Best Way to Breakup with Scorpio Man

This is really simple, known this Scorpio guy since 2016 my first post here, lol, we stayed in touch over the two years and I eventually got a job in the same country as he. We began a physical relationship pretty much as soon as I arrived. He's one of those obsessed with work and family however after Dec-Jun of dating and having amazing sex, Ive realized the sex is mainly the core of the relationship and he is content. I want more. No cheating issues, bum dude issues...just we aren't on the same page. I'm over the delayed responses after he is the one to initiate the conversation and lack of growth toward a long term partnership. My question is do I have a face to face about it or message politely telling I want to end things for XYZ reasons or simply walk away (in other words use a bit of his medicine and just don't reply). PS - I came to this decision after we talked about the way he responds and initiates communication and a week later it took him 12 hrs to respond to a have a nice day morning text. He's really intelligent and stable in his profession so we're not dealing with a dummy. It feels more like manipulation...and I won't be treated this way. It took a long time to get here and I want to exit as graceful as I entered. Really appreciate some advice.

I think using a bit of his medicine would also be manipulative plus there's no point. As a scorpio, I'd suggest having a face to face rather than text message. I'd suggest keeping to the facts, and keep it black and white. Be clear with what it is you want in life and what it is you want to say. It sounds like you're clear already so it should not be too tricky. It's just the matter of the delivery. You've highlighted a few issues before such as his communication style and he's not looked to compromise. I think you just need to tell him you've had a lovely time with him but you're now at that stage in life where you're looking to build something solid for the future so you want to be free in order to do that. If you keep it to the truth and to the facts then no one can argue with that.

I am SO following...🤔

Back in the day. Before mobile technology, we used to write letters. I recommended you write to him. That why you wont mind the delayed response back from him.

I detest this sort of reason for a "break up". Since when is it a considered acceptable to leave someone because they are not a lap dog who is replying to a text within 5 min of receiving it.

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

Posted by Pandora101

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

I am chuckling remembering me coming here to understand Famous Scorpio dissapearance act! lol

And I understood. If memory serves me correctly...lol

I understand that sending text meaning awaiting for the response. It’s natural. However if response haven’t happened - let’s not sit in that high horse and making it reason for breakup. Unless there is not much to going on in rships dept.

Wanting MORE is a right of people involved. Giving in or not is also right if people involved.

If this minor shit leading to an end - so be it! Trying to make Scorpio dance to the tune played by others is a lose/lose situation. Pride over love never wins!

Let’s see how this will end.

I can’t even pretend I know the outcome of this ‘good bye because you aren’t replying within given window’ ‘problem’...

Just a note...I was told by my Aries at the very beginning to not to except replies at certain period of time.

So that ‘problem’ was off the table at a get go. Maybe communications is all that needed...

Posted by AgentP911

I think using a bit of his medicine would also be manipulative plus there's no point. As a scorpio, I'd suggest having a face to face rather than text message. I'd suggest keeping to the facts, and keep it black and white. Be clear with what it is you want in life and what it is you want to say. It sounds like you're clear already so it should not be too tricky. It's just the matter of the delivery. You've highlighted a few issues before such as his communication style and he's not looked to compromise. I think you just need to tell him you've had a lovely time with him but you're now at that stage in life where you're looking to build something solid for the future so you want to be free in order to do that. If you keep it to the truth and to the facts then no one can argue with that.

Thanks for the solid reply...I was afraid I'd get one of the overly XXXever ones. That's what my gut said but I'd been watching too many relationship youtube videos trying to figure out if I should even stay and they mostly were like 1) walk away or 2) do no contact...I don't want to play games.

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Back in the day. Before mobile technology, we used to write letters. I recommended you write to him. That why you wont mind the delayed response back from him.

I detest this sort of reason for a "break up". Since when is it a considered acceptable to leave someone because they are not a lap dog who is replying to a text within 5 min of receiving it.

