Scorplady and Taurus Friend Issue

Ok here's how it all went down. He sent me an IM yesterday morning "how's your day" Me, "good know that I have spoken to you" so a little more conversation and then he says he was going to take a nap, (he is off on Sunday and Monday)so I said ok maybe we will talk before I get off work he says "ok" so time goes by it is about 4pm know and I sent him an IM saying "are you up yet" he says "Yes". Then he says to me "Do you want to come and sit on it" so of course I get this big smile and I say "GET OUT ARE YOU SERIOUS" and he said "Yea" so I say "oh snap I can't go I promised my sister I would take her somewhere after work" he says "call her and tell her you will be back around 12midnight" so I sent my sister a IM and she said "HECK NO" so I tell him and I am like "this is so not fair" "Why did'nt you ask me this earlier in the day when I spoke with you" he said nothing "

So I said I don't think I have enough gas to get there and then he said "I have 200.00 I will give you 5.00" I was like five dollars this man live 45min to an hour from me not to mention I will be in rush hr. traffic trying to get there and I have to pay a toll and all I get is five dollars, it was not worth it at all was my other thought then he said just come over so I say "I can break my promise my word is my bond please understand" he said nothing so about 45min goes by and I sent him an IM and I said "are you not speaking to me" he said nothing so I was like ok. So before I left work I sent him and IM and said "I hope you have a good evening, I am sorry I can come over tonight please understand" and I got no response.

I was feeling kinda bad but then I thought, he can't just call me and expect me to drop all my plans to come and screw him for 3 hours and then go home cuz he has to get up and 4:30am, We are not even in a relationship, we are working on building a friendship and this is what I get, because I can't go see him today.

Is he not wrong for not asking me earlier?

Am I wrong for not going?

And why the hell is he mad at me...damn,

So I decided that if he wants to be mad then that is on him I will not be calling him until he gets out of his funk and realize that I can't be at his beck and call anytime he wants cuz he damn sure won't be at mines...

That was the invite? wow kinda crude but then NO you were not wrong and yes he could have asked you earlier AND offered more gas money. What the hell is that? he's pissed cause you didn't come running for sex when you had a prior obligation? You did right.

U guys will love each other again...let your anger seep away. This is life. This is rollercoaster scorp/taurus. Live it or leave it. This is my new outlook.

Stand your ground though, SL.

Scorplady-I realized from yesterday you think I'm a virgo male-need to set the record straight I'm female-sorry need to add that to my bio page I guess.LOL

I like your interests, PWHITON, we got a lot in common! 🙂

Thanks everyone, I figure I was not wrong and I was actually feeling bad about it.

Well I have not intentions on calling him or IMing him if he come of line. He has mentioned before that he want's a women to submit but we have not got deep in that yet.

My bad PWHITON lol

TG I am not mad at him I am just blown that he would get mad behind that, it is like he don't see where he is wrong and if he is going to continue to have that attitude when I can't make it to see him then we are going to have problems...

Ya, bulls can be stubborn & closed minded. Hopefully he'll learn.

stubborn is one thing TG but controlling is another ...Hey we do have alot in commom🙂

I hope so to TG cuz I am not budging we will be discussing this issue or we will not be friends...I remember when I was young my sister(taurus) I used to do everything she said I never wanted her to get mad at me because I would feel bad but then I grew out of it she still gets mad when I tell her no but I don't feel bad anymore.

DAMN TAURUS.

It's bad enough that I am fighing with myself trying to make a decision as to whether are ready to be in a commited relationship, Do it want one? Am I ready for one? Or do I want to stay single for the rest of my life I like my freedom and not anserwing to anyone and Can I really be faithful at this time in my life...

I love being in my 40's I feel free I don't know if it's a mid life crises for me or what.

All I know is that being single is good to me and I don't have to deal with this bull crap from men if I don't want to.

Is he in his 40's too? If he is he might be kinda set in his ways too. Don't fight with yourself though....if you don't have peace about it...don't do it till you do.

Yea I am 44 and he is younger than me he is 41 or actually just turned 41 on May 3 or 4, yea he is set in his ways also. I am not saying I won't comprimise but damn I can't and will not if you can't understand my side.

Yea you are right PWHITON I don't have peace with it yet.

Think about what does give you peace, SL. We sometimes forget to.

What give me Peace?

Reading
Music
Time Alone
Sex - give me satifaction, not peace
Laughter
Communication
Keeping my emotions calm
Sleeping
Dancing
Partying

Hell I don't know what else give me peace, stupid shit

But I don't know if being in a relationship will give me peace, and comfort either I needt to be willing to try it guess and see. I would say the 1 and half I spent with that Cappy gave me peace. I think it gave me fun and laugher and a good time good sex can't say I was peaceful in it, because we were friends/lovers that different.

I can't if I do decide to commit in a relationship I want Peace, I don't want a lot of argueing over stupid stuff, I don't want to do all the compromising, I want communication I want love, togertherness honesty, I want it all cuz I will be giving it all and I want the same return...\

Is it posssible to find someone like...I don't know?

So what am I am willing to accept if I can't have all that I want. I don't know?

