lovelivelife11
@lovelivelife11
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i dont know what else to do
i do tell him i love him and appreciate everything he does for me because i do it feels good to finally be with someone who i know loves me cares for me and does for me like he does. i've never had that before but i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him hoping and praying i don't do something wrong that may irritate him or he doesn't like some days i really don't know how he's going to act with me so i just stay prepared for whatever is coming. i don't want to make him seem like a bad person because he's not i just wish he would see what he does wrong and be patient with me....this is my second ever real relationship i've ever been in since i were 16 years old besides the guy that was using me and i guess our age difference would be a factor i'm 21 and he's 31 going on 32...soo maybe that's the problem
I will try to give you some advice .... I'm pressed for time now.... I'm at work but will be off in about 2 hours
Lol.... until then. 🙂
Lol.... until then. 🙂
I've been in your shoes, I hate to say it but it's time to exit the relationship, I know that's not what you want to hear but it's what you need to hear. Egg shell walking and anticipating his moods is not the best way to be or to live, it's exhausting, he's grooming you to pay attention to his needs at all times and the more you do this, the more thrilled he becomes off of the power/control fix he's getting thus the behavior never ends least not as long as you're in the relationship but before we jump the gun here, you must talk to him first, tell him what you're thinking and how you feel and ask him what's going to do to change the situation then wait to see if the air clears, if the behavior continues, exit stage right/left--pick one.
If you need to weight the good from the bad, well I'll start the bad list and you finish it on your own, do the good list at home and put them next to one another and you might just see that you're doing too much.
The bad
1. he's always right about eeeeverthing and never wrong,
2. he picks arguments with me and says im the one with the problem
3. i feel like nothing i ever do is good enough or im irritating him.
4. does that irritates me
5. i ask him if he ever sees anything he does wrong and he seriously does not think he does anything wrong.
6. one time i did cook he didnt eat and i felt bad because hes the one that asked me to cook
7. i always let him see what's in my phone, who i'm talking to or texting who's writing me on facebook but when it comes to seeing who he's texting or talking to he never shows me.
8. he still texts this girl and never tells me when she's texting him or what they're conversations are about but he'll tell me about everyone else he has a conversation with.
9. i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him hoping and praying i don't do something wrong that may irritate him or he doesn't like some days i really don't know how he's going to act with me.
If you need to weight the good from the bad, well I'll start the bad list and you finish it on your own, do the good list at home and put them next to one another and you might just see that you're doing too much.
The bad
1. he's always right about eeeeverthing and never wrong,
2. he picks arguments with me and says im the one with the problem
3. i feel like nothing i ever do is good enough or im irritating him.
4. does that irritates me
5. i ask him if he ever sees anything he does wrong and he seriously does not think he does anything wrong.
6. one time i did cook he didnt eat and i felt bad because hes the one that asked me to cook
7. i always let him see what's in my phone, who i'm talking to or texting who's writing me on facebook but when it comes to seeing who he's texting or talking to he never shows me.
8. he still texts this girl and never tells me when she's texting him or what they're conversations are about but he'll tell me about everyone else he has a conversation with.
9. i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him hoping and praying i don't do something wrong that may irritate him or he doesn't like some days i really don't know how he's going to act with me.
You are doing too much hoop jumping and he's taking you for granted, I know because I've been exactly were you are many moons ago and I also know when you give too much a man can interpret that giving as DESPERATION and what comes next is neglect and the neglect isn't about him being a bad person, it's about a loss of ATTRACTION, you've allowed him to have a hold on you 100% so now he doesn't fear losing you but he'll insert his control and power over you because you've allowed him to completely dominate you.
I suggest you pull back, stop allowing him carte blanche access to everything about you, there must be MYSTERY or a Sag will get very bored with you, stop allowing him to go through your phone, stop giving out free back rubs--foot rubs--any kind of rubs make him earn it and stop cooking him dinner, you are not his personal bitch/doormat--make him earn it by making sure he understands it's equal, if you cook, he washes the dishes--or give you a hand massage after dinner, if you just give and give and give he will take you for granted and he'll cheat in your face, talk to girls in your face. Why? Because he's whiffed that desperation on you and he know he can do what he wants to do and GET AWAY WITH IT, he has a 100% hold on you and you ain't going nowhere.
