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Posted by Cancer2929
I believe I've truly lost her. I didn't realise until now but I was way too generous to her. I think she thinks I'm weak. She didn't spend a penny on me. That should have been a wake up call to me but I was having too much fun with her. I wanted to talk and take things to the next level with her but she beat me to the punch with that text. What can I do to fix this if anything— I have a libra waiting in the wings that I'm about to take out. But I really want this Scorpio. I've had better experiences with Scorpio than libras. Please help!

Posted by Ellygant
If I've had SIX dates with someone and I'm not furiously making out happily by then it's not good. I don't think I'd make it past two dates actually lol.

Posted by EllygantPosted by -elle-I have bad reading comprehension. I totally missed the I love you...
Two things just from ypur post....
1. Why did you say "I love you"? Seems contrived. Especially because you had just said "I was trying to make out with her"
2. You have a libra "in the wings". You weren't all in. Seems you were doing things to get things and it wasn't coming from the right place
Seems the libra is a better choice.click to expand

Posted by EllygantPosted by PhoenixRisingNote to self: Don't dxp before morning tea. Reading comprehension is all sorts of off.Posted by Ellygant
If I've had SIX dates with someone and I'm not furiously making out happily by then it's not good. I don't think I'd make it past two dates actually lol.
This.
However, I question if religion plays a role in her approach to become intimate. She did mention that in her text.
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Posted by Ellygant
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.

Posted by UnusualVaginalDischargeSmdh...
Do you live in the Detroit area?
Is it safe to assume you're 29?

Posted by EllygantThat could be why she brought up "Detroithubby". She was likely fishing for a response.
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.


Posted by -elle-I saw that glaring signal as well - it stuck out like a sore thumb and seemed like quite an odd moment to use a term of endearment, considering the Scorpio 's detached behaviour towards OP.Posted by Ellygantlol....that stuck out to me in double bold and flashing lights.....probably the only thing I read, tbh.Posted by -elle-I have bad reading comprehension. I totally missed the I love you...
Two things just from ypur post....
1. Why did you say "I love you"? Seems contrived. Especially because you had just said "I was trying to make out with her"
2. You have a libra "in the wings". You weren't all in. Seems you were doing things to get things and it wasn't coming from the right place
Seems the libra is a better choice.click to expand

Posted by Ram416
OP, I have a question that begs to be answered.
If you thought that the Scorpio was "the one", why did you have a Libra waiting in the wings?
Just my opinion but I wouldn't want to be the Libra. Imagine if you and the Scorpio hit it off right away, would you have done the same thing to the Libra that was done to you by the Scorpio?
Jfc...

