A question to Scorpio men

I met this guy who's sun Scorpio, moon sag, mercury scorpio, venus libra, mars in Sag .. the rest of his planets are libra/sag too ..
The question is this Scorpio guy decided to do something I found humiliating to me and now I am confused. Well two weeks now, he will ask me not to talk to him when we are not together. He will call me when he will and other than that I shouldn't contact him unless he is at work hours! So outside work hours, I should wait for him to call me and i found it very alarming.

So why? He seems to be loving me deeply but I came to know his mother disapproved me totally? I never really met her but saw her briefly and said hi to her once. So at first I thought ok, w/e but then I do have feelings for the guy and if I will accept this, things are never going to be seirous so I started ignoring him ...

The thing is he started to text me daily and leave me voice mails which he doesn't usually care to do as for him, seeing me and spending time with me is most important and he is not a texting guy. Still, I am not replaying or answering any. I am not going to be the side girl who he keep as he wish or he can play with a word. So I can sense he is sencere about me but I can't figure it out how to make him regret doing it.. He showed up yesterday at my apartment door; he is friend with my neighbour and I know it was not a complete accident but he just made it btw kind of thing and I was out so I just saw them repairing the neighbour door "though both of them are not mechanically skilled" so I figured out it is a play or made up cause. He just said Hi and I said hi .. and then went inside.

I don't know what he is waiting for? Why is he calculating every step? He says in the voicemail / texts he leave I have all the rights to be mad at him but he wish I will hear him but until now he is not even trying it out. I saw in the corner of my eye his face trying to say something but I never even eyed the guy so am I being so cold and not giving him a chance ? Or should I just wait until he will come and say it: I want to talk to you so we can figure it out ?

I forgot to mention he is supporting his mother and spends remarkable time with her. They have a very strong bond and she loves him endlessly! So I think he fear I call him when he pass by her house or with her or around any of his family that is connected to her but really? :/
Friends and family has been giving me different advices and I can't figure it out ... I mean I could, I couldn't accept it. That's how I decided .

Innocent until proven guilty.


Cappygurl, give him the chance to explain himself and listen to what he has to share with you. During the intermitting time in between, try to withhold your resentment and tame your thoughts but do write out the questions in which you would like to ask him in turn.

Once you have had the conversation with him, then sit back and unleash your thoughts whilst reflecting on what was shared (analyse them if you will). Until then, you are analysing on a bed of "what-ifs" and that pathway is a dangerous pathway to go down, for any woman.


This is easier said than done but I would guarantee you, it is the most beneficial and efficient.

when you like someone, you make the time for them. not put them on restrictions to call you. the only time i understand having limits to call or text is when you're working. even then, people get breaks and can still reach out. screw this guy. i wouldn't take it. im a scorpio too and i dont think it's right.

it sounds like he has another person in his life. what's the big deal that he cannot talk freely with you? dont call or text outside of work hours? bullshit if i ever heard it.

I'm not a Scorpio and never been with one, just seem to attract them. And most of them are "calculating" even manipulative, moody and all come on very strong. (Opposite of what I'm reading above) But from reading your above, well if the mother hates you you're pretty much out of luck, cos no matter how much he likes or loves you he'll never leave the mother (nor should he) and rarely will go against the mother if she says you're a no-no.

And if he's putting restrictions on how and when to communicate with him, why would you want to go through that? Be someone's secret? If he doesn't see you as good enough to be out in the open, why is he good enough to be second, obviously not a priority in his life? "calculating every step" usually is two things ... he's afraid or has something to hide. either way seems like at this point he isn't man enough to step up ... so just step back. Take a breather. Let him prove himself to you. If he wants you, he will prove himself ... regardless of how the mother doesn't like you. Save yourself the stress, just step back ... Time tells all. Wishing you the best.

Posted by busyeyes88

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Why would anyone male or female scorpio ot not hold out for a person who does this:


"The question is this Scorpio guy decided to do something I found humiliating to me and now I am confused. Well two weeks now, he will ask me not to talk to him when we are not together. He will call me when he will and other than that I shouldn't contact him unless he is at work hours! So outside work hours, I should wait for him to call me and i found it very alarming. "

The above behaviour is disgusting. I know how I wish to be treated and I would not out up with that shit!!!! He has a false aire of 'superiority' about him and no human being has the right to treat another in such an appalling way!!

