How long are Scorpios bouts of solitude?

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My BF hasn't communicated with me for the last week, my calls and txt have gone unanswered. By reading this message boards I come to understand that he very well be "taking a break". Kinda rude to leave me wondering if I did anything wrong or said something out of line. The last day I saw him we were fine, laughing and he kissed me goodbye. I just wanna know if I should wait weeks or months... its been a week and two days lol but who's counting rite?! Also I have his astro chart if anyone can help me read it... btw I'm a libra!
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wow, what is it - Scorpio boyfriends ignore their girlfriend week?!?!

I just went through something slightly similar, and I AM a Scorpio (but Leo rising... so I like attention AND alone time). Honestly, you have to talk to him about it. Scorpios have big hearts, despite what some might say. We are not cold and mean and ruthless. If he really cares about you, he'll be willing to make a compromise or at least talk about it. And if he doesn't give you the chance to talk about it, or makes you feel guilty for not liking the way he's been acting, he probably doesn't deserve you! I talked to my Scorp about it and he totally understood where I was coming from and things are good now. Good Luck!!
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Posted by Ellybean
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Why do people think it's okay to let people do that to them? why is that ok? I really wanna know.



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Scorpio or not dude is wrong. I can't recall a time where my scorp and I have gone an entire week with no communication on either party's side. There's no excuse if your committed and been dating exclusively three or four months. It takes a few seconds to text 'Hey, dealing with some stuff on my own. Haven't forgotten you. I'll reach out when I'm ready'

Scorpio needs a spanking.
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Yea, exactly.
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Why do people think it's okay to let people do that to them? why is that ok? I really wanna know.



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Scorpio or not dude is wrong. I can't recall a time where my scorp and I have gone an entire week with no communication on either party's side. There's no excuse if your committed and been dating exclusively three or four months. It takes a few seconds to text 'Hey, dealing with some stuff on my own. Haven't forgotten you. I'll reach out when I'm ready'

Scorpio needs a spanking.



Yea, exactly.
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We have been "BF&GF" for two months and as a matter of fact he disappeared after I send him a heart felt your amazing happy 2 month anniv. Hey I'm a libra and a sucker for holidays and special occasions, then the disappearing act started. I don't think am an unreasonable person much less inconsiderate, if he would of txt me saying "im going thru stuff" or whatever I would of offered my help and backed away... I know we still trying to find our way and getting to know each other better but DANG! he really has me doubting myself... I seriously hope is not a month before he decides to resurrect.
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Posted by Scorpvenus
To begin with,drop him a message saying "I am worried about whether you are all right because you have not responded to me in a week.If you're busy let me know just so i don't worry about you".

Leave it at that.

After he is back have the talk as phoenix suggested.Let him know you care about him and also tell him that if needs alone time,he needs to tell you so.



I have tried to call him yesterday with no success... I drafted a message that I wanted to send similar to yours but my friend suggested I stop all contact with him this week and if by Friday he don't resurrect send the txt as it ends with "don't expect me to sit here w a smile on my face forever, I'm not that kind of girl much less trying to play games here, just know that if you take too long I will move on"... I still think is kinda harsh but it might do the trick... IDK
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Posted by phoenix1rising
wow, what is it - Scorpio boyfriends ignore their girlfriend week?!?!

I just went through something slightly similar, and I AM a Scorpio (but Leo rising... so I like attention AND alone time). Honestly, you have to talk to him about it. Scorpios have big hearts, despite what some might say. We are not cold and mean and ruthless. If he really cares about you, he'll be willing to make a compromise or at least talk about it. And if he doesn't give you the chance to talk about it, or makes you feel guilty for not liking the way he's been acting, he probably doesn't deserve you! I talked to my Scorp about it and he totally understood where I was coming from and things are good now. Good Luck!!



I agree with the big heart and not being mean and ruthless... However if you have said to really like someone and spend plenty of time, money and effort (meaning him) why would you do this to someone (meaning me) who has match your effort, time investment and has showed you she cares for you when you that this will potentially be hurtful and perceived as breaking up.... I wanna see if he is gonna come back all non chalant and like nothing happen.
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Posted by Scorpvenus
To begin with,drop him a message saying "I am worried about whether you are all right because you have not responded to me in a week.If you're busy let me know just so i don't worry about you".

Leave it at that.

After he is back have the talk as phoenix suggested.Let him know you care about him and also tell him that if needs alone time,he needs to tell you so.



I completely agree with this suggestion. As Scorpios, we hate to be ignored. If we do it to someone we care about and they bring it to our attention we correct it.