Posted by -elle-Posted by Ram416double standards.
OP, I have a question that begs to be answered.
If you thought that the Scorpio was "the one", why did you have a Libra waiting in the wings?
Just my opinion but I wouldn't want to be the Libra. Imagine if you and the Scorpio hit it off right away, would you have done the same thing to the Libra that was done to you by the Scorpio?
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Posted by PhoenixRisingI'm only interested in his motive for having someone waiting on the sides (I know what it is, but I want OP to say it). And you're right, whether they hit it off or not is irrelevant because the Leeb loses out, either way.Posted by Ram416
OP, I have a question that begs to be answered.
If you thought that the Scorpio was "the one", why did you have a Libra waiting in the wings?
Just my opinion but I wouldn't want to be the Libra. Imagine if you and the Scorpio hit it off right away, would you have done the same thing to the Libra that was done to you by the Scorpio?
Jfc...
Thing is, whether they hit it off or not is irrelevant. According to him, they are 6 dates deep, she's giving him lukewarm borderline cold responses, yet the Leeb is waiting.
It is what it is.
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Posted by Algol-RisingPosted by Gob_ShiteI'm a Gemini Bay-bee...Posted by Algol-RisingPosted by Gob_ShiteHow is it getting boring? I just started.Posted by Algol-Rising
Says the guy who always takes up for the Capricorn no matter what they do. *rolls eyes*
And if you actually read my posting history, you'd be eating your words.
But carry on with your butthurt projection and manipulation. It's getting pretty boring...
*yawns*
I have read your posts before. I ain't new.
Regardless, you're still wrong and you know it (and the proof is there for all to see). You're just resorting to the usual petty vindictiveness that butthurt Scorpios are renown for.
But, hey, knock yourself out! Show your true colours!
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Posted by Gob_ShiteNope, I was only seeing this Scorpio. I work with the Libra I mentioned, and honestly don't like to date co-workers. She's been sweet and pushing to hangout. Just got her number yesterday, so I'll give it a try with her next week. So everyone saying "she smelled it a mile away I was seeing someone" I have to laugh out loud. I wasn't seeing anyone but the Scorpio. I was loyal, perhaps too loyal! It's clear as day to me she doesn't need time to figure things out. She just wants to stop seeing each other. Fine! If she's not interested, I don't want to waste another penny or minute on her. Sure her parents will be disappointed because I got them gear from a very popular event. (I don't wish to reveal my location or the event in case she ever gets on her.)Posted by Ram416Posted by EllygantThat could be why she brought up "Detroithubby". She was likely fishing for a response.
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.
OP, were you seeing others, while dating the Scorpio?
Be honest...
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Posted by Cancer2929There was nothing to fix because there was nothing broken in the first place. She wasn't interested from day one. But you persisted so she probably thought ok let's see if something can happen. Nothing happened for her. So it can't really be counted as a loss if there was nothing there in the first place.Posted by Gob_ShiteNope, I was only seeing this Scorpio. I work with the Libra I mentioned, and honestly don't like to date co-workers. She's been sweet and pushing to hangout. Just got her number yesterday, so I'll give it a try with her next week. So everyone saying "she smelled it a mile away I was seeing someone" I have to laugh out loud. I wasn't seeing anyone but the Scorpio. I was loyal, perhaps too loyal! It's clear as day to me she doesn't need time to figure things out. She just wants to stop seeing each other. Fine! If she's not interested, I don't want to waste another penny or minute on her. Sure her parents will be disappointed because I got them gear from a very popular event. (I don't wish to reveal my location or the event in case she ever gets on her.)Posted by Ram416Posted by EllygantThat could be why she brought up "Detroithubby". She was likely fishing for a response.
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.
OP, were you seeing others, while dating the Scorpio?
Be honest...
The libra is more gorgeous than her and I'm hoping her personality is also better but as you know, generally Cancers go better with scorpios. So I wanted to see if there's anything I can do with this one before giving it up. I'm asking everyone if there's anything I can do to fix this. From what I'm reading, nope it's better to move on. She sent me a snap two days ok and haven't opened it or respond. Her loss
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Posted by Cancer2929
Going back to the libra, I've only seen her the past two weeks at work. We've talked a few times, about random stuff and have a few laughs. She's sweet but there's no guarantee we'll work out either. But when she's asking me when will we hangout, a couple times, tells me she's interested. And if she is, I want to invest my time into her, not the Scorpio. That's all. I'm not trying to hurt anyone.

Posted by -elle-
yeah....we are paying attention to timeline.
you really don't need to jump through hoops to make yourself look better....this is an anonymous forum and none of us really give a shit.
just be honest.