In order for him to treat you like a prize, you must behave like a prize and you must never ever accept any kind of neglect of any kind, never ever or yes he'll grow bored and he'll say things to ensure you're loyal and 100% his and he'll then go off to go have fun with somebody else in your face.
You're CREATING this uneasy, frustrating balance by doing too much, the old saying put too much sugar in a cake recipe you'll spoil it, well you're spoiling your relationship.
Stop it!! Pump the brakes on the over giving, create balance by ensuring he's doing his part of the relationship as well.
I suggest you pull back, stop allowing him carte blanche access to everything about you, there must be MYSTERY or a Sag will get very bored with you, stop allowing him to go through your phone, stop giving out free back rubs--foot rubs--any kind of rubs make him earn it and stop cooking him dinner, you are not his personal bitch/doormat--make him earn it by making sure he understands it's equal, if you cook, he washes the dishes--or give you a hand massage after dinner, if you just give and give and give he will take you for granted and he'll cheat in your face, talk to girls in your face. Why? Because he's whiffed that desperation on you and he know he can do what he wants to do and GET AWAY WITH IT, he has a 100% hold on you and you ain't going nowhere.
In order for him to treat you like a prize, you must behave like a prize and you must never ever accept any kind of neglect of any kind, never ever or yes he'll grow bored and he'll say things to ensure you're loyal and 100% his and he'll then go off to go have fun with somebody else in your face.
You're CREATING this uneasy, frustrating balance by doing too much, the old saying put too much sugar in a cake recipe you'll spoil it, well you're spoiling your relationship.
Stop it!! Pump the brakes on the over giving, create balance by ensuring he's doing his part of the relationship as well.
A good book to purchase for starters is Why Men Love Bitches by Sherry Argov, she pretty gives the ABC's of why men neglect women who are way too giving and too nice "the good girl".
^^^^^ dammit to hell tikki33. I rush home from work and you have already wrote
what I was going to write. You didn't leave anything left for me to say at all....
You covered every angle....
Follow what Tikki said. Yes it will hurt now but better now than later....
Please don't waste anymore time with this guy. He is actually not the problem.
its you. You reek of low self-esteem. If not him, you will find someone worse than him
to fall in love with. He treats you this way because you ALLOW IT. You know its wrong
and it hurts you.... that's why you are on this site writing this.
Take time to find a good man that loves you for you. You can do it. Believe in yourself!
I do and I don't even know you. But the person that took the time to write this and
do the things you do for this guy, has the courage and the strength to get out of this
bad relationship and find a good one. I know u can do it..... the question is....
DO YOU——
what I was going to write. You didn't leave anything left for me to say at all....
You covered every angle....
Follow what Tikki said. Yes it will hurt now but better now than later....
Please don't waste anymore time with this guy. He is actually not the problem.
its you. You reek of low self-esteem. If not him, you will find someone worse than him
to fall in love with. He treats you this way because you ALLOW IT. You know its wrong
and it hurts you.... that's why you are on this site writing this.
Take time to find a good man that loves you for you. You can do it. Believe in yourself!
I do and I don't even know you. But the person that took the time to write this and
do the things you do for this guy, has the courage and the strength to get out of this
bad relationship and find a good one. I know u can do it..... the question is....
DO YOU——
he doesn't like the way i dress i don't wear skimpy outfits im just really laid back i like to wear t-shirts and jeans and shoes or whenever i go to some place nice i'll wear a really cute strapless jumpsuit or dress and that's what he likes but he still feels the need to tell me how he wants me to dress. how to act in public, how to eat (he gets mad if my fork hits my plate and makes a sound or if i'm eating and my teeth accidently slides against the fork and makes a sound, he got mad at me one day because i didn't tip the lady that waxed my eyebrows, I've known this lady since i were 5 years old because she used to do my moms nails when i were a kid. he tells me i act immature, he feels the need to babysit me, which i disagree with it's just he always wants me to do what he wants to do and be what he wants me to be and if i fail i'm stupid, immature and kid like. he makes me out to be really immature and i'm not i go to school, i go to work, i cook, i clean, i always do what he asks, and also he has to realize i'm still young, im not the social type, i am very reserved i only have 1 best friend and a best cousin i hang around, i don't go out to clubs or bars drinking, i don't smoke, and i've never been to jail.
whenever he's mad at me about something he'll give me the silent treatment, whenever he leaves the house he never tells me where he's going but yet whenever i leave the house he wants to know where i'm going who's picking me up etc...
