SternAmHimmel
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How patient do I need to be with him?
I'm kinda in the same boat but mine is longer time frames (broke up 15 year relationship at the end of 2012, took him 3 years to contact me, and currently still says he's "still not ready") ... but if your Scorpio recently broke up a 2 year relationship, then it would definitely take 6months- a year, in my opinion.
He has similar placements as me, so I thought that was pretty cool, but like blacklagoon said it will definitely take some time. Especially with it being a fresh wound, he isn't over it, cause it takes a while for most of us Venus in Scorpios to do that. He's scared of being hurt again, so he may be taking his time to feel you out. Making sure that it's safe to open up and possibly be with you. While also trying to get over the hurt from the last relationship, and having his alone time to do just that. He's distancing himself from you just a bit so that things don't get too serious, too soon, and then bam he may get hurt again. If you really want to be with him I'd say just be there for him, and show him that you care. Just keep that positive energy with him, and do/say sweet things to him, because I think it would help him feel better that someone truly cares. Give him as much time as he needs, and don't pressure him. He will let you know if and when he wants to take things further.
You sound like my Sag who has a Cap Venus! I drove him crazy for a while. He didn't know what to do about me at first.
I'm a female but a Libra Sun/Scorp Venus... It took me over a year to get over the last relationship I was in.
I'm glad he was upfront about it with you. The "hot and cold" thing you're feeling is when he may be wanting to get to know you and his friendly nature (Libra) is coming out (hot), but his cautious and skeptical heart (Scorpio) that is wounded decides it's not the right time/he's not ready and he doesn't want to make it seem like he's ready 🥶 so he stays silent some days.
I did this to my current Sag bf. He tried for 4 months to get close to me. We became friends before anything serious happened. He had a way of sensing when I needed space though and didn't push too much for a relationship. Which is good...because if he had I would have let him go (had to do that to a Gemini friend who had no patience/he was not honest with me though.)
What I did like about the Sag is that he told me he wanted a relationship with me, but understood where I was at and would give me that space. Eventually I fell.
I'm a female but a Libra Sun/Scorp Venus... It took me over a year to get over the last relationship I was in.
I'm glad he was upfront about it with you. The "hot and cold" thing you're feeling is when he may be wanting to get to know you and his friendly nature (Libra) is coming out (hot), but his cautious and skeptical heart (Scorpio) that is wounded decides it's not the right time/he's not ready and he doesn't want to make it seem like he's ready 🥶 so he stays silent some days.
I did this to my current Sag bf. He tried for 4 months to get close to me. We became friends before anything serious happened. He had a way of sensing when I needed space though and didn't push too much for a relationship. Which is good...because if he had I would have let him go (had to do that to a Gemini friend who had no patience/he was not honest with me though.)
What I did like about the Sag is that he told me he wanted a relationship with me, but understood where I was at and would give me that space. Eventually I fell.
Posted by jane84Sooo true, definitely said some of the things I meant to say, but couldn't put into words at the time, because of distractions lol.
You sound like my Sag who has a Cap Venus! I drove him crazy for a while. He didn't know what to do about me at first.
I'm a female but a Libra Sun/Scorp Venus... It took me over a year to get over the last relationship I was in.
I'm glad he was upfront about it with you. The "hot and cold" thing you're feeling is when he may be wanting to get to know you and his friendly nature (Libra) is coming out (hot), but his cautious and skeptical heart (Scorpio) that is wounded decides it's not the right time/he's not ready and he doesn't want to make it seem like he's ready 🥶 so he stays silent some days.
I did this to my current Sag bf. He tried for 4 months to get close to me. We became friends before anything serious happened. He had a way of sensing when I needed space though and didn't push too much for a relationship. Which is good...because if he had I would have let him go (had to do that to a Gemini friend who had no patience/he was not honest with me though.)
What I did like about the Sag is that he told me he wanted a relationship with me, but understood where I was at and would give me that space. Eventually I fell.
Posted by ForeverAllureLol Well that's why we are here right? To help each other out. You made very good points that I agree with as well!Posted by jane84Sooo true, definitely said some of the things I meant to say, but couldn't put into words at the time, because of distractions lol.
You sound like my Sag who has a Cap Venus! I drove him crazy for a while. He didn't know what to do about me at first.
I'm a female but a Libra Sun/Scorp Venus... It took me over a year to get over the last relationship I was in.
I'm glad he was upfront about it with you. The "hot and cold" thing you're feeling is when he may be wanting to get to know you and his friendly nature (Libra) is coming out (hot), but his cautious and skeptical heart (Scorpio) that is wounded decides it's not the right time/he's not ready and he doesn't want to make it seem like he's ready 🥶 so he stays silent some days.
I did this to my current Sag bf. He tried for 4 months to get close to me. We became friends before anything serious happened. He had a way of sensing when I needed space though and didn't push too much for a relationship. Which is good...because if he had I would have let him go (had to do that to a Gemini friend who had no patience/he was not honest with me though.)
What I did like about the Sag is that he told me he wanted a relationship with me, but understood where I was at and would give me that space. Eventually I fell.click to expand
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