Don't know what to do... what is going on?

So I like this scorpio lady...

If you read all this and reply, I'd deeply appreciate you.

She is confusing me...

We talk once in a while on Instagram.

Started going to the same lounge bar she goes for Latin party nights.

I asked her if she was going too one night."I am going tonight, to defeat my mind" I told her because she knows I have trouble going in the dancefloor. She said "maybe", I replied with a thumbs up.

I go and she shows up, and she surprises me with a hug greeting and kiss on cheek.

I think probably because the previous day shared her post about her new dance classes she was starting.

But tell me not to dance with her that night. She didnt come to dance. But she danced with other people who asked her. I know you can;t refuse when asked.

I knew she didnt want to dance with me because I am not that good, yet. And it's ok.

The whole night, she was coming over, (she was at a reserved table, I was at the bar), she was coming over chatting and giving me advise because I was not confident on dancing. Encouraging me to dance.

She was all cheerful with me the whole night. And I walked her to her at the end of the night. She talked to me about that she liked lime, bitter stuff. not sweet food.

Next day I say "Thank you for the night"

She said"Np, dance with your body, not in your mind"

Honestly the thank you was for her being so affectionate with me that night.

She was close by, next to me and even she dance next to me alone, flipping her hair. I gave an few looks and smiled at her.

During the weekend, I asked her if she wanted to come to a park for a walk, she said I should go and she might go somewhere else.

Told her that I could give her time alone even she came with me.

She said, that if she decided to go somewhere to relax she'd be alone anway. Added a "dear" at the end.

I replied "ok 🙂"

Thursday comes for the latin party, I felt asking her again if she'd go. Hoping to be a bit of the same night.

This time she did not reply.

I go there. She shows up late. I was a the bar, she passes behind me the first time. After a while she passes behind me a second time, I wave her behind my back, she glimpses at me, and pretend to ignore me. She was distant that night.

I got bit upset. I see her going to the area near the exit to check her self on the mirror. I go out to get some air and I touch her to greet her.

She asked me why did I text her if she'd come? I shrugged my shoulders, I was stressed. Then she tells me, I don't have to come here, only whenever she comes. I nodded and told her I need to go out get some air.

Saw her dancing the night out. The party finishes, I go tell her am leaving, she asked me if I danced that night. Told her about 3 times. said "hm".

And I I try to hug her good night. She said, "don't kiss me goodnight, I am sweaty" She was sweaty and she was wiping her self with tissues.

But I tried that because wanted to be like the previous night where she was all hugs and chatty. totally different experience.

Did not walked her to her car that night. Felt bit weird energy that night.

Did not text her during that week, thought the energy was weird and she didnt post anything on Instagram as she usually does.

Last night, she comes. We saw each other while I was dancing and I greeted her and she greeted me.

We had reserved tables next to each other.

I was siting with my group and she was in line of sight, she sees me looking at her and few seconds later she starts dancing alone, facing my way, but not looking.

After my group leaves, she came and asked if my group left.

After a while, she saw me looking at her while dancing with someone, and she comes by and tells me she doesn't like dancing with people that are off beat

and leaves.

She dances with a guy few times. And she hugged him and cheek kissed him couple of times.

One time she walked on him, talked and gave him a kiss on cheek again.

Danced a bit with him again and she saw me looking, she did that few times.

Then the bar starts closing. The dude leaves, she stays with the photographer to takes some pics. I stayed until she finished. Everyone left.

She noticed and I think when the photographer took enough photos, she asked for bit more, with quite loud voice tone. Don;t know if she was testing me, I could be overthinking this.



Then she come pick her back and tells me to let's go in a commanding voice?

She tells me "you stayed until I finished taking pictures?!" I didn't answer I just smiled.

She went to get her coat, I waited for her while chatting with the photographer.

We all 3 walk out.

She sees the dude she danced with, hugs him and gives him a kiss on cheek chatted bit with him.

