jru2
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I Spied on her
Y'all can fuss about me violating her privacy, but I feel a lot better (lol, but that's what you get for not putting a password on your phone right?). Anyway, I actually have some trust restored in her.
On the down side, she seems to have decided to move on ... she's putting feelers out there with other guys. I guess it's just a matter of time before she finds someone to take her in ... which she needs because she's still fucking broke and pretty clueless about supporting herself.
It sucks, I think we both love each other, but we are too different, or something is just wrong that we can't be together and truly fulfill each other. It's gonna hurt when she splits. I miss her like crazy even if I just go away for a weekend. Which ever one of us finds a good rebound relationship 1st will suffer the least, but I don't even want another rebound relationship. No regrets though, she made ...is making me into a better man.
I'm excited and anxious to meet a woman and feel attraction to her spirit, mind, and body ... I want to be ready for that day, so she can feel for me in the same way. ...of course, some of the stuff I'm learning seems to suggest that I should feel that kind of connection with everyone and everything. haha, not feelin' it like that yet though ... ommmmmmmmmmmm, ah ommmmmmmm
On the down side, she seems to have decided to move on ... she's putting feelers out there with other guys. I guess it's just a matter of time before she finds someone to take her in ... which she needs because she's still fucking broke and pretty clueless about supporting herself.
It sucks, I think we both love each other, but we are too different, or something is just wrong that we can't be together and truly fulfill each other. It's gonna hurt when she splits. I miss her like crazy even if I just go away for a weekend. Which ever one of us finds a good rebound relationship 1st will suffer the least, but I don't even want another rebound relationship. No regrets though, she made ...is making me into a better man.
I'm excited and anxious to meet a woman and feel attraction to her spirit, mind, and body ... I want to be ready for that day, so she can feel for me in the same way. ...of course, some of the stuff I'm learning seems to suggest that I should feel that kind of connection with everyone and everything. haha, not feelin' it like that yet though ... ommmmmmmmmmmm, ah ommmmmmmm
-Opens the Skits-
Yeah, I figured there would be reaction to the spying thing. One morning a few weeks ago, I started going through her phone in front of her. She was kinda fine with it at first, but then I started getting close to something and she said something like, "I just feel like your violating me right now." So, I stopped and respected that she wasn't ready to share everything with me yet.
Well, now when I press her for more detail, she says things like, "well, it was too long ago now, I don't remmeber..." I actually believe that. a lot of detail from that time a couple months ago is getting fuzzy in my head too. Also, there were so many other times when she could have slept with him. She was really "shady" for about a month there. That's why I broke up with her the 1st time (can't remember if I told you all about that) ... but my real reason for that was becuase she didn't make re-establishing trust a priority.
I'm actually planning to go through her phone even more thoroughly because I need to know if she did or did not continue to sleep with him ... and continue to blantantly lie about not doing so. I'm confident that if she did, that there will be some evidence in the phone. and ok, just to be blunt here ... maybe this is just me justifying myself and its not the real reason .... but, she admitted that she didn't use a condom with him. It was because it was with the guy she was seeing before me anyway ... but still, she just exposed me to whoever he slept with in the last 6 months. Anyway, I said to myself that i would just start using condoms with her always since I didn't trust her. But, that never works out. There's always some spontaneous moment ... I was even saying to myself the other day that I was going to stop at oral ... but I can't help myself. If she asks for dick, I can't not give it to her. So, that's my justification. I need to know if she's sleeping around.
Well, now when I press her for more detail, she says things like, "well, it was too long ago now, I don't remmeber..." I actually believe that. a lot of detail from that time a couple months ago is getting fuzzy in my head too. Also, there were so many other times when she could have slept with him. She was really "shady" for about a month there. That's why I broke up with her the 1st time (can't remember if I told you all about that) ... but my real reason for that was becuase she didn't make re-establishing trust a priority.
I'm actually planning to go through her phone even more thoroughly because I need to know if she did or did not continue to sleep with him ... and continue to blantantly lie about not doing so. I'm confident that if she did, that there will be some evidence in the phone. and ok, just to be blunt here ... maybe this is just me justifying myself and its not the real reason .... but, she admitted that she didn't use a condom with him. It was because it was with the guy she was seeing before me anyway ... but still, she just exposed me to whoever he slept with in the last 6 months. Anyway, I said to myself that i would just start using condoms with her always since I didn't trust her. But, that never works out. There's always some spontaneous moment ... I was even saying to myself the other day that I was going to stop at oral ... but I can't help myself. If she asks for dick, I can't not give it to her. So, that's my justification. I need to know if she's sleeping around.
lol, Artic ... maybe time to get another bag
Soooo, the perplexing thing to me right now ... just going with the evidence at the moment (that there was only the one time)
Why the fuck did she act like she was up to no good? Yes, we were fighting a lot, and of course there were serious problems in our relationship ... but, why say crying,"thank you for loving me enough not to leave me after I cheated" on moment ... and then do things like spend the night at a girlfriend's house when I'm out of town ... and let your cell phone go dead ... and then spend the next night at your aunt's house ... and not mention that that's what you were doing before ... and let you cell phone go "almost dead" ... down to my last text dead... Her cell phone never went dead in the 1st 6months after I bought it for her ... and then she cheats, and then it's always going dead ... I just can't even describe all the shadyness. Like I say, it's getting blurry in my head too.
But seriously, she was fucking with my head. I don't understand why she would do that ... what is to be gained from that?
