why must I beg and whine for people to celebrate my bday

So ive been very upset over the last few days.

my so called friends didnt do shit. The aries brought me the same gift shes always given me for my birthday and Christmas for the past 2 years; scent sprays and the Virgo just plain forgot. She called me damn near 11pm! Uttering the same "im sorry" speech. The Aries guy didnt even call or text me. Nothing. Days later all 3 were seen at the club celebrating someone elses birthday. I was really hurt to see that.

even at work, I had to guilt these mofos into remembering and celebrating my bday. My own family, even twin sister, doesnt put any effort or thought as I do.

Im going to speak to the aries and virgo about it. Just to let them know that im pulling out of celebrating anyomes bday anymore. People dont give me the same respect, thoughtfulness as I give them.

Are these just the pains of being a superior gift giver? Or do I just need new friends?

on a side note, my job gave me a SIZEABLE christmas bonus this year. Usually I spend it on my loved ones but fuck them.

In 2016, I will be swinging the pendulum from selflessness to selfish bitch.

Hmmm....now I think I know why you remember me. You sound just like Sag24/7 from the Sasstrology forum.

Regardless.... Happy belated bday.

Im a firm believer that ppl do things and make time for what they want.

people arent making time for me because they dont fuck with me anymore obviously

Posted by Libralula
Don't let people get you down

😢

Talk to your close friends about it...it's odd they were celebrating someone else's bday the next day, but maybe they were not being negligent on purpose?

im simply going to tell them that im outta gift giving and celebrating. Their lack of consideration for me has left a permanent bad taste in my mouth and its has already began souring how I feel about them.

so just like how u dont loan money to friend, I dont give gifts to friends.

My experience is that people in today's society have become very self-important. Not to mention that as we get older sometimes people's busy lives get in the way of being that great friends that they maybe used to be. That being said unless there is more to the story of your friends being shitty, which would call for some reconsideration of your friendship, I think you should take the high road, and continue to be a great friend to them. It might take some time, but there will come a day when they realize that they have not giving you the same consideration that you have to them.

I feel like if you called them out on it, it will come off as petty on your side, and might make them pull back further from your friendship. I know if I had a friend call me out on not getting them a b-day present, it would definitely sour my opinion of them, and I'd might even end our friendship, depending on how close we were...

well were you a selfish B like my ex sag? i always made a big deal out of holidays and b day for him. huge Christmas trees, big homemade thanksgiving dinners, big B day celebrations. Anything and everything he wanted. he repaid me by putting his penis in other women. now he doesn't celebrate holidays at all.

Are these just the pains of being a superior gift giver?


Honestly?

Yes.


Happy (belated) Birthday, DMV. 🙂

i feel the same way bc no one really remembers my birthday, nor do i get any gifts even from my father who's still living. im lucky if he remembers to text me. i make sure to let my friends and family know how happy i am that they were born--every year. i just never feel that back. honestly with my father tho, i dont think we were meant to know each other. one of those people that adopts but probably shouldnt have bc they werent ready to be a parent. having said this, i still make sure to wish him a happy birthday every year.
happy belated birfday OP!! im happy youre here :-)

Posted by KittenLaRouge
well were you a selfish B like my ex sag? i always made a big deal out of holidays and b day for him. huge Christmas trees, big homemade thanksgiving dinners, big B day celebrations. Anything and everything he wanted. he repaid me by putting his penis in other women. now he doesn't celebrate holidays at all.

I'm sorry your Sag is a POS, but they're not all like that. My boyfriend in college was an amazing person, I probably would've married him.

Posted by Twodrinks
Wasnt this an issue in the previous years too DMV? I feel like you made a post about this before?

yes. This is an ongoing issue. Especially with the virgo and aries.

At times they are so oblivious.

Posted by AbbyNormal
i feel the same way bc no one really remembers my birthday, nor do i get any gifts even from my father who's still living. im lucky if he remembers to text me. i make sure to let my friends and family know how happy i am that they were born--every year. i just never feel that back. honestly with my father tho, i dont think we were meant to know each other. one of those people that adopts but probably shouldnt have bc they werent ready to be a parent. having said this, i still make sure to wish him a happy birthday every year.
happy belated birfday OP!! im happy youre here :-)

+1

Thats the thing. I make it a point to acknowledge them on their bday.

