Aries/Scorpio fight

We all know how "turbulent" an Aries/Scorp relationship can be. We love eachother deeply and we both know how much we love eachother. BUT....when it comes to emotions, we speak two totally different languages.

Heres what happened...

He went out to his friend Michelle's beach house. I know they've been good friends for a very long time and I've met her a few times. I got along with her, but I just didnt feel a connection...plus, I dont trust her. All she does is talk about her fake boobs and she's good friends with his ex-girlfriend. Anyway, he got pretty wasted down there and when i talked to him the next morning, he was still down there. I was glad he didn't drive drunk and didn't want to make a big deal that he stayed there. What i told him was that for next time, he better not stay there. It's just not cool for him to stay at another chicks house....especially a girl that i dont like.

God forbid he understands me. He says I dont trust him, which i wholeheartedly do. Then he tries comparing it to me staying at my best friends house with her boyfriend there. I started getting so upset because I wouldnt even THINK of staying at another guys house, regardless of how long we've known eachother. I don't even THINK of hanging out with my guy friends without him there. He tells me to stop caring so much. He says I should just do what i want. What I want is to respect him and not make him mad. But apparently he could care less about what I think. It apparently didnt even cross his mind that I would be mad that he stayed at ANOTHER FUCKING GIRLS HOUSE. He says it would be ok for ME to stay at another guys house. WHAT?!?! Is he on crack? I mean help me scorpios, is he serious? Or is this just a guy thing? I am totally confident that nothing happened between him and Michelle. Thats not whats bothering me. His lack of consideration is what ticks me off when I give him all the consideration in the world.

What should I think of all this? Is the fact that he was trying to justify this behavior really bad? Do i need a reality check? help.

If he was so drunk that he couldn't even drive, maybe all he wanted to do was sleep and since her crib is comfortable he stayed there. I know when I'm really drunk, I'm not thinking about my man's opinions, I'm thinking about sleeping and I don't care where. If he was sober and slept at her house then that is a different story. Maybe you don't trust him 100% (thats what this sounds like to me)? Do you think his ex-girlfriend was at the party?

Maybe he trusts you enough that if you got drunk, he wouldn't mind if you slept at a guy's house. Knowing me I'd test him and do it then watch his reaction. :evil grin:

I'd like to hear what the Scorpio's here think about this. I find it funny that "he tries comparing it to me staying at my best friends house with her boyfriend there" - this statement would make me think that on some level it bothered him that you did that so he figured he would give you a taste of your own medicine by sleeping at Michelle's house. I point this out because my Scorpio boyfriend would say something like that only if it bothered him & got him jealous (most of the time he tells me when he's jealous or upset and other times I have to use my intuition to figure it out). My Scorpio, when hurt, gives me a taste of my own medicine. So maybe thats what your Scorpio is doing to you.

"He says it would be ok for ME to stay at another guys house" - either he trusts you so much that it wouldn't bother him (and expect you to trust him as much) or he is just testing you to see your reaction.

I would have no problem if my guy stayed at his friend--who happened to be a girl"

I don't find this to be believable. U couldn't care less though...

Rox ...I think the lady in question is an Aries complaining about her man whoz a Scorpio.

for mm: This is about control .. has nothing to do with consideration, for if it was .. then LL410 would take into consideration that this is his very good friend.

for mm: "He says I dont trust him, which i wholeheartedly do."

And yet .. this describes your actions of not.

for mm: "I was glad he didn't drive drunk and didn't want to make a big deal that he stayed there."

And yet .. a big deal is in fact being made about it.

Ah you see P-Angel...you can do it!...LOL..that made me laugh though..
Thanks..that was so much easier to digest and to the point..direct baby..thats what I like..non of this philosophical bollox...its nice occasionally when I am smoked up..

As for Aries/Scorp..being a female scorp somewhat with an Aries man..yes they do speak a different language..word of advice..just don't give a shit..then watch you getting blamed for not caring enough..you just can't win so tell them to go f**k off..If your not arguing your having sex..so thats the extent of the relationship at times..

Make your point and be done with it..don't go over the same issue again, it gets boring to them and they just flip out..HYPERsensitive is the word..

Control issues are the worst in this relationship...Scorpios always want to control..i am guilty of it myself...I tried to control his emotions in going to the military..in the end he did what he wanted..they are extremely self-centred and so are Scorps..one hell of a fiery combination...

What I usually do is if he's flipping out, I just can't be bothered to deal with it so I just leave it and don't talk to him..can't be arsed..let him do what he wants..that works better

I'm going to kill you until you die from it.


Don't know how that relates .. just popped in my mind when I read this.

Yea, we never grow up. So sue us.

"I couldn't care less."

And yet .. you respond defensively from grief recieved which was triggerd from your own self-praise.

"AS I HAVE LEARED! Scorps are back stabbers."


There's a difference between being a back-stabber and calling a person out who is in need of it.

There's a fine line between confidence and insecurity .. the proof is in the actions.

Exude confidence, DD .. carry your self worth .. that is action.

To verbally proclaim it, is an insecurity .. empty words that hold no value.

Think about what I'm saying .. you may get defensive, thinking I'm putting you down, and I expect this to happen. But, if you really listen to what I'm saying .. this is actually FOR your benefit.

The reason why you find people hating you has everything to do with how you look .. however, it's not physical. It's because you make yourself look insecure, instead of confident. You proclaim it, instead of behaving it.

Hello LawLaw,

I dated an Aries man for a year and some. We fought alot in the beginning. Until I stood up to him and let him know his ridiculous bull headed antics were not going to be tolerated. Plus, he is/was a bit of a drama king and constantly needed re-assurance and attention.

Anyways, what I am trying to say, as a Scorpio, is, we do what we want. We dont mean to hurt others, its not our intention. You are pushing him away by being like this and "fighting" over it, yet being passive-aggressive and saying you dont want to make a big deal out of it. You and him are not the same people, so just because you would "never think" about doing something, doesnt mean you can make him think the same way.

Your best bet, especially with a Scorp, is to state your case in a calm manner. Be totally to the point. Tell him what you think about it, ask him to respect your feelings about it, and if this does not work, let him know there will be consequences by backing away from him. Dont be as nice, or as attentive, ignore him alittle and make him come to you. We hate being ignored.

Now, as a woman, dealing with a man, I would never tolerate that crap from a guy and worse yet, what he said to you? Oh hell no! You dont care if I sleep at another guy's house? Blah blah blahhhhhh......... Dont put up with that, and dont fight about it, just be like "oh yeah, really, ok sweetie...." and then do what you want when you want. Period.

The personality of an Aries is so much better than a Scorpio!

Pfffft

Come on ladies .....that was about Aries males 😛