Love story?

Hi all i am new. Dont pick on me, i tend to "keep quite" 😄

Tell me what is wrong with this. I dated a girl, cancer for about 8 months. Everything was good, i had absolute control, way i like it. For example, if she needed to talk to a guy, i would be that guy no other, no wearing short skirts that are to revealing, all the passwords that you use (myspace aim etc) give it to me dont hide it. Tell me eveything you did, and you better be able to recap that in few days time. No hanging out with girls that i think are cheating...o yeah and number one dont talk about guys or cheat on me. So all of this was going on, she obejed every command neversaid a word. I would ask her if there is anything that she dosent like, that i can possobly change, she said no. I dont know if i shuld be saying this, but after i took her virginity everything crashed. She started texting other guys, i found out. SHe tryed to wear skirts behind my back i found out, her mom started pitching in how i am to controling (i cant help it) then i just LOSTTTT it, and put out WMD. Her mom made her break up with me. She told me she would not find another guy etc....and over a course of a year she kept telling me that she is single and loves me, but i had proff that she had a bf/s...at least six. THat buggs me to point of....i dont know...why is she doing this? Why cant she just come out and tell me, i have a bf....why lie its ben a year we dont even talk? More she does it more i hate her....but deep down, still, with no regret love her.

Can someone explain why>?

You must be a kid. That's no treat a woman even if you have the upper hand of control in a relationship.

She didn't tell you because you scared the shit out of her, that's why.

* no way to treat

True, I was at the time....I did suppress most of my rage to point of extinction. A lie to say I don't lose it time to time even now. Its just that I didn't want to lose her, and every girl I am interested in reflects to the same story. They surrender to absolute control even when I refuse to do so. I ges what I am looking for is a way to eliminate my crave for perfection and infinitive loyalty from my partner. Did any of you, scorps have similar issue, and if so how do you cope with it, or how did you manage to overcome it?

Great forms bdw, a lot of knowledge distributed left and right.

besides the fact that ur way to controling.... yea u probably instilled great fear in her. My ex turned into that after many months of dating, should've seen it comming since he had hacked his ex's page right in front of me. he got all my passwords without my knowledge, and reguardless if i loved him or not... i feared him more than i cared for him. that builds up resentment... so who cares if she likes u or not, ur probably never getting back together, i wouldn't tell u shit if we werent dating and i was ur ex. it's none of ur business. granted if she loved u she probably still does, u cant control who u love, but u can control how u show it. shes not comming back, if she does... she wont be back for long. sry!

"She started texting other guys, i found out."

Gee...wonder why?

"SHe tryed to wear skirts behind my back i found out"

OMG! Call the National Guard!
Dude, this NOT a love story. You need to stay away from women altogether and just get a blow up doll or a robot.

"Right! or a fish girl for that matter, they love doing for you whatever you ask them"

Not this one.

i'm not going to "pick on you", but it is unrealistic to expect any person to obey your every command. anyone besides yourself is a separate entity and therefore will NEVER be able to uphold YOUR standards perfectly. that's something you need to learn.

the twists and turns are a part of what makes life beautiful. instead of seeking to control everything, i suggest you embrace the things you cannot control. you may think you want total power over your reality, but really, how boring. how lackluster. how predictable.

and i'm sure you know that you are not perfect, so accepting change is a positive thing - it helps you to learn and grow. otherwise your character will remain in stagnation, or, without dilution from outside influences, intensify into something that others find unbearable.

my advice: instead of finding a meek, submissive girl - why not try someone who will challenge you? someone who will stand by her principles regardless of the demands you make?

conquering a weak target does not make you strong. but being able to accept and appreciate the differences of a mate who challenges you will show you just how much you can overcome.

"my advice: instead of finding a meek, submissive girl - why not try someone who will challenge you? someone who will stand by her principles regardless of the demands you make?"