Im hardly that type of you read my first few posts from 2016...and I figured I'd spare people the minor details and get to the point. I don't think expecting a have a great day as well text back from a 7:30 AM message before 7:30pm is being a lap dog. I think its being respectful and showing the person where they stand on your todem pole. Sure its not everyday but we've discussed his delayed responses and I'm busy just isn't enough when I can see he's been online. It literally take five secs to say, Hey babe I'm busy brb...then sure take all the time you need. Youre right breakups about not being on the same page sucks but so is waiting around for someone when you're clear on your goals in life and love. 😉

Posted by Pandora101

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

I assumed some people prefered short to the point details but it seems I'm wrong. Firstly he messaged me at 12:37 AM, saying how he was super busy the day before and sorry that he hadn't sent me anything all day. He was replying to a video I sent him of my language test (I'm in the Middle East) which he had told me to send after the exam. He also commented how amazing my speaking skills were coming along and he was proud. I was already asleep that night. When I woke at 7:30 AM i replied, thanks but you know I'm only OK not great yet! 😉 Hope you slept well and have a nice day. that was it ok? No it didn't warrant a reply but what bothered me is he read the message over 12 hrs later...and simply replied, no you're great! have a great day too. LOOOL give me a break the day is over...id rather you just say hope youre day was good sorry I was busy and didn't get to your message than act like I sent it 5 mins ago....we've discussed this type of short, delayed responses especially when I'm replying to him...so yes I took it to be rude and in the scheme of me saying the relationship hasn't moved to any longterm growth, we basically sex 1 a week and speak 3-5 times a week for a period of over 6 months...I don't want this type.

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Posted by Pandora101

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

I am chuckling remembering me coming here to understand Famous Scorpio dissapearance act! lol

And I understood. If memory serves me correctly...lol

I understand that sending text meaning awaiting for the response. It’s natural. However if response haven’t happened - let’s not sit in that high horse and making it reason for breakup. Unless there is not much to going on in rships dept.

Wanting MORE is a right of people involved. Giving in or not is also right if people involved.

If this minor shit leading to an end - so be it! Trying to make Scorpio dance to the tune played by others is a lose/lose situation. Pride over love never wins!

Let’s see how this will end.

I can’t even pretend I know the outcome of this ‘good bye because you aren’t replying within given window’ ‘problem’...

Just a note...I was told by my Aries at the very beginning to not to except replies at certain period of time.

So that ‘problem’ was off the table at a get go. Maybe communications is all that needed...

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I completely get that but is everyone acting like its normal for your boyfriend to not even acknowledge a message sent 12 hrs prior...if so then I guess maybe I'm high maintenence! LOL And the person who mentioned passion, no disrespect but I noted the SEX is amazing...we are deeply intune physically and have strong chemistry but thats not all a relationship requires. maybe if both want something physical only...again that's my point. I know i want more than that!

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies

Back in the day. Before mobile technology, we used to write letters. I recommended you write to him. That why you wont mind the delayed response back from him.

I detest this sort of reason for a "break up". Since when is it a considered acceptable to leave someone because they are not a lap dog who is replying to a text within 5 min of receiving it.

Im hardly that type of you read my first few posts from 2016...and I figured I'd spare people the minor details and get to the point. I don't think expecting a have a great day as well text back from a 7:30 AM message before 7:30pm is being a lap dog. I think its being respectful and showing the person where they stand on your todem pole. Sure its not everyday but we've discussed his delayed responses and I'm busy just isn't enough when I can see he's been online. It literally take five secs to say, Hey babe I'm busy brb...then sure take all the time you need. Youre right breakups about not being on the same page sucks but so is waiting around for someone when you're clear on your goals in life and love. 😉

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As a girl, I get what you are "saying" and where you are coming from with non timely message responses. HOWEVER If your other issues you wont list are" minor" and the biggest issue you have is him not responding to your time scale of messages being sent to you, then you, yourself have some serious issues.

In my own personal experience with Scorpios, if they don't have one eye on you constantly (mostly without you even knowing), he just is not that into you.

Demanding his obedience is the quickest way to find yourself on the other side of the closed door. Most Scorpio folk are "do as I say, not as I do".

His delay in responding is an indication of his interest and commitment level to OP. Sure, he'll find the time to do the absolute minimum required in order to continue sticking his dick in her, which he will find the time for, but he doesn't want anything further from her at this time. It is a product of the arrangement they currently have. It happens. She wants someone to invest time into her because she now wants some form of committed relationship. Waiting 12 hours or so for responses or communication is not reflective of a committed relationship between two people. It doesn't make you high maintenance to prefer swifter communication. A man who is interested and invested in OP would not be so indifferent with his responses. OP just needs to find that man. Who knows, maybe this guy, once having this open and honest conversation, might surprise OP and also want a more committed relationship. Maybe he doesn't and maybe she doesn't want him in that way.

have you told him you want better communication?

