cancer Sagittarius relationship disaster

Hi,I've been looking at this forum now for weeks and finally posting hoping for some solid advice.

I'm a Sagittarian girl and met a Cancer guy while travelling mid last year. We exchanged contact details and texted for about two months before I thought I'd try going back to his city and seeing if anything comes of it (up to that point nothing other than friendship had happened between us but I was very attracted to him and figured since he wrote to me almost every day he might be feeling the same way).

I had 5 weeks with him before I had to leave to go back to my country. We got together on the third day and had the most beautiful weeks together and I was full of hope for the future. I had to leave for two months to visit home but I booked flights to come right back to him. Our problems began only two days after I left. I was searching to understand him and us better and knew he was a cancer so I looked up his star sign and then ended up checking our compatibility. ... All I saw was disaster and warning bells. I ignored it though as I believe with enough work and understanding everything is possible. But the more time passed the more we followed nearly textbook cancer/sag combo. Everything I saw written about this combination was happening. I tried so hard to resist and NOT to behave like a Sag but it was so hard because he never saw any of the efforts I made and constantly accused me of being cold and heartless, of putting him last, of not caring about him. I kept thinking it was just the distance making it worse and if I could hold on until I saw him again it would all be fine. But we kept fighting and finally one day after I'd stupidly let loose another of my sag arrows he decided we would take a break for however long it would take until I realise that I needed him by my side. The thing is, I'm a Sag! I don't need anyone, I resent that kind of thinking, I know whatever happens that I'll be OK and can make it on my own, there's always a rainbow somewhere. ... well I at least had the sense not to say that but the break turned into weeks during which time he became increasingly nasty. At first I kept trying to understand his thinking and excused his behaviour by thinking he is just acting as a typical hurt crab,hiding in his shell and snapping at me. But when he kept getting uncontrollably angry on our calls, would threaten me that he'd leave forever and block me and I'd never hear from him again, would insult me many times and call me names, and would BLAME me for his behaviour even when he deliberately tried to hurt me by saying he had a new gf and after then saying no that wasn't true he by his own admission told me he'd said that in order to "f#** with you"...then when I told him the beautiful gentleman I'd fallen in love with when i met him would never have been so cruel, he told me "you pushed me,you made me like this", blaming me entirely for his behaviour. Eventually I fell out of love with him.not the boy i had met,because in my memories he was still the gorgeous sensitive caring gentleman, but it was like two different people and this person who kept phoning me and insulting me and shouting at me and being nasty to me was someone totally different who I could not love. For a long time I kept thinking just hold on and once you see him in person it will all be OK,but it just started to go to far. Then on my last week at home I saw an old lover of mine who I was still very much attracted to and the more the cancer became nasty the more drawn i felt to my old lover. We slept together twice. I do not consider it cheating as the crab and I were no longer together since he'd decided we were on a break a month prior and had said we could both do what we wanted. I had resisted for so long as I had seen my old lover a few times but was still hoping to resolve things with the crab but finally it had become too much and i was too hurt and broken from numerous nights of crying myself to sleep because of his behaviour toward me. I wanted to feel respected again and while I knew it would only ever be a causal thing with my old lover as he has told me before he does not want a gf, he always treated me well when we were together and he would never hurt me,we will always be good friends despite him not wanting to commit. Well somehow the crab guessed at what happened (I've read about their incredible intuition) and the day before my flight out from my country he phoned me and ironically started out by