Cancer (W) and Scorpio (M): he makes too many crude sexual comments

So I posted about this guy a while ago.. long story short, we dated for a bit, he liked me A LOT but then he started pulling away, eventually gave me the "i'm not ready to date line" and that he really wanted to be good friends with me but I said no so things ended. After that line, things were weird between us. we go to the same school and have mutual friends so we'd be around each other almost everyday and he would act normal while I would be short and cold with him because I didn't really want to talk to him.

Toward the end of that semester he downplayed how things were between us and even made "jokes" about playing me like a fool or playing with my emotions. Those jokes started the get to me so I stopped hanging out with that group for all this the current semester( Jan. - end of april.)

This semester he starting "dating" a new girl at my school. I put dating in quotes because it's just a physical thing. According to his friends, he just wants a convenient hook up. Also i know her and she's not really the dating type. He's also on a dating app. so all of that tells me it's super casual.



So here's the part that I'd like advice on. The last 2 weeks I've been spending time with him and his friend at school because we were assigned a group project. He's SUPER sexual all the time. I don't recall his comments ever being this crude. for example, he'll make "jokes" about me giving him a BJ, he'll ask me questions about how I like to masturbate, or just general sex jokes about me like how the guy he thinks I'm dating "lays me out" all the time.

He thinks I'm dating someone because he saw I got a text from a guy and he brings up the guy a lot.

He also asked me for dating advice. he asked he if I used the app he's using and what types of places the guys have taken me.

He'll also make jokes about how i should have a threesome with him and his friend (our mutual friend).

Last week, he asked me if I've ever thought about them while masturbating and as a joke I said yeah but only his friend. and now he's made a few comments about me and the friend (John). like he'll turn to john and say hey so are you going to f**k her? and his friend said something like I wouldn't betray you like that. he responded with she's all yours dude. I got upset because of that so I said something like "i prefer it that way anyway."

and today he kept telling me to show john any sexy picture i have. or he joked about how he should leave the room because there's sexual tension between me and john. by the way, I'm not attracted to john at all.

Then John told him to show me the sex toys he just bought so he told me what he bought and then asked if I'd ever use one of them.

I don't know what happened to him but he's extra sexual and crude this semester. sometimes, it makes me uncomfortable. I don't think he talks to other girls this way.

Also, i think he's only like this when John is around. I was alone with him yesterday and he was nowhere near as vulgar.

I had a gut feeling that he started to like me again and my guts usually right.but all this stuff tells me the complete opposite. who talks like this to the girl they like?!

maybe he's super comfortable with me and doesn't care but then sometimes he'll say something nice.. like i'm the prettiest girl at school. Or he'll make random comments like what if we got married? and yesterday he wouldn't let john show me a picture of him because i guess he didn't look good so he didn't want me to see it.

sometimes he'll show me nudes of girls he thinks are hot.

also, i don't think he trusts me anymore. Last semester he was rude to me in front of her and he later saw me talking to her alone. He's recently made comments about how I talked shit to her about him (which I didn't and he's friend knows I didn't) and joked that i can't be trusted. I'm thinking if he doesnt trust me then maybe that's where are this is coming from?

I want to know why he's acting like this. he was never like this. not when we dated and not after. it's really strange to me

Why don't you shut him down? It otherwise seems like you're interested in him still. If so, start shutting him down and maybe you'll get the respectful guy you want or let it go and get the bad boy you want.

Posted by d0s3r
sounds like he's winding you up because u give him reactions

but i rarely give him reactions. Once in a while I'll make a comment but for the most part I just act like I'm ignoring his comments or just give him a blank stare.

Posted by Epi
Why don't you shut him down? It otherwise seems like you're interested in him still. If so, start shutting him down and maybe you'll get the respectful guy you want or let it go and get the bad boy you want.

I've tried but I'm not very good at confrontations. I go to our meetings prepared to shut him down if he says something but then in the moment I draw a blank and just give an uncomfortable laugh.

A part of me is interested in him still but I don't know how I feel about being with a guy like this. It seems like all he cares about is trying to hooking up with girls. It's just odd behavior to me because he was never like this... not to this degree anyway.

but I guess it's safe to say he doesn't like me anymore, right? I don't see the purpose of a guy acting like this in front of a girl they like

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Posted by xonimi
So I posted about this guy a while ago.. long story short, we dated for a bit, he liked me A LOT but then he started pulling away, eventually gave me the "i'm not ready to date line" and that he really wanted to be good friends with me but I said no so things ended. After that line, things were weird between us. we go to the same school and have mutual friends so we'd be around each other almost everyday and he would act normal while I would be short and cold with him because I didn't really want to talk to him.

Toward the end of that semester he downplayed how things were between us and even made "jokes" about playing me like a fool or playing with my emotions. Those jokes started the get to me so I stopped hanging out with that group for all this the current semester( Jan. - end of april.)

This semester he starting "dating" a new girl at my school. I put dating in quotes because it's just a physical thing. According to his friends, he just wants a convenient hook up. Also i know her and she's not really the dating type. He's also on a dating app. so all of that tells me it's super casual.



So here's the part that I'd like advice on. The last 2 weeks I've been spending time with him and his friend at school because we were assigned a group project. He's SUPER sexual all the time. I don't recall his comments ever being this crude. for example, he'll make "jokes" about me giving him a BJ, he'll ask me questions about how I like to masturbate, or just general sex jokes about me like how the guy he thinks I'm dating "lays me out" all the time.

He thinks I'm dating someone because he saw I got a text from a guy and he brings up the guy a lot.

