How to deal with double standards?

This topic was created in the Scorpio forum by follealicat on Saturday, May 18, 2013 and has 8 replies.

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@Scorpvenus
13 Years

To begin with, take a deep breath and relax your super agitated mind.

When you are calm,re-read
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/scorpio/scorp-on-scorp-just-asking-for-trouble-3844219/#3844779

and also read

http://www.iamscorpio.net/scorpio-scorpio-compatibility.html

Understand ^^^ well,reflect upon it,take it seriously(it is vital to the survival of your relationship) and ask yourself if you're ready for evolution(I am assuming you know by now that a Scorpio man/woman can change for better/evolve only when they decide to).Also know fully well that change requires work and commitment.

If you do decide to change,I shall post a few more things which might be helpful in the process.

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@Whimsy
15 Years1,000+ Posts

How to deal with the double standards?

My Gemininess doesn't allow me to let them go, because I can't deal with unfairness. I am happy to say that I've been able to chip some pieces off of the double-standard rock. Many years of repeated pleas, complaints, fights, and tears never worked, so I finally got to the point where I just did whatever the hell I wanted and let him deal with it. This worked best. He seemed to relax a little when it was clear that he wasn't going to be in control (I expected the opposite from a Scorp). I'm not saying he doesn't still complain a little, but I certainly feel a lot better...and I think he does, too!

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@CreepyPants
20 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by ellessque
this is the classic power struggle between scorpio/scorpio relationships.

someone has to submit in order for it to work.

doesn't sound like either one of you are up for that.

so similar to scorp/cap

my ex scorp is riddled with double standards. i think what helped me tolerate them for the time that i did was because i held myself to a different standard anyways and kind of understood it. plus... yes, i know for a fact i have double standards as well.

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@CreepyPants
20 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by tiziani
How to deal with double standards... accept them, point out the ones that bother you, see if the person is willing to change and you change with them. And, if not, then take a step back. Let it go. Move on.

People are full of double standards and that's just part of being human.

there ya go

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@follealicat
13 Years

I'll draw attention to a double standard and he doesn't admit to it. But I got him to open up today and tell me more about his friends. I find pushing the point while maintaining a calm voice and sweet disposition works now! Usually I get angry and that def doesn't work.

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@PP
13 Years

Posted by CreepyPants

Posted by tiziani
How to deal with double standards... accept them, point out the ones that bother you, see if the person is willing to change and you change with them. And, if not, then take a step back. Let it go. Move on.

People are full of double standards and that's just part of being human.

there ya go

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Could not have typed it any better myself! +1