Should I ask him?

I would like to get some opinion about this wonderful sag man which I have met online. Actually we know each other for about 8 years but hardly talk, we are playing an online games. Recently we started to talk to each other and we have texted for about 2 months and we are living in a same state. He will text me everyday and he told me that he like me a lot, we can talk about everything under the sun and are very comfortable about each other. I have actually question him why he did not initiate a call to talk to me over the phone, he said he does not have the courage to do so yet.

We have plan to meet at the end of Nov, that's his bday week. He did told me that he really like me a lot and would like to commit to me but only after we meet then he stop texting me. But he will still talk to me when we met at our online game and we still play together. It has been 2 weeks I have not get any text from him and I also did not initiate any text, only once because I am asking for his opinion about something which he responded almost immediate. When I logged in into our online game, he message me too, only his text has stop. We used to be very close when we talk, but now when we met online there is like some kind of barrier between us. I no longer feel his affection towards me. He used to tell me a lot about his daily activities, now everything has stop. We did the planning of meeting on his bday week then we have plan some other thing that we want to do together like travelling to certain places and try certain things. He seems to be very enthusiastic about it and he just changed overnight.

He is leaving me confuse. He told me he like me then said we meet first then see how. Now it leaves me wonder am I expecting too much from him. He told me that he has been living like this for the past 10 years and he would like to live like this in future too, that he want to go out with his friends occasionally and still playing games because that is his passion. He doesn't want his friends to feel neglected if he got a gf. He still would to meet them occasionally. This leaves me wonder did I subconsciously hindering him from meeting his friends or he feel he spent too much time texting with me and his friends feel neglected. Beats me. Btw his last relationship was 11 years ago.

Btw we are both in our 30s and he has sun in sag, moon,venus, merc in scorpio and mars in pisces. I am wondering is it ok for me to follow up with him are we still meeting on the date we set? Or is he losing interests?

You didn't meet him online though, you knew him before and then met online? Or talked online

I am sorry I did not make it clear, I knew him while playing this online game 8 years ago, we did not meet before. Only recently we get to play together then we started to communicate, online and via text only.

How far do you live? It would be frustrating to travel a couple hours and get stood up on his birthday, but if you live close you could just go and see what happens

Does he still play with you often? Has he talked about meeting his friends more often?

Not far away, less than an hour. I know his address and he knows mine. We used to be close till that happened which puzzled me. Yes we still play almost everyday. We still chat online just he does not text me anymore. Prior to that, he will text me every morning, lunch time and off work and we would text till wee hours in the morning. He does not talk about himself anymore, but he did ask how's my day and such and I still tell him about my work issue.

So I am not sure if he still keen to meet? I am not sure if I should still ask because I do not want to appear needy. Maybe I should just wait for him to bring up the subject?

Well, I suddenly thought of something that I have said to him that might trigger his reaction. I am not sure if sag is like this and do not know how to handle or see rejection. He did repeatedly tell me that he like me and would like to commit to me when we meet, he just does not know how to do this virtually. He told me that he wanted to look for someone to settle down and looks like I am the kind he wanted. Me being a shy cancer, I always jokingly push him away, like saying things I do not mean and act cool saying I am not looking for any partner and such.

I was going through the text that he sent, he stop texting me when I said something like this to him. He was on a vacation and he text me to update where he was and such, he told me he is at some palace, then I said 'Ok cool, now go find your queen and bring her back to marry her'. This was my last text to him and he did not reply after that, and it has been 2 weeks since then. Will he see this as rejection from me?

Posted by chocomints
Not far away, less than an hour. I know his address and he knows mine. We used to be close till that happened which puzzled me. Yes we still play almost everyday. We still chat online just he does not text me anymore. Prior to that, he will text me every morning, lunch time and off work and we would text till wee hours in the morning. He does not talk about himself anymore, but he did ask how's my day and such and I still tell him about my work issue.

So I am not sure if he still keen to meet? I am not sure if I should still ask because I do not want to appear needy. Maybe I should just wait for him to bring up the subject?

Maybe he started thinking about this thing hard and realized that he might be shooting himself in the foot here, I don’t know. All I know and have find out is that Sagittarius men want what they can’t have until they have it, and then when they do they tend to have second thoughts. Maybe he said something without actually really thinking about it, plus the fact that he told you that he really likes you a lot and would like to commit to you, that’s him giving you a promise to a future or a relationship with him, which for a man like him who enjoys his freedom it’s a very huge step. I think maybe he realized his mistake and got cold feet and decided to pull back. They love their freedom a lot so if they feel like something is threatening or is going to threaten that, they pull back.

All I can say is try not to chase him or stress about him too much, just go about your life like this never happened. Waiting for him to bring up the subject is the best bet. 🙂

And always remember that a woman’s love is so special, so much so that she shouldn’t be forcing it on a man, he should be the one chasing after it if he wants it.
Well that’s what I think 😄

Posted by chocomints
Well, I suddenly thought of something that I have said to him that might trigger his reaction. I am not sure if sag is like this and do not know how to handle or see rejection. He did repeatedly tell me that he like me and would like to commit to me when we meet, he just does not know how to do this virtually. He told me that he wanted to look for someone to settle down and looks like I am the kind he wanted. Me being a shy cancer, I always jokingly push him away, like saying things I do not mean and act cool saying I am not looking for any partner and such.

I was going through the text that he sent, he stop texting me when I said something like this to him. He was on a vacation and he text me to update where he was and such, he told me he is at some palace, then I said 'Ok cool, now go find your queen and bring her back to marry her'. This was my last text to him and he did not reply after that, and it has been 2 weeks since then. Will he see this as rejection from me?

Well I don't know Sadge men to that extent, I was only with one for a short period of time, maybe someone else might help you with that.

I know you are confused and trying to figure out what went wrong but please help yourself from going insane by trying not to stress about him a lot. That works every time.

Computer love?

I would feel rejected if I told someone I wanted to be exclusive with them and they said, "I'm not looking for a partner."

And I'm not sure how he took the queen comment. He might have seen it as emotional bullying, or maybe he sees it as flirting.

I guess you're ok, but you're mixing a lot of doubt with your advances. I would ask him something like 'hey I haven't heard from you in a while, are you still down to meet for your birthday?'

Thanks for the input.

Just an update, I did asked him again if he is on for the date we plan, he replied "sure, if u don't mind". Then out of curiosity, and being a crappy crab, I asked if I got say or do anything that offended him in away, that's why we hardly communicate lately, he replied, "no such thing, pls don't overthink". So i guess i can trust him? He all along very honest with me about how he feel and such ..

Posted by chocomints
Thanks for the input.

Just an update, I did asked him again if he is on for the date we plan, he replied "sure, if u don't mind". Then out of curiosity, and being a crappy crab, I asked if I got say or do anything that offended him in away, that's why we hardly communicate lately, he replied, "no such thing, pls don't overthink". So i guess i can trust him? He all along very honest with me about how he feel and such ..

It sounds like he's nervous, which is good in a way. Hopefully he'll stay the course until you meet, then you both can get a better feel for each other.

Hope so, but he doesn't talk to me as often as before. Just the feelings different now, maybe i'm over sensitive.