He also asked me for dating "advice". he asked he if I used the app he's using and what types of places the guys have taken me.

He'll also make jokes about how i should have a threesome with him and his friend (our mutual friend).

Last week, he asked me if I've ever thought about them while masturbating and as a joke I said yeah but only his friend. and now he's made a few comments about me and the friend (John). like he'll turn to john and say hey so are you going to f**k her? and his friend said something like I wouldn't betray you like that. he responded with she's all yours dude. I got upset because of that so I said something like "i prefer it that way anyway."

and today he kept telling me to show john any sexy picture i have. or he joked about how he should leave the room because there's sexual tension between me and john. by the way, I'm not attracted to john at all.

Then John told him to show me the sex toys he just bought so he told me what he bought and then asked if I'd ever use one of them.

I don't know what happened to him but he's extra sexual and crude this semester. sometimes, it makes me uncomfortable. I don't think he talks to other girls this way.

Also, i think he's only like this when John is around. I was alone with him yesterday and he was nowhere near as vulgar.

I had a gut feeling that he started to like me again and my guts usually right.but all this stuff tells me the complete opposite. who talks like this to the girl they like?!

maybe he's super comfortable with me and doesn't care but then sometimes he'll say something nice.. like i'm the prettiest girl at school. Or he'll make random comments like what if we got married? and yesterday he wouldn't let john show me a picture of him because i guess he didn't look good so he didn't want me to see it.



All this is just a basic summary. and while I'm mostly over him, sometimes he'll say things that'll confuse me.

also, i don't think he trusts me anymore. Last semester he liked a girl. One day he was rude to me in front of her and he later saw me talking to her alone. He's recently made comments about how I talked shit to her about him (which I didn't and he's friend knows I didn't) and joked that i can't be trusted.. or he'll say something and then will joke that I'm going to tell everyone. I'm thinking if he doesnt trust me then maybe that's where are this is coming from?

He likes u very much?

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Really? it seems the opposite to me. Isn't this how guys act in front of girls they view as platonic friends? I don't know any guy that talks like this or talks about hooking up with girls in front of a girl he likes.

Posted by d0s3r
sounds like he's winding you up because u give him reactions

You meant erection?

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Posted by xonimi
long story short

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useless.

Posted by xonimi
So I posted about this guy a while ago.. long story short, we dated for a bit, he liked me A LOT but then he started pulling away, eventually gave me the "i'm not ready to date line" and that he really wanted to be good friends with me but I said no so things ended. After that line, things were weird between us. we go to the same school and have mutual friends so we'd be around each other almost everyday and he would act normal while I would be short and cold with him because I didn't really want to talk to him.

Toward the end of that semester he downplayed how things were between us and even made "jokes" about playing me like a fool or playing with my emotions. Those jokes started the get to me so I stopped hanging out with that group for all this the current semester( Jan. - end of april.)

This semester he starting "dating" a new girl at my school. I put dating in quotes because it's just a physical thing. According to his friends, he just wants a convenient hook up. Also i know her and she's not really the dating type. He's also on a dating app. so all of that tells me it's super casual.



So here's the part that I'd like advice on. The last 2 weeks I've been spending time with him and his friend at school because we were assigned a group project. He's SUPER sexual all the time. I don't recall his comments ever being this crude. for example, he'll make "jokes" about me giving him a BJ, he'll ask me questions about how I like to masturbate, or just general sex jokes about me like how the guy he thinks I'm dating "lays me out" all the time.

He thinks I'm dating someone because he saw I got a text from a guy and he brings up the guy a lot.

He also asked me for dating advice. he asked he if I used the app he's using and what types of places the guys have taken me.

He'll also make jokes about how i should have a threesome with him and his friend (our mutual friend).

Last week, he asked me if I've ever thought about them while masturbating and as a joke I said yeah but only his friend. and now he's made a few comments about me and the friend (John). like he'll turn to john and say hey so are you going to f**k her? and his friend said something like I wouldn't betray you like that. he responded with she's all yours dude. I got upset because of that so I said something like "i prefer it that way anyway."

and today he kept telling me to show john any sexy picture i have. or he joked about how he should leave the room because there's sexual tension between me and john. by the way, I'm not attracted to john at all.

Then John told him to show me the sex toys he just bought so he told me what he bought and then asked if I'd ever use one of them.

I don't know what happened to him but he's extra sexual and crude this semester. sometimes, it makes me uncomfortable. I don't think he talks to other girls this way.

Also, i think he's only like this when John is around. I was alone with him yesterday and he was nowhere near as vulgar.

I had a gut feeling that he started to like me again and my guts usually right.but all this stuff tells me the complete opposite. who talks like this to the girl they like?!

maybe he's super comfortable with me and doesn't care but then sometimes he'll say something nice.. like i'm the prettiest girl at school. Or he'll make random comments like what if we got married? and yesterday he wouldn't let john show me a picture of him because i guess he didn't look good so he didn't want me to see it.

sometimes he'll show me nudes of girls he thinks are hot.

also, i don't think he trusts me anymore. Last semester he was rude to me in front of her and he later saw me talking to her alone. He's recently made comments about how I talked shit to her about him (which I didn't and he's friend knows I didn't) and joked that i can't be trusted. I'm thinking if he doesnt trust me then maybe that's where are this is coming from?

I want to know why he's acting like this. he was never like this. not when we dated and not after. it's really strange to me

Let me give you some good advice;

ditch the dude and the John. Sound like a couple of losers tryna lose their virginity but don't know how.