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I go through periods of alot and none at all. in order to function properly, i need to have sex everyday. i just dont feel like a woman or myself if i havent gotten laid. sex and having an orgasm is therapeutic to me. i feel rejuvenated afterwards. a little death.

right now, im getting it from a few different men a several times a week. a few years ago, i was really reckless with sex and partners.

the longest ive gone without sex, a year, after i broke up with my leo.
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Idk...a month?

I hear that if you do it more than 3 times a week it actually becomes unhealthy for you.



yea I know what you mean, most western doctors will say everyday is healthy, then some eastern doctos say it depends on age and orgasm. For instance at a certain age in men it may be considered healthy to have sex frequently, but without orgasm and that it's actually the amount of orgasms a man has during the week (or so) that can become unhealthy.
That is becasuse men use up more energy at orgasm than women and sexual energy is also directly related to vital energy.

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Yeah I believe you're right on the orgasm deal. I would imagine since having an orgasm, for both male and female, releasing chemicals in your body like dopamine it would probably deplete the chemical levels and would become unhealthy for you if you didn't give them enough time to replenish.

Not everyone has orgasms when they have sex, but most people do when they masturbate... so maybe the unhealthy thing isn't how much you have sex, but how much you have orgasms. Then again I think just the act of sex alone also releases chemicals as well. Gah so much chemistry...I should have paid more attention.

All I know is if I had sex every day I'd have a really strong core and it'd probably be hard for me to walk with as sore as I'd be... guess I'd get used to it tho
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Posted by Rockthenerds
Wow I completley misread the Op, I thought you were asking what is the amount of sex a couple generally has in a healthy relationship.
.. Well hell yea its healthy.

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in order to function properly, i need to have sex everyday.
right now, im getting it from a few different men a several times a week. a few years ago, i was really reckless with sex and partners.



I'm no Physician or anyhting like that, but according to my calculations, you should be about ready to take on Mr. Norris himself with that workout program.

Hell even Steven sagal since Wesley snipes is in jail...
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steven segal is way hot. i was watching Under Siege the other day. Hot
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Posted by happykitsune
Idk...a month?

I hear that if you do it more than 3 times a week it actually becomes unhealthy for you.



That's scary and sad to hear. Having sex gives off a healthy glow and a pep in the step for. I exercise my vocals because I'm singing and chuckling to myself throughout the day about having had great sex the nght before. I feel stress free. If doing it more than 3 times a week is unhealthy then I must have cancer =-C
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i wish i had that ability to not think about droughts. i just get so depressed. so much of my esteem is based on male attention.




yikes...well at least you're open and honest about it, denial is a motherfucker...

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I'm no Physician or anyhting like that, but according to my calculations, you should be about ready to take on Mr. Norris himself with that workout program.

Hell even Steven sagal since Wesley snipes is in jail...



steven segal is way hot. i was watching Under Siege the other day. Hot




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ive tried bit by bit to find personal fulfillment in other areas but nothing beats attention from a man.
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Wesley Snipes is a real Ni99a. He tried to buck the whole system by running an unincorporation that didnt file taxes( amenra productions) and a WOMAN filed taxes cuz she got scurred and that brought down the whole operation.
Steven siegal is nice with the hands and a beast too.



damn is that how Wesley got busted— lol @ your capitalization. i have heard from clients that male CPAs are more prone to push the envelope than female CPAs. theyre just not risk takers. its certainly a grey are in the financial world.
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Posted by happykitsune
Idk...a month?

I hear that if you do it more than 3 times a week it actually becomes unhealthy for you.



That's scary and sad to hear. Having sex gives off a healthy glow and a pep in the step for. I exercise my vocals because I'm singing and chuckling to myself throughout the day about having had great sex the nght before. I feel stress free. If doing it more than 3 times a week is unhealthy then I must have cancer =-C
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so true when i have had me some good sex I'm like the happiest person...and when I'm happy I'm the nicest person...and the first thing my co-workers says you must got laid lastnight because your to nice...lol
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Idk...a month?

I hear that if you do it more than 3 times a week it actually becomes unhealthy for you.