being very sweet and exactly like the old times. I instantly felt some hope that maybe after all we could work things out,then he told me of his fears that I'd done something and he asked me straight out. I'm a very typical sag- i will not lie.so i told him yes. He went crazy and abused me for 4 hours calling me a sl*t and demanding i tell him exactly what happened leaving out no details. I felt so awful that I'd hurt him as i truly didn't want to hurt him so i just meekly listened and answered all his questions. I felt sick. It didn't even matter that i hadn't actually cheated as we were on our break- he says that he'd decided to try again with me even though he had not clearly communicated this to me. Either way i think he still would have reacted the same. His anger terrified me and he even told me not to dare show up in his city as planned 5 days later and that if he saw me there he'd kill me.that sent me cold. For ages i have been trying to ignore the thoughts that kept flashing through my head at each bout of anger from him that if i was actually in his presence at those moments he might hit me. When he said that it reinforced my fears and i could no longer ignore them. Worse was later that day when i told close friends what had happened, leaving out that part, two had said to me separately that they feared for my safety. The strangest thing (which I've since read and appears to also be typically crab) is that after 4 hours of shouting and abusing me he said he wants to forget it all and try again with me because he loves me and he doesn't want to lose me. It struck me as so bipolar i didn't know how to react. I told him that I'm actually scared for my safety with him because of what he said and how he gets so angry and he apologised and said he'd never do anything to hurt me. His voice had totally changed.he was the same soft gentle sensitive boy I'd first seen. Since then he's been so gentle and keeps assuring me he wants to forget everything and try.but i don't think i should. I've been reading so much since then. I've read that cancers can be prone to crimes of passion which i can certainly imagine him to be capable of. I have also noticed him being manipulative. He's started sending me my own messages I'd written him back when i was trying to tell him that yes we are different but we could compliment each other. Last night i arrived in his city but i haven't seen him yet and today i might be too tired due to jetlag. But he has sent me photos of letters i sent him and he wrote "if these words are true,if they are not lies, then come to see me tonight". I think that is manipulative right? Today i actually looked up 'am i in an abusive relationship' and so much of what is said about emotional abusive rings true with me... and my logic thinks that the very fact i have to ask myself that question is surely an indicator? The thing is i truly do not want to hurt him. I saw something so beautiful in him, so sensitive and helpless and i don't want to cause him any pain. But i don't think our relationship is healthy and i don't think we are right for each other. I asked him if he ever got so angry with any of his past gf's and he said never. So i even said to him that maybe we are just not meant for each other, we bring out the worst in each other. A couple should be about building each other up not tearing each other down. I truly think that i never did anything deliberately to hurt him. Yes i hurt him many times with my stupid sag bluntness and also my independence as i just could not give him the amount of constant attention he wanted,but never deliberately. And as for sleeping with my ex well we were on a break at that point but also i really only did it because I'd already decided i had no future with the crab and i just didn't want to break it off over the phone as i feel he deserved the respect of me going in person to do that. I didn't ever think he would guess what I'd done and i feel so awful for hurting him. On the other hand he has deliberately hurt me numerous times and even by his own admission however he always blames me for everything saying that i pushed him to do it (emotional abuse? ). Also he decided that we needed to be 50/50 so he told me that he was going to sleep with a friend of his to get even with me.... To me that thinking is just so wrong! Besides now i feel awful that he's potentially hurt that poor girl as she was hoping to date him and i just hope that he really explained clearly to her that it was just sex.