Posted by AgentP911

I think using a bit of his medicine would also be manipulative plus there's no point. As a scorpio, I'd suggest having a face to face rather than text message. I'd suggest keeping to the facts, and keep it black and white. Be clear with what it is you want in life and what it is you want to say. It sounds like you're clear already so it should not be too tricky. It's just the matter of the delivery. You've highlighted a few issues before such as his communication style and he's not looked to compromise. I think you just need to tell him you've had a lovely time with him but you're now at that stage in life where you're looking to build something solid for the future so you want to be free in order to do that. If you keep it to the truth and to the facts then no one can argue with that.

this - be real or go home lol sorry - I just find it better for me to rip the band aid off all at once and be done with it

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Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Pandora101

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

I am chuckling remembering me coming here to understand Famous Scorpio dissapearance act! lol

And I understood. If memory serves me correctly...lol

I understand that sending text meaning awaiting for the response. It’s natural. However if response haven’t happened - let’s not sit in that high horse and making it reason for breakup. Unless there is not much to going on in rships dept.

Wanting MORE is a right of people involved. Giving in or not is also right if people involved.

If this minor shit leading to an end - so be it! Trying to make Scorpio dance to the tune played by others is a lose/lose situation. Pride over love never wins!

Let’s see how this will end.

I can’t even pretend I know the outcome of this ‘good bye because you aren’t replying within given window’ ‘problem’...

Just a note...I was told by my Aries at the very beginning to not to except replies at certain period of time.

So that ‘problem’ was off the table at a get go. Maybe communications is all that needed...

I completely get that but is everyone acting like its normal for your boyfriend to not even acknowledge a message sent 12 hrs prior...if so then I guess maybe I'm high maintenence! LOL And the person who mentioned passion, no disrespect but I noted the SEX is amazing...we are deeply intune physically and have strong chemistry but thats not all a relationship requires. maybe if both want something physical only...again that's my point. I know i want more than that!

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Hon, I was 45+ when I came here with inane questions about Scorpio I was in platonic love for over 5 years...and I DO understand your frustration with inability to reply 2 words in 12 hours...

It was unheard of and sounded like disrespect. But it wasn’t. I’ve learned it hard way.

What I don’t understand is that if you want more - what is his reaction?

‘That’s all I can give’? Or what?

Posted by AgentP911

His delay in responding is an indication of his interest and commitment level to OP. Sure, he'll find the time to do the absolute minimum required in order to continue sticking his dick in her, which he will find the time for, but he doesn't want anything further from her at this time. It is a product of the arrangement they currently have. It happens. She wants someone to invest time into her because she now wants some form of committed relationship. Waiting 12 hours or so for responses or communication is not reflective of a committed relationship between two people. It doesn't make you high maintenance to prefer swifter communication. A man who is interested and invested in OP would not be so indifferent with his responses. OP just needs to find that man. Who knows, maybe this guy, once having this open and honest conversation, might surprise OP and also want a more committed relationship. Maybe he doesn't and maybe she doesn't want him in that way.

This! People who arrange these FWB situations have me SMH when they want MORE 🤦 "More" isn't required. "More" wasn't the standard. Pearls aren't to be given away for free. So yeah, he's content. Why shouldn't he be? 🤔

His lack of responding to a text promptly? Ehh. Doesn't really matter.

Posted by AgentP911

His delay in responding is an indication of his interest and commitment level to OP. Sure, he'll find the time to do the absolute minimum required in order to continue sticking his dick in her, which he will find the time for, but he doesn't want anything further from her at this time. It is a product of the arrangement they currently have. It happens. She wants someone to invest time into her because she now wants some form of committed relationship. Waiting 12 hours or so for responses or communication is not reflective of a committed relationship between two people. It doesn't make you high maintenance to prefer swifter communication. A man who is interested and invested in OP would not be so indifferent with his responses. OP just needs to find that man. Who knows, maybe this guy, once having this open and honest conversation, might surprise OP and also want a more committed relationship. Maybe he doesn't and maybe she doesn't want him in that way.

Thanks for that honest and balanced opinion. I always let him initiate conversation 80% of the time and he does but if you’re gonna reach out and I respond to you within a decent amount of time not 2 mins or 2 hrs ...12 hrs to acknowledge the message is a big F u in my book.

Posted by La_Madrina

have you told him you want better communication?

Yes indeed, in the six months atleast 3 times and he’s given the same response if he doesn’t respond he’s just super busy with work. At some point that’s bs though because like the other OP said if someone is invested of course you’d be in touch and the point is he acknowledges we’re in a relationship. That’s not respectful to a gf/bf I believe. So I concluded he’s just interested in the sex.

