwhelm you so much to the point of devestating a relationship or 2. Atleast try to open some dialogue with your partner about things OR atleast try to find a balance & fix things...Cheating is wrong, but if anything since people are going to do it anyways, it should be the LAST resort..not just some excuse b/c you don't have the balls to exit a relationship
I don't care what sign you are, cheating is bollocks. And if someone is carrying a full work load before, don't expect them to change it to kiss your rump. Especially if they have a hard work ethic hardwired into the mainframe. Same deal if they pick one up. People know what they're getting into if they stop a moment and look. If it's the betterment of them as a unit, make the together time better. Don't get sucked into the "ME ME ME" manure.
Not saying anyone is wrong for the action, I imagine it's a bind dealing with absence on a constant basis.
You're right about the ponying up and breaking the arrangement though. You'd think people would just to have a clear conscience. And now, I'll step down from the Ivory box.
Not saying anyone is wrong for the action, I imagine it's a bind dealing with absence on a constant basis.
You're right about the ponying up and breaking the arrangement though. You'd think people would just to have a clear conscience. And now, I'll step down from the Ivory box.
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The most interesting thing about this is both significant others complained their main reason for cheating was the male and female's workaholic nature.
Here's some background on the guy. He's younger than me at 25 and started a new research business 2 years ago. Around the same time he me the singificant other. After a couple of months of dating they were exclusive. But more and more his work took him out of the state sometimes nearly 28 days out of the month.
My other friend who is the female has an aspiring career as a model/actress. She gets steady modeling gigs but also is taking acting and business classes. While all of that already taken on, girlfriend meets a guy, they date for 2 months and become exclusive.
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If you know beforehand that you have a busy schedule which cant be compromised, why be in a relationship the first place? It's not fair expecting somebody else to see you once a week/month. Why not just be casually date or just be in a open relationship? I know a lot of people cant do FWB because of easy attachments. But seriously, how can you realistically get attached when working 99% of the time?
Scorpios, Aries, Leo, and Capricorn (unless their chart is much different) seem to be the biggest offenders in this area. My cap ex could not balance her political ambition with personal life at all. She couldnt see what was wrong about being exclusive and only seeing each other every two weeks. I'm not going feel sorry because you cant be honest about not being able to balance work with your personal life.
So I dont know what I'm going to say to the two friends. I think their significant others were cowards in not breaking up in the first place. But my friends dug their own ditch. Guess I'm not too good at being a sychophant.