A WILD Sagittarius appears!

- FIGHT
- Bag him.
- RUN

But seriously.
We only went on two dates, but so far:
- He never takes out his phone except to show me stuff when we're together.
- Asks some really personal things about family, hobbies, goals, life and even weather! It really seems like he's interested in getting to know me.
- He does most of the talking and asking questions.
- Wants me to meet his friends after the first date.
- Finds excuses to touch me, but they are really innocent (IE hands brushing or asking for hugs)
- Flirts but innocently, nothing remotely sexual.
- Never looks at other girls.
- Girls try to flirt with him a lot. I decided to test him and told him I'm going outside to finish my drink. He immediately stopped talking to the girl and went outside with me for 30 minutes waiting for me to finish drinking.
- Told me out of the blue he doesn't sleep around.
- When I was going on holiday, he asked in detail whether I will ever come back and he seemed worried. When I told him I will, he was relieved.
- I tested him again. I told him girls expect too much and everybody cheats on everyone. He told me if he is really into somebody, they should commit because trust is VERY important in a relationship.
- Added me on Facebook after first date.

But here are a few red flags:
- Can't post on his FB wall.
- Seems busy most of the time, working, band practice, etc.
- Has a lot of female friends and pictures with them.
- Friends with a stripper and liked a photo of her but.
- When he saw his friend he told me to stay while he went up to talk to him.
- Is a band player. C'mon, all of them cheat!

So is he a player?

Thanks for the light-hearted heads up, Busyeyes. I have a bit of Scorpio and Capricorn in my chart but mainly Sagittarius. Not really Taurus. Yeah I should see where it goes but I don't want to invest so much so it would be less dramatic when things go downhill and it would not affect my careers or studies. I have a feeling that I will fall for him if I continue to date him. But the thing is he never offered to drive me home when it was late in the night and split the bill. Dunno, really. I want to date and nothing serious as long as nothing becomes physical actually. Don't want to end up as a public toilet with a "recycled" guy.

Is it normal for Sags to run off and not reply to messages? I try to give them enough space as possible because I hate HATE clingy people and having space is the most important part of the relationship. That's what I told him anyway so maybe he is acting this way? Thing is I am away on holiday for 3 weeks and slightly worried about him losing interest if I don't talk to him. I sent him something random and he did not reply. I want to leave it like that and not message him anymore or call him because I don't want to look like a stage 5 clinger.

Posted by beautifuldiaster
Awe! This reminded me of a sag male I breiftly dated!!!

I like how you conduct yourself, .sounds familiar haha.

The thing with his friend, where he told you to wait, I bet it was either something personal about his friend needing to vent, or, my gut instinct says it was to brag about YOU!

Cant help with Facebook, that's why I don't have one. My mind is restless enough as it is. That shit clogs up my brain more than hair does my shower drain... and that says something.

And so what, he liked her butt picture haha. Was it a nice ass? Hey, there is beauty in that. When I drive by a shirtless male running, I (once in a while) honk and whistle out my window hahaha. EMBARRASSING! but true sadly. I love a beautiful body. All sculpture like...


I am like really excited for you!!!

So when's the next date?? Where ya going and what are you thinking? Come on saggy, spill it😛

You're excited for us, that is so cute :3 But not sure. I told him I would text him when I get back from my trip. Thing is, I walked off like that and he was all pouty and like: won't you give me a hug 😢? That was so cute. I hugged him and it lingered on for so long but I was the first to let go.

Don't really know. He's a band guy and I'm studying to be a pilot so not sure if it would work out. But studies are my number one thing right now and I know if there is a break up, I will recover quite quickly. But it might have a negative impact instantenously, especially if it was a test/exam period or flight test. —

He's really attractive. He looks like Nick Carter from BSB for crying out loud! He's 6'6, blond hair with the most attractive blue eyes and brows which he raises at me quite a lot! *swoons* He's also very fit. I'm 5'8 and even if I wear platform heels I am only up to his ears hahaha. I really liked it when he followed me around like a puppy dog when I told him I needed to ditch a drink outside she some random girl was flirting with him 😆

Don't know if you guys heard about Chinese astrology but he's a Dragon and I am a rat. He looks like a very typical Dragon!