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Posted by AgentP911

His delay in responding is an indication of his interest and commitment level to OP. Sure, he'll find the time to do the absolute minimum required in order to continue sticking his dick in her, which he will find the time for, but he doesn't want anything further from her at this time. It is a product of the arrangement they currently have. It happens. She wants someone to invest time into her because she now wants some form of committed relationship. Waiting 12 hours or so for responses or communication is not reflective of a committed relationship between two people. It doesn't make you high maintenance to prefer swifter communication. A man who is interested and invested in OP would not be so indifferent with his responses. OP just needs to find that man. Who knows, maybe this guy, once having this open and honest conversation, might surprise OP and also want a more committed relationship. Maybe he doesn't and maybe she doesn't want him in that way.

This! People who arrange these FWB situations have me SMH when they want MORE 🤦 "More" isn't required. "More" wasn't the standard. Pearls aren't to be given away for free. So yeah, he's content. Why shouldn't he be? 🤔

His lack of responding to a text promptly? Ehh. Doesn't really matter.

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Umm I totally respect your opinion but to clarify no one arranged a fwb situation. This was someone I said I chatted with quite regularly for almost two full years bc we linked up again when I moved to the region for a job opportunity. We then and only then began a physical relationship, we go out on dates, we y’all about anything and everything we go grocery shopping, he cooks for me, I do the same and the sex is amazing after all or one of those things. All that said I still feel we’re not on the same page and this is highlighted by his level of communication. I feel it should be higher considering the time and friendship we built first, clearly I was wrong in thinking we both thought that way. I’ve always been clear about what I wanted and that was a long term partnership and to eventually have a family he agreed he wanted same but his actions don’t add up to that hence the string...please don’t assume as if there aren’t men to pretend to want something different than they say.

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Posted by Pandora101

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

I am chuckling remembering me coming here to understand Famous Scorpio dissapearance act! lol

And I understood. If memory serves me correctly...lol

I understand that sending text meaning awaiting for the response. It’s natural. However if response haven’t happened - let’s not sit in that high horse and making it reason for breakup. Unless there is not much to going on in rships dept.

Wanting MORE is a right of people involved. Giving in or not is also right if people involved.

If this minor shit leading to an end - so be it! Trying to make Scorpio dance to the tune played by others is a lose/lose situation. Pride over love never wins!

Let’s see how this will end.

I can’t even pretend I know the outcome of this ‘good bye because you aren’t replying within given window’ ‘problem’...

Just a note...I was told by my Aries at the very beginning to not to except replies at certain period of time.

So that ‘problem’ was off the table at a get go. Maybe communications is all that needed...

I completely get that but is everyone acting like its normal for your boyfriend to not even acknowledge a message sent 12 hrs prior...if so then I guess maybe I'm high maintenence! LOL And the person who mentioned passion, no disrespect but I noted the SEX is amazing...we are deeply intune physically and have strong chemistry but thats not all a relationship requires. maybe if both want something physical only...again that's my point. I know i want more than that!

Hon, I was 45+ when I came here with inane questions about Scorpio I was in platonic love for over 5 years...and I DO understand your frustration with inability to reply 2 words in 12 hours...

It was unheard of and sounded like disrespect. But it wasn’t. I’ve learned it hard way.

What I don’t understand is that if you want more - what is his reaction?

‘That’s all I can give’? Or what?

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It’s always baby relax if I didn’t want to be here I wouldn’t, I barely have time for myself, between work and the family it’s only you.

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Posted by AgentP911

His delay in responding is an indication of his interest and commitment level to OP. Sure, he'll find the time to do the absolute minimum required in order to continue sticking his dick in her, which he will find the time for, but he doesn't want anything further from her at this time. It is a product of the arrangement they currently have. It happens. She wants someone to invest time into her because she now wants some form of committed relationship. Waiting 12 hours or so for responses or communication is not reflective of a committed relationship between two people. It doesn't make you high maintenance to prefer swifter communication. A man who is interested and invested in OP would not be so indifferent with his responses. OP just needs to find that man. Who knows, maybe this guy, once having this open and honest conversation, might surprise OP and also want a more committed relationship. Maybe he doesn't and maybe she doesn't want him in that way.

This! People who arrange these FWB situations have me SMH when they want MORE 🤦 "More" isn't required. "More" wasn't the standard. Pearls aren't to be given away for free. So yeah, he's content. Why shouldn't he be? 🤔

His lack of responding to a text promptly? Ehh. Doesn't really matter.

