Are all Scorpio guys this tough to understand—

Ok I'll take any help I can get. This has been going on for 6 long months.

So I am finding myself in a strange relationship with a Scorpio man. We are both married (no judging please). I am in the process of divorcing, he is not. States he is just unhappy, but has bluntly stated he has no intentions of leaving his wife for me.

We both have children. We both have our own professions. We are two indipendant people in terms of our lives. I have tried to explain to him on several occations that a relationship based solely on sex is not my thing. Don't ask me how he does it but before I know it I'm right back where I started, which is usally in bed with him.

I know there are things about my appearance he does not like (my weight) and things about him that I don't like(he is always so cold and acts so uncaring at times).

He will call, text or email daily. Usally about sex but not always. I know I sound crazy but I think he really likes me. I think it's the way he looks into my eyes. Silly I know I can't explain it.

So my question is this; Why does he contact daily, then pull away, then act all sweet, then when I get apprehensive and try to pull away from him does he not let me go? When his actions are the direct reason fo my actions to seem inconsistant why does he accuse me of being erratic?

See, you say that relationship based solely on sex is not your thing...... but this is exactly what you are describing here. Just try to take a step back and look at things objectively. You are in the middle of divorce, probably looking for some support during this difficult time. That's how you got involved with this man and fall for him. However you are involved with a man who clearly told you that has no intention to leave his wife and contacts you mainly for sex. He stays in touch with you not because he respects you or wants to build future with you, but because he knows he can get easy sex anytime he wants. He just needs to look into your eyes in "his way" and he knows how to play it. I may be wrong, but this is my personal point of view on your situation.

See, if you really want to see how much he cares, find this strength in yourself and leave. For good. If he come chasing you as you and not you as a sexual experience, he is interested. Otherwise, he will let you go, as the costs of this affair will become too high, and find someone else for sex.

I tried to skip the topic of kids and cheating, as I know this is not what you are interested in here. I tried to be as objective as I could based on information you provided. Hope it helps.

If anything I have learned about Scorpio's they say what they mean....there is no reading in between the lines with them. As SS said:

"Um, it's pretty clear to me. This man is not hard to understand at all. He's just fucking you, and has no emotional attachment to you whatsoever. He said that he is not leaving his wife, meaning he is still in love with his wife, not you. Even if he doesn't love his wife anymore, it's clear that you are not important enough for him to leave his family life over

PD

Well I must say thanks for the great big splash of cold reality. A girl needs a liitle of that from time to time.

I also would like to say Scorpascendant you were right. I am in the midst of a divorce mess with my soon to be ex-Leo. I need to step back, take care of my kids first than look for myself to have some fun. I was looking for some support in a hard time. I have told Scorpio on many occations that I DO NOT want another husband, just a friend (FWB) to have fun with trips, movies, dancing. No pressure... on me!

Maybe a He has his own issues. To stay in a marriage with no love hurts everybody, but for him that's not my place to say.

As for Astrological Aftermath also good advice. My kids know the deal with our family, but his do not. I don't want to be the cause of their heartbreak. As for my clinggy and withdrawn behavior... Oh well, your right I'm a Cancer ...lol...
I guess the constant contact is the same like water from a well. Why walk a mile to the lake when the well is so close!

One question though, what did you mean with the weight issue statement? I'm only apx 35lbs overweight. It's a lot I know but with effort (diet and cardio) correctable. What would he be looking for b/c his wife is slim and attractive? I also fancy myself to be a very attractive woman.

Thanks Everybody!

I have found that Scorps will stay in a relationship even if they are no longer happy with that person if they think it's best thing to do overall (for kids/family). Also, when it comes to weight or any other issue, they have no problem telling you exactly how they feel about it.
It also sounds to me like he's just using you for sex and attention. When a Scorp wants you (for more), he will go after you. There will be no doubt. Unfortunately, it sounds like he's playing a game. This can be there MO. He wants to keep control. He has to be the one that pulls away. Please, don't let him continue to do this to you or he wins.

Posted by ramfishtwins
I have found that Scorps will stay in a relationship even if they are no longer happy with that person if they think it's best thing to do overall (for kids/family).