Posted by Gob_ShiteThey are questions. He doesn't have to answer them.Posted by Ram416Posted by Cancer2929There was nothing to fix because there was nothing broken in the first place. She wasn't interested from day one. But you persisted so she probably thought ok let's see if something can happen. Nothing happened for her. So it can't really be counted as a loss if there was nothing there in the first place.Posted by Gob_ShiteNope, I was only seeing this Scorpio. I work with the Libra I mentioned, and honestly don't like to date co-workers. She's been sweet and pushing to hangout. Just got her number yesterday, so I'll give it a try with her next week. So everyone saying "she smelled it a mile away I was seeing someone" I have to laugh out loud. I wasn't seeing anyone but the Scorpio. I was loyal, perhaps too loyal! It's clear as day to me she doesn't need time to figure things out. She just wants to stop seeing each other. Fine! If she's not interested, I don't want to waste another penny or minute on her. Sure her parents will be disappointed because I got them gear from a very popular event. (I don't wish to reveal my location or the event in case she ever gets on her.)Posted by Ram416Posted by EllygantThat could be why she brought up "Detroithubby". She was likely fishing for a response.
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.
OP, were you seeing others, while dating the Scorpio?
Be honest...
The libra is more gorgeous than her and I'm hoping her personality is also better but as you know, generally Cancers go better with scorpios. So I wanted to see if there's anything I can do with this one before giving it up. I'm asking everyone if there's anything I can do to fix this. From what I'm reading, nope it's better to move on. She sent me a snap two days ok and haven't opened it or respond. Her loss
So you weren't seeing anyone while you were with her. But you did have your eye on someone else as an option in case Plan A failed, yes?
So despite your efforts, you weren't really 110% into the Scorpio. I'd say maybe 90% . Scorpios need 110% . And she probably picked up on the lack of 20% .(she watches your snap chat, online behaviour, yes?)
Just my opinion but it seems like you weren't really into the Scorpio as much as you'd like to think.
That's pure conjecture...
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Posted by Cancer2929Don't believe everything you read. Your description of events showed that she wasn't really interested. So it didn't work out.
Please correct me if I'm wrong. But I believe I gave 110% to this Scorpio and because I did, she got bored and lost interest. I've read everywhere you have to make Scorpios chase you a little, make them earn you, and you earn them. If one is doing the heavy lifting, the other will get bored. And that's what I believed happened. I didn't pay attention to that originally. Wish I did.
I think because I have Libra moon, that's why I attract a lot of libras. Personally, just a random thought.
Posted by ScorpioTruthDidnt help that every now and then that SHE would reach over and kiss me a few times. Not me, her. But to my disappointment they were quick ones. No making out or anything more than that.Posted by Ram416This actually is not true. Scorpio women chase unavailable men all of the time.Posted by Cancer2929There was nothing to fix because there was nothing broken in the first place. She wasn't interested from day one. But you persisted so she probably thought ok let's see if something can happen. Nothing happened for her. So it can't really be counted as a loss if there was nothing there in the first place.Posted by Gob_ShiteNope, I was only seeing this Scorpio. I work with the Libra I mentioned, and honestly don't like to date co-workers. She's been sweet and pushing to hangout. Just got her number yesterday, so I'll give it a try with her next week. So everyone saying "she smelled it a mile away I was seeing someone" I have to laugh out loud. I wasn't seeing anyone but the Scorpio. I was loyal, perhaps too loyal! It's clear as day to me she doesn't need time to figure things out. She just wants to stop seeing each other. Fine! If she's not interested, I don't want to waste another penny or minute on her. Sure her parents will be disappointed because I got them gear from a very popular event. (I don't wish to reveal my location or the event in case she ever gets on her.)Posted by Ram416Posted by EllygantThat could be why she brought up "Detroithubby". She was likely fishing for a response.
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.
OP, were you seeing others, while dating the Scorpio?
Be honest...
The libra is more gorgeous than her and I'm hoping her personality is also better but as you know, generally Cancers go better with scorpios. So I wanted to see if there's anything I can do with this one before giving it up. I'm asking everyone if there's anything I can do to fix this. From what I'm reading, nope it's better to move on. She sent me a snap two days ok and haven't opened it or respond. Her loss
So you weren't seeing anyone while you were with her. But you did have your eye on someone else as an option in case Plan A failed, yes?
So despite your efforts, you weren't really 110% into the Scorpio. I'd say maybe 90% . Scorpios need 110% . And she probably picked up on the lack of 20% .(she watches your snap chat, online behaviour, yes?)
And give the guy a break you guys. Lol he dated her for 2.5 whole months. Lol most adults have options while dating after dating only 2.5 months. So even if he had the libra as another option, I don't see why everyone is jumping down his throat, like they've never had options.
The reason this Scorpio isn't into him has nothing to do with the libra. She wasn't into him from the beginning but too nice/too afraid to hurt his feelings to be more upfront with him. She tried to let him down easy but he continued to persist.
I think the only place he went wrong was telling her he loved her, and I'm not sure if that was a manipulation tactic or what it was. But it probably sent her scattering right back into her shell, especially if she doesn't feel anything for him.
I've been in a similar situation with a cancer before. he was a sweet guy but there was nothing there and he could not take a hint to save his life. Scorpios are only vindictive and cruel if someone has crossed us. But if there's a good guy pursuing us, we will let him down gently. There's no reason to sting. She probably should have been more direct and not allow him to keep spending his money on her if she knew it was a dead end, but In my opinion she made it clear that she wasn't interested in more than friendship.