I'm really hoping for advice here from people who know more about astrology than me. I think i really have to end things with him but i still have that small feeling inside that tempts me to try again and maybe things will be OK, but then. ...is that just classic sign of an abusive relationship? Is he being abusive or is this just typical of cancer? I'm so confused and feel miserable and sad and sick constantly and nervous to talk to him... which is not how a sag should normally feel. I want to be my positive happy optimistic self again. The worst part is that i am here in his city for 9 days then i leave to go on a holiday and he has a flight booked to meet me there after one week and stay 3.5 weeks with me. If we break up now i don't knew what he'll do. I don't want him to waste his money and i don't want him to go there being sad and miserable. I just want him to be happy.but i don't believe i can ever make him happy. We are just too different.

Never use astrology to excuse bad behavior. Call a spade a spade and an asshole a asshole.

Posted by KritikaMehta
i am a cancer female,dating a sag male for more than a year. after reading your post i observed my partner behaves exactly like you and leaves me hurt with his bluntness and non caring attitude.

I just saw your post about your sag before I saw your comment on my post.my thought when reading your story was purely sadness. I really don't think I can make it work with my cancer after seeing his anger. I have seen him today and told him that i don't think we can be together because we bring out the worst in each other, but he won't accept it and is pleading for me to give him another chance. I do believe that sag and cancer can work together with a lot of effort but the effort must be from both sides. I really tried my hardest with him but I kept getting hurt because what I did was never enough for him. I never sent enough messages or photos, even though for me even sending one a day is more than normal. If I ever tried to end a phone call because I had things to do he'd be hurt and feel like i didn't care for him-even though I'd just spent 3 or more hours on the phone with him. I could never do enough to satisfy his emotional needs. He's now begging me to try again and promising that it will be different this time, but it can't be.he will always need a much higher amount of sentiment than i can give him, and i will constantly feel drained from the effort. I don't want to hurt him, but i think it's inevitable.

I really hope you have more like with your sag.

Posted by sagsagsag


everything is never good enough, not loving enough, not sensitive enough, not commited enough, not secure enough, not warm enough, not loyal enough, you get the point right? I have 2 cancer exes and when they get mad... is exactly like what you wrote.

Yes exactly how I've been feeling! Nothing, NOTHING was good enough 😢

Is it even possible to stay friends after this? He keeps saying that he will forget me completely and block me from his life. I tried to end things with him today but he wouldn't allow it,he just kept saying he's going to try once more with me no matter what I say.

@secret. Enjoy 🙂

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

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It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

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That's a fact... Damn Cancers... I think i'm going to archive this one on the Cancer Man Left Me® thread.

OP, I wouldn't meet up with this guy if I were you. No matter how brave your sun sign is supposed to be, don't take an unnecessary risk that might not even pay off if the best case scenario plays out.

Something tells me his idiocy will only become harder and harder to deal with if you do settle into a long-term relationship with him. Those tendencies in a person usually get amplified as a relationship progresses. He won't feel more secure once you're "his". He'll feel even more insecure.

Teach him a lesson and dump him.

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

That's a fact... Damn Cancers... I think i'm going to archive this one on the Cancer Man Left Me® thread.

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Speaking of which, how many women have you left to pine and write essays?

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

That's a fact... Damn Cancers... I think i'm going to archive this one on the Cancer Man Left Me® thread.

Speaking of which, how many women have you left to pine and write essays?

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This one was so big that didn't even fit in the thread!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-man-left-me-6304571/?p=26#7582814

I'm a different Cancer, i'm not like these guys you see here.

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

That's a fact... Damn Cancers... I think i'm going to archive this one on the Cancer Man Left Me® thread.

Speaking of which, how many women have you left to pine and write essays?

This one was so big that didn't even fit in the thread!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-man-left-me-6304571/?p=26#7582814

I'm a different Cancer, i'm not like these guys you see here.

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LOL! I figured it wouldn't fit but you had to do your job as DXP's Cancer board's records clerk.

Where's your venus and Mars?

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

That's a fact... Damn Cancers... I think i'm going to archive this one on the Cancer Man Left Me® thread.

Speaking of which, how many women have you left to pine and write essays?

This one was so big that didn't even fit in the thread!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-man-left-me-6304571/?p=26#7582814

I'm a different Cancer, i'm not like these guys you see here.

LOL! I figured it wouldn't fit but you had to do your job as DXP's Cancer board's records clerk.

Where's your venus and Mars?

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Yes Housecleaning left me here alone and now i have to do all the dirty work...

Venus is in Leo...

I don't have Mars unfortunately, it shows up blank or "not available" when i check the birth chart. I think there was an issue the moment i was born.

this is just venting right? cause you have all the answers to your questions already.

This was a disaster of a read. Maybe after he knocks you around a bit you'll be able to accept the fact that this piece of garbage relationship does not and will never work.

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@secret. Enjoy 🙂

You always give me essays! I don't have time to read that stuff...

It's not my fault you guys provoke people to write long essays. ?