At the very least I call. Never text

Posted by elllesque
Too many typos.

I used to get upset too. mostly because I get excited about other people's birthdays....even if they couldn't bother to remember mine.

I don't anymore.

For the past few years now, I've trained myself to expect nothing. When you do that, a small handful of people who actually remember can then allow you to reprioritize your life.

I see it more as an opportunity for the next year.

To my surprise, and I really go completely silent about it, sometimes it ends up being people I haven't even talked to or wouldn't even think they would remember (and I'm not talking about facebook reminding them....they actually had it indexed in their brain).

It's rarely the people who I think *should* remember.....because I had made such a big deal about them in the past....you'd think they would have remembered or cared to return the sentiment.

This year....several people who I once thought I couldn't live without at some point in my life....never said a single word to me. That is jolting to the psyche.....but completely necessary in order for you to calibrate your priorities.

Turn your energy towards those that actually gave a damn and observe exactly how those people are. That is the kind of energy you need in your life at this particular moment. At least that is how I see it.

The bonus helps too I used to allocate mine a lot different than I do today. Now the majority stays in my pocket. 😄

interestingly enough. Another make who ive barely uttered a word too wrote me a beautiful poem on my bday.

It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Just based on what you have said, I'm sure someone else planned this person's birthday, and they just showed up.

gifts are more consume and not good for the environment. I don't give any and I don't expect any.

I had one Pisces person who went out with me. Afterwards we talked until morning. That was good enough. My brother sent me an email. Add dxp to it.

My student called me ten days later and congratulated. Her mother owed me money and gave it back last weekend. Yesterday my pupil who is a college student now asked for my help about statistics. She was in the library and could not talk. we texted an mailed. I made first false assumptions and then gave her finally the right solution. excting.

For an old one like me these five events were enough. happy+pharrell+williams

Posted by AriesIntrovert16

Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Just based on what you have said, I'm sure someone else planned this person's birthday, and they just showed up.

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does it matter?

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Posted by AriesIntrovert16

Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Just based on what you have said, I'm sure someone else planned this person's birthday, and they just showed up.

does it matter?

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I would think so.

Posted by Harukaa

Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

You know what

People think that we don't have feeling.

We give too much..I mean by we "sag people".

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I hate to keep score but I just feel very unappreciated.

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Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Just based on what you have said, I'm sure someone else planned this person's birthday, and they just showed up.

does it matter?

I would think so.

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Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Just based on what you have said, I'm sure someone else planned this person's birthday, and they just showed up.

does it matter?

I would think so.

elaborate

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Hm, after thinking about it, I'd be pissed too. However, just showing up to a party for, what I'm assuming, had free items, drinks, food, etc. and actually thinking about your friend and throwing her a party is completely different to me. Did they give this girl anything?

Posted by DMV
Are these just the pains of being a superior gift giver?

Pains of ENFPs...

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Posted by AriesIntrovert16

Posted by DMV
It just for real hurt to see them all up in the club celebrating someone else's bday.

Just based on what you have said, I'm sure someone else planned this person's birthday, and they just showed up.

does it matter?

I would think so.

elaborate

Hm, after thinking about it, I'd be pissed too. However, just showing up to a party for, what I'm assuming, had free items, drinks, food, etc. and actually thinking about your friend and throwing her a party is completely different to me. Did they give this girl anything?

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Well yes, the birthday girl always buys a few bottles and appetizers.

Idk if they brought anything for her this year but usually no, they dont.

and the aries guy doesnt even go to clubs. But he showed up for her bday party and I didnt get as much as a text. Maybe he has a new flame.

anyways, it hurts nonetheless

Just think about it.

your so called best friends dont do shit for your birthday. Next couple of days you see them partying it up for someone elses bday. Captio "having a ball".

Then the guy you think or so you thougnt you had been getting closer to, doesnt acknowledge you on your bday and is seen somewhere he himself claims that he hates going taking pics with someone ele.

this too much.