Exactly! Find yourself a Scorpio or a Leo woman, and so how well this shit goes over with them. You will learn a valuable lesson, if you survive...lol

You would NEVER get away with that bullshit with this cancer girl! The whole 'control thing' that Scorp guys got going on is cute and it's fun to let them THINK they have control, but what you describe goes way beyond anything normal. You need to get yourself some professional help.

"......this thread is so outrageous I'm wondering if it's fake."

assuming it's true however... you need to grow up! Lets face it, ya messed up! Perhaps your g/f was too weak willed to realize how horrible a b/f you really are, but her mom sure did notice. thats NOT how you treat a woman. I can understand your jealous and insecurity issues, we all have them! ask anyone on the thread! its a human trait! but you cant take them out on others, thats what we call self control.

Your domineering personality towards women is insulting. And the fact that your aware and happy with it is even more insulting.

Try treating your next g/f with more respect.

Lol, Ones that didint "rape me" thank you. I did mention this was in my tenage years, love story...i didint know what else to name it. And the skirt thing, i will allow a girl to wear a decent skirt, not the type where you see her underwear while she is standing up....you might as well not wear one at all. THere are few exeptions to that. I will admit this is all true, no bull, happend two and half years ago but i only gave you "bad things"

I am not like this now, I don't control girls, nor do I give a damn what they do nor do I ask. This first love was a huge turning point and a huge lesson. I never felt the same for a girl after this. I just wanted to put this out there, because when I look back that was something that took its toll. I am sorry for the repulsive few who jump out breaking bread on my head without knowing the who story, but I don't blame you. What you out to know is that there are two sides to every story.


This is how it all begun (Short-as-possible) 😉

We went to the movies, pack of twenty or so people. First we were all standing outside, by this time there was about ten people left, all the attention was focused on this one girl because she was a model-hot this and that. Four of my friends were trying to get with her at the same time, I didn't, nor did I pay attention to her. I did however on occasion just look at her and she would look back, I didn't know why I was looking nor did I posses ambition or drive to look at her. But when I went home that night I kept thinking and dreaming of our eyes melting together (if you understand the concept). So the next day on myspace I get a msg from her out of nowhere asking me if I had fun at the movies. I was a bit confused but at this time eager to talk to her, so the conversation carried on. We exchanged numbers and started texting. Texting lead to phone conversations....and I remember the third phone conversation we had she was cooking, or cutting some vegies when I said ?We should get married in burger king, so I can have it my way?, she responded saying ?Are you serious, you wana go out?? I was shocked by the replay because this was one of those jokes where you test them to see what they would say. We get together and spend the next five hours on the phone, just talking....At the time I knew I get crazy so I told her that I am controlling etc. She disregarded my warning and preceded with the ?hook up?.

We went to the movies two days after we got together, and from then on we hung out ever single day, I got to meet her parents within a week and they became like my real parents. Her dad was someone I looked up to, because I never knew my real father who died in war when I was only three. My stepdad was good to me, but her dad was more open and I can have a conversation about politics, cars, girls everything. For the four months we were together I did not control her like I made an impression. Rather what happened is she put her self in a controlling position. What I mean by that is, one week after we got together she deleted all the guy numbers in her phone, without me saying anything to get her to move to that action. Next day she told me that she deleted everyone off msn and aim, my first response was wtf? I reflected her actions and did the same thing. I didnt really care because I don't spend that much time online anyway. She kept her my space, and would report to me every time a guy would hit on her, but her being a model it was an everyday thing...I didn't like it, I didn't care I didn't want to know or hear about it. It drove me nuts inside but I prevailed and didn't say a word. Till one point I leaked and said why don't just just delete that dumb sh*t...and she did...and the next day her mom confronted me saying why did you make her delete myspace, she needs to have that, she needs to hang out with her friends, you hang out with her all the time, you will get sick of her. Having someone say that to me, felt like a needle poking my eye every tenth of a second, I didn't respond to the critisasam, instead I stopped coming to their house for three weeks until her mom ended up calling me and asking why I am not coming. Everything was back to normal for a while. Until a friend told me she got myspace bak, and I confroted her about it and asked her why didint she tell me. (Remember I didnt make her delete it, nor did I care if she had one). .......Now I got to go to sleep, I got an exam tommorow. If you all like this I will continue tommorow.

