Why can't this be normal rejection?

Months ago met a male Libra sun/Cap rising/ Aries moon... I'm a female sag sun/ cancer rising/ Taurus moon... we chatted here and there because we worked together... added each other on social media... nothing crazy. Then a couple months ago, I left the place we worked and he started messaging me sporadically. We made plans to get a drink and didn't cement anything. Finally a few weeks ago, we finally got together.... conversation was amazing and we spent the night together. It was amazing. We saw each other here and there at the old work place a couple times that week and then a week or so later, I ran into him at the local bar and he spent most of his time talking to me before bringing a friend home. I asked him what was going on with us and if it was a one time thing or an I don't know? And he responded that he didn't know, he is a loner through and through and if I don't have expectations of him he's sure not to disappoint... I was a little lost... thought that may be rejection... and then we STILL talk a lot about a variety of subjects but whenever I mentioned hanging out in person he dodges it.

I've done the blow off thing before and I can handle rejection but what the hell? All I want to do is hang out as friends and chat or maybe jam... but he's so evasive and then turns around and acts like it is no big thing.

what is happening here?? Cause I can't read this situation.

" I ran into him at the local bar "

He has no plans. He let things happen on a random basis.
Worst case: you let yourself be used.

"All I want to do is hang out as friends and chat or maybe jam"
sometimes we want things which are not good for us on a long term.

I wound up sending him a message and vocalizing my frustration. I think I hit everything. He read it, I don't expect a response. So it is what it is.

Moving forward and on.

It just sucks when you connect with someone really well and they don't stick around.

Posted by Shashkay

Posted by DwellingOnMove
" Worst case: you let yourself be used.

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Nope. It's HIS responsibility to act well and be clear.

She didn't let anything.

Users should just not use.

He should just be 'normal'.

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I agree with you. But we all fail to follow ethical codes. People are complex and communication is vagues. Some girls even try to convince themselves that they are currently not ready for a true relationship and can settle for an FWB. Later they pour tears.

well, that was labeled as the worst case. she needs not to let it go that far. My mind is a planer mind. I always consider the worst case.

I didnt. It wasn't an expected situation, for either of us I believe.

My instincts tell me it was equally as emotionally loaded as it was for me and that perhaps he is processing but I can't bank on that.

he knows how to get ahold of me if he needs to.

I'm not holding my breath.

And...he reached out. That was unexpected. Just v taking it in stride.