That's scary and sad to hear. Having sex gives off a healthy glow and a pep in the step for. I exercise my vocals because I'm singing and chuckling to myself throughout the day about having had great sex the nght before. I feel stress free. If doing it more than 3 times a week is unhealthy then I must have cancer =-C



lol, no its not scary or sad. We're not talking about the act of sex, it was the orgasms, imo specifically in men can be unhealthy if had excessivley. Women I'm really not so sure about honestly, but I do think they can have much more with out having much of an effect on their physical health..well assuming they take care of their body.. but happyk made a good point about the overactive release of dopamine that affect health.

Imo really the word 'health' is a wholeness word, the Body is a combination of bio chemical systems that are all related to each other. If one system is either over-functioning or under-functioning, It will manifest itself in the form of symptoms in the next related system, and so on.

Sex it's self isnt unhealthy its how you apporoch it like anything else, for instance the world record for longest gangbang was held by lisa sparks in 2004, she had sex with 919 guys in one day @ the 3rd anual world gb championships. Needless to say she may have been a little exhausted, but She was still healthy.

The you have Brooke ashley who participated in the anal only gb championships in 98' with less than 50 guys and contracted hiv..


So yea sexual health is not only about having or going without intercourse. Our self awareness is what distinguishes us from animals.
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Gang banged by 919 guys? I know she was sore as hell and the men that engaged in it were sour. Just....no.

Thanks for the clarification though!
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Ok so 24 hours X 60 minutes divided by 919 guys = one minute, 57 seconds per guy? Did these guys audition for this? If you go for more than 2 minutes you're not eligible to participate in the gangbang, I guess



Three holes buddy.. divide by three, carry the 2, recalculate lmao...

or you could just googlevideo


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NooOOoooOOOOoooooOOoooo.....Arrrrgh math 😭
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ive tried bit by bit to find personal fulfillment in other areas but nothing beats attention from a man.



What exactly have you tried?

Ime These types of women tend to have the most insecurites and trust issues and therefore tend to use men.

The last place I look for fulfillment is in a woman, hell they're usually the reason for so much pain!


Im not judging you by any means im only speaking from my experience.

If your lifestlye doesnt affect you or others in a negative way then by all means do you.

Im just saying one of the only conditions i can see sex becoming unhealthy is when it is used as a coping mechanism.
Again emotional health is just as important and mental physical and spirtitual health and these all related to overall sexual health.

Either male or female Imo sex should never be used as a substitute for self contentment/ reassurance or value.
Using sex to cope with internal issues is the same as ignoring them.
Narcissitic/dependent behaviors dont stem from just enjoying sexual relationships,. Those patterns tend to stem around sources like upbringing.

Of course sex is supposed to be enjoyed by both partners.
It only becomes an unhealthy problem imo when one is being used or is using someone out of selfishness, when one person finds out(who of course may be in another sexual realtionship) and emotional issues that have not been dealt with start to
rise to the surface from all the people involved.
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I do have an unhealthy view of sex and relationships as compared to the status quo. i will make no qualms about that lol. i rationalize it as everyone uses something as a coping mechanism..drugs, food, gambling, gaming, art, shopping. i figure i made out good, i coulda been a 500 lb woman who finds fulfillment from jelly donuts or a girl who finds fulfillment from shopping and is loaded with debt. everyone is addicted to something.

i just found something that makes me happy and feel good inside, it just so happens to be a g
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it just so happens to be a good lay.



lol I hear you, I wouldnt say everyone exactly, but yes our society (western anyway) is prone to addiction, we exploit it, capitalize on it and idolize it as a culture. I just dont buy into it though, as a scorp Im prone to excess and addictions, also with a fucked up childhood I should have addiction/issues out the ass, but I dont. That's why I dont judge anyone for using sex or anything else to feel great cause I completely understand where theyre coming from. I just tend to avoid people male or female prone to excess in anything especially sex and drugs because I tend to become like my friends. This is why I choose my friends and associations carefully.

Hell I had a good friend that was a drag/prostitue. couldnt get the fucker away from me for shit.. He was cool, but very clingy and sociopathic. All he ever talked about was sex and it was quite irritating and contagious.. anyway yea.. I'll take some good trees and music over a sex anyday...when it comes for self fulfillment anyway...
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i hear ya. i like to surround myself with happy upbeat positive people. my cancer rising soaks up my enviornment.

that pro sounds like one helluva a good time to be quite honest.
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lol we were completley different, he had a good sense of humor but he definitely wasnt upbeat and positive, alwasy acted like he knew everything because he F'd half the city,(he was was street smart though). But yea sometimes he was cool others a pain in the ass sometimes he'd only come over to look @ gay porn on my comp lol



Bwahahahaha wth...
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Actually come to think of it I remember the first year or so I went without any sex/fap, nothing I had alot of wet dreams because I hadn't learned to control that kind of energy , but also I think its natural for body to do this..