I had exactly the same observation and I think it is very interesting topic by itself. My impression is that Scorpio will stay in a "dead marriage" much longer then other signs, despite the fact they are unhappy and everyone else including their children notice that the relationship doesn't work. Why is that guys? Is it that you are afraid of being alone? Afraid of changes? Or you feel that this is part of "loyalty agreement" in a way that you will be unhappy but still want to keep the word?

Cancergirlnlove- seems to me that weight is a big issue in your confidence, as you mentioned it first and keep coming back to it. See, I don't think your weight plays ANY role in your situation. What plays role is lack of respect. From what I have seen, you have to earn Scorpio's respect first, in order to have healthy relationship with them. And you did not. Your weight, appearance etc. is a secondary thing.

Get yourself out of that mess. Who wants to live a life like that seriously?

Now that you are getting divorced....start dating other people. Let the Scorp know you are dating. Let's see how he will react then.

The guy doesn't like you weight but still fucks you........think about it.

I doubt he is in love with his wife. He wouldn't be fuckin another woman if he really did. He's probably just comfortable.

Who knows how many other hoes on the side he might have.

please woman stop messing with married men.....geeze!

no, I wouldnt' give up. get revenge for the lack of respect (on that I absolutely agree)
cancerin love, you might have some leo planets in your chart. give him a little taste of the leo medicine: dont' "leave" the game right away, play ... be aloof. be wierd. let him guess, dont' talk much. smile as you are in hold of som secrets whne you meet him. have agirlfrined call you whne you next se him and leave the room with a msile and a little "excuse me" and then when you're back if asked, tell him it's a relative or something. act queen.
out-scorpio him all the way.
and THEN, send him to hell.
at least you'll see him loose his surgery control on everyhting as each and every one of them
it' really easy, in the end, to win them. they have mechanical reaction to aloofness, and cold behaviour, especially if it comes unexpectedly from someone who has been tender and passionate till the minute before.
take it from a 8th house girl, I hav never seen it fails, not even with the thougher of them.
good luck.

sorry for bad typing, I am at work I'm writing as it comes.

p.s.. play!! dont' let him be the one who leaves you behind in bitterness. trust me, it's so worthy just holding on as if you were an actress for a little while. you'll be astonished with the results.
of course, if you dont' love him.
if you do.. play it double!! ciao.

"I have found that Scorps will stay in a relationship even if they are no longer happy with that person if they think it's best thing to do overall "

yes, they do. and after more than one experience I have come to the conclusion that they do so because probably the one they stick around with although they are not in love anymore (or have nver been, more often) is the safe rebound , the shiedl they use against real passion, which is a risk, which might be painful, and which might leave them out of control, sad, alone and miserable, which is exactly what might 8or might not, that is the issue) happen to people who freely and happily embrace life with no paranoia or fear of bein taken advantage and who dont' care about controlling life, brbreath and god if they could every second of their lives.that is to say, aries, or leos, or taurus and so on. but not scorpio.
just my two cents

yes, xfoosme, I understand. I have come to the conlcusion also, after all the batle and the rage and frustation, that they irritate me. sooo much. I'm also tired to walk on eggshellsm especially my leo side, because they are so supicuious and in the meantime they loose time and opprtunity.
I used to love one so much, now I gave him what I told the cancer girl to do , leo medicine, and see after all this time that iot was uch a stupid trick needed to se him melt and became a little man, I am so deceived that I really dont' want him anymore.
such a waste of time,, my goodness...

