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Thanks happykit! Bring on the tests?! Hmmmm i dont know if im willing to put up with this, even tho i realize if i dont he'll assume im not that into him then, what a conflict! :SSSS
only a sag would say "bring on the tests!"
thats exactly how i feel!!! with every tests he will up the ante but dont let him get away with anything...even the smallest infraction.
once the tests have started and you have decided to play ...always play 2 steps ahead because hes playing 3 steps ahead..you must be a formidable opponent and he will be impressed. be genuine at all times..
when he (scorpio male) is being bad...like any child with a temper tantrum...you must punish him! 🙂 and he will fall head over heels...
if love is mutual, you both will fight to keep the other...
invest in knee pads, dont be to proud to grovel, dont ever be scared to tell him to F off
go go go sagi! The diff between a sagi and a gemini (muyself), is that you wud tell play along or tell him to F off, gems on the other hand, will walk away after delivering a lecture of what is right and what is wrong, and why i walked away.
Never been this confused tho, but its true what u said, if he cared he'l fight, il just walk away and say no whenever he invites me out. I dont wana burn any bridges and confront now, just wana test the waters for now
as a gemini, he should find your lingustics to be impressive
oh he does, he's impressed yet terrified by it trust me! He has ministers and friends from the royal family! And when he introduced me, i was so myself and treated everyone equally coz thats what i amm, a communicator, i put people at ease and i dont care what someones profile or status is and im just myself. He was so thrilled yet petrified u shudve seen his faceeeeee loooooooooool!!!!
So tell me sagi, how do u advise i say the no when he invites me out? i know for a fact he will today.
well one thing i dont do is turn down a date or a meeting...
the trick is to never give him the chance to ask. but once he ask, i would not suggest telling him no. when my scorp wants to see me and i feel like now is a good time to punish him, i will ignore his calles, texts, etc.. BUT he will get me back even harder.
but just remember once you start the game, there is no turning back.
has he done anything for you to punish him or to ignore him? if not, than keep it as buisness as usual...
Did u read my posts— He would say tomorrow and then when tomorrow comes he wud make other plans! Or say hel see me next week then wud delay it to the next one (good reasons, business travelling etc), then the next week passes already and i dont hear from him! How can i say yes to a date when he didnt even offer an excuse for not going out last week like he promised, more like 3 weeks now.
I dont think he deserves to be ignored, but to say no to? Yes i think its time. But the question is, HOW to say no, since he is very vindictive even to what word i choose instead another!
oh ok, if your ready go for it...
consume yourself into you day or hobbies, then it will be easy to ignore him...
in other words. "get a life" and he would want to be apart of it.
no offense, its hard to keep up with EVERYBODYS story with their scorpio or with their sig others.
Hehe no its ok no worries, i hear you.
I do have a life, so much of a life that i think he hates it, im too social for him and i think thats another think he;s impressed by yet hates, aahh anyways, il let go and let God, and see what happens, theres a motto i highly believe in: if u want something bad u gota let it go, if it comes back to then its meant to be.
haha, yes he hates your social life...well , more so that he wants exclusive rights to you
I know scporppio get turned on and challenged when theyre treated bad, thats one card i know about but never use, i hate to ignore people or treat them bad or punish them, why? so that the game gets more 'interesting' and 'challenging'? I think thats sch a waste of time, im either in or out, i either confront or be patient, but i dont want to play, and if that means i dont care enough, then thats just real pathetic. Things shud no be this difficult.
if you dont want to play the games, than i would gracefully bow out now
My curiosity will wait la little longer, i wont play, if i say no when he asks me out, he will think i am 'playing', but what im really doing is, im stepping back to get answers, to see if hel try enough or not.
why not tell him that you dont want to go out with him because of this and that?
I wish!
has bluntness worked out well with u?
yes..in more ways than you can imagine
i am myself. i am DMV at all times, even around him. when i dont like something, im going to tell him.
ok bear with me girl
what do u think of this?
Hey 🙂, you know what ? I really like u and care for u a lot, but i dont like the way you communicate with me and how it makes me feel. Its confusing and offensive, you do it often and i always make up excuses for u, but it seems like a trend, cant see u eve if i want to
— ouch its bad? how can i confront him without burning any bridges, i know i shud say it face to face, so i can watch his reaction and not give him time to think what to say, but i dont want to.
wow, you are really a nice person..
why dont you just stay nice and leave him alone..
i dont think you will like the underworld..
im fine with the udnerworld as long as i understand it, been with a scorpio man b4 and i helped him rise up the surface. 'Why dont u be nice and leave him alone?'
By that u mean NOT confront or complain?
if you fine with the underworld, then you havent been there yet...
what was he going through?
if the only bad thing that he has done to you is cancel a few dates, then count your blessings.
as nice as you are, i dont think you can really handle the dark side of him. stay nice. you dont even want to hurt his feelings..
aww poor him....
gurl please.
the best part about us is that he knows i can see thru him and understand him, he knows i not judgmental and strong enough to handle him the way he is, but thats the problem here, im too acceptable of peoples nature that i NEED to snap out of it!