SL: you have to be able to LISTEN to the other persons side before you can try to understand. Then at least you can maybe find some common link to the other's outlook on things. How can you compromise with "no response"?

right...I know that i was just saying that I am willing to compromise in a relationship...

With the Taurus guy hell no I am not compromising not until he speaks on this and we come to some agreement...on how to handle this visiting situation.

K-hope you don't mind if I'm blunt but you sound like you are really frustrated. I know I feel like I can relate to what your feeling. I am 46 and have been through my share of crap in relationships. Sounds like you are tossing up wether or not it's good for you to even try again. Sounds like you were the one maybe always bending to make things work and they STILL didn't. So now after having that freedom from emotional baggage you wonder if you want to jump back in the pool...kinda where I'm at anyway. It's like a friggin crap shoot. You want the closeness and love but it's a gamble...like what's in the craker jack box...You just have to trust your gut which I'm sure is VERY intuitive.
Maybe it's just a time thing, and things will smooth over. I wish you well.

Yea bascially that is it...but I say to myself a lot when the hell are these men going to grow fuck up and act like the man you claim to. When will the games stop you know.

And then I look at this situation with the Taurus this is some childish shit to me and it is crap like this I don't care to entertain. He is off work and he has not come on line...I am just in ahh about this shit cuz I can't believe it. I'm blown with the attitude...damn. and it shit like that I be ready to read somebody on there shit and I know I need to watch how I say something when I am like this cuz my bluntness will overrule

Oops-did I say frustrated?🙂 You're down-right pissed aeren't you? Not that I blame you... It is childish shit....it's my humble opinion that some people never evolve to a higher level beyond needing their mother. Did I say that outloud?

LOL I guess I am pissed, but at the same time PWHITON, I like screw you, nigga you ain't all that nor is your penis either is what I want to say. but he is confident in himself and made the statement that he knows his private is not all that...and I was like me be the judge of that.

I am fucking speachless of damn issue...Fuck Him

You can't just drop your plans cos he's feeling like getting jiggy with it!..tough shit..make him wait!..it will only be better next time!..hahah..

Do you want to come sit on it 😉 hahaha..nice..

MM you are funny.....thanks for the support

To my amaze this morning I get to work and find that my taurus friend is on line.

He IM'd me and said "Morning" I said "hello" He said "Sup" "I said I am very busy I having an Audit, the one I told you about" He said "ok will chat you later"

He did not go to work today. My intuition tells me that he is gonna wanna see me tonight. But I can't see him not until Saturday. I have an Health at 10am tommorrow, I worked until 11:30pm last night was back at work at 7:30am this morning for the damn audit. I need some rest.

So he will probably be mad at me again. LOL

Let him blow some smoke then! Bulls look funny when they're huffing & puffing outside your door. 😉 (ps. remember, stand strong, SL?)

Keep up the good work sweetpea!..make him stew..lol 😉

You know the score!!!!

I don't blame you for being pissed ..... this man is treating you like a prostitute. A cheap prostitute at that. Hell ... men even have to drive to where the prostitutes are because I don't even think prostitutes do home delivery.

Why are you even considering speaking to him again?

Well because I believe in given people second chances and because I want to confront him on this issue face to face first chance I get and if we can't come to some kind of agreement then I am out.

We are friends and it is my choice as to whether I see him again, so I am not going to base my decision on his imature actions at the momemt that is why am considering seeing him again.


The whole point of me seeing him is to confront him face to face that way I can see his true idenity for myself. If you know what I mean

Is this someone that you know in real life or only over the net?

Real life, I have known him for 2 years did not date him the first year we started just talking and I made him mad and he stop talking to for a year I was ok with that because I was not seeing a lot of him,

But then a year later he got back in touch with me via IM and we started talking again

We both tried to remember what happen all I can say to him was that I said something he did not like and I was sure of it and I am real sure of it know.

So we started talking again our scheduels are pretty hectic that is why I have not seen a lot of him but I did go see him once, after that he did not speak to me for a week because I had an emotional episode, I thought I was ready but I was'nt still needed some time.

We have not had a serious talk as of yet, that is why I am considering seeing him again.

To be honest, I don't think its even that much of an issue..He wanted a shag when it suited him, you turned him down cos you have this other thing called life that you need to get on with..he couldn't take it..tough shit..let him deal with it..your worth more than that..if you believe that yourself..which I am sure you do...

Is this a casual thing or do you want more out of it? If you want more then I suggest restraining yourself..but hey who am I to sit here and harp on about it..do what you think is right..

SL, I just read your post. Sounds to me like you really like this guy and sense that you could probably get too deep, too fast with him but you don't want to get hurt again or lose "control" (not necessarily in an emotional sense but you know what I mean) over yourself. Now I will say this about Taurus men, they are
one of THEE most stubborn people on the planet. They are stubborn as a rule
and think they are THEE sexiest men alive. I agree with you and PWHITON,
face-to-face and get the cards on the table. And as MM says, do what YOU feel is right. You've got nothing to lose and he needs to see just who is dealing with. You are for real. If he can handle it, he is in for one helluva ride, if not, he can "get ta steppin' "

*pathfinder snaps her finger and waves it in a curve ...*

As we say in Jersey,"forgettaboutit"