Cancer/Sag

Ok in search for an answer I stumbled upon here.
Looking for insight!

My sag and I made 1 year literally today, I'm a cancer/ Scorp moon she's a cancer moon.

I literally played hard to get for a few months, then finally gave in, then things spiraled out of control in a weird way. She moved in by force ( issues with her roommate), lost her job, my mom got sick (who was my huge supporter with my kid ) I no longer had free time and we fought everyday!

I immediately believed I was miserable and wanted out but it was just the stress of a new person in my space, my lack of space from my kid, taken on more responsibilities, and just the way we lived was differently.
up until maybe 3 months ago we were still intimate and able to still makeup even though we were still disagreeing on everything from how to clean, parenting, you name it.

I've changed my mind several times about the living arrangement and gave several ultimatums because I wasn't happy and I didn't even realize things changed because she became depressed about her career failing.

We've agreed to just be friends until she gets on her feet, and her staying with me, sleeping in separate rooms.

Then she kept reminding me about our shows and asking if I was going to come and watch them with her, I guess I took this the wrong way.

I had a break down and asked her what was this...She said i want to rebuild our friendship for now. She said she's tired of my inconsistency and she said love isn't enough, why not take a different route from what made us both unhappy.

"She said I love you and I care about you, but I want my friend back so either you're offering my friend or you're saying its all or nothing."
My best friend is a sag and she said, that this is pretty much done.

Sigh.....is she completely done?

A sag with a cancer moon hmm
There is done sag style and there is all keep you around cause I invested too much cancer moon style... all depends what holds stronger the sag sun or the moon....

Posted by Weeds
A sag with a cancer moon hmm
There is done sag style and there is all keep you around cause I invested too much cancer moon style... all depends what holds stronger the sag sun or the moon....

Maybe when we met I could say she was all Crab, now that shes so detatched and focused on getting back on her feet id say shes prob sag done.

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Posted by Weeds
A sag with a cancer moon hmm
There is done sag style and there is all keep you around cause I invested too much cancer moon style... all depends what holds stronger the sag sun or the moon....

Maybe when we met I could say she was all Crab, now that shes so detatched and focused on getting back on her feet id say shes prob sag done.

We.don't just call it quits with people just bc ...look at yourself as well.. and see how you two got here.

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I realized my faults...and I expressed she was right about a lot of things...then she gave me this answer.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
So her career is failing and your bipolar ass whos supposed to bw there for her wasn't there to support her instead you make her feel like a nuisance, and an unwanted guest... in the meantime, she's trying to be nice to you in the midst of yiur ultimatums...ya I'd dump your ass too. Good luck!!

So you didn't see that my mother got sick?
My mother had a stroke and my kid was getting in trouble in school.

All of these things stressed us to the core so clearly we both stopped trying...Yes I did play my part in not being supportive but I still did support by paying for all the classes and licensing.
and still encourage her.

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So her career is failing and your bipolar ass whos supposed to bw there for her wasn't there to support her instead you make her feel like a nuisance, and an unwanted guest... in the meantime, she's trying to be nice to you in the midst of yiur ultimatums...ya I'd dump your ass too. Good luck!!

So you didn't see that my mother got sick?
My mother had a stroke and my kid was getting in trouble in school.

All of these things stressed us to the core so clearly we both stopped trying...Yes I did play my part in not being supportive but I still did support by paying for all the classes and licensing.
and still encourage her.

I did notice that..but not one word did you express any feelings about yiur mother getting sick, all you basically indicated is you lost a babysitter. She.probably noticed that even yiur own child you considered a nuisance. ..what chance would SHE have if things got rough in the future with you. No support that matters in a relationship. She doesn't need yiur money. ..shit we can get our own money.

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Didn't say baby sitter, said supporter.
But hey you're entitled to your own opinion.

Yep.... whole lotta estrogen in here..
LETS SING A SONG!!!!!!!!

Well guess no one else cares? Oh well

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Posted by Olivia321
Well guess no one else cares? Oh well

Eh..most sags are out having fun right now.

Why don't you just talk with her about it? ...watch your shows together, build up the friendship again amd take it from there. Communicate on a mature level.

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Well lets see, during our final talk this is the conclusion and the answer I received from her.

I work 2 jobs, take care of my 9 year old and im in school and now taking care of my mothers needs while shes in the hospital.

I've tried talking to her, but she said love isn't enough. I ONLY came on here to vent, and to see what she could possibly be feeling or even what her true intentions are because it seems that , this is what's done on this site...

She asked me to show up to attend a show, then after trying to get me to come the night came and she had several excuses and changes on what time the venue started, the amount of folks that are smoking and its delayed, all of this could have been true but because of the circumstances it feels like excuses so I can stay home.

This is difficult because she lives with me, and she's showing me that she's just over me but states she still is in love and loves me but that's not enough smh

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Well guess no one else cares? Oh well

Eh..most sags are out having fun right now.

Why don't you just talk with her about it? ...watch your shows together, build up the friendship again amd take it from there. Communicate on a mature level.

Well lets see, during our final talk this is the conclusion and the answer I received from her.

I work 2 jobs, take care of my 9 year old and im in school and now taking care of my mothers needs while shes in the hospital.

I've tried talking to her, but she said love isn't enough. I ONLY came on here to vent, and to see what she could possibly be feeling or even what her true intentions are because it seems that , this is what's done on this site...

She asked me to show up to attend a show, then after trying to get me to come the night came and she had several excuses and changes on what time the venue started, the amount of folks that are smoking and its delayed, all of this could have been true but because of the circumstances it feels like excuses so I can stay home.

This is difficult because she lives with me, and she's showing me that she's just over me but states she still is in love and loves me but that's not enough smh

Partnership/friendship/passion is lacking. Somewhere in all the madness, something went sideways. You both stopped cultivating the relationship..it's normally the little things like you two stopped completely doing.

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Absolutely!

BUT, I take blame in completely blaming her at first. And after a few heated convos I realized no one is to blame its actually us both!

But how can I fix it or how can it be changed? Is there still hope?
smh I don't understand Sags.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Also communicate yoir true feelings for her to her.

When a Sag has gone to far into her decision to start detaching, she's already reevaluated her feelings..which is why she said love isn't enough, she wants substance, a reason to keep the love alive. Key word ..alive.

Well it feels like im at a dead end and there is no turning back, she doesn't even miss my head rubs which she used to ask for allll the time! 😢

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Also communicate yoir true feelings for her to her.

When a Sag has gone to far into her decision to start detaching, she's already reevaluated her feelings..which is why she said love isn't enough, she wants substance, a reason to keep the love alive. Key word ..alive.

Well it feels like im at a dead end and there is no turning back, she doesn't even miss my head rubs which she used to ask for allll the time! 😢

Does she like surprises?

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Yes, and I surprised her with an eagles Apron, Hat, and gloves (She loves to cook and does all the cooking) She was super excited and it passed. This was before the convo, and she asked if that's why I got it, I told her no I wanted her to smile because she has been in a slump.

I also have an eagles helmet on the way which I forgot I orderd for our 1 yr. 😢

As a scorp moon who has dated a cancer moon for over 6 years, sometimes scorp moons can be so obvious to a cancer moons feelings. you have to really show her and tell her that youre invested in her.

Well I tried talking to her again, and she said she's completely off because I was hot and cold too many times.
She said she doesn't trust my daughter anymore (my daughter is a handful) and that she doesn't see a future because she doesn't like the person I became once we moved in.

I bought her a few football gear items because she's a huge fan of the Eagles.
But that didn't do anything.