"your so called best friends dont do butter for your birthday. Next couple of days you see them partying it up for someone elses bday."

It is too much when you care about them. yes, indeed it is hurting.

not sure which message Saturn is passing by this kinda sh1t.

(yet I don't care... in my current situation.)

Do you express how birthdays are a big deal to you?

Some people make it a point to point out how much "their" birthday means to them...sooo..even when their friends don't want to, they make more effort than what they normally would to make them feel special. Sags are very giving to others so I would understand to get some of that back from friends as well.

I agree, a simple acknowledgement would be nice at least.

Posted by DMV
Next couple of days you see them partying it up for someone elses bday. Captio "having a ball".

This is what would get to me.

Because I have friends who always forget my birthday but if I called them at 4 am with a true emergency, they'd help without a problem.

But the oblivious ones I mention are oblivious for..everyone.

Posted by Greentea
Do you express how birthdays are a big deal to you?

Some people make it a point to point out how much "their" birthday means to them...sooo..even when their friends don't want to, they make more effort than what they normally would to make them feel special. Sags are very giving to others so I would understand to get some of that back from friends as well.

I agree, a simple acknowledgement would be nice at least.

I make it a point, a show to celebrate their birthdays.

I can kinda see where the aries is coming from. I haven't felt like her friend in over a year since before my last birthday. She hid her last break up and subsequent break down from me because she was afraid and embarrassed that i would tell her its her fault because i told her to not date that guy. Yeah "i did tell you so" but i wouldn't kick u when ur down. She hid a whole year of her life.

Anyways. We had a candid dinner and i asked her point blank if i was doing something to her that would make her think that i wasnt her friend, that she couldnt tell me things. She said no. Obvious lie. I treat her like she treats me. She didnt celebrate my bday last year and i didnt celebrate her this year.

The virgo has no excuse.

Ive sent them both flowers, balloons, dinners, those huge ass cards, clothes, surprise birthday parties. All planned themes. When the aries broke up with her taurus i took her out and made her independence a celebration. She had a great time.

Posted by DMV
Just think about it.

your so called best friends dont do shit for your birthday. Next couple of days you see them partying it up for someone elses bday. Captio "having a ball".

Then the guy you think or so you thougnt you had been getting closer to, doesnt acknowledge you on your bday and is seen somewhere he himself claims that he hates going taking pics with someone ele.

this too much.

You sound very insecure ... maybe that is the reason why these two guys chose to ignore your birthday.

The way you worded the OP, it sounds like you've been pumping the coming of your birthday, long before the day approached. People tend to steer away from attention seekers.

Maybe this person at the club who was having a birthday (in which these two showed up for) ..... didn't spend the prior month guilting them into celebrating.


didn't you admit that you have to force people by guilting them? Maybe that person was humble and appreciative, so that's why they didn't mind sharing her birthday with her. Maybe you forcing people into celebrating with you is what leaves them with a bad taste in their mouth about you, and would rather ignore than deal with you.

Posted by DMV

Ive sent them both flowers, balloons, dinners, those huge ass cards, clothes, surprise birthday parties.

Considering your reaction, it sounds like the above was ONLY given with an expectation to receive.

For a giving person, it doesn't matter what you give ... but, it looks like you've been keeping track, and expect a return.


That's not sincere, and perhaps these people realize that you're not sincere.

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by DMV

Ive sent them both flowers, balloons, dinners, those huge ass cards, clothes, surprise birthday parties.

Considering your reaction, it sounds like the above was ONLY given with an expectation to receive.

For a giving person, it doesn't matter what you give ... but, it looks like you've been keeping track, and expect a return.


That's not sincere, and perhaps these people realize that you're not sincere.

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which is totally fine. If they dont wanna F with me anyone. I get the hint.

Posted by LittlePieces62
With age I have learned to not expect because often we get dissapointed. From everyone also family.

People come and go. It hurts especially when you think they are friends when maybe they are not. I too have given people benefit of doubt and stayed positive. People pleaser; one of sagittarius good traits. But there also comes a time you will wake up
And wonder who deserves to be(long) in your life.