But I will say; NO man should ignore the woman he is in a relationship with for an entire week, with no explanation. Scorpio or not. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.
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Whether it is or not (i feel pretty moody at the moment), it is no excuse not to communicate with friends. Just a quick text to say *i am not feeling great, but will contact you when i am*

Simple!



Agreed! The retrograde is definitely affecting me. I am not my normal talkative self, but I am at least still keeping the lines of communication open to some extent. To ignore the person you are in a relationship for no apparent reason with no explanation, is out of line IMO.
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Fuck that shit. If my bf doesn't communicate with me for a week he better be dead.



Or in jail?



most of my friends suggested that however I doubt it.
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Maybe your two months anniversary message scared him off so he needs time to process . They are the masters of push n pull . He needs to re-charge and so do you ? he's trying to get the chase game back.

My personal experience n i could be wrong here so take what i say as a grain of salt. I suggest you move on with your life n stop contacting him. go shopping, watch movies with friends etc then when he returns..which he will ...sit him straight and explain how you were worried he disappeared on you etc and tell him that you will appreciate a little heads up next time if he ever felt like he needed some space as you will give him just that. 🙂
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To begin with,drop him a message saying "I am worried about whether you are all right because you have not responded to me in a week.If you're busy let me know just so i don't worry about you".

Leave it at that.

After he is back have the talk as phoenix suggested.Let him know you care about him and also tell him that if needs alone time,he needs to tell you so.



I completely agree with this suggestion. As Scorpios, we hate to be ignored. If we do it to someone we care about and they bring it to our attention we correct it.

But I will say; NO man should ignore the woman he is in a relationship with for an entire week, with no explanation. Scorpio or not. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.
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Posted by LibraMexiChick
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"don't expect me to sit here w a smile on my face forever, I'm not that kind of girl much less trying to play games here, just know that if you take too long I will move on"... I still think is kinda harsh but it might do the trick... IDK
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I suggest you find out if he is seriously ill or hurt before you send such a message.

If he is all right and not responding,then send it by all means.
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Fuck that shit. If my bf doesn't communicate with me for a week he better be dead.



Or in jail?



most of my friends suggested that however I doubt it.



Maybe your two months anniversary message scared him off so he needs time to process . They are the masters of push n pull . He needs to re-charge and so do you ? he's trying to get the chase game back.

My personal experience n i could be wrong here so take what i say as a grain of salt. I suggest you move on with your life n stop contacting him. go shopping, watch movies with friends etc then when he returns..which he will ...sit him straight and explain how you were worried he disappeared on you etc and tell him that you will appreciate a little heads up next time if he ever felt like he needed some space as you will give him just that. 🙂
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Yup as of yesterday I cut all contact w him... I haven't called or txt'd. Lets see what happens.
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"don't expect me to sit here w a smile on my face forever, I'm not that kind of girl much less trying to play games here, just know that if you take too long I will move on"... I still think is kinda harsh but it might do the trick... IDK




I suggest you find out if he is seriously ill or hurt before you send such a message.

If he is all right and not responding,then send it by all means.
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Kinda hard to figure that out since Idk any of his family members... They know me but he hasn't introduce me. No luck there. I don't wanna be calling his job or stalking him... Creepy status.
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Maybe your two months anniversary message scared him off so he needs time to process . They are the masters of push n pull . He needs to re-charge and so do you ? he's trying to get the chase game back.

My personal experience n i could be wrong here so take what i say as a grain of salt. I suggest you move on with your life n stop contacting him. go shopping, watch movies with friends etc then when he returns..which he will ...sit him straight and explain how you were worried he disappeared on you etc and tell him that you will appreciate a little heads up next time if he ever felt like he needed some space as you will give him just that. 🙂



Mine ran from me when we were dating because he doubted if he could give me the life I want. He doesn't make good money, has a kid and no free time. I have cats...he's allergic. Initially he said he wanted to have more kids and stuff, then he kinda back pedaled.
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This is exactly why I always laugh at the Scorpio/Libra combo. When it's good, it is really good, but when it goes sour look out. The Scorpio I pursued teed me off big time and I went straight to the ignore phase. Took two weeks, but finally she contacted me to say she was sorry and was just going through a lot. The funny thing, if she had just said that a month prior I would have understood and thought nothing of it. But that's the difference with us, we're talkers and they aren't.

Smart thing would be to let him do his thing and you do yours. I'd say the good thing is you figured this out early enough that you guys can work on it if that's something you both want. Wait too long and then you'll overanalyze each brief pause wondering if you did something or if he's gone cold again.