Brushed up on a few tantric techniques now I don't have them at all if i go without sex for a length of time and I dont really like to release semen unless there is female/yin energy present to support it. That's why I'm into it because you dont necessarily have to be physically touching to have some of the greatest o's.. I usually just hold it though, I haven't had a full on orgasm/ejaculation combo from a jerk in over a year.



Tantric sounds very interesting... idk if I could do it tho...is it that you build up the energy and nearly get to that state of orgasm then stop? Then do it again...then stop? And you keep holding back till you finally release one day?
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as for droughts idk never really paid that much mind to it.



so much of my esteem is based on male attention.



So without male attention, you're worthless?
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never used the word "worthless". "so much" implies that a great deal, not wholly, of my esteem is based on male attention, the rest of my esteem is built or destroyed by other factors. i simply feel better about myself with some male attention.

dont really see the big deal
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Hmmm I see...

well that's good cus I don't think I could hold my orgasm and then have it later...that's just weird o.O

Also I'm not much for slow stuff...



Yea when you do orgasm though you really cant explain it, it is incredible. To orgasm is great, but you dont focus on it really because essentially you want to connect with your partner at the mind/eye level, heart level, energetic level going deeper and so on. So when focusing on orgasm you miss this. It should come naturally, this is what makes it amazing though Imo.
So yes it does take some time but it's worth it. My sag and I dont have schedules that dont allow constant sex like some couples, so this is neccearry for us. Plus she is alot older and like things a little slower. I had always been interested in yoga before I met her so I think thats why it works so well for us. Really you have to get basic yogic practices (hatha style ) down before moving on to tantric sex.
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I wanna experience this!! *day dreams* 😄
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as for droughts idk never really paid that much mind to it.



so much of my esteem is based on male attention.



So without male attention, you're worthless?



never used the word "worthless". "so much" implies that a great deal, not wholly, of my esteem is based on male attention, the rest of my esteem is built or destroyed by other factors. i simply feel better about myself with some male attention.

dont really see the big deal
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You don't need to use the "word"...you already said it. A great deal of your esteem comes from a man so without a man you feel worthless. Gotcha.
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@ RTN, I understand your stance. Granted, when you're financially challenged yes it's rough, & when you're not in a relationship & desire to be in one, it's also challenging but happiness comes from within & no man or money should validate your worth because it will be an epic fail every time. EVERY TIME.

Those are temporary solutions to bigger problems that reside inside. That is equivalent to letting a man dictate & control your happiness & a "great deal" of that should come from you. Not a man and/or money/material paraphernalia. Being dependent upon that will lead to feelings of emptiness which will leave you feeling more alone. That's how people become needy, clingy, & desperate. Self love is the ultimate gratification.


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as for droughts idk never really paid that much mind to it.



so much of my esteem is based on male attention.



So without male attention, you're worthless?



never used the word "worthless". "so much" implies that a great deal, not wholly, of my esteem is based on male attention, the rest of my esteem is built or destroyed by other factors. i simply feel better about myself with some male attention.

dont really see the big deal



You don't need to use the "word"...you already said it. A great deal of your esteem comes from a man so without a man you feel worthless. Gotcha.



I think I understand where dmv's coming from to an extent. She said "a great deal"...Idk how much that is exactly but I will say this and Ime i've found this to be very true believe it or not: When a man has more money, not only does he have the opportunity to meet more women, but women can (magically) somehow find their way around him even if he's not looking..

With that said, I have been through long periods of being without both a woman and money. I know, of course, that I am worth more than any money I can ever earn, yet when you have little to none, it's easy to feel worth just that much.

The same goes with being single, It would be easy to feel alone just because i dont have a female companion to support and encourage me, yet this is not true, I am never actually alone. So I think it's natural to feel better about yourself when you have these things. It is natural to want to be loved and needed. I only see it becoming an unhealthy type of life style when a person can not distinguish between what is temporary and what is continuous, or the true value and significance of both..



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@ RTN, I understand your stance. Granted, when you're financially challenged yes it's rough, & when you're not in a relationship & desire to be in one, it's also challenging but happiness comes from within & no man or money should validate your worth because it will be an epic fail every time. EVERY TIME.