Cut them loose new friends will come there is plenty of time in life to meet new people. I wish could give you a portion of my Capricorn moon to make it easier to let go.

Stay positive. Happy belated birthday 🙂

yes. time to re-evaluate. i know there have been major changes going on in my life. I havent been to a club since Saturn entered Sag, its been nonstop work. So, now i see, its expected that people who have the same goals will attract like minded people.

my goals have changed alot and my friendship circle is evolving.

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Posted by DMV
Just think about it.

your so called best friends dont do shit for your birthday. Next couple of days you see them partying it up for someone elses bday. Captio "having a ball".

Then the guy you think or so you thougnt you had been getting closer to, doesnt acknowledge you on your bday and is seen somewhere he himself claims that he hates going taking pics with someone ele.

this too much.

You sound very insecure ... maybe that is the reason why these two guys chose to ignore your birthday.

The way you worded the OP, it sounds like you've been pumping the coming of your birthday, long before the day approached. People tend to steer away from attention seekers.

Maybe this person at the club who was having a birthday (in which these two showed up for) ..... didn't spend the prior month guilting them into celebrating.


didn't you admit that you have to force people by guilting them? Maybe that person was humble and appreciative, so that's why they didn't mind sharing her birthday with her. Maybe you forcing people into celebrating with you is what leaves them with a bad taste in their mouth about you, and would rather ignore than deal with you.

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i am insecure about my friendship circle. with all the work ive been doing, i feel out of the loop.

if been looking at this all wrong. its not that they are changing who they are. I AM THE ONE WHO HAS CHANGED.

Posted by DMV

if been looking at this all wrong. its not that they are changing who they are. I AM THE ONE WHO HAS CHANGED.

Let's hope so. We certainly wouldn't want you to merely changed the social circle, only to rinse and repeat after you have given again with a contingency.

People don't really have to spend time with you and do things for you. If you feel compelled to guilt someone into it, then it's not sincere on either end ... and who wants pity attention?

Wouldn't you rather vomit than ONLY get care because you forced this issue?

Posted by BlackMamba

Posted by DMV
Just think about it.

your so called best friends dont do shit for your birthday. Next couple of days you see them partying it up for someone elses bday. Captio "having a ball".

Then the guy you think or so you thougnt you had been getting closer to, doesnt acknowledge you on your bday and is seen somewhere he himself claims that he hates going taking pics with someone ele.

this too much.

Those people aren't your BEST friends or Friends really.

i have acquaintances that treat me better.

time to reflect on what kind of people you want in your life.

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yup. P Angel is also right. I cant keep guilt tripping ppl into spending time with me.

you either do or dont.

i want ppl who appreciate me in my life.

Posted by BlackMamba
SAGS are generous people. they need to be around other generous people!


anyways im taking my girl to dinner and maybe go party as a belated birthday...she has 3 kids but wants to get out of her house badly.

my virgo friend has 2 kids and i keep that in mind to always do something special for her.

Posted by busyeyes88
To be honest... Sags are collectors of 'fake" "friends" because sags want to be friends with "everyone"! Friends that are thoughtful true and honest sags tend to dispose of and the fake ones who never remember their birthday or don't give a shit about, the sag will"idolise"... Sags attract lots of "hangers on" and would put these people in the friend category whereas me being a taurus who believes in true deep meaningful friendships would not even associate with those types of people let alone put them in my circle of friends... My Sag sister does this all the time...

Maybe you need to start looking inwards to your views of true friendships then you will then perhaps attract real true meaningful friendships instead of fakes!

remember youre talking to a moon in scorpio, venus in cap. im very selective about who i spend my time with.

Posted by DMV
So ive been very upset over the last few days.

my so called friends didnt do shit. The aries brought me the same gift shes always given me for my birthday and Christmas for the past 2 years; scent sprays and the Virgo just plain forgot. She called me damn near 11pm! Uttering the same "im sorry" speech. The Aries guy didnt even call or text me. Nothing. Days later all 3 were seen at the club celebrating someone elses birthday. I was really hurt to see that.