You're right, im too nice, thats one of the strongest lessons i learned this year, not to be too ok with everyone and everything, i always adapt and see the good side of things and people.
He went thru a divorce 3 years ago and i think he still didnt get over it, he has a kid whom he supports and a TAURUS EX WIFE! A monster. Plus he travels a lot since hes a regional manager.
Dammit i have a headache now, im going out! Thanks girl il keep u posted! I think il text him what i just told u, with some edits here and there, will let u know 😄
Thanks again 🙂))
Well, I was surprised to get a Merry Christmas text from 'my' Scorp at 12:30am last night. I was surprised considering how we left it.
These guys really are a tough nut to crack. Truthfully, I'm still hoping it will all be worth it someday, but I just haven't seen it yet.
My guy also just blows off plans. No "sorry, can't make it" or "something came up". Its complete avoidance.
You're really got to put them in their place sometimes and put your foot down. Otherwise, they'll walk all over you.
I hear u shadows, i putting my foot down for sure this time, will keep u updated! 😄D
Re ur ex's text, i think theyre gentleman and they always like to be nice and do whats right, mine also contacted me during the holidays after hes been away for a couple of weeks, maybe hes just being nice, nothing behind it? Dont know :"S:S
only a sag would say "bring on the tests!"
thats exactly how i feel!!! with every tests he will up the ante but dont let him get away with anything...even the smallest infraction.
once the tests have started and you have decided to play ...always play 2 steps ahead because hes playing 3 steps ahead..you must be a formidable opponent and he will be impressed. be genuine at all times..
when he (scorpio male) is being bad...like any child with a temper tantrum...you must punish him! 🙂 and he will fall head over heels...
if love is mutual, you both will fight to keep the other...
invest in knee pads, dont be to proud to grovel, dont ever be scared to tell him to F off
Haha I like youre style . I used to date a leo so I'm used to groveling sadly. I dish out the compliments when they are needed and when they are genuine and I can tell scopio man likes them because they always gets that same dumb smile on his face ;P But what man doesn't like to be told they're amazing or doing a good job.
Thankfully this scorpio guy is a gentleman and not often naughty, but I do often call him out on games he is playing because even though he doesn't realize he's subconsciously doing them I pick up on them fast. And boy do I know you gotta stay at least 2 steps ahead. I play the games back, but mine are very very subtle. I cover my tracks good, but that's from having to deal with an ex who covered his track well. If theres one thing I got outta that terrible relationship it was how to play the game and play it so you didn't even know anything was going on until it was too late.
Don't get me wrong tho...I let him think he wins because if I don't he'd probably either get hurt or frustrated. They just love to win...and he always lets me know it.
*sigh* it's times like these when scorpios are backing away that being a sag comes in handy. I often go months at a time without talking to even good friends because I don't really see the need to communicate unless it's something important. Maybe that's also the scorp signs in me o.o hmm.
Anywho...waiting sucks, but glad you guys got texts from your scorps. I send a mass text of "merry christmas" and got a response back saying the same. Not that I really expected less.. It's common courtesy to wish the other person a merry xmas when they've said it first to you >😄
Hmm ok the way you explained what he's doing with moving the times and dates etc....I do that. I do it so much. It's not a game I promise you. All you need to do is sit down and speak openly to him about how you feel. Have a heart to heart...but don't blame him...if that makes sense?
"I really love spending time with you. Do you have any idea that when you say to meet you at 8...I'm already ready at 7! I actually feel hurt when, for some reason, one of us can't make the time/day...but I feel good when I think I can just see you the next day instead. Sometimes it's really difficult to fit in with your schedule and I feel a little left out... I would love it if we could figure out a way to communicate better and try harder to see each other."
That might be a bit mooshy but yeah...haha.
The reason I do it is because for some reason I talk myself into thinking they actually wouldn't want to see me the next day or whatever. I kind of don't think they like me enough and don't want to come across as clingy so I do something else instead. It usually happens when I think the person is too good for me (which is often). But if they said something like that to me...about how they feel, I would feel more confident to keep up my promises. Kind of like encouragement to keep seeing them consistantly.
Also from my experience Gems come across as rather intelligent, confident and social to me (I've only really met Gem girls). I feel strange when they decide to try and be my friend because I like talking slow about deep things, dark rooms and...I don't know...silence haha. So I'm quicker to wonder what they want from me...or why they would even want to talk to me. He might just need insurance that you DO like him and DO like spending time with him.
If he can't change once you've expressed yourself to him then it may be time to decline him when he wants to see you. Or atleast not go out of your way to be available for him.