and I'll tell you more: now, after three and a half years of nightmare (we didnt' have sex. never. he had me hanging on all the time for this, he knoes that if we ever had sex I surely would have left him behind in short. I sense him as not.. well let' say not relly working on that, and this has ben the reson I have never been really merciless with him), I know that he knoes, somewher deep down inside him, that my love for him was pure, and that it was the one chance for both to be reborn pure and simple, after two separate lives of cinism and all the mess you can imagine. deep down, he knows it. but he also knows that he has transformed my love for him in a clash of wills (I have leo rising, a cap moon, a virgo mars and all my planets are in 8th house, go figure..) out of insecurity, ego issues and the fear I could be a slut and cheat on him. which could have been, I dont' deny it. in time, maybe. but he didnt' wanted to TRY. to see what could have been. THIS, is the cause of my frustration. I have an aqau venus in 8th house. I must EXPERIMENT. I can't stand fears and trenors in sentimental milieu, I ma - always ben - a sentimental kamikaze, fearless and fiery. I only fear illness. and this man had come across a s strong, confident, a real man. and it came out, in the long run, as a sentimental coward. and a sentimental valium, too. I dont' love him anymore. I wanr him to suffer. to cry and put his hands in the few hair he has, and realize in full what he has lost. not me. what I represent, and what he'll never have in his life again.
and, I am succedding in this. He's doing all the repetoire of tricks to keep me where he wanted me to stay: living for his breaths, and I am gradually taking everything off from him. like neurosurgery.
this is a bitter revenge, I knwo. but you know waht? it has a pleasnat flavour anyway, lieke sugar in absinthe

""they have mechanical reaction to aloofness, and cold behaviour, especially if it comes unexpectedly from someone who has been tender and passionate till the minute before.""

I swear my scorp bf pushes me complete coldness just so he can get it hot again. Or maybe like it was mentioned above, he has to be the one to pull away and goes crazy when I am the one who pulls away. Either way, every time he pushes me away, the further away I get. I'm not sure where this is heading anymore. Every time I make a retreat, the lesser the odds are for my return. Mr. Scorpio needs to realize that playing mind games with a virgo means there will be consequences to pay. It looks like this includes other signs as well... or is it the virgo in mars (for macbeth?) Lol

Ladies, Ladies, Ladies! If I do not tell you how fantastic the advice has been than may a bolt of lighting strike me down!

LadyMacBeth took your advice and when he emailed to see me today I shook him off. Told him no several different ways, all sweetly then at the last time I was harsh and said no.

I can just imagine that he is stewing because I have not yet heard from him.

I also agree with the statements made eailer. His big thing to say to me me all the time is "Do you have any idea how beautiful you are? If you lost some weight I know you would have guys crawling all over you" Back handed compliment! Or he will look through my photo books and make comments like "Damn you used to be so hot". Then he will ask me if I worked out or what I ate for the day.

Then if I lose a few pounds he will get mad at me over something stupid! I have just noticed it's all about his control issues! I have never noticed it before!!! My ex is a control freak but it was more out in the open.

I work in a very non female friendly enviorment so I keep a very strong demenor most of the time, but still hold a firm grip on my feminine qualities. He uses my weight aka low self esteem to work as the catalyst to change my feelings about myself for his control.

Damn! you girls are good! So glad I posted! My view much more clear from the outside.

Ya know what Cancer.... I don't even get why you are making this an issue. You are fuck buddies. So what if he's using your weight against you? So what if he won't leave his wife for you? He sure as hell doens't care about you and yet you are making an issue out of "making him stew" like it's some sort of game to be won.


You are a toy plain and simple and you are continuing to ALLOW yourself to be a toy. He's fucking you body and mind. Duh.

And you know the really messed up part about it all........... you are the only one that can stop it but you CHOSE not to. Whining how bad he is to you (though you went into this relationship KNOWING you both were married and he wasn't going to leave his wife for you) is not going to change a damn thing. You have no right to whine about it. You went in this knowing that you were simply a piece to him. Where did you think that would change?

Damn *shakes head*

cancergirl, so glad it helped. but trust me, stick on it. the longer the better.
know what? it comes to my mind some lyrics from a song I dont' remember from who that said "if I am a mistery please dont' ever solve me, I wont' be a mistery anymore". it fits to scorpio in reverse: if you find out the key to out-scorpio them, you'll find that behind the mask there's.. nothing. no mistery. only a big baby playing games that anyway can be dangerous, if taken seriously because from the other side there's love, or a strong feeling anyway. they are killers, for this, and they deserve revenge, but do look underneath, observe them in the long run and you'll discover no man under there. it's so sad. I dont' regret having been so in love with this "man", because I had a limit experience very deep, I know how far I can go, now, but he was just an object. the projectyion of my fantasies, precisely because he was, in the end... blank!!
they are human only whne you leave them behind with indifference, but it must be real or they smell the game and take control anyway again. when they sense it's real, they can be stalkers for life.
I wish you to meet someone better, I wemt through a divorce too, and dont' worry, men will popo up in your life. better men.

