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Posted by FUMRedFairy_tales
GoatLady,
Your scorp man cares for you. NO Scorp ever will waste their time sending you messages (especially so many messages) if they don't have special feelings for you. He makes the effort keeping in touch with you. You must be in his mind all the time. Each message shows his thinking of you. His mushiness are his messages.
Why he sounds *business-like* when on the phone (I am like that too - it is a facade) is due to the geographic distance you both have. First, we are not telephone people. Secondly, we are not long-distance people. We are practical thinkers. He is holding his feelings back from you, because of the distance AND as ELLESQUE wrote in her first posts, it could be that he is hiding something from you. He damn knows already you have him in your hands. He doesn't want to be like a silly boy, but he also can't help himself from being like one. His messages are loud and clear actually. My guess would be (this is only speculation!) that he has someone in his life he is not fond of. Therefore, he has not announced you his love yet. He must be in some kind of inner conflict. Again, this is only speculation. Only you know of his details. Have you ever visited his house?
If you want to find out more about him, you have to be open and accepting of his condition. Be ready for any kind of answer that may initially hurt you. Be VEEEEERY careful how you initiate a conversation. Give him the freedom, patience and time to open up to you. Also ask yourself if you would stay with him if he were, for example, married.


Posted by GoatLady
I'm head over heels for my Scorpio man and always tell him I miss him and stuff when we talk on the phone, but he has never once been affectionate in words with me, or to my face.



Posted by wsigafPosted by FUMRedFairy_tales
ignore p-angel. She is a shit disturber
on the other hand, you're very naive..click to expand



Posted by wsigaf
what makes me wrong ?










Posted by QuietSt0rm
My gemini friend told me once that her cap boyfriend was emotionally and verbally abusive because he loved her, and he was 'scared' of his strong feelings so he treated her this way to counter those emotions.
I just stared at her with a blank face.


Posted by ellessque
P, I'm not telling her he's in love with her or that if he's even that into her. we only know the story she tells. we also know that if she learns nothing about herself, it is likely she'll repeat the same mess with the next.
she needs to reflect. suck it up, dust herself off and figure out why she continues this pattern of self hate.



Posted by ellessque
my comment was for the beautiful capricorn that has a bit of sadness today.
P, I'm not telling her he's in love with her or that if he's even that into her. we only know the story she tells. we also know that if she learns nothing about herself, it is likely she'll repeat the same mess with the next.
she needs to reflect. suck it up, dust herself off and figure out why she continues this pattern of self hate.

Posted by P-Angel
I cannot justify this treatment of her because of being an LDR ... that doesn't make it right.
And I cannot justify her choosing to accept this treatment of her so long as she finds a reason for it ... and that is what is happening .. it is what is always happening in here.
Woman comes here and seeks an answer to hold onto as to why she can accept/tolerate that she's being treated like a dog ..... and never really looks at the fact that she's worth more.
And it irritates the living fuck out of me that people come in here and tell her lies, like he really cares about you ... just to make her feel better about hurting.
GODDAMN YOU ... that doens't help her, it makes it worse because then she will tolerate the abuse further, for longer.

Posted by kstarks12
if Goatlady wants to suck and fuck him, then let her... What is it with women and relationships? always trying to turn a fuck into an engagement. saying "i miss you" doesn't mean "I love you" What exactly does she miss? The Dick? The way he pecks her on the cheek when he finished his nut? I mean she's not showing any real emotion either. I saw that right from the beginning. She's complaining that HE doesn't but has she really? Yeah she's telling US but she hasn't told him from what I gather...
I'm also starting to believe that men are more in touch with the realities of commitment, and that's why they (for the most part, or the ones I know) avoid making them. My experience with women shows me that they candy-coat the reality of co-habitation.

Posted by ellessque
I understand P, and most of the time you are correct. it's delivery to some, it's over their heads a bit.
how many times did you have to knock me up side the head?
i've cursed you from my monitor plenty of times in the beginning...LOL

Posted by pathfinderPosted by P-Angel
I cannot justify this treatment of her because of being an LDR ... that doesn't make it right.
And I cannot justify her choosing to accept this treatment of her so long as she finds a reason for it ... and that is what is happening .. it is what is always happening in here.
Woman comes here and seeks an answer to hold onto as to why she can accept/tolerate that she's being treated like a dog ..... and never really looks at the fact that she's worth more.
And it irritates the living fuck out of me that people come in here and tell her lies, like he really cares about you ... just to make her feel better about hurting.
GODDAMN YOU ... that doens't help her, it makes it worse because then she will tolerate the abuse further, for longer.
@P-A: "I see you"
(from Avatar movie)click to expand

Posted by P-Angel
Everyone of you have the same delivery .. I'm the only one that offers it from a different angle.
A room full of voices that all sound the same,

Posted by pathfinderPosted by P-Angel
Everyone of you have the same delivery .. I'm the only one that offers it from a different angle.
A room full of voices that all sound the same,
Could it be that the reason why your comments get attention is because so many people that come here are already beating themselves up or have been getting beat up that your voice of contempt rings familiar due to their current state of mind? As in if one is in a foreign country and hears someone speaking in their native tongue, naturally, they will get your attention...right?
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Posted by P-Angel
Let's say that what you said is true ... and the woman comes in here to GET AWAY from it, so then why would she follow it?
The reason why she hears it is because it is unusual


Posted by tooseriouslol
scorp men (the sane ones) are more mushy and emotional compare to many other signs. your question to me sound like you are asking wether 1+1 = 4000.
Yes, he is NOT into you but sex. LEAVE.