Those are temporary solutions to bigger problems that reside inside. That is equivalent to letting a man dictate & control your happiness & a "great deal" of that should come from you. Not a man and/or money/material paraphernalia. Being dependent upon that will lead to feelings of emptiness which will leave you feeling more alone. That's how people become needy, clingy, & desperate. Self love is the ultimate gratification.




in order for you to feel that way about yourself on the inside, you must be doing something. no one just wakes up and is happy, being happy is a condition of doing something. just like being sad is a cause and effect.

what are some of the things that increase your self esteem?
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you cool "rock the nerds". i believe that you understand where im coming from. but im not alone in my viewpoint, ive just pinpointed what makes me happy in life. plenty of women do things to gain the affection of men, they just dont realize it. i know from the minute i wake up, everything i do to myself is to look good, healthy, and attractive. i dont dress or act in a certain way to for a woman's enjoyment. so i couldnt care less what a female thinks about me. i aint lookin to screw her.

i do what i do for men and in turn, i receive gratification and i feel better about myself. compliments give me a better feeling than any drug ever could. when a man kisses my hand when he meets me, i drool. when i walk into a room and a man talks to me, shit my night is good! when the opposite happens, whomp whomp...no sex, and im ready to jump off a bridge. call me an attention whore all you want!

maybe because im chooing a big bad man (oo scary) that is causing so much "oh no she didnt." how about cake? working/promotion, ice creams, WEED, books, traveling...maybe if i choose those things people wouldnt get their panties in a bunch.

so theres no need to hide anything, im cool.
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i was very promiscuous back in the day and was into anything sex. nething to get the high you know? ive calmed down alot.

sex/attention...sex is the ultimate goal but attention is just as good. def, when i dont have sex...i am off. kinda like when people dont get their daily starbucks. i am just not myself. i do get depressed. i would just alternate one vice for another.

"same with other things you meantion, sweets, shopping, drugs are all fine imo, its how people handle them being taken away determines if a person has a problem or not.."

i think this is subjective. i could have also added water, food, money to the list. what if i someone took away my need for water? i guess because sex is sooooo taboo and sacred to some people that its hard for people to see sex as water; something thats also vital to my existence...

i know you understand, its just baffles me why liking a man's attention is soo wrong.

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@rock the nerds,

I like how you explained joy/happiness. i agree 100% . its refreshing to speak to people who have an IQ of more than 10.



yes, lol, jumping off a building is an exxageration...but i do get depressed when im not getting laid. lol, which is why i keep plenty of dudes on deck and its not hard for me to get involved with a new guy. so when none of that is going on, its very noticable. something feels off.

its hard for me to show what should be taken literal as opposed to not.

im glad that you found help for your depression. you come across as a very well-rounded person.
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@ RTN, I understand your stance. Granted, when you're financially challenged yes it's rough, & when you're not in a relationship & desire to be in one, it's also challenging but happiness comes from within & no man or money should validate your worth because it will be an epic fail every time. EVERY TIME.

Those are temporary solutions to bigger problems that reside inside. That is equivalent to letting a man dictate & control your happiness & a "great deal" of that should come from you. Not a man and/or money/material paraphernalia. Being dependent upon that will lead to feelings of emptiness which will leave you feeling more alone. That's how people become needy, clingy, & desperate. Self love is the ultimate gratification.




in order for you to feel that way about yourself on the inside, you must be doing something. no one just wakes up and is happy, being happy is a condition of doing something. just like being sad is a cause and effect.

what are some of the things that increase your self esteem?
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Knowing that I'm intelligent, beautiful, loyal, honest, creative, having many accomplishments, being a good person, pampering myself, you know...making sure MY needs are met first. That increases my self esteem. I'm not at all saying a man cannot bring you joy, but an individual needs to be satisfied with self first in order to be complete. A man is just the icing on the cake. With the cherry on top! 😛










































































And the whip cream!!!!! Heehee!
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happiness does not come from within. thats the dumbest thing ive ever heard. an emotion such as being happy is the effect of a stimuli from something your doing...



And the dumbest thing I ever heard is happiness from a fucking man. If you were doing something for YOURSELF rather than depending on a man for your happiness, then it DOES stem from within. If you'd rather a man control your life, like I said before GET NICE. Do you.
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