Also about your social life...he may THINK he hates it...but if he's anything like me he probably is just jealous of it and insecure about it 😛 There is a Leo kind of in my life at the moment and he's very social (he also sucks at keeping times...or communication) and I thought I hated it until I realised I'm just being jealous and want to lock him up in a dungeon so he only gets to see me 🙂 haha. Yes I am crazy. Or am I? Yes I am 🙂 but kind of not...just a little bit 😉
Posted by happykitsune
*sigh* it's times like these when scorpios are backing away that being a sag comes in handy. I often go months at a time without talking to even good friends because I don't really see the need to communicate unless it's something important. Maybe that's also the scorp signs in me o.o hmm.Anywho...waiting sucks, but glad you guys got texts from your scorps. I send a mass text of "merry christmas" and got a response back saying the same. Not that I really expected less.. It's common courtesy to wish the other person a merry xmas when they've said it first to you >😄
waiting does suck
Don't get me wrong tho...I let him think he wins because if I don't he'd probably either get hurt or frustrated. They just love to win...and he always lets me know it.
click to expandhe's or (she's) so cute when they win.... 🙂
Don't get me wrong tho...I let him think he wins because if I don't he'd probably either get hurt or frustrated. They just love to win...and he always lets me know it.
he's or (she's) so cute when they win.... 🙂
click to expandHaha I guess you could say cute. It's probably more so cute when he thinks he wins all the time. I try not too be too open and let him know that I'm actually laughing at him... secretly I'm laughing evily inside :3 I can't say he doesn't win some tho...even if he doesn't know it he drive me crazy... what am I saying...I have a big mouth so of course he knows the situations he puts me in drive me nuts. I spend hours analyzing just one conversation o.o He drives me insane
they can be confusing in the sense that they are irrational as fuck. i find that if i just think about things rationally, it beats any power game.
i also spend time analyzing conversations and text messages. why not?! i bet you he does
You know I bet he does analyze them too.
And I'm sure scorpios are quite easy to figure out...to me most people are, but that's when I can be level headed and think. This guy seriously messes with my logical thought proccess. I don't think its a scorpio thing...I just think I've fallen hard
i think we talk about them alot but its true what someone said earlier, they are already figured out, they appear complex because of their mystery and hardly saying a word or two, but i think we all know thats because theyre very venerable and its just a safety mechanism, if you understand that, you pretty much translate every word or action he does, we come here to share experiences and TO VENT!!! because scorpios make us wana do that! haha
lol will check them out in a minute, u a scorpio man i suppose.
Interesting how the last 2 songs you chose are by GEmini artists! We are so underestimated ! hehe 😛😛
Good stuff, Kylie's songs would match a Scorpio story, will listen to paulas one now
hahah true!!
'how about some information pleaaaaaaaaseee!
lolol
haha no i just think theyre not online. 😛
good song to remember: ''shudve known better'.
u scorps have danger written all over ur faces yet we jump in anyways 😛
Posted by pigeonpie
😛
I'll let you into a little secret, these were just the songs that were playing on VH1 at the time I was posting.😛
Although it is interesting that something can be found in these songs regardless of that fact 🙂🙂
Just trying t o be humourous and a bit of a smart arse too.
Notice how only you are able to answer too leelaa, everyone else is speechless at the depth of this scorpionic mind.
Lol Scorpios always seem to be smartasses don't they 😛
I'm not speechless, I was just enjoying some sexytime as many sags do psh
Oh how did you know doggy was my fav position :o
No really tho...I have scorpio moon. How could I not at least unstand part of who I am
lol @ blame aries moon
Well from what I gather aries is pretty stupid. At least they come off as stupid because of their big mouths
well not stupid, they just dont think things through.
their motto is I DO
not so much "lets think about this and then make a carefully weighed decision"
which is what you would want your strongest warrior to do. not think, just act.
Posted by pigeonpie
OK, if Scorps are easy to figure out etc blah di blah, why is the Scorp section the most popular ?
I do believe you ladies are talking rot.
Elaborate please 🙂
because scorpios love to talk about themselves?
most popular.....haven`t heard that since high school, though! good one
scoripos arent that hard to figure out. they need love just live everyone else.
its just that some of the people they involve themselves with are dumb as rocks
live = like
ok heres a question for u, especially for you pigeonpie, is my scorpio simply just not interested??
We were supposed to meet up 2 weeks ago, and when i initiated, he postponed it till the next week, since he had to leave for a business trip etc, i was hurt so i told him he cudve made time for me that week if he wanted to, received no response form him!! Few days later he send me a vanacy post, since he knows im going thru tough times with my current job, since then its been 3 weeks now and he still didnt ask me out, is he throwing hints at me that hes just not interested? since he didnt reply to that ''u cudve made time for me this week if u wanted to" text? And is giving false promises re outings—
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I agree with you 🙂 And honestly if it doesn't work out there is enough in common that I have with this scorp of mine that I'd love to just be friends with him...so I say bring on the tests!