Point is you got yourself into this mess and now you are trying to appear to be the "victim" of his nastiness. Bullshit. Ypu both are made from the same cloth. Cheaters.

You are a victim of your poor lack of judgment. Face the music and move on.

excuse me, ginger. and what if she loved him, or was emotionally involved (which I think she is, though she didnt' say it straight away). why should she just disappear leaving him win, as you say and I say too?
why not giving him the same game in return? why not, do you think he deserve to use her and THEN to be left unpunished or free to go out and do the same to other women without even trying to leave him I'm not saying wiht a scar, (too few human material to be done...) but at least with a bitter taste in his mouth?

They were both married and he told her from the get go he wasn't leaving his wife. She chose to go ahead with the relationship with that knowledge. She could have told him no but she didn't thinking he would change his mind or whatever. He didn't. Yeah.... go figure.... a stubborn "fixed" scorpio. It happens. Now she wants to whine like she didn't know from the start how he felt. Surprise!!! Bullshit. Surprise my ass. She knew because he told her.
She chose to let her emotions get involved. He didn't force her. Her burden to carry not his.

No victims here. Just stupidity and poor lack of judgment from BOTH of them.

"She chose to let her emotions get involved. "
you see? it's right here.
dont'take it personally but ironically, ginger scorp, but you are a scorpio too, and you might try to understand that not everybody is so concerned about not "letting emotions get involved". the "involvment"of emotions it's not supidity, its' the spice of life. to most people, you know. it's the scorpio kind that always thingk, even subconscoiusly, that this must not be done unless there are perfect condition, perfect people, perfect lack of danger.
that is why they so often end up alone.

It's really not hard to understand Ladymacbeth. She let her emotions get involved with fair enough warning and knowledge that this wasn't going to be an emotional relationship to him. He TOLD he that in advance but she let it go down that path anyway.
No emotions are not stupid. We are a water sign. We thrive on emotion but ONLY when it's with someone we (Scorps) respect. It's pretty obvious that he had no intentions for her other then to have sex with her. No respect, no emotions. Not his problem she MADE it hers.

Now she want's to appear to be a victim by saying he's giving her "backhanded compliments". Well... what the hell did she expect from a guy who only wants to have sex with her........like he said from the start.

Look... if she wants to get "even" here's what she needs to do. Tell the wife. But be fair. Tell the wife she had an affair with her husband KNOWING she entered the relationship with a married man that told her he wasn't going to leave his wife for her. Let the wife know what kind of a woman decides to carry on an affair with a married man. It's simple. Be honest about it.
If revenge is what she wants then there it is but she needs to realize that she's not innocent in this whole situatuion either. Trying to appear to being victimized by the big bad Scorpy is total BS. It wins her no sympathy as she made her own bed and now it appears she is lying in it.

Oh.... yes Scorps are often loners. Why? Because we want what's right for us? And? Isn't that everyone? We don't settle for just the first thing that comes along..... that's not just a Scorpio thing. Desperate people are the ones that settle .... no matter what sign.

excuse me, maybe it's my virgo mars, but I think you still miss my point:
warning?
knowledge?
and what on earth has this to do with emotions, or love?
see? still the control stuff.
and who's talking about settling? she said she was being treated unfair.
and plus, I wouldnt' call the wife. this woukld mean do him a big favour. if you undertake my meaning...

Control? I guess I'm not seeing what you mean. So I'm not going to argue as it's pointless.
A person can be controlled only if they allow it. Be strong enough to know your limit and stand your ground. It's not a hard concept to follow.
He treated her badly.... boo hoo. She got into a fucked up relationship from the start. what did she expect? A marrige proposal? He said clearly he wasn't going to leave his wife. She still got involved. Her decision..... her problem.