She looks back and sees me chatting with the photographer.

Then I walked her to her car.

We spent a good amount of time with her giving me advice on how to improve, that I should have a male teacher instead of female teacher to improve.

She sits in car, starts the engine and I close the door for her and leave.

I don't know, I start overthinking. I am a Virgo!

Want to tell her things but we dont really know each other. Just seen her 4 times in person. She was a classmate in primary school though. Seen her about 4 times that we chatted a bit at the bar.

Mostly chat on instagram, when I comment on her stories sometimes.

I am confused.

Dude, you're creepy. I am sorry. But you show up where she is, when she hasn't invited you. She ignored you, and you still hang around.

She's trying to be civil here, but she isn't interested. Yuck.

Hi!

When you say she looks at you while dancing etc, maybe don’t over think this too much, as a Scorpio female myself, I often stare at people, especially if they are looking at me too much as I sometimes feel uncomfortable. I’m not saying she feels uncomfortable but if she ignored you then I would just let the situation go, both in real life and on Instagram. If she likes you she will come to you now. She knows you’re interested. And if she doesn’t come to you or message you on instagram, then ohwell. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Hope this helps 🙂

Posted by nikkistar

Dude, you're creepy. I am sorry. But you show up where she is, when she hasn't invited you. She ignored you, and you still hang around.

She's trying to be civil here, but she isn't interested. Yuck.

No need to be rude.

Is she single?

Part way through reading I thought you sounded like a virgo!!

I don’t think your creepy. I think how your presenting yourself is as someone looking to learn how to be a better dancer. That’s why she dismissed you with the whole ‘find a male teacher instead’ and the whole ‘I prefer to dance with good dancers’.

If your interested in her romantically then ask her out on a date. Don’t show up at her spot and try to pick up a new hobby or feign interest in dancing to get close. Be genuine and transparent with your intentions.

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Posted by nikkistar

Dude, you're creepy. I am sorry. But you show up where she is, when she hasn't invited you. She ignored you, and you still hang around.

She's trying to be civil here, but she isn't interested. Yuck.

No need to be rude.

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Rude?

This is definitely creepy. Complete and utter lack of awareness on his part and a disrespect for boundaries of a person you've only interacted with four times?

If you are interested, ask her out. Stop with the IG stalking and randomly showing up to places you know she'll be. And 100% stop waiting for everyone to leave and following her out. jfc

Posted by Draog

Then the bar starts closing. The dude leaves, she stays with the photographer to takes some pics. I stayed until she finished. Everyone left.

She noticed and I think when the photographer took enough photos, she asked for bit more, with quite loud voice tone. Don;t know if she was testing me, I could be overthinking this.



Then she come pick her back and tells me to let's go in a commanding voice?

She tells me "you stayed until I finished taking pictures?!" I didn't answer I just smiled.

She wasn't testing you. She used the "loud voice tone" to make you aware that you needed to leave. This is evident with the commanding "Let's go" and "you stayed until I finished taking pictures?!"

Boundaries. You have crossed them.

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Posted by nikkistar

Dude, you're creepy. I am sorry. But you show up where she is, when she hasn't invited you. She ignored you, and you still hang around.

She's trying to be civil here, but she isn't interested. Yuck.

No need to be rude.

Rude?

This is definitely creepy. Complete and utter lack of awareness on his part and a disrespect for boundaries of a person you've only interacted with four times?

If you are interested, ask her out. Stop with the IG stalking and randomly showing up to places you know she'll be. And 100% stop waiting for everyone to leave and following her out. jfc

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Yes, rude and mean.

There’s nicer ways to word things other then straight up “you’re creepy” and “yuck”

Don’t see why people even bother commenting with these types of specific comments on public forums. It’s nice to be nice and there’s way to say things more gently. Just annoys me

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Posted by nikkistar

Dude, you're creepy. I am sorry. But you show up where she is, when she hasn't invited you. She ignored you, and you still hang around.