I know it is, tell me about it! My mom is a Taurus and she took an interest in aviation ever since I got into flying school. Tauruses can be adventurous if they want to, and have an interest for travelling! Yes, thanks for saying that, I think I should just go with the flow and see where it goes. Put 80 percent on studies and 20 on the Sag guy. At least I have the same output with the effort I put on which is not the case in a relationship. Newton's third law states for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. How good would this be if it worked for relationships?!

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Posted by vegansagittarius
He's really attractive. He looks like Nick Carter from BSB for crying out loud! He's 6'6, blond hair with the most attractive blue eyes and brows which he raises at me quite a lot! *swoons* He's also very fit. I'm 5'8 and even if I wear platform heels I am only up to his ears hahaha. I really liked it when he followed me around like a puppy dog when I told him I needed to ditch a drink outside she some random girl was flirting with him 😆

Just be confident. If you are attracted to a good looking dude be confident in yourself as girls looking at him or seeking his attention will become part of that package and you just have to get used to it!! I love a great looking mate thst people can look at but I'm leo rising and moon.. It's good for my image 😉 lol lol enjoy!! _ ?

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Ah you lucky girl, and certainly it does! _ ? But it is flattering to date them, but with a risk haha. I'm also a Leo moon hence we think the same, I am a sucker for good looking partners!

Posted by vegansagittarius
So is he a player?

So he's a total hottie, in a band, chicks and friends everywhere who love him and want him and he's charming to boot. He's having fun! 🙂

Don't start drama and he'll take you along for the ride.

It's a Sags world...and we are all just living in it. (they say 😆)

OMG Busyeyes! My mom is born in 1966 too and a Taurus, you guys are so similar hahaha! Me and my mom get along well tell except for the fact that she can get possessive and overprotective at times but I know that she wants the best for me. Wow, that is a lot of travelling! Did that ever somehow hook you into aviation somehow, to know what it feels like to be on control of a 50 tonne alumnium beast?

@beautifuldisaster: I know! He also never goes on his phone during the date except to show me some stuff, so at least he isn't getting bored of me! But I think he may be giving me space since I said it is the most important part of the relationship, had clingy and possessive exes and would run for the hills if I came across them. He gave me a copy of his band CD. It was so sweet of him. He's a Cancer moon.

@Winter : I hate drama so not planning to start it. The only water placement I have is a Scorpio and I'm not clingy since I do not have a Cancer in my chart. He does though since he is a Cancer moon.

Oh I forgot to add this! On our date to the second restaurant, I told him to wait inside or outside the restaurant for me. Instead he waited for me right outside my train station, away from where his car was parked and walked me there. At the casino, he paid and let me play, trying to graze his hand and fingers past mine as he handed me the tokens.

Yeah I actually did 😄 He walked me to the station and when I left him, he called me back, saying: "Aren't you gonna give me a hug 😢?" He was sort of pleading me for one so I more than gladly did. He put his head on my shoulders and didn't really seem to want it to end. I was the first to pull away. I like the attention he is giving me.

Yeah he was lucky! He keeps on winning slots and says I am his lucky charm, saying I should be brought often here with him. I also forgot to mention we met on a dating site and he deleted it after the first date. More like he was attractive, women were throwing themselves all over him. But a lot of guys did look at me and do nothing though.

Posted by vegansagittarius...- He never takes out his phone except to show me stuff when we're together.
- Asks some really personal things ... - Never looks at other girls.

Check if he has out of bounds Mars or something else. Those are "out of box".
Also check if he has Scorpio placements. Those make him discrete plus interrogative.
Also check if he has Cap placements. those make him to signalise he is serious. And the issue is serious.

Posted by vegansagittarius But here are a few red flags:
- Can't post on his FB wall.
- Seems busy most of the time, working, band practice, etc.
- Has a lot of female friends and pictures with them.
- Friends with a stripper and liked a photo of her but.
- When he saw his friend he told me to stay while he went up to talk to him.
- Is a band player. C'mon, all of them cheat!

So is he a player?

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The color of paranoia is black. Red flags are counted when he is mishandling your persona.

"Aren't you gonna give me a hug ?"

dominant personality. He has for sure Scorpio or Mars dominance.


Generally with Sags (or dating in this decade) you don't trust the first months. Wait and wait. Till the thing gets older.