His offence was so bad that the OP took the right actions and blatantly ignored him and if I were her, I would continue to do so!! I would never let anyone treat me like that!!!

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Where did I say she should put up with it? busyeyes, you are reacting through your emotions here.

Throwing in the towel on every seeming misdemeanour is hardly logical, people often do things that seem out of place but they could very well have a good reason behind it, or they could not. Unless, we give people a chance to explain themselves we could easily be tossing worthwhile individuals out of our lives. This is not about being a doormat or tolerating the intolerable but choosing to only put up boundaries where necessary and choosing not to go on hyperdrive whilst shoving everyone out the door.

For the OP to be but emotional when the entire situation have yet to be thoroughly discussed, that would be irrational at best. Let the man talk, if he comes up with no reasonable explanation that seems plausible and truthful. The OP still has every right to end all contact and to put a stop to this situation. Nobody has to be wrong or right here, it is not black and white as of yet. No decision could possibly be made when the larger picture have yet to be revealed.

This is called - Communication.

For this one, I have to agree with the Stinger gents.

Posted by busyeyes88

How can this behaviour :

"The question is this Scorpio guy decided to do something I found humiliating to me and now I am confused. Well two weeks now, he will ask me not to talk to him when we are not together. He will call me when he will and other than that I shouldn't contact him unless he is at work hours! So outside work hours, I should wait for him to call me and i found it very alarming. "

Be explained? Would you put up with that?

busyeyes, you chose to omit half of my message and filter out exactly only what you wanted to hear.

Where did I say she had to put up with it ?

Until you will but answer that question, then you did not fully process what I wrote, previously so.

Ay, to the OP my advice have been given. Take it as you will.

However, do take the time to respond to Rabbit's question it could possibly help us aid you in your situation.

Posted by Rabbit

Posted by busyeyes88
When it comes to bad behaviour looks like there's a couple of scorps here are quick to condone it!!! But how good are they at eating it?

No one is condoning anything.

Anyone who's been here any length of time knows I'll be the first to call a motherfucker out for bad behavior.

But OP gave no background information on this situation so there's no way to make any sort of reasonable or logical conclusion.

But you've decided to feel rather than think...And faster than flies on shit I might add.

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My point precisely so and I fully agree, Rabbit.

Wow .. I am overwhelmed by all the posts but I guess it is very good to hear the discussion from both sides.
Well, I will try to clear things out and I donno share few things :

1. He is single, not cheating or seeing another girl. I know it is his mom because he mentioned he just will be around his mom and I couldn't talk to him during those times. He just said that!
2. YES, I was totally alarmed by that so I asked here because we were together for 6 weeks now and it was going great. The thing is I was holding it to be official because I didn't want to take it fast but he knows I will be there and he knows i care for him a lot.
Also : I am not a "calling nor texting" person and I find it weird because I rarely text him or call him more like once per day and suddenly he prefer if I don't do that.
3. Um, I noticed he is having a rough time because I can see he looks awful honestly. I don't know what he wanted to say to me yesterday when he showed up basically because I was startled BIG time and I couldn't turn and face or I would cry! If I am not ready or informed, I can go so emotional ISFP here and i know he was waiting for me to turn because in less than 15 minutes, he just was gone .. I spied to see if he is there and I found my neighbour door closed shut.
4. About his mom, I never met but I think she have an idea of whom she wants him to marry, one of his sister's friends ! She is one of those ladies who cling to their sons and not leave them easily and make a matches in her head.

Sometimes I don't know what bother me most : the message or the way it was delivered. He basically told me I want to ask you something but promise me you will never be upset by it. I said ok but he insisted on me not being upset by it and I end up laughing and promising him to hear this weird request. I don't know how he thought I will understand. Now I said two weeks But actually it is 8 days, started from last Sunday, so I was acting cool until Mon and then I cut him off up to now. It is not that I am upset, it is exactly what busyeyes thought : I can't believe he asked me that and I couldn't take it.

I honestly think I should take this matter off my head and just move on but as a Scorpio I thought he is strange. I've been with a Scorpio man before and he was totally different. This guy doesn't want to lose me, he actually think he is blessed he is with me but he act as if he have no luck with me too. Something is off in him and I can't figure why.