Ladies if I may say, At first when we "hooked up" he told me he was trying to find a way to leave his wife. He told me all abbout a nice place he was securing for himself. I took him at his word.

He also told me he was looking for a relationship to have fun in, but with no pressure like I was.

When this started out I thought we were two people in the same place. Turns out I was wrong. He was looking for a FWB only. I was looking for something more with no pressure. It was not untill I called him out on the carpet that he told me he was never leaving. To be honest from that day on I havent seen him only spoke or e-mailed.

As for making him stew, I think a little taste of your own medicine is always good. As for the bed I have made, I am laying in it.

I don't claim to be a victim, just wanted to know if all he ever wanted was sex why wont he let me go? And why does he get so Jealous and possessive. I have-- I mean had to "check in" every morning at the very least once a day with him or he would get all testy.

I have tried to break it off several times. He always sweet talks his way back in. Actually at first it was insults, when that did not work it became sweetness, which as a female Cancer I'm a sucker for (lol).

But now I know, it's because I caved in every time. He just wanted sex.

Alas silly boy tricks are for kids!

yes, you dont' see what I mean. I mean the control scorpios wnat to have on THEIR OWN emotions, and others, too. that's why you speak in terms of "he said it clarly". so what? are there limits, I mean rational judgemental limits to love someone or getting involved though you know it might be painful, or something has been "said from the start"?? it's what I'm trying to say all the way in this threads.
I suppose we proceed from different point of views in a larger sense about love and emotions. but I dont' think it's pointless to exchange differnet pointy of views.
anyway, I wish all good fto cancergirls

Wait a sec... you said you haven't spoke or emailed him but you have to check in every day? I'm confused. So you do talk to him?

Further more who cares if he gets testy? Your just his piece. Why should you care?

You said YOU get drawn in (by insults? that's a first). That is YOUR problem. Walk away. He can only control you or "suck you in" if YOU allow it.

Taste of his own medicine? So your saying if YOU got married and your man started an affair with another woman that would be a taste of your own medicine huh?

Wow Ginerscorp hold on now, I said I have not seen him I have only had phone and email contact.

As for him tasting his own medicine, yes I think he should. I am not a victim but I did start a relationship based on what I believed to be other facts vs the facts presented at a later date IE: calling him out on the carpet.

Just because he is unhappy in his marriage it does not give him the right to use people. Granted I should have been more asertive in investigating the facts, but I took him on his word.

I did still "check in" until this morning. when he called I gave him a bit of sass and asked why he was calling he said because he had not heard from me. I bluntly said "well, I'm not in the mood to fool around right now, but take care and I'll be sure to call to when I am" and I then ended the convo.

Gingerscorp I take responsibility for my end. And with a cold splash I got a good wake up call. My question was why does he hold on. Unfortunately as painful as the answer may be, he holds on for sex, attention, and for me to make his ego feel good. Everything he does not seem to be getting at home, or not enough of anyway.

If the feelings were there for real, I would know. A Mr. Darcy he is not.

Gingerscorp jump back a few messages I think I will be more clear. When I posted (my first post) I was trying to keep it short and to the point. In my quest to keep it short I missed some information.

well, I dont' realy agree. sometimes to be "responsible for the situations we find ourselves in" might mean to be true to ourselves and to what we really feel, at the moment. evryone is always saying "cut tirs, and move on ". yes, she might. apparently. not calling, not DOING naything. but if inside there's a tie, evene if it looks mean to you, but for her is a te, she has to let the steam off, to be REALLY over. and revenge, (in a realy small way, see. I dont' agree, I repeat, with the violence of telling the wife, as an instance, that's a classic scorpio thing. just saying give him a little.. bomb..) is a way to to let the steam go slowly.
no one "moves on" easily or fast. if they say so, they lie to themselves. and feelings, and attractions, and delusions, dont' go away like this.
and plus: do you really think you can really have "full control2 over your emotions?
because I dont'. I can control my BEHAVIOUR, not what I feel. otherwise evryone would direct emotions only into the right direction, find the perfect person, or situations, and everybody would be perfectly happy, like inside a huge Truman show.
I dont' think one should cut off emotions, which is anyway impossible, at a soul, deep level.
I think one should find a way to deal with it.
but the "move on right now" stuff is just air.