i recently just cut my hair off so i only have a few inches i cut my hair because it was really damaged from coloring so i wanted a fresh start and grow it back out long again he got soooo MAD at me he wouldn't speak to me for the entire day and when i tried to explain to him why i got it cut he wasn't hearing it, so i ended up getting my hair done again but he tells me "i don't want you to get your hair done to satisfy me" but i'm like "if i don't then i will get the silent treatment every single day" and i didn't want that so i got my hair done to satisfy him and he knows it. so now i have to struggle with the little money i do make getting my hair done until it grows back which is expensive. i reeeeally hate arguing so i try to do everything to prevent an argument whenever he tries to argue with me i let him win just to end it but he wants to keep it going sometimes.
whenever he's mad at me about something he'll give me the silent treatment, whenever he leaves the house he never tells me where he's going but yet whenever i leave the house he wants to know where i'm going who's picking me up etc...
i recently just cut my hair off so i only have a few inches i cut my hair because it was really damaged from coloring so i wanted a fresh start and grow it back out long again he got soooo MAD at me he wouldn't speak to me for the entire day and when i tried to explain to him why i got it cut he wasn't hearing it, so i ended up getting my hair done again but he tells me "i don't want you to get your hair done to satisfy me" but i'm like "if i don't then i will get the silent treatment every single day" and i didn't want that so i got my hair done to satisfy him and he knows it. so now i have to struggle with the little money i do make getting my hair done until it grows back which is expensive. i reeeeally hate arguing so i try to do everything to prevent an argument whenever he tries to argue with me i let him win just to end it but he wants to keep it going sometimes.
he says he doesn't want to keep me inside the house he wants me to get out and socialize and be with my friend and my cousin or go to my families house but he knows i won't go because i'm such a homebody and i don't have a car to get around alot unless he lets me use his truck
damn girl. you need to read the manual in how to date a sag man.
i feel like you 2 are in 2 different worlds. he is a man and knows what he wants and what he likes. especially his woman.
1. he's always right about eeeeverthing and never wrong, yup. get used to it.
2. he picks arguments with me and says im the one with the problem he wants some dialogue, passionate, interesting, opinionated talking
3. i feel like nothing i ever do is good enough or im irritating him. you need hobbies other than him.
4. does that irritates me
5. i ask him if he ever sees anything he does wrong and he seriously does not think he does anything wrong. this is damn near all saggis
6. one time i did cook he didnt eat and i felt bad because hes the one that asked me to cook thats when you should have taken the plate and fed him yourself OR thrown it aganist the wall and leave it there
7. i always let him see what's in my phone, who i'm talking to or texting who's writing me on facebook but when it comes to seeing who he's texting or talking to he never shows me. arent you grown? i wish i would take the time to show someone else who im texting
8. he still texts this girl and never tells me when she's texting him or what they're conversations are about but he'll tell me about everyone else he has a conversation with. sag man NEED boundaries set in the very beginning or they will walk right over you. you def missed your moment to reign him in and swept it under the rug. now youve got problems. what is his venus?
9. i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him hoping and praying i don't do something wrong that may irritate him or he doesn't like some days i really don't know how he's going to act with me. how are your mood swings lately cancer
i feel like you 2 are in 2 different worlds. he is a man and knows what he wants and what he likes. especially his woman.
1. he's always right about eeeeverthing and never wrong, yup. get used to it.
2. he picks arguments with me and says im the one with the problem he wants some dialogue, passionate, interesting, opinionated talking
3. i feel like nothing i ever do is good enough or im irritating him. you need hobbies other than him.
4. does that irritates me
5. i ask him if he ever sees anything he does wrong and he seriously does not think he does anything wrong. this is damn near all saggis
6. one time i did cook he didnt eat and i felt bad because hes the one that asked me to cook thats when you should have taken the plate and fed him yourself OR thrown it aganist the wall and leave it there
7. i always let him see what's in my phone, who i'm talking to or texting who's writing me on facebook but when it comes to seeing who he's texting or talking to he never shows me. arent you grown? i wish i would take the time to show someone else who im texting
8. he still texts this girl and never tells me when she's texting him or what they're conversations are about but he'll tell me about everyone else he has a conversation with. sag man NEED boundaries set in the very beginning or they will walk right over you. you def missed your moment to reign him in and swept it under the rug. now youve got problems. what is his venus?
