I ask you...

As a Scorpio male, how can you expect the same level of respect and trust when you pull away emotionally, repeatedly? Do you honestly expect your S/O, GF, or Partner to continuously reciprocate love and trust towards you? Or is this some ridiculous game that's being played?

I have no understanding of this, the crux of my confusion.

Try another sign...it may prove easier for you

Posted by EnochtheWise

Posted by MyStarsShine
Try another sign...it may prove easier for you

LOL!

Star, did you consult the Tarot cards on this? Or just flip a coin or something?

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No

I am a Scorpio and just know we are much better off having a rship with ourselves and not afflicting others

Lol

Admit.....it is true....if you dare

Posted by Obi
Being a Scorpio man, I have had a really hard time with pulling away and trusting my Virgo girlfriend. She has always been very supportive, until she had enough and was ready to leave the relationship. It was a huge wake up call. Sometimes Scorpio men need to be threatened with losing someone they care about more than anything to see what's right in front of them. It is ridiculous and childish I know, but sadly it's the truth. Virgo women are amazing when it comes to dealing with Scorpio men and their issues with suspicion and trust, and they just get what we are all about. There is an intense karmic bond there.

This is very true! The Virgo female that I know handles her Scorp male soooooo well. He's less suspicious and easier to be around. She like calms him and brings him out of his dark thoughts almost. The mans still VERY possessive but one step at a time I guess 😄

My last comment to him and I will not say another word, was... "You're hurting me."

His only reply, "Why"

I'm done.

Posted by Scorpio84
Depends on what he is going trough there honestly, would need to know more than that

can only say that he might be doing it for being hurt somehow or he fears giving you too much energy with little in return

speculating only here with not much to base on lol

I really don't know what he's going through, except the obvious... depression. I asked him point blank if he was distancing himself. He told me that he is looking for happiness. He's not happy with himself. He told me it wasn't me, it was him.

The thing is, he never really lets me go. I can't seem to let him go.

Posted by Obi
Being a Scorpio man, I have had a really hard time with pulling away and trusting my Virgo girlfriend. She has always been very supportive, until she had enough and was ready to leave the relationship. It was a huge wake up call. Sometimes Scorpio men need to be threatened with losing someone they care about more than anything to see what's right in front of them. It is ridiculous and childish I know, but sadly it's the truth. Virgo women are amazing when it comes to dealing with Scorpio men and their issues with suspicion and trust, and they just get what we are all about. There is an intense karmic bond there.

I agree that there's some kind of intense bond. I've told him that we're 2 sides of the same coin. I just don't know how or what to do with this constant "passive/aggressive" pulling back, reaching out.

He says things to me like, "you have me under your spell", "you are a lovely woman and I am a fool", "you should leave your toothbrush at my place"... Then, "I'm not happy"...

2 days later, everything's changed yet again.

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Posted by Obi
Being a Scorpio man, I have had a really hard time with pulling away and trusting my Virgo girlfriend. She has always been very supportive, until she had enough and was ready to leave the relationship. It was a huge wake up call. Sometimes Scorpio men need to be threatened with losing someone they care about more than anything to see what's right in front of them. It is ridiculous and childish I know, but sadly it's the truth. Virgo women are amazing when it comes to dealing with Scorpio men and their issues with suspicion and trust, and they just get what we are all about. There is an intense karmic bond there.

This is very true! The Virgo female that I know handles her Scorp male soooooo well. He's less suspicious and easier to be around. She like calms him and brings him out of his dark thoughts almost. The mans still VERY possessive but one step at a time I guess 😄

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How does someone go about doing this?

"She like calms him and brings him out of his dark thoughts almost."

I know that I tell myself that I'm done with this guy but I'm honest enough with myself to know that is so far from the truth. I wonder... someone pointed out that I have Venus square Neptune in my chart. Does this mean that I'm naturally attracted to the absolute worst type of men for me?

Posted by Scorpio84

Posted by Walkergrl

Posted by Scorpio84
Depends on what he is going trough there honestly, would need to know more than that

can only say that he might be doing it for being hurt somehow or he fears giving you too much energy with little in return

speculating only here with not much to base on lol

I really don't know what he's going through, except the obvious... depression. I asked him point blank if he was distancing himself. He told me that he is looking for happiness. He's not happy with himself. He told me it wasn't me, it was him.

The thing is, he never really lets me go. I can't seem to let him go.

Maybe he doesn't know yet that if he trusts you he should slowly start communicating with you about his issue

if you care for him and he does care for you then he probably didn't notice yet the value of his relationship

and leting those annoying feelings getting the best of him.

Probably something personal of him disapointed him too hard and he might need some time to get over it

its funny cause we give deep passion to everything in life even our hobbies so wouldn't surprise me.

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I asked him early this morning if "I should move on?"... He said he didn't want me to. I told him he was hurting me, he said, "I understand and I'm sorry" and asked me if I'd like to talk later tonight.

Posted by Arielle83
when my scorpio annoys me or gets distant its cuz he's dealing with something.

i leave him alone and i chill for me time.

then he comes back acting all better and everything is great again.

How long is your "chill" time? Several days or a week or more?

it's his own insecurity makes him do that. he prob doesn't believe he deserves to be loved so he has to repeatedly pulling away before the other person leaves him first.



He has actually said this to me ^^^ But not the part about "doesn't believe he deserves to be loved"...

