Jealousy, Clingyness, Possesiveness... etc.

Anyone ever experience this from a Sag early in dating them? Are they known for this?

I always like to be direct when dating or in a relationship with someone, so when I felt a little suffocated by a new Sag in my life, I tried to nip it in the bud right away. He was not happy and denied everything up and down.

We've only known each other for 2.5 weeks and everytime I go out it seems as if he asks for pictures solely to make sure I am where I say I am. If I bypass this, he would ask again. He would also ask me, "oh, are you out with the GIRLS?" with emphasis on the "GIRLS" as if to make sure I wasn't with any men. Would also make comments on my whereabouts, worrying that someone would "steal me away from him." A little intense after 2.5 weeks, no?

I laid all my cards on the table and said I don't like someone keeping tabs on me and need the freedom to do or see whoever I want without having to report back to someone. He said he was completely fine with that but actions are always louder than words.

I do think he's a good man otherwise and has treated me well thus far. He put the ball in my court on whether I want this to continue. Do you think that this type of behavior is something that's characteristic of a Sag and can potentially get worse, not better?

Yeah ive experienced this with my Sag all the way to him wanting me to take pictures of where I am smh.

Do you know his other placements? What's his venus in?

Yessssss!

Two of my close friends had Sag boyfriends. Very possessive, jealous...cant say if they're clingy.. But this was in high school though. I'm guessing they were just not mature yet...

One Sag became so jealous that he even physically abused my friend on one occasion..verbal abuse was heavy right before they broke up.

I think it just depends on maturity and the way you handle your emotions.

yes and yes - dated a Sag and he was great until a month or so in - wanted me to stay at his house all the time - hey, I had my own house and stuff to take care of and I had a dog and cats to feed - when I have responsibilities I take care of them ... he got upset at me cause when he would ask me why I had to go and mind you this was in the afternoon when I had spent like Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon with him so it wasn't like a hit and run ... and I would say I have to go home to take care of things, feed my dog, etc. he would always say you put your dog ahead of me ... no I don't MF but if you want to think that in your stupid little pea brain then go ahead and that was a huge turn off - F that - stupid me ...

2.5 weeks is a bit early on to be showing any of those signs. Red Flags, red flags eberyguer.

He could just be curious. Saggies are blunt and will ask things others will just think in their head.
He obviously likes you and is flirting. I think as long as he still has his own life then take it as a compliment?
Not sure if it will get worse, maybe, if he doesn't feel you are communicative enough?
When I was with my Taurus, we had our own friend circle and I was never possessive, but then again we lived together so I felt secure.

What sign are you?

Sounds like my best friend lol. He's like this with my Libra friend. He has a Taurus moon, and he's in the cusp of Scorpio so he gets like that.

Posted by LeoGemini11
Anyone ever experience this from a Sag early in dating them? Are they known for this?

I always like to be direct when dating or in a relationship with someone, so when I felt a little suffocated by a new Sag in my life, I tried to nip it in the bud right away. He was not happy and denied everything up and down.

We've only known each other for 2.5 weeks and everytime I go out it seems as if he asks for pictures solely to make sure I am where I say I am. If I bypass this, he would ask again. He would also ask me, "oh, are you out with the GIRLS?" with emphasis on the "GIRLS" as if to make sure I wasn't with any men. Would also make comments on my whereabouts, worrying that someone would "steal me away from him." A little intense after 2.5 weeks, no?

I laid all my cards on the table and said I don't like someone keeping tabs on me and need the freedom to do or see whoever I want without having to report back to someone. He said he was completely fine with that but actions are always louder than words.

I do think he's a good man otherwise and has treated me well thus far. He put the ball in my court on whether I want this to continue. Do you think that this type of behavior is something that's characteristic of a Sag and can potentially get worse, not better?

Well, I'm not like that at all. I never ask girl where is she, I give a lot of freedom, and expect the same in return. And about beginning, I do like to spoil the girl that I like, so I can be sometimes super sweet, and calling her with a lot of sweet names, teasing her, etc.

Posted by LeoGemini11
Anyone ever experience this from a Sag early in dating them? Are they known for this?

I always like to be direct when dating or in a relationship with someone, so when I felt a little suffocated by a new Sag in my life, I tried to nip it in the bud right away. He was not happy and denied everything up and down.

We've only known each other for 2.5 weeks and everytime I go out it seems as if he asks for pictures solely to make sure I am where I say I am. If I bypass this, he would ask again. He would also ask me, "oh, are you out with the GIRLS?" with emphasis on the "GIRLS" as if to make sure I wasn't with any men. Would also make comments on my whereabouts, worrying that someone would "steal me away from him." A little intense after 2.5 weeks, no?

