why must I beg and whine for people to celebrate my bday (Page 3)

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thanks boo

You two are cute.

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Lol they are

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by DMV
So after some prodding and poking I finally get the truth from my sister. She doesnt care to celebrate my birthday because she hates birthdays and I dont seem to understand.

so she purposely got a bad gift so id get the point.

am I hearing this right? She has a hard time even saying happy birthday to me. Her own twin. She said that she hates it when I give her gifts and try to do nice things for her. She also said that she still cant stand the fact that I threw her a surprise birthday party like 10 years ago.

so, she has problems receiving love from me. I think its just me because shes always giving gifts to friends, boss, kids.

Its just with me that she had problems receiving love.

Goes to show astrology alone (even with twins) isn't enough to explain why people act or feel they way they do. Your sister's response sound a lot like how Scorps respond to receiving. I'm just not here for the fuss, but I enjoy giving.

Try not to personalize her difficulty with being able to accept love. If she's made it clear that her difficulty in this area is the issue, then the old clichè "it's not you, it's me" really does apply. You'll simply have to respect this is who she is and use your well wishes elsewhere when that time rolls around.

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thanks for responding 🙂

I will respect her desire not to be celebrated. But does that mean that I dont deserve any kind of ackonwledgement?

Thats selfish. Just because she doesnt wang anything said to her doesnt mean that I dont deserve a happy birthday. Especially when she gives it so freely to other people.

Posted by DMV

thanks for responding 🙂

I will respect her desire not to be celebrated. But does that mean that I dont deserve any kind of ackonwledgement?

No, I wouldn't say one should mean the other, but for your sister it does. It all depends on how one has decided to manage a situation and who the target audience is. There are some people that regardless of how much you say "this is me" they still try to push you, so my only resort is to shut them down completely and not engage. At all. It's seems to be the only way to send a message. In other words, for whatever reason your sister may be feeling like doing something as simple as saying happy birthday may lead you to push her somewhere she has expressed she's not interested in going. Something about you makes her feel that way. She's not even gonna entertain the idea because she feels that is the only way you'll respect her wishes. It's hurtful I'm sure, but Scorp Moon? Well you know how it is when you've made up your mind about how to deal with someone.

For example, I limit my interactions with our receptionist because she seriously lacks boundaries and can be unprofessional. More importantly she tries to get all up in my kool aid like to act like we're besties despite me clearly informing her I do not want to discuss my personal life with her or hear hers.

Ive had to give her the silent treatment because she'll push as soon as she sees an "opening" (e.g. a simple hello). JC Even a simple hello leads to some long winded "did you hear?" and yes she's been reported for her unprofessionalism (imo). We've worked together for almost a decade, yet she still doesn't get the point because others indulge her, so I'm just seen as anti social. She even tried to turn my well wishes for her boyfriend passing into an opportunity to gossip and ask me about who I'm dating. I was just like, no I'm done. You get nothing from me anymore. Not the best example, but my point is there are some people that silence is the only way they get it. Even if you look like an assh*le.

Posted by DMV
Thats selfish.... Especially when she gives it so freely to other people.

Your sisters response seems to be speaking to your dynamic, perhaps something you were not fully aware of until this convo with her. I believe you mentioned that when you expressed your feeling to her she said you were being dramatic. That says a lot to me. There is something about you, despite being twins that she's not responding well to. Hense the rigid approach with you.

It's interesting because a dear Sag I know does not like his Sag mother at all. He's cordial and respectful, but does not acknowledge her on Mother's Day or her birthday. Refuses to. He leaves that to his brother and father. Why? Because of how she treated the family when he was younger. Can't let it go. He also doesn't like her energy. It seems every Sag I know that also has a Sag in their immediate family doesn't get a long with them. What do they all have in common? Strong Scorp placements (e.g. Moon, Mars and/or Merc). It's a placements that's simply doesn't let things go, especially a slight or what we view as poor behaviour.

Idk Scorp placements really don't agree with Sags imo.

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Posted by DMV
Thats selfish.... Especially when she gives it so freely to other people.

Your sisters response seems to be speaking to your dynamic, perhaps something you were not fully aware of until this convo with her. I believe you mentioned that when you expressed your feeling to her she said you were being dramatic. That says a lot to me. There is something about you, despite being twins that she's not responding well to. Hense the rigid approach with you.

It's interesting because a dear Sag I know does not like his Sag mother at all. He's cordial and respectful, but does not acknowledge her on Mother's Day or her birthday. Refuses to. He leaves that to his brother and father. Why? Because of how she treated the family when he was younger. Can't let it go. He also doesn't like her energy. It seems every Sag I know that also has a Sag in their immediate family doesn't get a long with them. What do they all have in common? Strong Scorp placements (e.g. Moon, Mars and/or Merc). It's a placements that's simply doesn't let things go, especially a slight or what we view as poor behaviour.

Idk Scorp placements really don't agree with Sags imo.

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Youre good gurl. Thanks for your response.

There is underlying animosity i feel from her. Idk why tho.
Interesting point about sag/scorp in families.

I just always feel punished by her on my birthday. I cant front, its real tough to see her give thoughtful presents to ppl and i get gag gifts. Humor to disguise pain?

Posted by LuckyLibra979
I would have been deeply hurt. I'd cut they ass off fuck that. But I'm sensitive to that kind of stuff and I'll cut u off And tell u fuck you every time I see you




Got cheated on when I was 17. All my so called friends knew, never said nothing to me or anything. When I found out I asked em and they said they knew, I told em fuck y'all and cut em off. They thought I was playing. Saw me in the halls the next day on the lockers they all walked up to shake my hand, told em I don't do that shit no more and ignored em. Might be petty, might have been uncalled for but I walked away with my balls and that's more inpmportant

Id cut her off if she werent family.

I couldnt even fake a happy exterior on Christmas.
She ignored all my phone calls and texts. She is just too much.

Since im not the one to sweep anything under a carpet. I calmly told her my gripes and she seemed to see my point. I told her that id respect her wishes and never celebrate her birthday anymore.

I also told her that it means something to me if she would call me and give me a thoughtful gift on my bday. She said ok. She's never called me.

She feels that i didnt see the thoughtfulness in her gift.
Which is valid. What you perceive to be as thoughtful gift may not come across as such.

She truly wont understand my pain till it happens to her. Then the lightbulb will go off.

Posted by Fox
lol my "best friend" didn't even message or say happy birthday to me when it was my 21st.

My friends and me are pretty much done.

I just think were all on different paths.