Posted by Obi
What Scorpio84 said was right on. We are intense and passionate in EVERYTHING we do. That form of intensity can be overwhelming for most partners, especially if it's negative. Virgo's are able to harness that energy and help guide it towards positive outlets. Trust is huge for us and it takes a long time to build and let you in. Luckily Virgo women are very patient and nurturing by nature, so it tends to work. My Virgo will call me out when I'm being ridiculous and honestly it's really attractive. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should stick around and let him push and pull forever, constantly calling him out on every little thing, but I know from experience that he is probably testing you.... It is a game. He wants a reaction from you. He wants to see if you are really there for him when he is at his worst. All it does in the end is push away the people we want to hold the closest.

I asked him early this morning if "Should I move on?"... He said he didn't want me to. I told him he was hurting me, he said, "I understand and I'm sorry". I told him that I want to love and I want to be loved. Then he asked me if I'd like to talk later tonight.

Since he is the one asking me if I want to talk later tonight, I'm going to really make a conscious effort to just listen. I know myself well enough that when I'm nervous I'll really talk up a storm.

He is the first Scorpio I've experienced (that I know of) so, any words of advice for tonight would be appreciated.

Posted by Obi
I think your approach of just listening is perfect.Try not to be reactionary when you speak to him. Ask the hard questions that you need answers to, but be prepared for the answers. Don't threaten him with anything unless you really mean it. My advice to you is be ready to move on... It's hard, but he has to see that you are capable of being without him if it means your happiness. I bet you, when he sees that, he will make that necessary change to keep you in his life. My Virgo would put up with so much, that I began to take her for granted.I think that's what is happening here. It was when she was on her way out the door that I realized what I was going to lose. Don't bluff, even if he lets you leave. I don't know if you live together or not, but find a way to be gone for a couple days. Think about what YOU want. You have told him that he is hurting you, you've told him that you want to love and to be loved, what more can you say? Don't call him, put it in your head that your done.

Thank you for your words. I really do appreciate it.

We do not live together and I'm not sure if this will be a phone call or if he's coming to my place. I am, however, prepared for the worst.

I'm going through this with my Scorpio right now, but I knew I was in for a real challenge with this one when I made the choice to engage him.

He seriously almost lost me this week, though...

Posted by MagicMona
it is the truth. my aries friend literally complains to me everyday about her scorpio man being so distant. she'll ask him to come around. he'll reply that he's sorry but he's off with his female friends, or he's playing his guitar, etc. she said the only time he really comes around is when he's had some drinks and is in the mood. she also says he didn't used to be this way in the beginning. he was really attentive.

i asked her why does she ask me everything? she says because i'm a scorpio too, so maybe i can explain his behavior. i cant, because i'm not a scorpio man. i love differently. still, she asks me everyday about what she should say to him, how she should get her feelings across. she wants to know what she must do to light a fire under his ass and make him attentive again. i tell her to talk to him. everything she says to me she needs to say to him. if he doesn't listen, you'll have to move on and leave him. then he'll notice you. sadly, when it's too late.

it sucks. she is crazy about him, but he just act so nonchalant now. damn scorp. why are you guys so dumb?

She needs to stand up for herself and not let him walk all over her. Scorpios in general like people with a backbone. As soon as he starts that shit she lets him get away with it so he continues it. He's taking her for granted. She's letting him. It doesn't mean they are bad people. It's just the dynamics between them.

I was with a Scorpio male once. Heavy Scorp dominant. He tried all sorts of shit and in the end I walked. Never looked back. He's still licking his wounds wondering what happened. He knows what happened. He blames himself. Enough really needs to mean enough. Show them. Don't tell them. He is NOT her world.

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Posted by Obi
Being a Scorpio man, I have had a really hard time with pulling away and trusting my Virgo girlfriend. She has always been very supportive, until she had enough and was ready to leave the relationship. It was a huge wake up call. Sometimes Scorpio men need to be threatened with losing someone they care about more than anything to see what's right in front of them. It is ridiculous and childish I know, but sadly it's the truth. Virgo women are amazing when it comes to dealing with Scorpio men and their issues with suspicion and trust, and they just get what we are all about. There is an intense karmic bond there.

This is very true! The Virgo female that I know handles her Scorp male soooooo well. He's less suspicious and easier to be around. She like calms him and brings him out of his dark thoughts almost. The mans still VERY possessive but one step at a time I guess 😄

How does someone go about doing this?

"She like calms him and brings him out of his dark thoughts almost."

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Oh I'm sorry. It's been quite a while 🙂

But I'm not sure of HOW she does it. He's just a genuinely less grumpy person whenever she's around. He laughs and is much more open. She softens him. It's cute

Posted by Walkergrl
As a Scorpio male, how can you expect the same level of respect and trust when you pull away emotionally, repeatedly? Do you honestly expect your S/O, GF, or Partner to continuously reciprocate love and trust towards you? Or is this some ridiculous game that's being played?

I have no understanding of this, the crux of my confusion.

If you can't take it - walk away!

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by EnochtheWise

Posted by MyStarsShine
Try another sign...it may prove easier for you

LOL!

Star, did you consult the Tarot cards on this? Or just flip a coin or something?

No

I am a Scorpio and just know we are much better off having a rship with ourselves and not afflicting others

Lol

Admit.....it is true....if you dare

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you've got balls of steel i like

i admit it, but we don't want to feel alone too

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by Walkergrl
As a Scorpio male, how can you expect the same level of respect and trust when you pull away emotionally, repeatedly? Do you honestly expect your S/O, GF, or Partner to continuously reciprocate love and trust towards you? Or is this some ridiculous game that's being played?

I have no understanding of this, the crux of my confusion.

If you can't take it - walk away!

Clearly.