9. i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him hoping and praying i don't do something wrong that may irritate him or he doesn't like some days i really don't know how he's going to act with me. how are your mood swings lately cancer
put on something tight, revealing, slutty, heels, get your hair did, and then rock his world! then hurry up and feed him then go back to your hobbies.
rinse and repeat
rinse and repeat
I suggest you pull back, stop allowing him carte blanche access to everything about you, there must be MYSTERY or a Sag will get very bored with you, stop allowing him to go through your phone, stop giving out free back rubs--foot rubs--any kind of rubs make him earn it and stop cooking him dinner, you are not his personal bitch/doormat--make him earn it by making sure he understands it's equal, if you cook, he washes the dishes--or give you a hand massage after dinner, if you just give and give and give he will take you for granted and he'll cheat in your face, talk to girls in your face. Why? Because he's whiffed that desperation on you and he know he can do what he wants to do and GET AWAY WITH IT, he has a 100% hold on you and you ain't going nowhere.
In order for him to treat you like a prize, you must behave like a prize and you must never ever accept any kind of neglect of any kind, never ever or yes he'll grow bored and he'll say things to ensure you're loyal and 100% his and he'll then go off to go have fun with somebody else in your face.
pretty much. although, instead of pulling back. be direct and upfront. tell him your not taking anymore of his shit and then you should easy breezy.
"Listen to me. Look straight in my eye. Your shit stops now!" is a good way to start. put some bass in your voice.
In order for him to treat you like a prize, you must behave like a prize and you must never ever accept any kind of neglect of any kind, never ever or yes he'll grow bored and he'll say things to ensure you're loyal and 100% his and he'll then go off to go have fun with somebody else in your face.
pretty much. although, instead of pulling back. be direct and upfront. tell him your not taking anymore of his shit and then you should easy breezy.
"Listen to me. Look straight in my eye. Your shit stops now!" is a good way to start. put some bass in your voice.
Ive got something to say...but I'm at work lol. I think this needs a male's perspective...a Sag male to be specific
i agree with DMV most. or, just in general, have some confidence in yourself. be OK with him leaving you ... he might try to bluff you out, but its time for you to stand your ground and command some respect. Otherwise he'll keep you at home washing his dishes while he's out fucking around.
be brave, and know your value
be brave, and know your value
Posted by jru2
i agree with DMV most. or, just in general, have some confidence in yourself. be OK with him leaving you ... he might try to bluff you out, but its time for you to stand your ground and command some respect. Otherwise he'll keep you at home washing his dishes while he's out fucking around.
be brave, and know your value
+1
Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
^^^^^ dammit to hell tikki33. I rush home from work and you have already wrote
what I was going to write. You didn't leave anything left for me to say at all....
You covered every angle....
Follow what Tikki said. Yes it will hurt now but better now than later....
Please don't waste anymore time with this guy. He is actually not the problem.
its you. You reek of low self-esteem. If not him, you will find someone worse than him
to fall in love with. He treats you this way because you ALLOW IT. You know its wrong
and it hurts you.... that's why you are on this site writing this.
Take time to find a good man that loves you for you. You can do it. Believe in yourself!
I do and I don't even know you. But the person that took the time to write this and
do the things you do for this guy, has the courage and the strength to get out of this
bad relationship and find a good one. I know u can do it..... the question is....
DO YOU——
Sowry lol, I didn't know you were going to say the same thing but least we are on the same page about the situation 😄
10. he doesn't like the way i dress
11. feels the need to tell me how he wants me to dress.
12. how to act in public,
13 how to eat (he gets mad if my fork hits my plate and makes a sound or if i'm eating and my teeth accidently slides against the fork and makes a sound
14. he got mad at me one day because i didn't tip the lady that waxed my eyebrows,
15. he feels the need to babysit me
16. he always wants me to do what he wants to do and be what he wants me to be and if i fail i'm stupid, immature and kid like.
17. he makes me out to be really immature
18. whenever he's mad at me about something he'll give me the silent treatment,
19. whenever he leaves the house he never tells me where he's going but yet whenever i leave the house he wants to know where i'm going who's picking me up etc...
20. i recently just cut my hair off so i only have a few inches i cut my hair because it was really damaged from coloring so i wanted a fresh start and grow it back out long again he got soooo MAD at me he wouldn't speak to me for the entire day and when i tried to explain to him why i got it cut he wasn't hearing it, so i ended up getting my hair done again but he tells me "i don't want you to get your hair done to satisfy me" but i'm like "if i don't then i will get the silent treatment every single day" and i didn't want that so i got my hair done to satisfy him and he knows it.
