Help sagg in a mental struggle

Im a sagg woman who has fallen head over heels in love; literally. I fell in love with his mystery, intelligence, and Big ass ego. So here it is i need real honest advice. I meet him in 2011 in the midst of me having a baby and being in a relationship; not a happy one. We exchanged numbers and that was it we talked almost everyday. He lived on the west coast and me on the east. Being a Sagg i would say my view on love is light hearted. But with him it was diffrent i felt like i meet my match. Within 2 weeks he said he loved me. We continued to talk until my boyfriend proposed. I felt like i was in love with two men for very diffrent reasons one ive known forever and one i just meet. I choose to marry and told Mr Scorpio. He hated me I let him go but i never forgot him. Recently we meet again and i fell hard and heavy and choose to leave my unhappy marriage. He said he loved me wanted marriage wanted children. We talked everyday again. Then he begins to dissapear would not call for two weeks at a time, not answer phone calls, not show up for weekends we planned together. I would text and express my confussion and dissapointment he would respond days later as nothing ever happened and would say you know I love you wtf does that mean. He would tell me to keep myself busy to not date. Wtf he stood me up twice for two weekend visit trips. So confused if this is love kill me now. ADVICE

run, girl...run...and never look back!
you are DAMN lucky he is showing you how things are gonna be now before you get with him.
just run.
a sag girl is a horrible girl when hurt by an elusive creature who leaves you guessing.
we are known to do crazy things.

Posted by msX
run, girl...run...and never look back!
you are DAMN lucky he is showing you how things are gonna be now before you get with him.
just run.
a sag girl is a horrible girl when hurt by an elusive creature who leaves you guessing.
we are known to do crazy things.

The Crazy part of me i know all to well. LMAO I keep wondering why he has a hold on me seriously cant shake it.

Scorpio and Sagi girl. The best celebrity example? Ike and Tina. I've been studying Scorpio male and Sagi female for a while. If you don't run, this may end terribly. Be careful and perhaps focus on yourself and your little one.

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Posted by msX
run, girl...run...and never look back!
you are DAMN lucky he is showing you how things are gonna be now before you get with him.
just run.
a sag girl is a horrible girl when hurt by an elusive creature who leaves you guessing.
we are known to do crazy things.

The Crazy part of me i know all to well. LMAO I keep wondering why he has a hold on me seriously cant shake it.

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the hold? simple...men come easy to us and we are always curious and upset when one of those that should be worshipping our platinum-lined woohoos ignore us and try to play us like we aren't the fucking fabulous creatures we were born to be.
once we get our answers, we usually dump their loser asses anyway.
but without those answers, we are known to be runners-up for a "snapped" episode.
freakin' crazy, man...lol

the audacity of that man to play you!
laugh it off...make it a game.
try to play with him to see what would work to get him to speak to you, and, when he does, just be like, "you mortal, i was just playing. i don't want YOU *insert evil laugh*", like that.
but only if you can handle it, though 😉
fools love to be fooled with.
people that play you are pleasantly (no matter how twisted it may seem) surprised when they are played with.
like, abuse an abuser and see what reaction you'd get.

Posted by msX
the audacity of that man to play you!
laugh it off...make it a game.
try to play with him to see what would work to get him to speak to you, and, when he does, just be like, "you mortal, i was just playing. i don't want YOU *insert evil laugh*", like that.
but only if you can handle it, though 😉
fools love to be fooled with.
people that play you are pleasantly (no matter how twisted it may seem) surprised when they are played with.
like, abuse an abuser and see what reaction you'd get.

LOL girl i have snapped off on him. I was in a not happy marriage but was settled he comes and uproars my damn life but doesnt deliver shit. Kicked my husband out not just because of him but all the yrs of shit. I figured life is short imma be with who i want to be with plus my husband was a serial cheater. Scorpio with his flighty passionate self promises the moon and the stars for coming back to him and then dissappears on several occasions. Valentines day on my way to see him doesnt answer phone mind u im driving four hrs. Two months ago a weekend at my home. Spent money prepared talked to him on a friday at work he says im coming soon as i get off never shows up never answers phone and never calls. His excuse a family death. I just dont believe that a person could be that inconsiderate in my mind you would call someone and just say i cant make it.