Cancergirlinlove...
I've been trying to send you a message, but it keeps erroring out...go to this link and read the whole thing. I'm not sure if you've seen this before, but it's so spot on. Write me back and let me know what you think 😉

http://scorpiosingles.tribe.net/thread/7b9a3da0-ca18-49b4-baa7-5d9f2c8d10bf<BR>
RFT

As I've mentioned before in other threads, don't get involved in revenge tactics with a scorpio. Anything you can muster up will pale in comparison to what they could have up their sleeves. It's dangerous and could be very costly.
It's beyond hard to move on, but in time it will get better...I promise. It may not seem like it, but moving on (or him thinking you are moving on) is actually the best revenge for a Scorpio. You have the control now and they will go nuts.

Posted by LovelyMissAries

As for Astrological Aftermath also good advice. My kids know the deal with our family, but his do not. I don't want to be the cause of their heartbreak.

And you WON'T BE! Because he's not leaving his wife for you and probably will never come out to his family about this as he's a Scorpio!

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Lovely hit it on the head...he will take this to his grave. He's probably not even told his best friend about this.

"The alternative is to continue suffering, stuck in a situation that is not good for you emotionally. Its going to hurt, but you'll get to a better destination much faster."

this is exactly my point in reverse: you dont' stop the suffering , if it is there, forcing ANYTHING. and no one gets nowhere without letting the pain in, living it the whole way, and THEN, only then, after the pain has been experienced and it has expired in its own natural timing and terms, get to a better destination.
in the meantime, a little revenge might help...

"don't get involved in revenge tactics with a scorpio. Anything you can muster up will pale in comparison to what they could have up their sleeves"

well, unless you're a scorpio in the closet. then it can be fun, also.

"him thinking you are moving on) is actually the best revenge for a Scorpio. You have the control now and they will go nuts."
on this I agree.

but loev and pain it's another deep, serious story. that's where I refuse all the "control" over anything stuff.

Very very true Xfoos. There has to be a complete cut off...if not, you are still giving up your control.

"but loev and pain it's another deep, serious story. that's where I refuse all the "control" over anything stuff."

Well, if he thinks you are in control whether or not you actually are is what matters. I think it's important for him to think you don't need him and are over it. If he senses there's still something there, the game begins again and he will capitalize on it.

Posted by XFoosMe
Revenge is a huge waste of time and energy and if you remain focused on giving him a taste of his own medicine, hes still got a hold on you....hes still controlling you. Your best bet is to cut ties, turn around and never look back. Karma will take care of the rest.

Agree.

I guess it depends on personality, the way people deal with this thing. I think in this particular situation, revenge will lead nowhere. Simply because he is not involved emotionally and she is, meaning she can only play with his ego but never with his deep emotions. And real revenge is about hurting someone on the same level they hurt us. She will never be able to achieve that now, because lack of emotional balance in this relationship. Scorpio will sense immediately change in her behavior and get the feeling that he is manipulated by her. And even if at the surface it may look like she will be temporally in control, she will not be. This will give him overall feeling that she still cares, meaning he is still in control. Simply because revenge means some kind of emotional involvement, if we have enough energy to put into it, that's the sign we still care (frequently subconsciously). I personally agree with complete detachment. It's much more difficult, takes much more self-control and strength but at the end, you conserve energy and concentrate on improving yourself as a person. You start slowly, very slowly moving forward, which we all know is not an easy task in this kind of situations.

Cancer please do me and urself a favor and get out of this RIGHT NOW! U really shouldn't have gotten involved... u have other things to attend to.. He is using u... do be used.. Man up!

don't be used*

This has been a tough afternoon.