You said this about yourself "I'm not stupid, i go to school, i go to work, i cook, i clean, i always do what he asks, and also he has to realize i'm still young, im not the social type, i am very reserved i only have 1 best friend and a best cousin i hang around, i don't go out to clubs or bars drinking, i don't smoke, and i've never been to jail."
So if you're this great then why are you subjecting yourself to so much neglect? Why are you enabling this to continue?
11. feels the need to tell me how he wants me to dress.
12. how to act in public,
13 how to eat (he gets mad if my fork hits my plate and makes a sound or if i'm eating and my teeth accidently slides against the fork and makes a sound
14. he got mad at me one day because i didn't tip the lady that waxed my eyebrows,
15. he feels the need to babysit me
16. he always wants me to do what he wants to do and be what he wants me to be and if i fail i'm stupid, immature and kid like.
17. he makes me out to be really immature
18. whenever he's mad at me about something he'll give me the silent treatment,
19. whenever he leaves the house he never tells me where he's going but yet whenever i leave the house he wants to know where i'm going who's picking me up etc...
20. i recently just cut my hair off so i only have a few inches i cut my hair because it was really damaged from coloring so i wanted a fresh start and grow it back out long again he got soooo MAD at me he wouldn't speak to me for the entire day and when i tried to explain to him why i got it cut he wasn't hearing it, so i ended up getting my hair done again but he tells me "i don't want you to get your hair done to satisfy me" but i'm like "if i don't then i will get the silent treatment every single day" and i didn't want that so i got my hair done to satisfy him and he knows it.
You said this about yourself "I'm not stupid, i go to school, i go to work, i cook, i clean, i always do what he asks, and also he has to realize i'm still young, im not the social type, i am very reserved i only have 1 best friend and a best cousin i hang around, i don't go out to clubs or bars drinking, i don't smoke, and i've never been to jail."
So if you're this great then why are you subjecting yourself to so much neglect? Why are you enabling this to continue?
"so now i have to struggle with the little money i do make getting my hair done until it grows back which is expensive. i reeeeally hate arguing so i try to do everything to prevent an argument whenever he tries to argue with me i let him win just to end it but he wants to keep it going sometimes."
You don't have to struggle, you are CHOOSING to struggle, your fine, your hair is fine, you don't have to live & breathe for him and his approval, you were born alone, you breathed 9 months in your mama's womb all by yourself without anyone having to tell you to breathe, you are quite capable of doing what YOU feel is right for you. He's entitled not to like your hair and you're entitled to disagree with him, life goes on, he'll eventually stop worrying about your hair, if you like your hair, he'll like your hair and if he doesn't then yeah so what. Think about that.
"he says he doesn't want to keep me inside the house he wants me to get out and socialize and be with my friend and my cousin or go to my families house but he knows i won't go because i'm such a homebody and i don't have a car to get around alot unless he lets me use his truck"
You're keeping yourself in the house, you'are alienating yourself and becoming dependent on him and his truck but if you think back you used to use your own 2 legs to get yourself wherever you needed to go. You didn't always have his truck, you had your own 2 legs and other means of transportation. Think about that.
I don't know how this will end but I do hope you recognize that you are not stupid, you are self sufficient, go to school, go to work, never been to jail, have a small but dependable set of friends and family and that is what he's jealous of and afraid of at the same time, he's jealous of you because you're more stable than him and he's clearly unstable and thus he's going to BRING YOU DOWN to his level by gaslighting you, control you mentally & verbally which can easily lead into physical abuse.
You're a great catch and he KNOW IT and he's doing all he can to make you feel like a loser so you won't leave him and of course it's working, you aren't ready to leave, he's running the show and he'll continue to do what he's doing as long as you don't believe in yourself so much so that you allow him to think for you and control you.
I don't think I can say much more than this but I do wish you all the best.
You don't have to struggle, you are CHOOSING to struggle, your fine, your hair is fine, you don't have to live & breathe for him and his approval, you were born alone, you breathed 9 months in your mama's womb all by yourself without anyone having to tell you to breathe, you are quite capable of doing what YOU feel is right for you. He's entitled not to like your hair and you're entitled to disagree with him, life goes on, he'll eventually stop worrying about your hair, if you like your hair, he'll like your hair and if he doesn't then yeah so what. Think about that.
