Trying to understand a Sagittarius man

I've been seeing this Sagittarius guy for about 4 months now.. First time we met was at a friend's house party, he seemed like a fun, charming yet serious guy, which everyone seem to like so much.. It was a weekend party so people came from Friday night, I only came on the next day which was Saturday.. First time seeing him, he stole my attention almost immediately only to find out that he slept with some girl at that party and ignored her right after they had sex, that girl was busy telling me that she's in love with him and he's busy ignoring her.. I just got turned off after that.. We kept talking with that girl and some other girls that were also at that party till the Sagde guy decided to call a cab for her to be dropped home.. After she left, we started talking and became very close. We talked about so much.

Fast forward to when we started seeing each other.. He would come pick me up for a date then later we would go to his house, watch a movie and cuddle.. At some point he asked me if I'm those serious relationship types, I said yes and asked him why, he then responded by saying he can tell.. We also had sex for the very first time, which was so bad that we decided to stop and just only cuddle.. I thought it would be last time we see each other but he still very much liked me.. We started seeing each other twice or three times a week since we were both busy most times and he was always the one to initiate dates.. We grew closer and closer to a point where I knew all his friends and they really liked me.. He would introduce me to them as his girlfriend which made me think we are dating since he never says tells me he likes me.. I also met some of his extended family members and he has met my friends too and they love him.

The problem now is that I've gotten so close to him.. The sex has moved from bad to crazy intense, passionate and amazing.. The last time we hanged out, his friends came by to chill with us and he was so loving and touchy, he normally doesn't get touchy but that day he was 🙂.. When I'm with him he always treats me like a queen and makes me feel like I'm on top of the world.. I don't call him much or text him when we not together, I just give him a lot of space.. Plus he once told me that in a relationship you shouldn't give all your heart in.. He has a daughter who he had at a very young age, she lives in another state with his mother so he always says that he doesn't want anymore kids because of that. He visits his mom and daughter once a month and he always notifies me when he travels.. The last time he called me was two weeks ago when he told me he's traveling home to sort out some issues he's facing, I didn't bother to ask what it was cause I knew he wouldn't tell me, I just agreed.. He hasn't called me since, he just texted me once last week to say that he misses me.. I don't know what to call what we have but I know that I'm falling for him and it scares me.

Should I wait for him to call and then tell him

Should I wait for him to call and then tell him how I feel? Or maybe he's not calling cause he's not planning on seeing me anymore.. He always posts on his facebook and Instagram every now and then.. A part of me just feels like letting it go but I'm just so confused.. He's a Sag Sun, Pisces Moon, Capricorn Mercury, Scorpio Venus and Aries Mars

Almost forgot.. He has an Aries Rising.. Any clarity will be very much appreciated 🙂 I'm so tired of stressing 😢

Thanks for the advice, I guess I just have to wait for him to contact me then, meanwhile I'll try to keep myself busy to stop myself from stressing over him. I'm just scared that if he takes too long I might just shut those feelings I have for him and by the time he decides to contact me it'll be too late.. That's normally how I stop myself from stressing a lot

Posted by TauriLove
Thanks for the advice, I guess I just have to wait for him to contact me then, meanwhile I'll try to keep myself busy to stop myself from stressing over him. I'm just scared that if he takes too long I might just shut those feelings I have for him and by the time he decides to contact me it'll be too late.. That's normally how I stop myself from stressing a lot

your insecurities are getting the better of you. Dont let it ruin a good thing.

If you want to text him to see how he is. Shit, do it. You guys sound like youre at a point where you can do that. You care about him, nothing wrong with that.

Posted by DMV

Posted by TauriLove
Thanks for the advice, I guess I just have to wait for him to contact me then, meanwhile I'll try to keep myself busy to stop myself from stressing over him. I'm just scared that if he takes too long I might just shut those feelings I have for him and by the time he decides to contact me it'll be too late.. That's normally how I stop myself from stressing a lot

your insecurities are getting the better of you. Dont let it ruin a good thing.

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That's true 😢.. I think what's making me insecure is the thought of being rejected by him or him not feeling the same way, forgetting that there might be a possibility that he actually feels the same and I'll never know till I try.

Posted by dontgetmewrong
Yes show interest as well, he might be saying to himself that you domt seem too interested either bc he's always the one making contact and you dont care enough to atleast say a hello how are you?..or a I miss you too.

I think at this stage that's ok...or he may be the one to lose imterest eventually due to no initiative.

