how important is it?

to be sexually attracted to the person you are in love with- if you found yourself no longer sexually excited by that person what would you do about it?

I am curious what different people have to say about the matter- if you include a lot of detail and or personal anecdotes in your response, I may contact you and ask for your permission to quote you in a research paper about the psychology of human sexual attraction.

thank you all,
-schoenetanz

Well the relationship I had with the Leo ended because I wasn't sexually attracted to him anymore..It just finished completely one day for me..It was like one minute I thought he was fine, he was planning our wedding..and the next minute at the click of a finger..I just wasn't in love with him anymore..Vanished..so I finished it with him..Can't have meant that much.

However, thats why I think its good to be friends first..at least that way it means a lot more..

I lost sexual interest in my husband long before we divorced. I was still willing to work on the relationship with him untill everything els became so unbearable to deal with.

He was a very lazy person. The lazieness became the unattractive quality for me that led to me loosing interest in him, which led to the feeling of "I just went to work, cooked, cleaned, and took care of the kids, and now you can go screw yourself tonight, because you arent screwing me".

to be sexually attracted to the person you are in love with- if you found yourself no longer sexually excited by that person what would you do about it?

Thats a hard one to answer, because sometimes there are many other things that you cling to once the lust has gone... Such as, for the kids sake, or the mortgage, or the other person's dependancy. There are more reasons to stay together in this situation than there are to leave. Will this work long term, I don't know. Good question though....