"he says he doesn't want to keep me inside the house he wants me to get out and socialize and be with my friend and my cousin or go to my families house but he knows i won't go because i'm such a homebody and i don't have a car to get around alot unless he lets me use his truck"
You're keeping yourself in the house, you'are alienating yourself and becoming dependent on him and his truck but if you think back you used to use your own 2 legs to get yourself wherever you needed to go. You didn't always have his truck, you had your own 2 legs and other means of transportation. Think about that.
I don't know how this will end but I do hope you recognize that you are not stupid, you are self sufficient, go to school, go to work, never been to jail, have a small but dependable set of friends and family and that is what he's jealous of and afraid of at the same time, he's jealous of you because you're more stable than him and he's clearly unstable and thus he's going to BRING YOU DOWN to his level by gaslighting you, control you mentally & verbally which can easily lead into physical abuse.
You're a great catch and he KNOW IT and he's doing all he can to make you feel like a loser so you won't leave him and of course it's working, you aren't ready to leave, he's running the show and he'll continue to do what he's doing as long as you don't believe in yourself so much so that you allow him to think for you and control you.
I don't think I can say much more than this but I do wish you all the best.
Honestly you're dating s boy and he doesn't love you. I mean, what good does he do? That list adds up to a big problem
10. he doesn't like the way i dress he wants to show his woman off. eye candy. if he has a venus in cap, double time
11. feels the need to tell me how he wants me to dress. see #10
12. how to act in public, see #10
13 how to eat (he gets mad if my fork hits my plate and makes a sound or if i'm eating and my teeth accidently slides against the fork and makes a sound see #10
14. he got mad at me one day because i didn't tip the lady that waxed my eyebrows, wow, so your cheap 2. see #10
15. he feels the need to babysit me he probably thinks your ill equipped to take care of yourself because you dont come across like you can
16. he always wants me to do what he wants to do and be what he wants me to be and if i fail i'm stupid, immature and kid like. see #15
17. he makes me out to be really immature in effect, you are because your younger than him
18. whenever he's mad at me about something he'll give me the silent treatment, well...
19. whenever he leaves the house he never tells me where he's going but yet whenever i leave the house he wants to know where i'm going who's picking me up etc... he doesnt think you can take care of yourself, also he would like to know where his woman is. consider the opposite
20. i recently just cut my hair off so i only have a few inches i cut my hair because it was really damaged from coloring so i wanted a fresh start and grow it back out long again he got soooo MAD at me he wouldn't speak to me for the entire day and when i tried to explain to him why i got it cut he wasn't hearing it, so i ended up getting my hair done again but he tells me "i don't want you to get your hair done to satisfy me" but i'm like "if i don't then i will get the silent treatment every single day" and i didn't want that so i got my hair done to satisfy him and he knows it. you are free to do what you want. but he likes what he likes.
11. feels the need to tell me how he wants me to dress. see #10
12. how to act in public, see #10
13 how to eat (he gets mad if my fork hits my plate and makes a sound or if i'm eating and my teeth accidently slides against the fork and makes a sound see #10
14. he got mad at me one day because i didn't tip the lady that waxed my eyebrows, wow, so your cheap 2. see #10
15. he feels the need to babysit me he probably thinks your ill equipped to take care of yourself because you dont come across like you can
16. he always wants me to do what he wants to do and be what he wants me to be and if i fail i'm stupid, immature and kid like. see #15
17. he makes me out to be really immature in effect, you are because your younger than him
18. whenever he's mad at me about something he'll give me the silent treatment, well...
19. whenever he leaves the house he never tells me where he's going but yet whenever i leave the house he wants to know where i'm going who's picking me up etc... he doesnt think you can take care of yourself, also he would like to know where his woman is. consider the opposite
20. i recently just cut my hair off so i only have a few inches i cut my hair because it was really damaged from coloring so i wanted a fresh start and grow it back out long again he got soooo MAD at me he wouldn't speak to me for the entire day and when i tried to explain to him why i got it cut he wasn't hearing it, so i ended up getting my hair done again but he tells me "i don't want you to get your hair done to satisfy me" but i'm like "if i don't then i will get the silent treatment every single day" and i didn't want that so i got my hair done to satisfy him and he knows it. you are free to do what you want. but he likes what he likes.
