@MrFirebird
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Personal Research Thread
Posted by xdimplez
you can die from a broken heart. there is actually a 'broken heart ' syndromehttp://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1847940/
takotsubo cardiomyopathy aka broken heart syndrome.and the pain from a broken heart is not something i would even want my enemies to experience.
the pain is unbearable...it hurts the soul...and lingers long after the day you stopped living
Yes, Indeed.... lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng after.
A broken heart can begin at birth, and be stacked upon by additional stressers with the passage of time.
The hazards of life on the road, never end.
Those are examples of additional stressers on top of problems you may already have.
IMHO, I think young people should wait until they are at least 30 years old before they
get emotionally/physically involved with someone. They should take it REAL slow when entering
a romantic relationship.
They should spend their 20s going to college getting educated and preparing for a career,
keeping in mind all the while, a plan b and plan c alternative career.
They should learn about the dark side of relationships and the triggers that ushers those
dark experiences. They should also stay away from drugs and alcohol -
That's my personal recommendation.
22 years... now..
Dimples, kalin,
I don't know what I am going to do.
I know I am going to have to liquidate my life.
Posted by kalin
I know... well, I may go back to school myself though. i'm applying for a school in another state. this way I can truly "start everything all over again" 😉
I always have to move away when a place becomes "too many memories and not enough dreams".
And it just gets ridiculous when after some bad breakups, you just have to avoid going to certain places/areas of the town in order not to run into your exes.
darn thing is, having been all over the US, I took her memory with me....
I might move to another country. But really.... who am I kidding?
Memories follow wheresoever I go.
Can't outrun memories,I guess.
Posted by xdimplez
i agree with your statement mr firebird...young people should not get romantically involved in a relationship until their late 20's. the trauma from the heartbreak can destroy your career path if you're not careful. its a sadness that will haunt you day by dayim confused though... are we speaking of life you once had with your truck, or this lady that you had spoken about before?
no... you cant out run memories. but you can relive them, keep them, cherish them, learn from them. there is a particular reason why specific moments in life are captured by your brain and make you remember them repetetively as a memomory where are others are simply forgotten. maybe... its trying to tell you something?
No, life as a truck driver is only a chapter, the lady, then other things.
I am talking about how the straw broke the camel's back -
How problems on the emotional/psychological side can impact the physical health and how physical health
can deteriorate from it or cause the emo/psycho aspect to an afflicted individual's life.
Mental affects physical - physical affects mental and back and forth and back and forth - like a boxing match.
sooner or later both fighters are worn out.
Which of the two will be the last standing—
IF the physical remains strong, but the mind has gone, then... a state of mindless existence will persist for a season.
IF the mind remains strong but the body fails, then a state of non-active existence will persist for a season.
Think of it as growing old waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay before your time.
A kind of accelerated aging process.
What I am attempting to do is look back over life and take notes of the things that can cause serious problems.
I think it would be very wise to review one's life from the beginning to the present -
Child Sexual Molestation:
Women
I think it's important for those women who have experienced it, to learn what they can
about child sexual abuse and observe areas in their lives where problems lie that stem
from those experiences.
Men
I think it's also important for those men who have experienced it, to learn what they can
about child sexual abuse and observe areas in their lives where problems lie that stem
from those experiences as well.
Reason being is those experiences have an incredible impact on the young child's mind
Years later, the adult behaves in certain ways that stem from those experiences and in
ways that are unhealthy, if not downright reprobate.
Children With Disabilities
Children with disabilities can experience a variety of problems beyond the direct symptoms
of physical/mental disabilities - problems such as social interaction can alienate and ultimately
isolate them from an otherwise healthy social development. I, for one, was one of these kids.
(this is where I am digging, personally in my research to better understand myself)
Parental Alienation Syndrome
Children caught in the crossfire of child custody and visitations are often used as tools
to hurt the other parent by the custodial parent. ala "Love me, hate him, child"
Usually, it's a brainwashing process that evolves from frustrated speech to all out intentional
assassination of the child's other parent's existance - I am quite sure in some cases,
parents are murdered because of the hate that was taught them by their custodial parents.
It is VERY possible, that the child can grow up and be a parent who relives it as an adult,
the subject of what was once done by his own parents.
I happen to fit BOTH those categories as a child and the assassinated parent.
Posted by kalin
Speaking of growing old, I work w ppl w Alzheimer's ..have seen it everyday and thought about it all the time:p
I grew up in an old folks home...
Well, my grandparents raised me.
My Grandfather was 52 when I was born, and his dad, was born in 1857 (that's before the US Civil War)
and was 60 years old when my Grandfather was born. - in a way, I am much older than my physical self.
I've always felt "much older" even as an early teenager.
I could have been born as early as 1917, which would put me at around 96 years old.
Posted by xdimplez
self reflection/ self actualizationlooking back at your life. would you say you are satisfied with it? or atleast a tad bit happy?
Actually, No.
Looking back is not to find happiness, it's only to understand the reasons why.
Posted by kalin
Yes we bring our memories everywhere, but they eventually fade away if we are not constantly reminded by everything we used to share😉
I can remember traumatic psychological hurt and torture from over 35 years ago.
It doesn't all go away.
Sometimes, they hide dormant, then something... triggers the flashback.
I am no different than a seasoned war veteran.
A psychological war veteran and I have also seen my share of violence.
Posted by kalin
Yes we bring our memories everywhere, but they eventually fade away if we are not constantly reminded by everything we used to share😉I can remember traumatic psychological hurt and torture from over 35 years ago.
It doesn't all go away.
Sometimes, they hide dormant, then something... triggers the flashback.I am no different than a seasoned war veteran.
A psychological war veteran and I have also seen my share of violence.click to expand
I must add, that the difference is there are no national medals of honor, no commendations
no "thank yous" from anyone.
I think about how I spared a man his life a little over 21 years ago.
He now has grown children. Children that would not exist, had I lost my mind back then.
Instead, I grew stronger while he played house.
I think about all the joy he and his family had all these years totally oblivious to
how close he came to having his head cut clean off.
I think about all the families, involved and friends of that VERY REAL potential statistic.
All that grief.... think about that.... think about it..... long and hard.....
Imagine the shockwave of sorrow that would have rocked each of their worlds.
There are over 100 people who would have been shedding hot tears.
I, alone, took all that bs with me on the road. No drugs, no alcohol, no therapy...
Just the road, Coffee and Cigarettes and a lot of that misery music you hear me post
on here from time to time. Nope, I am no hero. I just did the right thing.
But ya know something—
it's ok.
🙂
At least for the moment.... 😉
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