This is his chart. What do you think? I am not so good with charts.
Sun Sagittarius 5.08
Moon Cancer 18.58
Mercury Sagittarius 2.46
Venus Scorpio 4.27
Mars Aries 5.12
Jupiter Gemini 0.29 R
Saturn Capricorn 1.34
Uranus Sagittarius 29.41
Neptune Capricorn 8.41
Pluto Scorpio 13.25
Lilith Virgo 21.55
Asc node Pisces 9.48

This is mine:
Sun Sagittarius 9.15
Moon Leo 17.06
Mercury Sagittarius 25.02
Venus Scorpio 10.02
Mars Virgo 16.33
Jupiter Capricorn 18.23
Saturn Aries 0.37 R
Uranus Aquarius 1.46
Neptune Capricorn 25.50
Pluto Sagittarius 3.16
Lilith Leo 17.53
Asc node Libra 5.50

I wanted to see other people too I mean, and it is stupid to bag him anyway since we aren't going out. I just hope this won't turn out to be a one night stand or NSA because I don't do those. I'll give it a few months, but don't know how to keep his interest. Got exciting locations in mind but he isn't really into texting. He prefers face to face and I pretty much hate phone calls. I was planning ice skating on the third date since he wants and finds excuses to touch me (he grazes his hands past mine deliberately to give me money all the time even when I insisted using my own money.) I am sure he would like to hold hands as I teach him how to ice skate!

Posted by vegansagittarius
This is his chart. What do you think? I am not so good with charts.
Sun Sagittarius 5.08
Moon Cancer 18.58
Mercury Sagittarius 2.46
Venus Scorpio 4.27
Mars Aries 5.12
Jupiter Gemini 0.29 R
Saturn Capricorn 1.34
Uranus Sagittarius 29.41
Neptune Capricorn 8.41
Pluto Scorpio 13.25
Lilith Virgo 21.55
Asc node Pisces 9.48

i think his Mars touches your body. His Venus asked you too many question. His Cancer asked you "don't you give me a hug?".

His Jupiter at 0 Gemini: Observant, patient, and loyal character.

Sat in Cap a very responsible person. At work and with parents.

Sag Mercury: he is always learning something. Books are your competitors not girls.

Sn and Lilith in Virgo wants to be of service. Please him with giving him requests.

This Sag is probably one the best combinations for commitment. But who knows? Are you yourself ready or too young? Are you good for his prestige (cap needs it)?

I'd say his Moon and Saturn think too much of money. So it depends on where he is standing. At the start of his career? Maybe too young?

He does! He never paid for dinner or drove me home. He is also in a lot of debt so it is understandable but then again I have 100k to pay off from flying school. He's 27 and I am 19. Not sure about commitment until I trust him. But until I trust him I am still going to see other guys. And thanks for the radical chart interpretation, DwellingOnMove! Just slightly worried about him liking a stripper's butt (LOLOLOL) and a sex convention thing. Not too sexual myself and would hate to move on too fast (I am a virgin). Thank God so far he mentioned nothing about sex and the hug was appropriate shoulder and back range. I once had a Cancer guy smirking and feeling up my hips. Now that was inappropriate and I ditched him shortly without regrets.

you're welcome.

but my knowledge of charts are not that of an expert. I had to add this hint.

Isn't it strange that he says he does not sleep around out of the blue? He says a lot of his friends sleeps around casually but he tends to be friends with women. He told me he has to be friends with a girl before he starts dating them. I really don't want to end up as a one night stand, but then again why would he have the patience to wait if he wanted a one night thing?

The strange thing was why WOULD he want me to stay behind while he walked over to talk to his guy friend? When we saw his guy friend again, his guy friend said nothing to me.

"stay behind while he walked over to talk to his guy friend?"

you are left alone with this question.
nobody on this site can tell you why. cause they were not sitting in the first row like you were.

so what does your gut feeling say?
1. he was being private. it's just dating. no gf yet. Alternatively the man was no friend, just an acquintance. Alternatively he finds that the friend is a blubbermouth. Alternatively he is shy to answer questions his folk would ask him.
or
2. he was playing your relationship down? (are you both in a relationship?)
or
3. he believes "you should keep women out of business talks"?

can you ask him why? I don't mean discussing. I mean asking.