You may not have love for us, but get some Scorp friends. Sh*t would never go down like that. Would have made you feel like the most important person on the planet (if you are to us). I still remember my besties from grade 6 birthday....

Posted by DMV
People dont give me the same respect, thoughtfulness as I give them.

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Scorp Moon....
Get you some Scorpies in the mix.

PS I'm sorry you didn't get to celebrate your birthday with a smile on your face.

Posted by DMV

Posted by Libralula
Don't let people get you down

😢

Talk to your close friends about it...it's odd they were celebrating someone else's bday the next day, but maybe they were not being negligent on purpose?

im simply going to tell them that im outta gift giving and celebrating. Their lack of consideration for me has left a permanent bad taste in my mouth and its has already began souring how I feel about them.

so just like how u dont loan money to friend, I dont give gifts to friends.

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Or you could be straight up and tell them their thoughtless made you feel like you didn't mean much to them. Why are Sag so afraid to put their feelings out there?

This is why y'all get branded with being nonchalant runners when Sag often feel quite deeply---at least the one I know that don't make an effort to mask it. Most Sags try too hard to make it seem like nothing bothers them so people take your lead and think "well ________ isn't gonna care anyway".

True, any person with a brain cell would know that would hurt, but sometimes you have to let people know.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV

Posted by Libralula
Don't let people get you down

😢

Talk to your close friends about it...it's odd they were celebrating someone else's bday the next day, but maybe they were not being negligent on purpose?

im simply going to tell them that im outta gift giving and celebrating. Their lack of consideration for me has left a permanent bad taste in my mouth and its has already began souring how I feel about them.

so just like how u dont loan money to friend, I dont give gifts to friends.

Or you could be straight up and tell them their thoughtless made you feel like you didn't mean much to them. Why are Sag so afraid to put their feelings out there?

This is why y'all get branded with being nonchalant runners when Sag often feel quite deeply---at least the one I know that don't make an effort to mask it. Most Sags try too hard to make it seem like nothing bothers them so people take your lead and think "well ________ isn't gonna care anyway".

True, any person with a brain cell would know that would hurt, but sometimes you have to let people know.

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It's like people know... You know people want to be told Happy Birthday. I've noticed, A LOT of people intentionally does rude and cruel things to Sag's to bring us down.... I guess it's the fact that we truly have joy and optimism, and certain people love to try and be spiteful to steal it... It's a curse. I guarantee that the friends texted other people Happy Birthday...

@DMV play their game and watch them RESENT you.... The thing is about Sag's we let people do a lot of wrong... Study it, and then beat you at your own game... Cut them off fam. It's good people out there, that's disrespectful. And don't speak on it.... Because they'll feed off of it.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
So ive been very upset over the last few days.

my so called friends didnt do shit. The aries brought me the same gift shes always given me for my birthday and Christmas for the past 2 years; scent sprays and the Virgo just plain forgot. She called me damn near 11pm! Uttering the same "im sorry" speech. The Aries guy didnt even call or text me. Nothing. Days later all 3 were seen at the club celebrating someone elses birthday. I was really hurt to see that.

You may not have love for us, but get some Scorp friends. Sh*t would never go down like that. Would have made you feel like the most important person on the planet (if you are to us). I still remember my besties from grade 6 birthday....

Posted by DMV
People dont give me the same respect, thoughtfulness as I give them.

Scorp Moon....
Get you some Scorpies in the mix.

PS I'm sorry you didn't get to celebrate your birthday with a smile on your face.

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scorp women i likeeee 🙂

my scorpio female coworker represents and she did right by me.

Its funny cause my sister is a scorp moon but she just doesnt care for me on my bday. she gives more love to her friends. One year i called her up bright n early to sing her happy birthday. she said nothing in return....the whole day. nothing. then when i made a fuss about it, i get called dramatic and overemotional. it wasnt until it was her bff birthday that she understood where i was coming from.

however again this year, i asked her to please give me a thoughtful gift. again, she doesnt SAY happy birthday 2 me and she gets me some candle.

I told her that I was done with being shitted on for my bday. i told her that my bday this year showed me that people actually dont care to know about me and what i like. i was done trying to make ppl care about me. You have to want to do that yourself.