I laid all my cards on the table and said I don't like someone keeping tabs on me and need the freedom to do or see whoever I want without having to report back to someone. He said he was completely fine with that but actions are always louder than words.

I do think he's a good man otherwise and has treated me well thus far. He put the ball in my court on whether I want this to continue. Do you think that this type of behavior is something that's characteristic of a Sag and can potentially get worse, not better?

This could be any number of things. it's 2.5 weeks in, i'm sure you haven't made any commitments to each other. If he really likes you he might be asking just to find out if you are still dating anyone else. Or he could just be curious about what you're doing. We can be very blunt, and forget to filter our thoughts.

Based on what you've said, it doesn't seem like he's trying to control you, and he certainly can't force you to do something, unless you let him. If' you're bothered that he asks for pictures, then don't send them. simple.

My last suggestion is, DON'T create a relationship founded in the confusing world of texts! Tone and context gets lost in translation, and creates a world of misunderstanding. Use texts to convey simple messages and plans to meet in person. Leave the conversations for face to face interactions.

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yes and yes - dated a Sag and he was great until a month or so in - wanted me to stay at his house all the time - hey, I had my own house and stuff to take care of and I had a dog and cats to feed - when I have responsibilities I take care of them ... he got upset at me cause when he would ask me why I had to go and mind you this was in the afternoon when I had spent like Saturday afternoon to Sunday afternoon with him so it wasn't like a hit and run ... and I would say I have to go home to take care of things, feed my dog, etc. he would always say you put your dog ahead of me ... no I don't MF but if you want to think that in your stupid little pea brain then go ahead and that was a huge turn off - F that - stupid me ...

Are you serious? I laughed at that part but i have yet to come across someone who seems jealous of their so pets.

but to the op, yes I can get jealous or possesive so does my partner but in subtle way not on border that it seems insecure. I also do not like when people make me jealous on purpose but I can usually smell that behaviour from a mile away.

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yes I am totally serious - I can laugh at it now but that really tripped me at the time ... he actually dumped me because I was with him and his two grandchildren in his RV and I had to go one Sunday afternoon and couldn't take the boy swimming and the boy said "why do you have to go home" and I said "because I have to feed my dog" and he was sooooo pissed that I said that to his grandchild - said that it was one thing to say that to him but to say that to his grandchild was telling him that I was putting my dog ahead of him and that was not acceptable. WTF - of course I said "later" and then he tried to beg me to come back and I said no thank you dickhead.

Thanks for your input guys. I'm a Leo. Don't know any of his other placements except Moon in Gemini, which is my moon sign as well. I told him how I felt and we're starting over with a clean slate. Thanks again!

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Posted by SunMoonStars
He could just be curious. Saggies are blunt and will ask things others will just think in their head.
He obviously likes you and is flirting. I think as long as he still has his own life then take it as a compliment?
Not sure if it will get worse, maybe, if he doesn't feel you are communicative enough?
When I was with my Taurus, we had our own friend circle and I was never possessive, but then again we lived together so I felt secure.

What sign are you?

^^^ This. Sags ask A LOT of questions... That's just how we are. I think people read into it too much. Like sunmoon said, he obviously likes you so take it as a complement. People beg for our time then get annoyed when we give it to them & our 101 questions that come with it.

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They do get annoyed! Lol...

He likes you. Just take it as a compliment... But when I get possessive , it's because I feel like the person could leave me.. It's not even possessiveness ... It's me basically panicking in a sense. It's hard to give someone freedom that you like so much!!

Lol, I am early Nov Sag, and I'm not like that. Maybe it's because of his other placements.

Hmm he is not jealous or possessive. Clingy? Yes.
He has a Cancer moon and Cap Venus.

I was with a Taurus Sun/Taurus Moon/Aries Venus before though..he was EXTREMELY jealous and possessive. So maybe that is clouding my judgment. My Sag doesn't seem so bad after dealing with my ex for 15 years. Lol

It's like a breath of fresh air actually. He likes to be around me the way the Taurus did...but he doesn't get upset when male friends are around. My friends really like him. They could never even talk to me when my ex Taurus was around because they knew he'd argue with me about it later.

My Sag is very big on quality time together though. Which I like..

I could never associate a Sag with being clingy or possessive. They are most certainly freedom lovers.

Looks like he flipped his lid. He still was acting very clingy (but still denying it) so I told him we should just be friends for now. He starting acting really bitchy and passive aggressive on social media of all places and then proceeded to defriend me. Then denied de-friending me. I told him that had he acted more like an adult rather than a 16 year old girl then I might still be interested. Good riddance!