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Why Do People Engage in Secret Relationships
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I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.
a tale as old as time
Posted by cheekyfaerie
What's *funny is, I have a couple friend who's having the exact opposite problem.They've decided to go poly. She's scratching her "being with women" itch and he's trying to retroactively sow some wild oats. They're both super supportive of one another, but he's having no luck at all. He wants a proper hang and bang, not just a fuck buddy and he's being completely up front and honest about everything. Can't get a woman! Guarantee if he was just cheating on his wife and out for a fuck, he'd be knee deep in clunge by now.
*did't say it was gonna be funny haha
it is soooo interesting that you say that because the guy asked me if i wanted to participate in an open relationship where i would meet his mate and it would just be the three of us. he envisioned the 3 of us going to dinner and hanging out.
way to have your cake and eat it
he claims that he told her about me and that she would be down for a 3some. his text was so cryptic. lol. He went on to glorify his relationship and how she was a great person, provider etc.
i guess as to show me that he had no intentions of leaving her. which is fine by me..
but that he still liked me and wanted a relationship.
is everyone in a open relationship?
Posted by cheekyfaerie
*pfft*I could never get over his sheisty beginnings. Tread lightly. Dude's manipulative as fuck.
quite manipulative.
the red flags were there and i was making tons of mental notes
1.) didnt save my number in his phone under my real name
2.) always in and out, up and down
3.) wanted to develop code names when i wanted some action
lmao
because as wendy williams says, men are dogs. i caught my sag leading a woman on online with no intention of meeting her getting her to send naked pics and such and promising to meet up with girl. this chick thinks they are headed for a relationship of which he has no intention. my counselor states 50 percent of men do this online bullshit outside their relationships for shits and giggles but it IS cheating. monogamy is dead and i dont GAF about men anymore. my only concern is stacking my chips, period.
Posted by KittenLaRouge
because as wendy williams says, men are dogs. i caught my sag leading a woman on online with no intention of meeting her getting her to send naked pics and such and promising to meet up with girl. this chick thinks they are headed for a relationship of which he has no intention. my counselor states 50 percent of men do this online bullshit outside their relationships for shits and giggles but it IS cheating. monogamy is dead and i dont GAF about men anymore. my only concern is stacking my chips, period.
this is the smartest thing ive ever read from this username
Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Is his name Mike cuz all mikes r assholes!!! Jk jk ppl lie tho they just do for no reason. Obviously your gut new what was up
LOL no but i'm telling you with the advent of the internet and all the sites like tinder and the millions of others, monogamy is over and the devil is winning and it will get worse. and oh ya, my gut was on overdrive. like my friend said 50 percent of married/committed men are doing this online with other women. its ridiculous. ladies stack yo chips and trust in God bottom line
Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Is his name Mike cuz all mikes r assholes!!! Jk jk ppl lie tho they just do for no reason. Obviously your gut new what was up
i read your thread too @ instagram. yup 50 percent of men remember
Posted by Harukaa
Maybe cuz they are not happy
inherently they are not.
so 50 percent of men are not happy ? LOL what a bunch or horseshit. how about the fact that they are weak, cheaters, have no sense of loyalty and need to grow some balls? but OF COURSE, blame it on the woman because she just cant bend over backward enough to keep the little boy happy. hahaha. bullshit. its called weak men with no balls. PERIOD.
Posted by Vanish
I'm happy I'm single and awkward and never going to be put through all of this dating hell again. I'm going to go reside in a library.
lol, word
Posted by Harukaa
Maybe cuz they are not happy
they are not happy cause they are all seeking for "unconditional love". what they know from their mothers most likely.
also that separation of love and sex. must be a good excuse.
Posted by Vanish
I'm happy I'm single and awkward and never going to be put through all of this dating hell again. I'm going to go reside in a library.
Lol I could totally do that
I love how you motherfuckers hall passes. Its there mother, they arent happy. What the fuck ever. They are unloyal dirty dogs! Period!
Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Is his name Mike cuz all mikes r assholes!!! Jk jk ppl lie tho they just do for no reason. Obviously your gut new what was upLOL no but i'm telling you with the advent of the internet and all the sites like tinder and the millions of others, monogamy is over and the devil is winning and it will get worse. and oh ya, my gut was on overdrive. like my friend said 50 percent of married/committed men are doing this online with other women. its ridiculous. ladies stack yo chips and trust in God bottom line
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I agree with all of this
Posted by KittenLaRouge
I love how you motherfuckers hall passes. Its there mother, they arent happy. What the fuck ever. They are unloyal dirty dogs! Period!