As a sagg im pretty easy going i dont need no damn story. I dont care if u cant come do to diarrhea. Im ok with that. Keep it honest keep it simple. So I turn into the crazy ass lady from snapped i go off on him when he comes back around six days later. He says your acting crazy. Im really hurt. I wanna play games and fuck with his head but theres no point. I do love him and Id rather love him and let him go. I just dont understand the games. He will call me leave a message so call me back i call back and he doesnt answer. Its like he tries to do just enough to keep me around. He knows I left my husband this is hid time to step up he hasnt.

he is teaching you a lesson that all us sagittarius girls must learn: everyone is not like us. just because you give, don't expect to get. it is always better for us to get a man that will love us more than we love them, that will go hard for us more than we will for them. when we lose that sag edge, we are nothing but like the other chicks in the zodiac and not worth discussing here.

you want him to act like you.
won't happen.

you did too much.
you attributed to much to him as well.
that is too much pressure for most to handle...not for us, us, but for most.
before you give him that royal treatment, make him earn it.
like, treat him like a dog and don't reward bad behavior.
it always works.

i can tell you for sure that you are not in love with him.
you would never be the victim like that.
you are just infatuated with him and his treatment of you.
you are in the "clutch my pearls" moment and want answers.
that's a tough place to be in.

Posted by msX
i can tell you for sure that you are not in love with him.
you would never be the victim like that.
you are just infatuated with him and his treatment of you.
you are in the "clutch my pearls" moment and want answers.
that's a tough place to be in.

Thank you, Seriously i am just having the worst time processing this mess. You are right so far ive been doing good no contact no text no anything. I used to do the morning hallmark and night text even if he didnt respond. I havent and wont anymore. Each day that does by I feel stronger. I just get so psychotic when he pops back up swearing his love, saying stupid shit like your my wife, were engaged, i want you to have my childrem. WTF. You dont even call me. His response im just really busy and im an introvert. BS I felt because he wasnt option A for me i had to show him i was sincere. I fully gave my love and expensive gifts. To no avail. Im learning alot about myself through this time in my life. I was so brave becasue i belived i was doing the right thing that i professed my feelings for him to my husband and family. Looking like a damn fool now. I stil fell optimistic there is a silver lining.

@msX I like you! Lol! You are exactly right. Best advice I've ever heard and this wasn't for me.

He's probably found another girl. Sorry. Scorpios are mysterious at first but if they love you, they are normally an open book. Thats just my exp.

awwww, shucks, vero23...thanx!
you know, i wouldn't wish heartbreak on my worst enemy. most of us sags' heartbreak comes from either being extremely naive or extremely spoiled. it is, nevertheless, heartbreak and it hurts like hell! sometimes i think we are masochistic because we get into these binds and cry and act out and hurt...and then we come out all optimistic, flashing our scars and showing the world how freaking dope we are having endured such travesties.
and then we find someone who actually goes for us as hard as we do them. it happens. may be in our latter years, but it does. he comes to us, not the other way around. he proves to us that all men aren't weak and that we are as feminine as a summers eve commercial. but what we give to him is so much greater and he let's us know. he is gonna teach us how to respect boundaries and have patience and all that stuff all these other crackheads tried to do but couldn't because they weren't clever enough. and he is gonna stick up for us when we need a man to beat up someone verbally or even physically because you know how many haters we have out here...lol! basically, he is gonna do all those great things for and to us that we wanted to do for and to a man before we get a chance to do it. and we won't come out feeling raped and taken advantage of.
just wait for it. and get better while you wait. and have fun with the dummy guys until HE comes. if he never comes, at least you would have had loads of fun with the dummies!
and don't forget to have lots of great sex because you know how fabulous we are at it *pops collar*

oh...love is not something you feel, it's something you do. when he says he loves you, he had better be doing it.
if he told you that he was in love with another chick, i bet you would feel extreme disgust for him. i bet that's what it is, too.

@MsX I think that's how every woman feels.. And that's the kind of man every straight woman deserves.