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Posted by Cancer2929Not the ones I know. Mostly female, and mostly fiery Scorps. I had a Scorp uncle who used to want to fight people all the damn time for every little misdemeanour lmao.Posted by ScorpioTruthDidnt help that every now and then that SHE would reach over and kiss me a few times. Not me, her. But to my disappointment they were quick ones. No making out or anything more than that.Posted by Ram416This actually is not true. Scorpio women chase unavailable men all of the time.Posted by Cancer2929There was nothing to fix because there was nothing broken in the first place. She wasn't interested from day one. But you persisted so she probably thought ok let's see if something can happen. Nothing happened for her. So it can't really be counted as a loss if there was nothing there in the first place.Posted by Gob_ShiteNope, I was only seeing this Scorpio. I work with the Libra I mentioned, and honestly don't like to date co-workers. She's been sweet and pushing to hangout. Just got her number yesterday, so I'll give it a try with her next week. So everyone saying "she smelled it a mile away I was seeing someone" I have to laugh out loud. I wasn't seeing anyone but the Scorpio. I was loyal, perhaps too loyal! It's clear as day to me she doesn't need time to figure things out. She just wants to stop seeing each other. Fine! If she's not interested, I don't want to waste another penny or minute on her. Sure her parents will be disappointed because I got them gear from a very popular event. (I don't wish to reveal my location or the event in case she ever gets on her.)Posted by Ram416Posted by EllygantThat could be why she brought up "Detroithubby". She was likely fishing for a response.
For real though if you have someone else waiting in the wings, she smelled it a mile away. I would never take anyone seriously if they were talking to others and pursuing them actively. I'd treat the connection very casually and only for what I could get out of it.
Not telling her doesn't matter either. I've always known when someone I was dating was seeing others, long before they told me. I often wait it out a few weeks to see what the person decides. If they can't narrow their interest I tend to lose mine.
OP, were you seeing others, while dating the Scorpio?
Be honest...
The libra is more gorgeous than her and I'm hoping her personality is also better but as you know, generally Cancers go better with scorpios. So I wanted to see if there's anything I can do with this one before giving it up. I'm asking everyone if there's anything I can do to fix this. From what I'm reading, nope it's better to move on. She sent me a snap two days ok and haven't opened it or respond. Her loss
So you weren't seeing anyone while you were with her. But you did have your eye on someone else as an option in case Plan A failed, yes?
So despite your efforts, you weren't really 110% into the Scorpio. I'd say maybe 90% . Scorpios need 110% . And she probably picked up on the lack of 20% .(she watches your snap chat, online behaviour, yes?)
And give the guy a break you guys. Lol he dated her for 2.5 whole months. Lol most adults have options while dating after dating only 2.5 months. So even if he had the libra as another option, I don't see why everyone is jumping down his throat, like they've never had options.
The reason this Scorpio isn't into him has nothing to do with the libra. She wasn't into him from the beginning but too nice/too afraid to hurt his feelings to be more upfront with him. She tried to let him down easy but he continued to persist.
I think the only place he went wrong was telling her he loved her, and I'm not sure if that was a manipulation tactic or what it was. But it probably sent her scattering right back into her shell, especially if she doesn't feel anything for him.
I've been in a similar situation with a cancer before. he was a sweet guy but there was nothing there and he could not take a hint to save his life. Scorpios are only vindictive and cruel if someone has crossed us. But if there's a good guy pursuing us, we will let him down gently. There's no reason to sting. She probably should have been more direct and not allow him to keep spending his money on her if she knew it was a dead end, but In my opinion she made it clear that she wasn't interested in more than friendship.
Here's what I think happened. She sounded so excited about a best friend coming up here in a couple of weeks. And talked about him, (yes a he) possibly staying at her place over the weekend. Now since we're not inclusive and scorpios don't like being bossed around. I didn't say anything to her that she can't do that. I think she was looking for someone to take up her time, until the friend comes over. That's what my family and friends believe. I'm starting to buy that. When I asked if her parents wanted to go to the Baseball game, my family told me that was a bad move and too soon. I agree but I was just trying to be nice, the other two tickets were suppose to go to my coworkers but they dropped out. I went through 30 different coworkers all last minute and no luck. So that's why I felt tempted to ask her parents through her, then ended up inviting a couple of friends instead. That most likely freaked her out about asking if her parents wanted to go, through her though. But again, after teasing me a couple times through a couple jokes during the game. She would lean over and say just kidding hun and kiss me. So that's one reason why I didn't pick up she was trying to let me done gently before the text. Doesn't really matter anymore. We're done, it just bugs me a little we couldn't talk first. I know Scorpios hate confrontations, I'm use to them growing up from my parents. But I wanted it to be a friendly chat. And I'm just wondering why she keeps looking at my story snaps on snapchat. I'm not sending ones to her directly. I'll never understand, guess she's just curious.click to expand
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On paper you are perfect so she gave it a chance but she's just not feeling it. Maybe she's hung up on an ex, maybe she is too busy with other stuff, maybe there just isn't a spark but either way, it's not gonna happen