Period.
And it only works because there is a willing party
Posted by KittenLaRouge
I love how you motherfuckers hall passes. Its there mother, they arent happy. What the fuck ever. They are unloyal dirty dogs! Period!Period.
And it only works because there is a willing party
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*give these guys hallpasses i meant
Posted by KittenLaRouge
I love how you motherfuckers hall passes. Its there mother, they arent happy. What the fuck ever. They are unloyal dirty dogs! Period!Period.
And it only works because there is a willing party
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absolutely. It takes a willing participant and women get so exited when these men throw them sum crumbs and society glamorizes the hoe and the side chick like it's so exciting! Go ahead and do it, everyone's doing it! the devil is laughing no doubt.
Posted by TaurusGirlRas
Is his name Mike cuz all mikes r assholes!!! Jk jk ppl lie tho they just do for no reason. Obviously your gut new what was upLOL no but i'm telling you with the advent of the internet and all the sites like tinder and the millions of others, monogamy is over and the devil is winning and it will get worse. and oh ya, my gut was on overdrive. like my friend said 50 percent of married/committed men are doing this online with other women. its ridiculous. ladies stack yo chips and trust in God bottom line
I agree with all of this
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cheating is just a click away. "oh my girlfriend looked at me wrong, ill think ill cheat". lack of balls and strong men in the world that have the ability to say no. toya giving memphiz 8 hall passes a year. SMH apparently women are just giving up the fight?
Posted by DMV
What is with all the secret relationships? Men and women claiming to be single but really they are in a relationship.One guy even told me he was one of the good guys. He could be trusted. Come to find out he wasnt a good guy and he was already in a committed relationship with a woman he lived with.
I dont care if someone cheats on who ever, just give me the info so i can make the decision for myself if i wanna get involved.
But ppl are so dishonest. Why are people lying just to get sex? Get money? Ego boost?
You wanted attention from elsewhere?
Are people just super selfish and im just naive?
But is it not fair to the third party bring lied to also? If you were given the truth, wouldn't you have the same responsibility as the middle person?
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I wouldn't have entertained him
Posted by DMV
What is with all the secret relationships? Men and women claiming to be single but really they are in a relationship.One guy even told me he was one of the good guys. He could be trusted. Come to find out he wasnt a good guy and he was already in a committed relationship with a woman he lived with.
I dont care if someone cheats on who ever, just give me the info so i can make the decision for myself if i wanna get involved.
But ppl are so dishonest. Why are people lying just to get sex? Get money? Ego boost?
You wanted attention from elsewhere?
Are people just super selfish and im just naive?
Selfish.
"oh my girlfriend looked at me wrong, ill think ill cheat". lack of balls and strong men in the world that have the ability to say no.
That reminds me of this thread:
He called her to come by. She said she's gonna sleep. He made it with her cousin. Now, why did she not leave the house for him? Blame blame blame... someone.
Posted by DMV
I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.What sign & house is your venus in?
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venus in cap H7
Posted by DMV
I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.
I understand your frustration as I just went through this a couple of months ago...but having that thought as a result of what happened is exactly the wrong approach to take. Reason being is that same naivete(it actually isn't) you talked about...it's actually a positive attitude.
This may not make sense, but why let what others do change how you feel? People are who they are good or bad and more than a few will do you wrong. Make peace with that reality so that you can remain positive and treat each person as an individual.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
"oh my girlfriend looked at me wrong, ill think ill cheat". lack of balls and strong men in the world that have the ability to say no.That reminds me of this thread:
He called her to come by. She said she's gonna sleep. He made it with her cousin. Now, why did she not leave the house for him? Blame blame blame... someone.
She didn't leave the house because it was 4am and she was already in bed. I think the boyfriend and the cousin should be blamed.
Posted by DMV
is everyone in a open relationship?
I know of one couple.
Posted by DMV
I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.I understand your frustration as I just went through this a couple of months ago...but having that thought as a result of what happened is exactly the wrong approach to take. Reason being is that same naivete(it actually isn't) you talked about...it's actually a positive attitude.