Umm I totally respect your opinion but to clarify no one arranged a fwb situation. This was someone I said I chatted with quite regularly for almost two full years bc we linked up again when I moved to the region for a job opportunity. We then and only then began a physical relationship, we go out on dates, we y’all about anything and everything we go grocery shopping, he cooks for me, I do the same and the sex is amazing after all or one of those things. All that said I still feel we’re not on the same page and this is highlighted by his level of communication. I feel it should be higher considering the time and friendship we built first, clearly I was wrong in thinking we both thought that way. I’ve always been clear about what I wanted and that was a long term partnership and to eventually have a family he agreed he wanted same but his actions don’t add up to that hence the string...please don’t assume as if there aren’t men to pretend to want something different than they say.

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*talk

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Posted by AgentP911

His delay in responding is an indication of his interest and commitment level to OP. Sure, he'll find the time to do the absolute minimum required in order to continue sticking his dick in her, which he will find the time for, but he doesn't want anything further from her at this time. It is a product of the arrangement they currently have. It happens. She wants someone to invest time into her because she now wants some form of committed relationship. Waiting 12 hours or so for responses or communication is not reflective of a committed relationship between two people. It doesn't make you high maintenance to prefer swifter communication. A man who is interested and invested in OP would not be so indifferent with his responses. OP just needs to find that man. Who knows, maybe this guy, once having this open and honest conversation, might surprise OP and also want a more committed relationship. Maybe he doesn't and maybe she doesn't want him in that way.

This! People who arrange these FWB situations have me SMH when they want MORE 🤦 "More" isn't required. "More" wasn't the standard. Pearls aren't to be given away for free. So yeah, he's content. Why shouldn't he be? 🤔

His lack of responding to a text promptly? Ehh. Doesn't really matter.

Umm I totally respect your opinion but to clarify no one arranged a fwb situation. This was someone I said I chatted with quite regularly for almost two full years bc we linked up again when I moved to the region for a job opportunity. We then and only then began a physical relationship, we go out on dates, we y’all about anything and everything we go grocery shopping, he cooks for me, I do the same and the sex is amazing after all or one of those things. All that said I still feel we’re not on the same page and this is highlighted by his level of communication. I feel it should be higher considering the time and friendship we built first, clearly I was wrong in thinking we both thought that way. I’ve always been clear about what I wanted and that was a long term partnership and to eventually have a family he agreed he wanted same but his actions don’t add up to that hence the string...please don’t assume as if there aren’t men to pretend to want something different than they say.

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Before someone says you do all that and still need communication throughout the day? Lol...no I’m strictly talking about communication pattern outside of the one or two times we are physically together in a week having our dates and doing whatever, due to his family and work schedule. His mom lives with him who is old but he also has 5 other siblings who are married so the burden isn’t theirs.

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Posted by Pandora101

why a have a nice day morning text warrants a reply? what answer you expected? just a thanks you too? how lame

was the communication issue you have with him over texts like this?

I mean, it seems so shallow to write a have a nice day morning text, IMHO

maybe you two are not compatible in this (passion, deepness) generally?

Only you know the answer

I am chuckling remembering me coming here to understand Famous Scorpio dissapearance act! lol

And I understood. If memory serves me correctly...lol

I understand that sending text meaning awaiting for the response. It’s natural. However if response haven’t happened - let’s not sit in that high horse and making it reason for breakup. Unless there is not much to going on in rships dept.

Wanting MORE is a right of people involved. Giving in or not is also right if people involved.

If this minor shit leading to an end - so be it! Trying to make Scorpio dance to the tune played by others is a lose/lose situation. Pride over love never wins!

Let’s see how this will end.

I can’t even pretend I know the outcome of this ‘good bye because you aren’t replying within given window’ ‘problem’...

Just a note...I was told by my Aries at the very beginning to not to except replies at certain period of time.

So that ‘problem’ was off the table at a get go. Maybe communications is all that needed...

I completely get that but is everyone acting like its normal for your boyfriend to not even acknowledge a message sent 12 hrs prior...if so then I guess maybe I'm high maintenence! LOL And the person who mentioned passion, no disrespect but I noted the SEX is amazing...we are deeply intune physically and have strong chemistry but thats not all a relationship requires. maybe if both want something physical only...again that's my point. I know i want more than that!

Hon, I was 45+ when I came here with inane questions about Scorpio I was in platonic love for over 5 years...and I DO understand your frustration with inability to reply 2 words in 12 hours...

It was unheard of and sounded like disrespect. But it wasn’t. I’ve learned it hard way.

What I don’t understand is that if you want more - what is his reaction?

‘That’s all I can give’? Or what?

It’s always baby relax if I didn’t want to be here I wouldn’t, I barely have time for myself, between work and the family it’s only you.

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Exude me...what family?