Posted by kstarks12
@Pathfinder-
That statement rings VERY true for a capricorn because we DO beat ourselves up ALOT and are VERY VERY hard on ourselves. So when we hear someone like P-Angel try to make us feel worse, we come out SWINGING in defense cause one thing we do IS stand up for ourselves.

Posted by pathfinder
@ tooseriouslol, my statement about her was not for caps in general. I hope I didn't come off like that.
Yes, I like cappy women, at least the ones I've met on dxp. The cappys I know in real life, vary, though. I guess it's easier for you guys to express yourselves through writing on forums than in real life, because in the RW, I don't see you all being that open unless you really know the person. From these boards, I've come to realize cappys are sensitive and sentimental (despite their expressionless faces or seemingly don't care attitude) and are very often misunderstood.

Posted by P-Angel
Maybe it's a female Capricorn thing .... there's one on the Pisces board making just as much of a fool out of herself by pining away over an asshole, and though she has a vague notion that he's a dickhead, she doesn't quite have the mental acuity to put two and two together.

Posted by kstarks12Posted by GoatLady
I'm head over heels for my Scorpio man and always tell him I miss him and stuff when we talk on the phone, but he has never once been affectionate in words with me, or to my face. Is that normal? We've been seeing each other since April.
Sex is great, really intense, but it always feels like I'm the one doing the running. Don't get me wrong, I don't crowd him out or nag him, we have our own homes, I'm just wondering if his lack of affection, apart from when we have sex, is because he isn't into me? HELP! He can be quite shy, but on the phone he talks to me like i'm a business colleague.
I'm a capricorn and I've had 3 Scorpio men before and my sister is a scorpio....One word: CONTROL.... And let me tell you this. As soon as you act like you don't want them...that's when they will hunt you down and be all over you. why? because they want to CONTROL you... I know this to be very true. But you're not at that point right now because your here on DXP, right?....
Here's my insight on scorpio and capricorns...
although he appreciates your vulnerability patience's, understanding and the fact that you would travel to the end of the earth for him...he still makes you suffer. He doesn't want to but he gets so caught up in a vortex of emotions that he can't help it. You bring out his intensity that Scorpios try to sit on, because it comes down to the fact that either they control it or it controls them. And a scorpio hates losing control and having an intense sexual, emotional, intellectual experience is jus the thing to cause it.
I believe scorpios have a hard time accepting all what a capricorn woman has to give because deep down, they feel they don't deserve it...therefore he loves the idea of you, but the actual makes him nervous and that's why he will restrict it to brief encounters....
His behavior has puzzled you and pained you and put you into an emotional space where us capricorns start doubting ourselves....but the danger comes when YOU GOATLADY begin to believe that you deserve what little he gives you....
My advice is...start seeing other people. yall aren't in a relationship so why not? keep your options open. Pull away and stop telling him so much about how you feel because its getting you in trouble.click to expand


Posted by kstarks12
@Pathfinder-
That statement rings VERY true for a capricorn because we DO beat ourselves up ALOT and are VERY VERY hard on ourselves. So when we hear someone like P-Angel try to make us feel worse, we come out SWINGING in defense cause one thing we do IS stand up for ourselves.

Posted by P-Angel
As usual ..... I highjacked the thread by my presence.
Perhaps you should start another thread, and I will be silent so people will address you instead of me.

Posted by ellessque
typo
"Fact = these women come in here wanting to be pampered, coddled, hugged, nurtured FOR allowing themselves to be emotional abused."
Fact = I come here wanting to be pampered, coddled, hugged and nurtured and end up being emotional abused by every one of you.
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Your welcome. :-)
Wow, it sounds almost like he's scared of you lol. Not to take that in the wrong way, but he doesn't seem to feel that he know where he stands after this time. I mean, if all you can do is say "I miss you" since April then you can only wonder what he's thinking. I'm sure that he's use to women being more expressive with their feelings, but that's our(Caps) dilemma in dealing with men, especially water sign men. We can be just as afraid of getting hurt as they are, and that can make for a not-so-good combination. It's only fair, I'm assuming, but you have to give what you want to get. I know that's easier said then done because personally, I would expect him to give it, but just start small, I guess. How did the two of