She's trying to be civil here, but she isn't interested. Yuck.

No need to be rude.

Rude?

This is definitely creepy. Complete and utter lack of awareness on his part and a disrespect for boundaries of a person you've only interacted with four times?

If you are interested, ask her out. Stop with the IG stalking and randomly showing up to places you know she'll be. And 100% stop waiting for everyone to leave and following her out. jfc

Yes, rude and mean.

There’s nicer ways to word things other then straight up “you’re creepy” and “yuck”

Don’t see why people even bother commenting with these types of specific comments on public forums. It’s nice to be nice and there’s way to say things more gently. Just annoys me

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Naw..

You're telling me you're okay with some dude you're not interested in, stalking you on IG to see where you're going to be, showing up, and waiting for everyone to leave so he can be in your presence?

I doubt it. Shut that shit down unless you want to end up diced to pieces in a body bag.

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Posted by nikkistar

Dude, you're creepy. I am sorry. But you show up where she is, when she hasn't invited you. She ignored you, and you still hang around.

She's trying to be civil here, but she isn't interested. Yuck.

No need to be rude.

Rude?

This is definitely creepy. Complete and utter lack of awareness on his part and a disrespect for boundaries of a person you've only interacted with four times?

If you are interested, ask her out. Stop with the IG stalking and randomly showing up to places you know she'll be. And 100% stop waiting for everyone to leave and following her out. jfc

Yes, rude and mean.

There’s nicer ways to word things other then straight up “you’re creepy” and “yuck”

Don’t see why people even bother commenting with these types of specific comments on public forums. It’s nice to be nice and there’s way to say things more gently. Just annoys me

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So I should sensor how I respond simply cause it goes against your sensibilities?

He is creepy. And his actions are gross. This guy watched her IG and tracked where she goes to dance. Showed up there. She acts civil and friendly. But then the second time he messages her about being there, she ignores him. She now realizes he is tracking her on IG. He shows up a second time, where he only goes cause she is there. She sees him and ignores him the whole night. She tries to stay with the photographer longer then needed cause she wants him to leave, and he stays anyways.

But let me get this right, I have to be nicer and condone illogical stalking behavior that obviously makes the Scorpio uncomfortable through her actions the second time he showed up. All because "its mean and it annoys you"?

Guess what? It is a public forum, and you don't dictate how I can respond based off your feelings.

Posted by LadyNeptune

I don’t think your creepy. I think how your presenting yourself is as someone looking to learn how to be a better dancer. That’s why she dismissed you with the whole ‘find a male teacher instead’ and the whole ‘I prefer to dance with good dancers’.

If your interested in her romantically then ask her out on a date. Don’t show up at her spot and try to pick up a new hobby or feign interest in dancing to get close. Be genuine and transparent with your intentions.

Thanks for the kindness.

Well, I started dance classes before finding her.

Started going to that place before she started going there. I went there with dance class few times. It is the only good place.

And because I do want to improve genuinely, I said to myself to start going there at least once a month since January 2019.

After talking with her and she saw that I lack. Told her that was thinking to be going at least 2-3 times a month. Because I feel it is not enough.

She responded that I should be going every week, at least once a week. And change to a male teacher to be taught from. Guess she was giving actual advise there.

Posted by scorpio_sun_gemini_rising

Hi!

When you say she looks at you while dancing etc, maybe don’t over think this too much, as a Scorpio female myself, I often stare at people, especially if they are looking at me too much as I sometimes feel uncomfortable. I’m not saying she feels uncomfortable but if she ignored you then I would just let the situation go, both in real life and on Instagram. If she likes you she will come to you now. She knows you’re interested. And if she doesn’t come to you or message you on instagram, then ohwell. There are plenty more fish in the sea. Hope this helps 🙂

Thanks for your kindness too.

@Neno2

Is this your alt account?