Posted by blackphase
Some people just don't care as much about celebrating birthdays, but yes, they could have at least made an effort to wish you one. I personally don't give a fuck about my birthday, I don't even celebrate or do anything, haven't in years. And I actually do not even tell people that it is my birthday. But everyone is different, I know lots of people who still make a big fuss about it and expect gifts and all, but not everyone is like that remember.

i know i cant go tit for tat and keep score. i know thats wrong. but doing things and gifts is how i speak my love. i just dont get the same in return.

ive thought about taking that route of not sharing my bday. but then the time rolls around and i start getting excited

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Posted by DMV
So ive been very upset over the last few days.

my so called friends didnt do shit. The aries brought me the same gift shes always given me for my birthday and Christmas for the past 2 years; scent sprays and the Virgo just plain forgot. She called me damn near 11pm! Uttering the same "im sorry" speech. The Aries guy didnt even call or text me. Nothing. Days later all 3 were seen at the club celebrating someone elses birthday. I was really hurt to see that.

You may not have love for us, but get some Scorp friends. Sh*t would never go down like that. Would have made you feel like the most important person on the planet (if you are to us). I still remember my besties from grade 6 birthday....

Posted by DMV
People dont give me the same respect, thoughtfulness as I give them.

Scorp Moon....
Get you some Scorpies in the mix.

PS I'm sorry you didn't get to celebrate your birthday with a smile on your face.

scorp women i likeeee 🙂

my scorpio female coworker represents and she did right by me.

Its funny cause my sister is a scorp moon but she just doesnt care for me on my bday. she gives more love to her friends. One year i called her up bright n early to sing her happy birthday. she said nothing in return....the whole day. nothing. then when i made a fuss about it, i get called dramatic and overemotional. it wasnt until it was her bff birthday that she understood where i was coming from.

however again this year, i asked her to please give me a thoughtful gift. again, she doesnt SAY happy birthday 2 me and she gets me some candle.

I told her that I was done with being shitted on for my bday. i told her that my bday this year showed me that people actually dont care to know about me and what i like. i was done trying to make ppl care about me. You have to want to do that yourself.

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i think my sister is harboring some kinda feelings. otherwise she would treat me better

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV

Posted by Libralula
Don't let people get you down

😢

Talk to your close friends about it...it's odd they were celebrating someone else's bday the next day, but maybe they were not being negligent on purpose?

im simply going to tell them that im outta gift giving and celebrating. Their lack of consideration for me has left a permanent bad taste in my mouth and its has already began souring how I feel about them.

so just like how u dont loan money to friend, I dont give gifts to friends.

Or you could be straight up and tell them their thoughtless made you feel like you didn't mean much to them. Why are Sag so afraid to put their feelings out there?

This is why y'all get branded with being nonchalant runners when Sag often feel quite deeply---at least the one I know that don't make an effort to mask it. Most Sags try too hard to make it seem like nothing bothers them so people take your lead and think "well ________ isn't gonna care anyway".

True, any person with a brain cell would know that would hurt, but sometimes you have to let people know.

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its not that im afraid to put my feelings out. Sometimes its cheaper to just walk away. other times, i dont even trust the other person to share my hurt.

but youre right. I need to speak up more and just let the words fly from my mouth. not take into account whose feelings may get hurt

Posted by arose32

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV

Posted by Libralula
Don't let people get you down

😢

Talk to your close friends about it...it's odd they were celebrating someone else's bday the next day, but maybe they were not being negligent on purpose?

im simply going to tell them that im outta gift giving and celebrating. Their lack of consideration for me has left a permanent bad taste in my mouth and its has already began souring how I feel about them.

so just like how u dont loan money to friend, I dont give gifts to friends.

Or you could be straight up and tell them their thoughtless made you feel like you didn't mean much to them. Why are Sag so afraid to put their feelings out there?

This is why y'all get branded with being nonchalant runners when Sag often feel quite deeply---at least the one I know that don't make an effort to mask it. Most Sags try too hard to make it seem like nothing bothers them so people take your lead and think "well ________ isn't gonna care anyway".