That's a fact... Damn Cancers... I think i'm going to archive this one on the Cancer Man Left Me® thread.

Speaking of which, how many women have you left to pine and write essays?

This one was so big that didn't even fit in the thread!

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/cancer/cancer-man-left-me-6304571/?p=26#7582814

I'm a different Cancer, i'm not like these guys you see here.

LOL! I figured it wouldn't fit but you had to do your job as DXP's Cancer board's records clerk.

Where's your venus and Mars?

Yes Housecleaning left me here alone and now i have to do all the dirty job...

Venus is in Leo...

I don't have Mars unfortunately, it shows up blank or "not available" when i check the birth chart. I think there was an issue the moment i was born.

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The Cancer libra guy I liked had Venus in Virgo which was very unsettling for me. I don't really like that placement. If I could customize his chart, I would give him venus in Leo. So it seems you have my ideal chart except we don't know what your mars is. Hopefully it's something fiery.

I'm still baffled by Sagis thinking dating a Cancer is ever a good idea ...yet here we are again and again ....

Posted by sagsagsag
That is one hell of a long post girl, but i think i get it. lol

Sag and Cancer never mesh well.. hell I have cancer moon but still I find cancer sun to be impossible. Like everything is never good enough, not loving enough, not sensitive enough, not commited enough, not secure enough, not warm enough, not loyal enough, you get the point right? I have 2 cancer exes and when they get mad... is exactly like what you wrote.

Yikes, that sounds awful. I hate that feeling of when things are never good enough, and it's nearly impossible!

Someone else said that with Cancers, they are always passive and throwing the ball in your court. Never dated one, but I have to agree on this regarding my Cancer male friends.

Posted by brianafay
I'm still baffled by Sagis thinking dating a Cancer is ever a good idea ...yet here we are again and again ....

I never knew before I met him as I'd never paid much attention to sun sign compatibility. When we first started having problems I wondered what his sun sign was so I could read up on it and better understand him. When he told me his birthday and I realised he was cancer I did indeed have an uh oh moment because my dad is a cancer and we've always clashed cos I often manage to somehow hurt him without meaning to even though I love him so much and my dad is not a crazy crab. That's when I thought to look up compatibility between sag and cancer and saw all the warnings and then exactly what everything said the relationship would be like started to happen no matter how much I tried to prevent it, no matter that I sent everything I read to him and said look let's not let this happen. Well now I know all this and gave experienced it I will never again fall for a cancer,it's just too much trouble and I can't stand hurting someone just by being myself.

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I'm still baffled by Sagis thinking dating a Cancer is ever a good idea ...yet here we are again and again ....

I never knew before I met him as I'd never paid much attention to sun sign compatibility. When we first started having problems I wondered what his sun sign was so I could read up on it and better understand him. When he told me his birthday and I realised he was cancer I did indeed have an uh oh moment because my dad is a cancer and we've always clashed cos I often manage to somehow hurt him without meaning to even though I love him so much and my dad is not a crazy crab. That's when I thought to look up compatibility between sag and cancer and saw all the warnings and then exactly what everything said the relationship would be like started to happen no matter how much I tried to prevent it, no matter that I sent everything I read to him and said look let's not let this happen. Well now I know all this and gave experienced it I will never again fall for a cancer,it's just too much trouble and I can't stand hurting someone just by being myself.

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Well since your dad is a cancer you already know what exhausting human beings they are so I don't even need to say this ...(but I will)

You can never do, say, or "open up" ? enough for these fuckers. There is always something wrong with them or something bothering them...and when there isn't, they are actively looking for a problem. They're always searching for hidden meanings and undercover slights

I don't know how they live like that, but eh whatever

It's better to learn it won't work now rather than years from now when you're more invested

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I'm still baffled by Sagis thinking dating a Cancer is ever a good idea ...yet here we are again and again ....

