How should I message this Scorpoo girl I know from work?

Hey guys,

I have this girl from work I find really attractive and would at the least like to go on a date with. She's a very nice girl and at work we usually give each other a smile and a hello and some small talk before moving on with our jobs. We work in McDonalds and since I work in the kitchen and she in the front of house, we rarely get a chance to chat. While I am comfortable chatting to girls in person, if shaky on flirting, I have absolutely no clue on how to message a girl that you want something romantic with. Messaging to get to know a bit then set up a date is what my goal is here but I really have trouble in this area. Can you guys help?

Just for clarity, there has been a few times at work where she has tried to chat to me but I was not in a very opportune position to do so (i.e. busy and stressed with many orders to complete.). And when I have messaged her on Snapchat and Instagram, I get varied responses. It can be a nice conversation but taking a while to reply, to short messages and recently she handed her phone to her best friend so he could talk to me. He knows I am interested in her and has likely told her. If I can get this messaging thing down then I guage her interest in a couple days.

I greatly appreciate any advice you guys can give me!

Thanks in advance

-Ownard

“DTF??”

Posted by Whorpio

“DTF??”

Wish it were that easy

Posted by tiziani

Don't text, it is a waste of time. My honest opinion for what little it is worth.

Noted.

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Do you know any of her likes and dislikes?

What kind of city do you live in—like are there parks nearby? The climate?

Just try to get any ole conversation good and ask her to coffee and if the coffee date goes well, get lunch or dinner or ice cream

Or ask her if she wants to walk at a park—this works if you or her have a dog

And then get Ice cream

But just try to start a convo with something relevant like a song she has mentioned or something else you guys have talked about or maybe about a location or activity that she’s doing in one of her Instagram photos

But start with a low risk date that if you click, you can build upon it to spend the day together

Do either of you play Pokémon go? You can do that as a low risk ‘date’ just to get to know eachother a bit then go for ice cream or dinner or whatever

Thanks, I see from her snap that she meets her friends for lunch a lot so I'm sure I may be able to spring a conversation from that.

I like the idea of a low risk coffee date, the thing is, I don't like any type of coffee or tea. I could always say pancakes?

Posted by peachy06

Can't you just tell her face to face instead of texting ? We like up-front people.

I would personally prefer to meet with her however at this point we barely know each other. Since work is hectic and I have no connections to her outside, I was hoping to use messaging as a way to create a baseline.

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Posted by Ownard

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Do you know any of her likes and dislikes?

What kind of city do you live in—like are there parks nearby? The climate?

Just try to get any ole conversation good and ask her to coffee and if the coffee date goes well, get lunch or dinner or ice cream

Or ask her if she wants to walk at a park—this works if you or her have a dog

And then get Ice cream

But just try to start a convo with something relevant like a song she has mentioned or something else you guys have talked about or maybe about a location or activity that she’s doing in one of her Instagram photos

But start with a low risk date that if you click, you can build upon it to spend the day together

Do either of you play Pokémon go? You can do that as a low risk ‘date’ just to get to know eachother a bit then go for ice cream or dinner or whatever

Thanks, I see from her snap that she meets her friends for lunch a lot so I'm sure I may be able to spring a conversation from that.

I like the idea of a low risk coffee date, the thing is, I don't like any type of coffee or tea. I could always say pancakes?

Of course

Do a brunch

Or walk in the park

Do you like tea?

There’s always ice cream or frozen yogurt

A convo about lunch with her friends can lead you to ask if she’s into brunch or what her favorite foods are, she might really dig crêpes

Rolled ice cream

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That's a good idea! Thanks very much for it. I will try to strike a conversation and see if I can get a meet quick

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischarge

Yeah you could probably call her to talk to her if you’re not able to at work

Or maybe talk to her face to face after work if you get off at the same time

Honestly, only ever got off work at the same time as her once since I've been working there. Sadly J couldn't chat since I needed to shower before going to the cinema with friends.