True, any person with a brain cell would know that would hurt, but sometimes you have to let people know.

It's like people know... You know people want to be told Happy Birthday. I've noticed, A LOT of people intentionally does rude and cruel things to Sag's to bring us down.... I guess it's the fact that we truly have joy and optimism, and certain people love to try and be spiteful to steal it... It's a curse. I guarantee that the friends texted other people Happy Birthday...

@DMV play their game and watch them RESENT you.... The thing is about Sag's we let people do a lot of wrong... Study it, and then beat you at your own game... Cut them off fam. It's good people out there, that's disrespectful. And don't speak on it.... Because they'll feed off of it.

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the fact that i know ppl live for my emotional hurt doesnt surprise me either. i put on a good face and be the resilient rooster that i am. which is why i choose very wisely who to share my hurt with. the other person could seem sincere but is cheering on the inside.

i mean i have alot going for me right now. so i know my success may cause insecurities.

This last year friends made plans to take me bowling for my birthday then totally flaked out on me. I didn't talk to them for a month a called them flakes to their faces. So I feel your pain!

This year I'm going somewhere and only telling my mother and brother.

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
So ive been very upset over the last few days.

my so called friends didnt do shit. The aries brought me the same gift shes always given me for my birthday and Christmas for the past 2 years; scent sprays and the Virgo just plain forgot. She called me damn near 11pm! Uttering the same "im sorry" speech. The Aries guy didnt even call or text me. Nothing. Days later all 3 were seen at the club celebrating someone elses birthday. I was really hurt to see that.

You may not have love for us, but get some Scorp friends. Sh*t would never go down like that. Would have made you feel like the most important person on the planet (if you are to us). I still remember my besties from grade 6 birthday....

Posted by DMV
People dont give me the same respect, thoughtfulness as I give them.

Scorp Moon....
Get you some Scorpies in the mix.

PS I'm sorry you didn't get to celebrate your birthday with a smile on your face.

after reading that I wish you were my friend .. can I buy your friendship or sthg ?

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this venus in cap can be brought with sincerity. 🙂

Posted by kissmygrits
This last year friends made plans to take me bowling for my birthday then totally flaked out on me. I didn't talk to them for a month a called them flakes to their faces. So I feel your pain!

This year I'm going somewhere and only telling my mother and brother.

hmm that would piss me off

Posted by DMV

... i called her up bright n early to sing her happy birthday. she said nothing in return....the whole day. nothing. then when i made a fuss about it, i get called dramatic and overemotional.

So, you made a fuss because she wasn't appreciative enough for you?

A gift doesn't ask anything in return.

It sounds like you only give because you expect a return.

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however again this year, i asked her to please give me a thoughtful gift.

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what the hell?

I imagine you must be very tiring to be around ... some people are just needy, you take the cake.

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Posted by Libralula
Don't let people get you down

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Talk to your close friends about it...it's odd they were celebrating someone else's bday the next day, but maybe they were not being negligent on purpose?

im simply going to tell them that im outta gift giving and celebrating. Their lack of consideration for me has left a permanent bad taste in my mouth and its has already began souring how I feel about them.

so just like how u dont loan money to friend, I dont give gifts to friends.

Or you could be straight up and tell them their thoughtless made you feel like you didn't mean much to them. Why are Sag so afraid to put their feelings out there?

This is why y'all get branded with being nonchalant runners when Sag often feel quite deeply---at least the one I know that don't make an effort to mask it. Most Sags try too hard to make it seem like nothing bothers them so people take your lead and think "well ________ isn't gonna care anyway".

True, any person with a brain cell would know that would hurt, but sometimes you have to let people know.

its not that im afraid to put my feelings out. Sometimes its cheaper to just walk away. other times, i dont even trust the other person to share my hurt.

but youre right. I need to speak up more and just let the words fly from my mouth. not take into account whose feelings may get hurt

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That may be a problem if you have this type of expectation. We can't expect people to "share" our hurt. Relate, understand and even respond and move in a different way going forward (e.g. be more thoughtful, respectful etc)? Yes. Share? No. Sharing isn't caring in this respect.