I never knew before I met him as I'd never paid much attention to sun sign compatibility. When we first started having problems I wondered what his sun sign was so I could read up on it and better understand him. When he told me his birthday and I realised he was cancer I did indeed have an uh oh moment because my dad is a cancer and we've always clashed cos I often manage to somehow hurt him without meaning to even though I love him so much and my dad is not a crazy crab. That's when I thought to look up compatibility between sag and cancer and saw all the warnings and then exactly what everything said the relationship would be like started to happen no matter how much I tried to prevent it, no matter that I sent everything I read to him and said look let's not let this happen. Well now I know all this and gave experienced it I will never again fall for a cancer,it's just too much trouble and I can't stand hurting someone just by being myself.

Well since your dad is a cancer you already know what exhausting human beings they are so I don't even need to say this ...(but I will)

You can never do, say, or "open up" ? enough for these fuckers. There is always something wrong with them or something bothering them...and when there isn't, they are actively looking for a problem. They're always searching for hidden meanings and undercover slights

I don't know how they live like that, but eh whatever

It's better to learn it won't work now rather than years from now when you're more invested

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My mum is libra which supposedly doesn't work well with cancer but they've been happily married for 30+ years. But yes so many times my mum has told me "dad's feeling hurt because he doesn't feel like you love him" and tried to mediate between us. I always thought it was so ridiculous that dad would think something like that and the reasons were always the same: i didn't hug him enough or tell him enough that i love him. Then I'd get angry cos I'd think i have to force myself to hug him or tell him and then it's fake if I'm forcing myself to do it and as a sag i hate anything fake. Always the same cycle. And many times i have thought that i never want to end up with someone as damn over sensitive as my dad. Never really understood until now that it was cancer traits as I'd never read much about them until this relationship. This has become so much of a disaster that I've even decided that if I ever try to have kids I'm going to make damn sure that i don't have a cancer child, I'm going to make a 3 month ban on trying to fall pregnant from 8,9&10 months before cancer. I couldn't deal with a cancer child thinking i don't love them and constantly being hurt by me.

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I'm still baffled by Sagis thinking dating a Cancer is ever a good idea ...yet here we are again and again ....

I never knew before I met him as I'd never paid much attention to sun sign compatibility. When we first started having problems I wondered what his sun sign was so I could read up on it and better understand him. When he told me his birthday and I realised he was cancer I did indeed have an uh oh moment because my dad is a cancer and we've always clashed cos I often manage to somehow hurt him without meaning to even though I love him so much and my dad is not a crazy crab. That's when I thought to look up compatibility between sag and cancer and saw all the warnings and then exactly what everything said the relationship would be like started to happen no matter how much I tried to prevent it, no matter that I sent everything I read to him and said look let's not let this happen. Well now I know all this and gave experienced it I will never again fall for a cancer,it's just too much trouble and I can't stand hurting someone just by being myself.

Well since your dad is a cancer you already know what exhausting human beings they are so I don't even need to say this ...(but I will)

You can never do, say, or "open up" ? enough for these fuckers. There is always something wrong with them or something bothering them...and when there isn't, they are actively looking for a problem. They're always searching for hidden meanings and undercover slights

I don't know how they live like that, but eh whatever

It's better to learn it won't work now rather than years from now when you're more invested

My mum is libra which supposedly doesn't work well with cancer but they've been happily married for 30+ years. But yes so many times my mum has told me "dad's feeling hurt because he doesn't feel like you love him" and tried to mediate between us. I always thought it was so ridiculous that dad would think something like that and the reasons were always the same: i didn't hug him enough or tell him enough that i love him. Then I'd get angry cos I'd think i have to force myself to hug him or tell him and then it's fake if I'm forcing myself to do it and as a sag i hate anything fake. Always the same cycle. And many times i have thought that i never want to end up with someone as damn over sensitive as my dad. Never really understood until now that it was cancer traits as I'd never read much about them until this relationship. This has become so much of a disaster that I've even decided that if I ever try to have kids I'm going to make damn sure that i don't have a cancer child, I'm going to make a 3 month ban on trying to fall pregnant from 8,9&10 months before cancer. I couldn't deal with a cancer child thinking i don't love them and constantly being hurt by me.