We're not in a relationship. We met off a dating site and he can see whoever he wants right now. It is a fair game. But I might hint at being exclusive on the 10th date and what he is really looking for. My parents told me he would even sell me off to his friends or somebody. I hope this isn't the case and he isn't a pimp!

I think he might not want to introduce me to him as he does not know what to address me as. He could say we are friends, which I have no problem with. Or maybe he is seeing other women and his friend doesn't know what is going on? He doesn't want his friend to blabber to everyone about this? But I highly doubt it. He wants to introduce me to his friends anyway.

Never fell in love and never will. I don't think I can commit actually. We can date but sex, I can only have it with him when he shows he can commit. But if there is no commitment I won't bother with sex. And usually he asks me out, not the other way around. Can he commit more than I do? What do you guys think about my chart?

Also there's no real use making him jealous anyway. He'll get over it as we have a quick recovery period then ditch me for another girl. Or he could see me as f u c k material and use me only for gratification then ditch me with all due respect gone.

Posted by vegansagittarius
Also there's no real use making him jealous anyway. He'll get over it as we have a quick recovery period then ditch me for another girl. Or he could see me as f u c k material and use me only for gratification then ditch me with all due respect gone.

lol @ the drama

Yeah, you're gonna scare him away in no time

I don't think I will. I give him enough space already and told him that's the most important part of the relationship whilst ge told me he values trust. So he's giving me more than enough space and he respects that. Will not hint at being exclusive until he mentions it. For now it is bf/gf experience with no sex. I don't sleep around and if he can commit and show me respect, he is the right guy to give it to. And Aquavita. Pretty sure he is not a virgin but who cares? I won't sleep with someone I do not fully know and trust yet.

And making him jealous is drama. No use in making him jealous. He is a female version of me so I know for a fact. Once a Sag guy I was crushing on kissed another girl in front of me to make me jealous. Sure it sucked but I quickly lost my respect for him and after a few hours, I was good as new. I also got over him but as much as I find him attractive, I no longer was infatuated by him and see him as relationship material. I deserve better than that. If I made this guy jealous, like I said he will get over me or see me as NSA or one night stand material.

Ok I am now at Sydney but I was originally from Melbourne to pursue my studies. But why waste his time on so many dates when he can get laid with practically any girl easily on the first date? Why would he wait for me and waste his time?

And he asked me in detail of when my course is ending (it takes 3 years to complete and I am only in my first year) and that if it was already my third year, meaning I won't come back. He was very relieved and happy when I told him I was going back. Before when I was telling him I was leaving Melbourne, he was like: 😢 ...free on Sunday? And he was really adamant about meeting up after we left.

Ny hometown in in Sydney by the way. I am now back to visit the family and on holiday.

If he can wait around to gain my trust and commit (at least for 6 months) then I would. I wish I can wait until marriage, and I admire those who do. My aunt is a virgin and she is 50! I think she might even be asexual. But if I don't have sex with him, I have got nothing to lose, right? For now we'll Just see where it goes without the sex and if he doesn't respect my option it is a huge red flag and adios.

Ha, I am usually a pessimist. But aviation taught me to be better than that. But if I can extend the time longer to hold hands (on the 10th date) and kiss (15th date) will that make him bored or to lose interest? I want to do that later on so I would not seem so cheap and Just NSA material.

Holy shit! The chart he shares is hell similar to Jimi Hendrix's! In fact they share the same birthday except the years!!!

Is it normal for a Sag guy to not text first? I rarely message him but when I do, he is really happy and replies enthusiastically with a lot of emoticons and calls me "hun". Why do guys call you "hun" by the way?

He used to text me asking me how I am, but after I told him I value space the most in a relationship and run away from clingy people, he kind of stopped texting me. I also had some horror stories of clingy guys posting on my wall and getting jealous with other guys. I also told him about clingy texters and there was this one horrible case a guy called me seven times a day with several texts (he is a Cancer).

Is that why?

Also what does it mean if he is a Sagittarius with Cancer moon?

Lol what about you? If Sag are not clingy you have made a topig about him as well, strange as it seems. Everybody of all zodiacs made a thread here, does that make them all clingy? Hence your statement is invalid.

It's something called a combination between curiosity and boredom...