Yes I did try calling him last night but he didn't pick up so I'm just going to give him his space.. Plus work is keeping me busy (thank God for that!) 🙂.. Just miss our drunk Saturdays and the silly dances in the living room 😭

Omg didn't you learn anything from Romeo and Juliet? JUST WAIT

It's good you called, now you'll know where you stand.

Posted by TheShire
Omg didn't you learn anything from Romeo and Juliet? JUST WAIT

It's good you called, now you'll know where you stand.

😄 Well I'm back to my happy positive self again, no more stressing.. I'm no longer thinking about him much so whether he calls again or not it's not my problem anymore.. I just pray that he gets over the things he is going through, if he cared about me in any way I believe he was going to at least let me know that he's fine wherever he is and needs some time to himself.

It was my first time being with a Sadge, I think I'll stick to my water signs from here onward.

I don't want to advertise other sites on here, but if you Google "sag taurus marriage" the 5th result down should be something like "I am a Taurus woman married to a Sagittarius man..." The testimonies are mostly positive, and familiarly accurate.

I don't think it sounds like you're insecure. This would be a confusing situation for anyone. Having intense interactions and then that person is all of a sudden out of touch.

Still, he mentioned he has some stuff to deal with, so show him your support and sit back and wait for him to come to you...he will. Both of the Sag men in my life get super overwhelmed (by work, socializing, women....whatever it might be) and need frequent stretches of alone time. Sometimes that will be a couple weeks, sometimes it will be over a month before I hear from them again. It's nice to check in on them, but for the most part, I know I won't have them back fully until they come on their own. I know these are just male friends I'm referring to, but I think it would translate to a romantic situation as well.

Posted by Ambietomtom
Is he whiney? I dated a sag sun with a Pisces moon... Felt like he wanted me to be his mama! Oh & he went everywhere with his mom, she bought him things like he was still a child & he told her all of his business... Sex was bad too lol I dumped him. He acted like he didn't want me once he got me. I changed that up real quick. Tables turned.

lol. Total mama's boy

I know a sag female taurus male pairing. 7 years going strong.

I had some really good times with a taurus male.

Masculine female with a feminine male. Seems to wo r k for this pairing.

Posted by Ambietomtom
Is he whiney? I dated a sag sun with a Pisces moon... Felt like he wanted me to be his mama! Oh & he went everywhere with his mom, she bought him things like he was still a child & he told her all of his business... Sex was bad too lol I dumped him. He acted like he didn't want me once he got me. I changed that up real quick. Tables turned.

Lol well he was whiney sometimes and I was not complaining cause I liked him very much, flaws and all.. These men have a way of just making you fall for who they are or maybe that’s just me. 😄

Hmmm that part about him acting like he didn’t want you once he got you makes me wonder.. Funny cause he happened to disappear after a great night we had and the way I was looking at him that night, felt like he already knew I have fallen.

Oh well.

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Posted by busyeyes88
OP, he told you 'not to put too much of your heart into it' or at least words to that effect. I'm sorry sweet Taurus but sag male and Taurus female make a bad pairing. What a Taurus holds dear and values, a sag does not ! Liberalism v conservatism ! Please read on some of the other websites re this pairing ! It always ends badly! Good luck

I second that! Taurus is way too sweet for a sag. That horse ride will be a disaster. I enjoyed riding with them though. I'm a Gemini and that is a why but then in the end I got sick of it and just fly away. ††

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Aww thank you ^_^

I think me leaving a small space for disappointment helped a lot.. I had to, especially after what he did to that girl, till this day she still asks about him.. Sad really 😢

Posted by TheShire
I don't want to advertise other sites on here, but if you Google "sag taurus marriage" the 5th result down should be something like "I am a Taurus woman married to a Sagittarius man..." The testimonies are mostly positive, and familiarly accurate.

Thanks TheShire, but my focus has shifted.

I don’t think Sadge men are for me, I don’t attract them much and when I do this happens.

Posted by DMV
I know a sag female taurus male pairing. 7 years going strong.

I had some really good times with a taurus male.

Masculine female with a feminine male. Seems to wo r k for this pairing.

Yeah that is true, it does seem to work.

I had some really good times with my Sadge too, if only he wasn’t so confusing.. But my best relationship was with a Cancer male, we still best of friends till this day. 🙂

My Sagittarius male finaly called but I just chose to ignore his call 😢.. He then sent me a text saying that he's trying to call me but I'm not picking.. I replied by saying "Hey, what a nice surprise, how are you?".. Few minutes later he said "I'm good thanks and yourself?".. I sent mine after an hour or so and said "I'm good thank you for asking" then it just ended there.

I feel like I am never going to understand him, I don't know where I stand with him.. I have just given up.