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Cancers are pretty cool ? though. I like them. They're fine as friends.

I just think it's not a natural meshing...takes more work than its worth for me.

Posted by sagsagsag
That is one hell of a long post girl, but i think i get it. lol

Sag and Cancer never mesh well.. hell I have cancer moon but still I find cancer sun to be impossible. Like everything is never good enough, not loving enough, not sensitive enough, not commited enough, not secure enough, not warm enough, not loyal enough, you get the point right? I have 2 cancer exes and when they get mad... is exactly like what you wrote.

But now that I'm starting to think of settling down, I look back and see that yeah they do have those quality to look for marriage. And those explosion came from a place of love.. So.... I dont know about you.. but if it was me, I'd meet him, spend some time and talk.. it will be an emotional one with plenty of tears and emotional breakdown (i can bet on that ?) but at least you know if it can be worked out or not.. And if it has to end, at least it ends nicely... Sags are brave, we dont runaway, you can do it ?

I have a cancer moon as well....still couldn't date a cancer again. My ex thought I was bitch and I thought he was too passive aggressive. Like oil and water.

If you want to make it work, you have to soften up a little.

Cancer-Sagittarius

From one nut to another.

It would be great if the nuts came from the same tree but these are two different kinds of nuts.

This is one of those relationships that should be a good short term fling, but something makes them both want more. Maybe because these are friendship signs.

Passive Nonchalant vs Action and Motion

The draw is the magnetic attraction from both or one for the other.

If you go by sun signs it's not a good match.

If there are other compatible placements, maybe there is a chance.

My Cancer brother married a Sag. She likes to get out and do very adventurous things like nude spa's.

When I brought it up to them, because I have done the nude spa thing, she was excited and he scoffed.

I thought it was more because he didn't want to discuss that with his little sister. LOL

He's in his 60's and she is in her 50's.

How old are you two OP?

Perhaps this is not a combo for young lovers.

Both partners would have to show some restraint because this is not a combo for young sensitive people.

If the Crab has fire/air placements and the Sag has earth/water placements, this could go at least 6 months. 😆

Having said all of the above, regardless of signs, this relationship just isn't a good fit for either of you based on what you posted.

Short attention span?

Posted by LunarMaiden
Cancer-Sagittarius

From one nut to another.

It would be great if the nuts came from the same tree but these are two different kinds of nuts.

This is one of those relationships that should be a good short term fling, but something makes them both want more. Maybe because these are friendship signs.

Passive Nonchalant vs Action and Motion

The draw is the magnetic attraction from both or one for the other.

If you go by sun signs it's not a good match.

If there are other compatible placements, maybe there is a chance.

My Cancer brother married a Sag. She likes to get out and do very adventurous things like nude spa's.

When I brought it up to them, because I have done the nude spa thing, she was excited and he scoffed.

I thought it was more because he didn't want to discuss that with his little sister. LOL

He's in his 60's and she is in her 50's.

How old are you two OP?

Perhaps this is not a combo for young lovers.

Both partners would have to show some restraint because this is not a combo for young sensitive people.

If the Crab has fire/air placements and the Sag has earth/water placements, this could go at least 6 months. 😆

I'm 31 and he is 32. I've just attempted to look up his birth chart, I'm not sure how accurate this will be as I only know the date and country of birth but don't know time and city. Here's what I came up with:

Him:

rising sun: Virgo (probably not accurate as i don't know time of birth or city?)

Sun : cancer

Moon : Taurus

mercury: cancer

Venus: cancer

Mars: Scorpio

Jupiter: Capricorn

Saturn: Scorpio

Me:

Rising sun: Capricorn

Sun : Sagittarius

Moon : Gemini

Mercury: Sagittarius

Venus: Scorpio

Mars: Libra

Jupiter: Aquarius

Saturn: Sagittarius

what does this all mean and how much is relevant? I can see that he is all earth and water and I'm all fire and air but I don't really understand how it all relates. ...