Soooo, the perplexing thing to me right now ... just going with the evidence at the moment (that there was only the one time)
Why the fuck did she act like she was up to no good? Yes, we were fighting a lot, and of course there were serious problems in our relationship ... but, why say crying,"thank you for loving me enough not to leave me after I cheated" on moment ... and then do things like spend the night at a girlfriend's house when I'm out of town ... and let your cell phone go dead ... and then spend the next night at your aunt's house ... and not mention that that's what you were doing before ... and let you cell phone go "almost dead" ... down to my last text dead... Her cell phone never went dead in the 1st 6months after I bought it for her ... and then she cheats, and then it's always going dead ... I just can't even describe all the shadyness. Like I say, it's getting blurry in my head too.
But seriously, she was fucking with my head. I don't understand why she would do that ... what is to be gained from that?
All is fair in Love and War!.....She cheated on you so going through her phone is fair game. She lied to you first and broke the trust you both had first so going through a phone doesnt mean much at that point. I just couldnt believe you tried to stay with her, you should of dropped her immediatley!
Did you do something really bad in a previous life?
haha aint nuthin wrong with a lil ol snoopin every once and awhile. gets the blood going. just as long as it doesnt turn into a hobby or favorite pastime. so, you brought her the cell phone = control...to some extent.
ive spied on a few guys and it actually lets me know im starting to care or that im trying to prove a point about the other person being a douche. i will forever be a spier even if things are going splendidly.
ive spied on a few guys and it actually lets me know im starting to care or that im trying to prove a point about the other person being a douche. i will forever be a spier even if things are going splendidly.
Posted by DMV
haha aint nuthin wrong with a lil ol snoopin every once and awhile. gets the blood going. just as long as it doesnt turn into a hobby or favorite pastime. so, you brought her the cell phone = control...to some extent.
ive spied on a few guys and it actually lets me know im starting to care or that im trying to prove a point about the other person being a douche. i will forever be a spier even if things are going splendidly.
the trick is not letting on how you "know" things 😉
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Would it be cool if it was the other way around?
like, if she went through my phone? I let her go through it fairly recently. But, I was hiding little secrets from her that I couldn't bring myself to tell her until after the 2nd time we broke up. She had made such a big deal out of me meeting an ex for a HH that it made it harder for me to confess about other stuff. This is the hardest I've tried to have a completely honest relationship ... and dammit ... it's hard! But rewarding. When you are completely honest with someone ... and they don't leave you over it ... makes for a tight relationship.
I understand completely how hard it is for her to trust me enough to tell me everything she's really feeling. I've still got some coaxing to do ... that's what I now know from the stuff in the phone.
...As far as staying with her goes... I've never been faithful to anyone in my past. I love the idea of having a FREE pass. lol, I can go fuck anyone that I can talk into it and brag about it if I want at this point. If she's going to leave me, that won't be the reason.
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Would it be cool if it was the other way around?
haha its never cool the other way. but what i dont know wont hurt me
Posted by Wynter
Did you do something really bad in a previous life?
Wow, did I really ask that? Musta been drunk or hungover, or maybe both
lol Wynter ... i was an angle in all past lives ... did plenty to make up for it in this one.
Oh god, i've been thinking of some ways I could have a lot of fun with my girl ... freaking her out.
Oh god, i've been thinking of some ways I could have a lot of fun with my girl ... freaking her out.
haha, very funny HT
Posted by jru2
Oh god, i've been thinking of some ways I could have a lot of fun with my girl ... freaking her out.
go on
Posted by DMVPosted by jru2
Oh god, i've been thinking of some ways I could have a lot of fun with my girl ... freaking her out.
go onclick to expand
just when you know something that someone else doesn't know you know, I think there is opportunity to play off their paranoia. Lol, maybe I'll try one of his lines on another girl.
Actually, the truth is, I'm more concerned about finding my own side show than bugging her about hers. I do want to know if she's still lying to me or not though.
Posted by PecheressePosted by WynterGlad I'm not the only one posting drunk post on here!Posted by Wynter
Did you do something really bad in a previous life?
Wow, did I really ask that? Musta been drunk or hungover, or maybe bothclick to expand
It's not easy sometimes...especially with the cat on my lap!
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So, I found the transcript she had with him the day that she hooked up. She had deleted those messages, but must have taken screen captures 1st and emailed them to herself. I went through her email too and found them.
Of course, the guy was freaking charming as hell. Fuck, I enjoyed reading their little flirts back and forth. Wow, and how nice for him to get a text out of the blue and then know that he was about to get his brains fucked out in a few hours. I'm jealous, both of his game ... and that I don't even have an old lover I'd particularly like to get a text like that from.
He was goood. He made her feel all the things I wasn't. He made her feel desired, beautiful, sexy ... and probably a few other things I'm clueless to.
It was really interesting seening the timeline too, becuase she was emailing me that day ... telling me she would be done with work at 9 and him she would be done at 7 ... smooth operators both of 'em.
So, the story has kind of sad twist for her too. I knew what happened, but now I understand the context better. A few weeks later when we broke up for the 2nd time she invited him out for a real date ... not for sex. He rejected her ... made it pretty clear the only thing he cared about was a good fuck.
The only good news for me is that it does appear that she only actually fucked him that one time ... so, it appears that she has been mostly honest with me after all. She told me about trying to meet him for the date also. So, no secrets revealed for me by my snooping, just details.