Are saggies slow to trust?

I am trying to pin down a few things with my boo. I am a cancer and trust very easy. So far it has not had any negatives. What say you? Are you slow to truly trust?

As a venus in cap yes. we doubt ourselves alot when it comes to love, therefore it is a slow process. the longer the other person sticks around the more believable they appear to us.

Posted by DMV
As a venus in cap yes. we doubt ourselves alot when it comes to love, therefore it is a slow process. the longer the other person sticks around the more believable they appear to us.

my girl. thank you! that explains sooooo much! Always appreciate your input.

Sounds like it is going to be long/slow process..... I am wit it tho!

As a Venus in Sag...no. I'm not going to criticize others on how they trust but you'd be surprised at how quickly people reveal themselves when you fully trust them from the beginning.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
As a Venus in Sag...no. I'm not going to criticize others on how they trust but you'd be surprised at how quickly people reveal themselves when you fully trust them from the beginning.

hmmm I wonder if his ven in cap has alot to do with this then...??

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
As a Venus in Sag...no. I'm not going to criticize others on how they trust but you'd be surprised at how quickly people reveal themselves when you fully trust them from the beginning.

hmmm I wonder if his ven in cap has alot to do with this then...??

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totally. venus in sag unless its in the 10th house or aspects saturn is free loving, optimistic.

venus in cap is far less trusting. the goat moves slow and believes that work must be put in first.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
As a Venus in Sag...no. I'm not going to criticize others on how they trust but you'd be surprised at how quickly people reveal themselves when you fully trust them from the beginning.

hmmm I wonder if his ven in cap has alot to do with this then...??

venus in cap is far less trusting. the goat moves slow and believes that work must be put in first.

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lord I am in for a long ride?!? Jeez. He better be worth it lol.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
As a Venus in Sag...no. I'm not going to criticize others on how they trust but you'd be surprised at how quickly people reveal themselves when you fully trust them from the beginning.

hmmm I wonder if his ven in cap has alot to do with this then...??

venus in cap is far less trusting. the goat moves slow and believes that work must be put in first.

lord I am in for a long ride?!? Jeez. He better be worth it lol.

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With the men, yep.

no, because i am a great judge of character and feel like if the person is not genuine, the universe will get them back much more than i can.
i trust in levels, though.
and i do my homework on those i meet.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
As a Venus in Sag...no. I'm not going to criticize others on how they trust but you'd be surprised at how quickly people reveal themselves when you fully trust them from the beginning.

hmmm I wonder if his ven in cap has alot to do with this then...??

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Ditto what DMV said. 🙂

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What say you? Are you slow to truly trust?

No, but I probably should be.

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I have to admit...I'm slightly vexed by the avi with a woman who's screen name is Richard 😛

Lol

So I found out that all of his ex's have left him. all but 2. he has been dumped, dumped and dumped some more. his thing is he wants to "fix" the relationships, never want to give up on them. but his ex's wasnt willing and left him. everyone one of them (minus the 2).

I can understand the "fixing" the relationship. I am THAT type. I will do EVERYTHING in my power to "fix" the problem and if I cannot or the other party isnt willing then I give up.

thats alot to take in. sometimes it feels as if he is jaded, which explains why I think he is so slow to trust.

I mean if 98% of your relationships are over because the other party has left u, wouldnt that say something about you? Maybe he is the problem? Or maybe I am being my lil judgemental cancer self? lol :p

Posted by kalin
ps. all the girls he dated before me had problems, and he still talks to ALL OF US on a regular basis.

Part of that is because we don't let negativity control us. Although things may have went badly, we forgive and forget. If you've forgiven why give that person power over you by having to consciously remind yourself to stay away from them because of something that happened in the past and you can't change? If you've forgiven then you should be able to talk to and go around. It's all really in your mind. After you've forgiven or gotten over it, its your responsibility to demonstrate that you have done exactly that. Life is too short to hold grudges.

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Nope. 🙂

Posted by kalin
also, like I said, all the girls he's dated have some sort of emotional or mental issues. I myself have anger issues and depression. the girl before me always bangs her head against the wall whenever she's upset, and also has anger issues. the girl before that girl has commitment issues, was sleeping w/ someone else on the side, and broke up with him every month and then came back... his ex wife refused to have sex with him but she provided hand jobs to her dog every day and he ended up sleeping w prostitutes and divorced her.... I understand the forgiving part, but I don't understand why he loves girls who are just plain crazy??

Plus, ALL of us got involved w/ some other dudes right away. His ex wife got married in 6 months after their divorce. The other girls including me, were with other guys within a month...

If I was him, even if I could forgive the girls, I prob wouldn't want to stay friends??
I don't know. Maybe you Sags are saints or something??

quick question and dont take this wrong way...why do you care who he is friends with?