I just don't know why I'm so attracted to signs I'm not meant to be compatible with. My ex and only real boyfriend was a Taurus. And aside from the cancer, the only other guy I've ever really been close to dating is a Capricorn.

What does the moon and Venus influence? I don't really understand astrology past sun signs. ..

And what do you mean that's some heavy magnetic pull?

Also is it the taurus part needing constant reassurance? I thought it was just that he's a cancer as that's what everything said about cancer. Does the taurus moon just make that even stronger?

And given i don't know his time of birth or city - which parts of his chart are likely to be incorrect? Just the rising sun, or other bits too?

I read everything .. No, just NO

Still a ? for me..even with the birth charts

We finally met again last night and I'm so glad I followed my heart. I guess it's naïve but I just can't let go of people and believe the worst. I always believe people are good deep down and you just have to dig a little harder to find it,and if you know more about where they are coming from you can understand why they behave in certain ways.

Anyway, the outcome of last night is essentially that he finally seems to accept that we can't be together, but he suggested that we try and be friends, and he even said better than best friends.

Last time I saw him he was refusing to believe I was ending things and he kept saying he is going to try again no matter what I say, and he's always said he'll never ever be my friend. So this is huge.

His behaviour was back to the sweet gentle guy I fell for and we even managed to laugh together again.

I'm just so glad I followed my heart and refused to just give up on him and block him from my life. I'm positive that we can be friends and we will have a much better friendship than a relationship.

Posted by Sagaussi
We finally met again last night and I'm so glad I followed my heart. I guess it's naïve but I just can't let go of people and believe the worst. I always believe people are good deep down and you just have to dig a little harder to find it,and if you know more about where they are coming from you can understand why they behave in certain ways.

Anyway, the outcome of last night is essentially that he finally seems to accept that we can't be together, but he suggested that we try and be friends, and he even said better than best friends.

Last time I saw him he was refusing to believe I was ending things and he kept saying he is going to try again no matter what I say, and he's always said he'll never ever be my friend. So this is huge.

His behaviour was back to the sweet gentle guy I fell for and we even managed to laugh together again.

I'm just so glad I followed my heart and refused to just give up on him and block him from my life. I'm positive that we can be friends and we will have a much better friendship than a relationship.

How is this friends thing working for you?

I find hard to be friends with people I have feelings for..

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Posted by Sagaussi
We finally met again last night and I'm so glad I followed my heart. I guess it's naïve but I just can't let go of people and believe the worst. I always believe people are good deep down and you just have to dig a little harder to find it,and if you know more about where they are coming from you can understand why they behave in certain ways.

Anyway, the outcome of last night is essentially that he finally seems to accept that we can't be together, but he suggested that we try and be friends, and he even said better than best friends.

Last time I saw him he was refusing to believe I was ending things and he kept saying he is going to try again no matter what I say, and he's always said he'll never ever be my friend. So this is huge.

His behaviour was back to the sweet gentle guy I fell for and we even managed to laugh together again.

I'm just so glad I followed my heart and refused to just give up on him and block him from my life. I'm positive that we can be friends and we will have a much better friendship than a relationship.

How is this friends thing working for you?

I find hard to be friends with people I have feelings for..

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To be honest my intention was not to be friends per se, but to at least be friendly and not enemies. It's not like I'm going to be massively keeping in contact with him cos you're right it'll be hard due to the feelings.

Why do you want to be friends?

You're a sag, you have enough friends.

Tell him youll be cordial, friends is a stretch.

Posted by DMV
Why do you want to be friends?

You're a sag, you have enough friends.

Tell him youll be cordial, friends is a stretch.

Hahaha yes I have waaaay too many friends!

I just find it hard to totally lose someone from my life. The alternative is that he blocks me from every contact means possible and hates me. I can't deal with that. We are going to see how it goes.