how to get a scorpio to talk about his divorce past or personal details subliminaly?

I wouldn't like someone asking questions about the ex either, I know he doesn't like his ex-wife much but still I can see his divorce has taken a toll on him, at least I feel so, and I only wish I could help him feel better. I've given him his space for now, but he wants to keep close although prefers not to talk about it. I respect that. maybe I'll have to learn to comfort him in a different way rather than talk.

update: his divorce Is a 14 month story which came to an end around last week just as he told me a month ago and that was my last thread, about his divorce being finalized. for some slows like magicmona and Arielle83 who don't know how basic things work, divorce proceedings don't happen in a week's time and get over.

long story short: my boss and I are seeing each other now and he's divorced and our relationship is in a quick phase but now I'd like to know about his divorce details and maybe in detail about his past.

so I went to his birthday party at the ritz and his wife was introduced, and the kids, the woman was just cold and had this look in her eyes when she spoke to me all the while and when her boyfriend introduced himself like an uneducated prick I gave her the stare for her loser guy and she just went silent and never spoke. I asked my guy about the details of his divorce and he just said it was never meant to be and he dodges the issue most times. maybe prefers not to disclose details. I could ask his best friend at work but that would mean he might tell him someday and I don't want to seem like a stalker!

I feel uncomfortable to keep pressurizing him to talk about so how can I ask him without seeming like I'm barraging him with questions?

He obviously doesn't want to talk about it. Stop asking. It's really not important.

Posted by ariessungoddess
long story short: my boss and I are seeing each other now and he's divorced and our relationship is in a quick phase but now I'd like to know about his divorce details and maybe in detail about his past.

so I went to his birthday party at the ritz and his wife was introduced, and the kids, the woman was just cold and had this look in her eyes when she spoke to me all the while and when her boyfriend introduced himself like an uneducated prick I gave her the stare for her loser guy and she just went silent and never spoke. I asked my guy about the details of his divorce and he just said it was never meant to be and he dodges the issue most times. maybe prefers not to disclose details. I could ask his best friend at work but that would mean he might tell him someday and I don't want to seem like a stalker!

I feel uncomfortable to keep pressurizing him to talk about so how can I ask him without seeming like I'm barraging him with questions?

When its time he will tell you. Don't pressure Scorpio!

He got divorced that quick — chile ... Okay —

Do not ask his friend or anyone else about the details. Scorpios are private people and despise the thought of people talking about their personal life. Trust me.

Posted by ariessungoddess
long story short: my boss and I are seeing each other now and he's divorced and our relationship is in a quick phase but now I'd like to know about his divorce details and maybe in detail about his past.

so I went to his birthday party at the ritz and his wife was introduced, and the kids, the woman was just cold and had this look in her eyes when she spoke to me all the while and when her boyfriend introduced himself like an uneducated prick I gave her the stare for her loser guy and she just went silent and never spoke. I asked my guy about the details of his divorce and he just said it was never meant to be and he dodges the issue most times. maybe prefers not to disclose details. I could ask his best friend at work but that would mean he might tell him someday and I don't want to seem like a stalker!

I feel uncomfortable to keep pressurizing him to talk about so how can I ask him without seeming like I'm barraging him with questions?

He's probably wondering as I am "why the hell are the details of his marriage and its demise relevant to you two getting to know each other?"

Sounds like you're looking for something (e.g. what type of partner he is), but asking the wrong questions (e.g. what went wrong...why did it end), hense the vague answers. A Scorp is not going to make it easy for you to look through their closet.

Personally, I dislike when people fish. You truly only have one option. Simmer down and take your time as you get to know him. Be observant and over time you'll find out exactly the type of man he is. I personally think he's shown you quite a bit, but you'll need to walk that line and learn for yourself. I digress.

Asking a million question won't get you anywhere. He'll see right through it and trust, if he finds out you're asking other people questions he already addressed with you, that relationship will die fast.

I'm a Scorpio. I would hate for someone to keep pestering me about some past loser. He know she you want to know be he will tell you once he is comfortable. So to make him comfortable overall in your relationship is to his spoil him. Rub him down some time. Have passionate sex. Really get him into his feelings. That's the only way I will open up. You have to be THAT important. You can do it!!

And please do not be judgmental. Huge red flag

Posted by MagicMona
i wanna say TaurusGirl soooooo bad!!.....

bu let me appeal to those with reason. any divorcees here? how long did it take for your divorce to finalize? a few short weeks or more?

Mine took forever. First a one year separation, then a preliminary, then mediation, then we went back and forth on a few things. It was over two years and we weren't fighting over anything.

