How would you feel as a woman...

if your man went down on you, got you hot as hell, you asked him to have sex with you, and because of a certain problem nothing ever happened even though he wanted to?

The reason I ask is because this just so happened to me, and I want to tell my girl how I feel. I'm just trying to get an idea of what she's been thinking since that night. I know what I've been feeling/thinking. I just hope it doesn't ruin any future chances, or our relationship. I have to get it off my chest before things boil over, seeing as we are both scorpios.

is the problem just because u couldnt get it up at that time?
because itz al ryt sometimes that can happen... or is the problem more serious than that?

if that is the problem... take her out to dinner have flowers on the bed candles lit champagne at the ready wen you both get home have a sensual bath with bubbles and oils then take her to the bed and do it again...
shel have completely forgotten about the first time!

Just this once. Usually I find myself easily aroused. It's not that I couldn't get it up, it wouldn't stay up...

lol that alryt! look personally shez not questioning hyour feelings for her but rather shes questioning her own desireability...
being a female she probably just rang up her best gf to see if this was normal or if the 2 kgz she just put on really does make her look fat... haha just first inital reaction being female!
but her gf would proabaly have reassured her it can actually happen...

all im saying is take her out wine her dine her 69 her haha... n just show her you do still find her desireable...

by showing her it means more than words... it also doesnt bring as much attention to it and shell be so taken back by the effort uv made for the nyt shell have completely forgot bout the other nyt

haha n ps her gfz will think ur fab!!

That's just the thing, I find her VERY desirable. I don't know how to describe myself, but if you saw me and her together, you'd probably ask, why the hell is she with him? She is a very attractive girl. About 5'6", 120Lbs, long dark hair, slender/slightly athletic build. Nice breasts, very very nice ass. When I had her in my arms nakid, I was turned on ten fold. I just don't know what happened.

hahaha it happens... there has been a time when i was sooo turned on but i just couldnt cum haha i dont know what the hell happened but we tried and tried and freakin well tried... hahaha n the end i got soo shitty i said im goin 4 a run! haha soo it happenz to everybody it can just be stress or fatigue or anything... who knowz.

in the end he felt like he wasnt performing or that i didnt find him attractive anymore but i honestly really found him incredibly sexy... so the next day i learnt a couple of tricks haha n really showed him how badly i did want him haha it actually worked out for the best...

soo what im saying is she probably feels a lil taken back but uv just gotta show her you do actually find her incredibly sexy...

Sounds like nerves maybe, was it the first time with her?
I've had a similar experience the first time with a the new guy. I was really nervous too, which didn't help things at all. But all I wanted to do was have another go at the next available opportunity! Whatever you do, don't dwell on it. I'm sure this happens all the time, it did to me and him but it didn't put a damper on things afterwards at all.

Actually Yattayattahey, it would be my first time period, maybe that had something to do with it.

Stayandsee23:

I never went down on a girl before, but I'm positive I did a good job of it.

ohhh rodge ur such a lovely guy!!! hahaha gawd an thought theyd all disappeard... haha peace 2 u my friend!!

Rodge

Man. If I were you I wouldn't think about this too much. If it bothers me about her, then I would tell her that there is something wrong and let her bother about this thing while I sleep and breathe easily.

Lighten up man, this is your life after all. You are living for yourself only because any decition that you will make will affect only you. If you think that she will leave you then why do bother?

oh haffo haffo haffo, do you ever have a lot to learn.
Okay, Rodge, chalk it up to "the jitters". I have a similar reaction only the female version but I don't like going into graphic detail, let's just say it has a mind of it's own!
If she wants to see you again, then for sure you got somewhere with her and I guarantee you haven't a thing to worry about. If she doesn't, over something so minor, then you are better off.

Is someone farted?

Awww..if that was gonna be your first time, that explains it. You were nervous, that's all. So just tell her already. 😉 She'll understand. It's neva like the movies.

I agree with misty that she's most likely worried about her desirablity and inserucirties are popping up in her head more than anything else,do her suggestion and give it another go to get it right or you can go the direct route and just tell her you were nervous or both.It shouldn't be that much of a problem at all if you told her though and then proved that it was meant.

lol yeaaa thankz tia!! and like she said itd probably b best 2 do both... tell her then really show her. gud luck hun! itz honestly nuthin 2 fret over.

Thanks ladies! This has definitely reassured me. Just have to find the right time now to bring up this conversation.

I blew it!!! I tried to talk to her about it last night, now's not the right time...

DOn't talk about it,son, get ways to take ur mind off about it, think nasty thoughts,cause if u continue feeling u have a problem,U WILL HAVE A SERIOUS problem,Capache?

yeaaa now did you know the mind is a very powerful weapon... i know this is completely goin off the topic...
but they did an experiment on a man in deathrow to see how powerful the mind actually was... they chose a healthy man who was forecastd to live well for the next 40 years... though due to murder he was sentanced to death...

n e way they shoved him in a chair put a clock in front of him and using a barrier between him and his right arm proceeded to tell him they were goin to inject him with the liquid that meant he was to be killed in an hour...

having done this they pricked his skin but un beknown to him they injected nothing...

they left the room and after the hour they came back to see that he was dead...

so the man had convinced himself that he was goin to die so the mind shut itself down and killed him. or so the theory goez...

so if your mind is that powerful to kill yourself imagine what else it could do...
(no kids no matter how powerful you think you are you CANNOT fly) lol
just an interesting thing 2 add to your day...

I say, it's her loss.

Okay if you can't talk about do the subtle ways of getting the point across.Just keep in mind that it's is common to happen and relax though,if your worried about it ya know...what happens.Good luck and go get laid grasshopper,the force is with you.😛