This may not make sense, but why let what others do change how you feel? People are who they are good or bad and more than a few will do you wrong. Make peace with that reality so that you can remain positive and treat each person as an individual.
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its not changing the way i feel, rather how i approach any sitaution when meeting someone new. every guy will be asked a series of questions. all dealing around exes, secret relationships, kids, and jobs.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
"oh my girlfriend looked at me wrong, ill think ill cheat". lack of balls and strong men in the world that have the ability to say no.That reminds me of this thread:
He called her to come by. She said she's gonna sleep. He made it with her cousin. Now, why did she not leave the house for him? Blame blame blame... someone.
She didn't leave the house because it was 4am and she was already in bed. I think the boyfriend and the cousin should be blamed.
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I agree.
Posted by DMV
I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.I understand your frustration as I just went through this a couple of months ago...but having that thought as a result of what happened is exactly the wrong approach to take. Reason being is that same naivete(it actually isn't) you talked about...it's actually a positive attitude.
This may not make sense, but why let what others do change how you feel? People are who they are good or bad and more than a few will do you wrong. Make peace with that reality so that you can remain positive and treat each person as an individual.
its not changing the way i feel, rather how i approach any sitaution when meeting someone new. every guy will be asked a series of questions. all dealing around exes, secret relationships, kids, and jobs.
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this is noble idea but secret relationships i am sure will not be divulged. The only way to know this is when the shady behavior starts and the inconsistensies start. i really believe a lot of these men and so good at lying however their shady actions give them straight away. i don't even listen to what men say anymore, i'm checking for their actions.
Posted by DwellingOnMove
"oh my girlfriend looked at me wrong, ill think ill cheat". lack of balls and strong men in the world that have the ability to say no.That reminds me of this thread:
He called her to come by. She said she's gonna sleep. He made it with her cousin. Now, why did she not leave the house for him? Blame blame blame... someone.
She didn't leave the house because it was 4am and she was already in bed. I think the boyfriend and the cousin should be blamed.
I agree.
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agree as well. couldn't keep his dick in his pants because she was asleep? um ok.
Posted by DMV
I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.I understand your frustration as I just went through this a couple of months ago...but having that thought as a result of what happened is exactly the wrong approach to take. Reason being is that same naivete(it actually isn't) you talked about...it's actually a positive attitude.
This may not make sense, but why let what others do change how you feel? People are who they are good or bad and more than a few will do you wrong. Make peace with that reality so that you can remain positive and treat each person as an individual.
its not changing the way i feel, rather how i approach any sitaution when meeting someone new. every guy will be asked a series of questions. all dealing around exes, secret relationships, kids, and jobs.
this is noble idea but secret relationships i am sure will not be divulged. The only way to know this is when the shady behavior starts and the inconsistensies start. i really believe a lot of these men and so good at lying however their shady actions give them straight away. i don't even listen to what men say anymore, i'm checking for their actions.
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your absolutely right. some will get through the inquisition. Thats when i have to put my sag naivety on the shelf and go straight scorp moon.
these men are sooo good at lying. ugh. and delusional. how can you honestly call yourself a good guy noing damn well you aint.
Posted by DMV
I think im just naive. I think i should just operate with the thought that every man i meet already is in a relationship.Don't trust someone until you know they are trustworthy would be a better way to think about it. Don't trust someone until you really know them. Don't expect people to be good to you, I am not saying accept bad behavior etc . Get to know them and realize if they are actually good people and do they REALLY like you or not or are they playing.
Be polite warm and kind but don't expect what you see is what you get. Get to know people and learn about them if you like them before you trust them. That would be my best advice.
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yeah this will have to be SOPs going forward.
especially in this age of social media. no one can be trusted outright.
Posted by starwars
use all that scorpio in your chart and stalk before you get involved girl ˆso when they claim they're single, you pretend to be surprised and interested.
stalk real heavy
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What is with all the secret relationships? Men and women claiming to be single but really they are in a relationship.
One guy even told me he was one of the good guys. He could be trusted. Come to find out he wasnt a good guy and he was already in a committed relationship with a woman he lived with.
I dont care if someone cheats on who ever, just give me the info so i can make the decision for myself if i wanna get involved.
But ppl are so dishonest. Why are people lying just to get sex? Get money? Ego boost?
You wanted attention from elsewhere?
Are people just super selfish and im just naive?