I answered his call(mistake). He gave me the whole song and dance as usual. I asked him not to call me again and when he said why I told him it was time for me to move on. He got all testy and was very "that's it? time to move on?" and I said very tightly "(his name) men are like trains, when you miss one, 15 minutes there will always be another pulling into the station, never forget the only people you cannot replace in this world are your kids and your family"

Then I hung up. And God do I want to call him and take it all back.

After his phone call I left work early and joined weight watchers (very expensive by the way and you have to go once a week, who has time for that!)I think it's time for a change.

This has been a very rough two days, well six moths with Scorpio actually, well if you include my exhusband make it an even 3 years!

Please wish me luck (I need it!).

Oh yes Ramfishtwins I just read the post and page you left. What can I say? Anybody have a hershy bar? (lol) just kidding. I don't think it's all Scorpios, but it nailed mine on the head!

Boy I am so stupid!

Thanks for all the support.

Just got home from the Verzion store and changed my cell number. I think If I have contact I will cave in so fast. Wish me luck.

If I may say this is very hard. I have only known him 6 months, but I was so much more into him than my husband (now almost ex husband) of 7 years. Crazy how life works.

Thanks Ya'll!

I'm so very proud of you Cancer girl!!!
I know how hard this all is, but you know you are doing the right thing. You are putting you first and that's so important. Take back your life...that's the greatest revenge! I think it was really good that you had a chance to let him know that you are done. Better to put it all out there then keep it inside, but that's me as an Aries talking 😉

I'm glad you liked the post...I think it's pretty spot on for most of them.

Please keep us posted 🙂
YOU GO!!

Ok just a quick update I am so sorry to kill everybody with my b% llsh $ t.

He emailed me 13 times. I have read them all but responded to none. First they were very sexy like usual, then this last one (number 13) was very strange. He completely disregarded sex and wrote me about his hobbie. He is into rock climbing, mountain climbing, very dangerous and extreme sports. Told me about his newset "adventure" he was planning, and where, and when, he never mentioned sex AND asked me my opinion. I find it strange because for months I have been trying to get him to open up and NOW he does, why?

Is this a trap do you think? To get me to write back?

PS

He never once mentioned my cell phone.

Should I A) write back and tell him I'm really not interested?
B) write back and keep it as friends?
C) No contact, don't write back?

Any suggestions? They have been rather dapper for the most part so far.

My goodness I am 38 and I feel like I am 18 all over again. EWWW!

After I posted I made up a new email on aol and sent it out on a needs to know basis. You right. Can't be friends, would never work. He doesn't want a friend he wants sex.

Just a bump in the road.

But I must say this whole situation has left me utterly and completely disgusted.

Thanks everybody!

Posted by XFoosMe
The fact that you're still posting updates and seeking advice tells me you haven't really decided anything...and you clearly haven't let go. You're playing his game.

Well, I would be really amazed if she would be able to let go in such a short period of time. If she would be able to achieve it, that would mean we all are wasting our time here talking about it as there is nothing to talk about. Changing cell phone and email is a good start but this is not where main change happens. It happens deep inside of us and takes much more efforts and time for it to be really true.

Posted by XFoosMe
And yeah...in my opinion hes just trying a new tactic with you because the first 12 emails didn't work. He's changed course, but I don't think for one second he's 'opening up to you' now.

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Agree. It's pretty clear to me, too.

Pay attention. He is trying to find a new topic, only slightly personal (it's hobby, nothing really deep, many people can know that) but will never come out of his comfort zone and admit any feelings or address future together. My guess -because there is none.

Good luck to you Cancer girl. Get some rest and peace of mind with this situation.

Posted by ramfishtwins
Cancergirlinlove...
I've been trying to send you a message, but it keeps erroring out...go to this link and read the whole thing. I'm not sure if you've seen this before, but it's so spot on. Write me back and let me know what you think 😉

http://scorpiosingles.tribe.net/thread/7b9a3da0-ca18-49b4-baa7-5d9f2c8d10bf<BR>
RFT

What a great article! I am curious to buy the book now. Thanks for the link RFT!

Did you read the link CancerGirl? It's frickin hilarious and so true. Everyone curious about scorpio men should read it.