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Honestly you're dating s boy and he doesn't love you. I mean, what good does he do? That list adds up to a big problem
probably lays the pipe very well
Posted by DMV
damn girl. you need to read the manual in how to date a sag man.
i feel like you 2 are in 2 different worlds. he is a man and knows what he wants and what he likes. especially his woman.
1. he's always right about eeeeverthing and never wrong, yup. get used to it.
2. he picks arguments with me and says im the one with the problem he wants some dialogue, passionate, interesting, opinionated talking
3. i feel like nothing i ever do is good enough or im irritating him. you need hobbies other than him.
4. does that irritates me
5. i ask him if he ever sees anything he does wrong and he seriously does not think he does anything wrong. this is damn near all saggis
6. one time i did cook he didnt eat and i felt bad because hes the one that asked me to cook thats when you should have taken the plate and fed him yourself OR thrown it aganist the wall and leave it there
7. i always let him see what's in my phone, who i'm talking to or texting who's writing me on facebook but when it comes to seeing who he's texting or talking to he never shows me. arent you grown? i wish i would take the time to show someone else who im texting
8. he still texts this girl and never tells me when she's texting him or what they're conversations are about but he'll tell me about everyone else he has a conversation with. sag man NEED boundaries set in the very beginning or they will walk right over you. you def missed your moment to reign him in and swept it under the rug. now youve got problems. what is his venus?
9. i feel like i have to walk on egg shells around him hoping and praying i don't do something wrong that may irritate him or he doesn't like some days i really don't know how he's going to act with me. how are your mood swings lately cancer
+1
This here is some good advice.....
Posted by beautifulsoul74
Honestly you're dating s boy and he doesn't love you. I mean, what good does he do? That list adds up to a big problem
+1
Love doesn't hurt! It doesn't matter if he likes what he likes, what matters is YOU, you being hurt. Maybe he is just being himself but if being himself is HURTING YOU then it's wrap, no need to stay in that kind of situation.
Dam DMV.... you didn't just "school" her, you took her to "university " Ivy league at that!!!
I almost thought I was looking at a PowerPoint presentation lmao!!!!
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I almost thought I was looking at a PowerPoint presentation lmao!!!!
🙂
Posted by 3dimes2nickels1penny0sense
Dam DMV.... you didn't just "school" her, you took her to "university " Ivy league at that!!!
I almost thought I was looking at a PowerPoint presentation lmao!!!!
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I Know Right.....
Posted by tiki33Posted by beautifulsoul74
Honestly you're dating s boy and he doesn't love you. I mean, what good does he do? That list adds up to a big problemclick to expand
+1
Love doesn't hurt! It doesn't matter if he likes what he likes, what matters is YOU, you being hurt. Maybe he is just being himself but if being himself is HURTING YOU then it's wrap, no need to stay in that kind of situation.
he clearly doesn't appreciate you, bet he'll appreciate it when it's gone.
move on!
move on!
& I don't mean that like he's a bad guy and has no redeeming qualities...cause I'm sure there is a reason you love him in the first place.
There are always, always, always, two sides to the story.
However, you obviously cannot give him what he wants/needs as he cannot give you what you want/need.
It's basic incompatibility. Stop hurting yourself. Don't destroy your self-worth and self-confidence over this.
It's not that you are not good enough for him, just maybe you're not right for him.
and I don't even need to say he's not right for you...that's plainly obvious!
There are always, always, always, two sides to the story.
However, you obviously cannot give him what he wants/needs as he cannot give you what you want/need.
It's basic incompatibility. Stop hurting yourself. Don't destroy your self-worth and self-confidence over this.
It's not that you are not good enough for him, just maybe you're not right for him.
and I don't even need to say he's not right for you...that's plainly obvious!
+1 Brianafay
Hallelu!
Hallelu!
Posted by brianafay
& I don't mean that like he's a bad guy and has no redeeming qualities...cause I'm sure there is a reason you love him in the first place.
There are always, always, always, two sides to the story.
However, you obviously cannot give him what he wants/needs as he cannot give you what you want/need.
It's basic incompatibility. Stop hurting yourself. Don't destroy your self-worth and self-confidence over this.
It's not that you are not good enough for him, just maybe you're not right for him.
and I don't even need to say he's not right for you...that's plainly obvious!
shit. he's too damn old for her.
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