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Posted by ariessungoddess
long story short: my boss and I are seeing each other now and he's divorced and our relationship is in a quick phase but now I'd like to know about his divorce details and maybe in detail about his past.

so I went to his birthday party at the ritz and his wife was introduced, and the kids, the woman was just cold and had this look in her eyes when she spoke to me all the while and when her boyfriend introduced himself like an uneducated prick I gave her the stare for her loser guy and she just went silent and never spoke. I asked my guy about the details of his divorce and he just said it was never meant to be and he dodges the issue most times. maybe prefers not to disclose details. I could ask his best friend at work but that would mean he might tell him someday and I don't want to seem like a stalker!

I feel uncomfortable to keep pressurizing him to talk about so how can I ask him without seeming like I'm barraging him with questions?

I, too, don't like to talk about the past.

If I am with a woman, I am with her. I consider revisiting the past a form of infidelity. Sounds extreme, I know. But - then again - Scorpios are kind of weird in that way. At least I am.

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haha k

Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
Have you tried hypnotizing him?

good idea

Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
I know one way to get him to talk. It's cruel but effective. Not subtle though...........

haha yeah, way brutal for my taste!

Posted by Impulsv
Because who wants to say they cheated on their spouse got caught prior to u

let's just hope this is definitely not the case.

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Posted by ariessungoddess
long story short: my boss and I are seeing each other now and he's divorced and our relationship is in a quick phase but now I'd like to know about his divorce details and maybe in detail about his past.

so I went to his birthday party at the ritz and his wife was introduced, and the kids, the woman was just cold and had this look in her eyes when she spoke to me all the while and when her boyfriend introduced himself like an uneducated prick I gave her the stare for her loser guy and she just went silent and never spoke. I asked my guy about the details of his divorce and he just said it was never meant to be and he dodges the issue most times. maybe prefers not to disclose details. I could ask his best friend at work but that would mean he might tell him someday and I don't want to seem like a stalker!

I feel uncomfortable to keep pressurizing him to talk about so how can I ask him without seeming like I'm barraging him with questions?

He's probably wondering as I am "why the hell are the details of his marriage and its demise relevant to you two getting to know each other?"

Sounds like you're looking for something (e.g. what type of partner he is), but asking the wrong questions (e.g. what went wrong...why did it end), hense the vague answers. A Scorp is not going to make it easy for you to look through their closet.

Personally, I dislike when people fish. You truly only have one option. Simmer down and take your time as you get to know him. Be observant and over time you'll find out exactly the type of man he is. I personally think he's shown you quite a bit, but you'll need to walk that line and learn for yourself. I digress.

Asking a million question won't get you anywhere. He'll see right through it and trust, if he finds out you're asking other people questions he already addressed with you, that relationship will die fast.

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yeah it rings true. I always preferred if something bothers someone they should just talk about it or let go but lately his eyes lost the sparkle and he seems so needy but is reluctant to discussions so I really don't know how to help so this isn't me prying, this is me just trying to figure out how to help him! maybe like you say I just need to hang around and wait he'll recover in time.

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by ariessungoddess
long story short: my boss and I are seeing each other now and he's divorced and our relationship is in a quick phase but now I'd like to know about his divorce details and maybe in detail about his past.

so I went to his birthday party at the ritz and his wife was introduced, and the kids, the woman was just cold and had this look in her eyes when she spoke to me all the while and when her boyfriend introduced himself like an uneducated prick I gave her the stare for her loser guy and she just went silent and never spoke. I asked my guy about the details of his divorce and he just said it was never meant to be and he dodges the issue most times. maybe prefers not to disclose details. I could ask his best friend at work but that would mean he might tell him someday and I don't want to seem like a stalker!

I feel uncomfortable to keep pressurizing him to talk about so how can I ask him without seeming like I'm barraging him with questions?

He's probably wondering as I am "why the hell are the details of his marriage and its demise relevant to you two getting to know each other?"

Sounds like you're looking for something (e.g. what type of partner he is), but asking the wrong questions (e.g. what went wrong...why did it end), hense the vague answers. A Scorp is not going to make it easy for you to look through their closet.

Personally, I dislike when people fish. You truly only have one option. Simmer down and take your time as you get to know him. Be observant and over time you'll find out exactly the type of man he is. I personally think he's shown you quite a bit, but you'll need to walk that line and learn for yourself. I digress.

Asking a million question won't get you anywhere. He'll see right through it and trust, if he finds out you're asking other people questions he already addressed with you, that relationship will die fast.

yeah it rings true. I always preferred if something bothers someone they should just talk about it or let go but lately his eyes lost the sparkle and he seems so needy but is reluctant to discussions so I really don't know how to help so this isn't me prying, this is me just trying to figure out how to help him! maybe like you say I just need to hang around and wait he'll recover in time.

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That's great, however Scorps aren't Rams, so they don't operate the same way. You're dealing with a bit of a passive sign when it comes to disclosing feelings, whatever they may be.

You reasoning still sounds a little off though. The sparkle has gone from his eyes and you want to bring up another woman? Just no.

He may have some regrets about the divorce. It happens. Are you worried?