"not the type where you see her underwear while she is standing up....you might as well not wear one at all."

Look, it sounds like this girl always has to be the center of attention. Particularly, the center of "male" attention. I'll give you that any Scorp male would most likely hate this, but if that's the way she is, that's the way she is, and it sounds like you can't accept or deal with it, so it would be better to move on.

"and the next day her mom confronted me saying why did you make her delete myspace, she needs to have that, she needs to hang out with her friends, you hang out with her all the time, you will get sick of her"

Why didn't you just explain to the mother that she did this on her own? However, anyone cutting off their other associations just because of a relationship is unhealthy. We all need friends in addition to our significant other. The telling you about the other men thing was, again, her seeking validation. This child seems to have many self-esteem issues, and a controlling male (no matter who initiates or "gives in" to the control) is a recipe for disaster.

Atlantic Myst-----Again






Atlantic Myst, your jumping into conclusion and seeing one sided story at least that's the way it appears to me. Don't wear skirts that show your underwear, there is different types of skirts...If she is with me then its fine. Back then that was my point of view, regardless of what you think, its what I executed while me and her were together. I am not trying to change the story, but rather giving different points of view. I am not denying my actions and I am not seeking approval for my actions, I am simply telling my story, choice of words might make it appear brutal and wrong. I my self think what I did was wrong, way I acted and what I expected. I didn't change right away, but I took reassuring steps to trim down my behavior. I in no way regret it, but I wont forget it. You need to make mistakes in life to make better choices. This chapter in my life forever changed way I act towards females. She was my first love, we were young dumb and careless, talked about marriage and stuff. And I didn't want to mention right away, but we departed after the break up and didn't speak except on occasions where she would tell me she still loves me and I would do the same, and her denia that she has a bf even tho I knew she did etc...But eventually we sat down and talked about everything we went threw, lesson involved, good and bad times we had and decided its for the best that we don't talk because its provokes to many memory, we said our good byes and ever since we didn't talk.

I said and done some bad things, I even said I don't love her anymore, but I remember last summer while playing basketball with few of my friends, she came in the same park to play football with her friends, the moment I seen her my hands started shaking and went num, the rush of energy vanished and I wasn't able to pick up the basketball anymore, as strange and cheesy as this sounds its true. Even tho we decided not to talk, even tho we moved on have our own lives, I still love her.

Atlantic myst, don't compare me to other guys in ?your life?, and say I was the same, you don't know me on the personal level to be able to achieve that statement.

I think if your able to admit to your self that your wrong, it's a first step towards becoming a better person. You cant live life pretending that your perfect, and asking others to be perfect. To have regret is to admit you failed, to accept the facts is to understand the truth.

And just so i clear this out, fear is not something i live in lol, in reality its a game. [F.E.A.R first (encounter assault recon)]

FEAR!!! Exactly who do you think you are? Seriously. You should be priasing her for putting up with your crap for as long as she did. Grow up and grow some balls. You have more fears than anything this is why you feel the need to control. No one belongs to you partner. Get over yourself.

***Well I agree with the short skirt thing. IMO, It isn't appropriate even if you are single. I can completely understand why a man wouldn't want his girl to prance around in revealing clothing, as it is a form of attention seeking and can attract unwanted pests. ***

Uhhh what do you wear in the summer, long sleeves and jeans— There is a difference between slutty and classy. Who wants to sweat to death?

This is probably why someone made the comment he should have dated a Pisces. Every person is an individual they should do as THEY please.

"I dont know if i shuld be saying this, but after i took her virginity everything crashed. She started texting other guys, i found out. SHe tryed to wear skirts behind my back i found out, her mom started pitching in how i am to controling (i cant help it) then i just LOSTTTT it, and put out WMD. Her mom made her break up with me."


Your lack of a father figure in growing up is whats causing you to have these feelings of possesiveness, its nothing to do with control or being Scorpio. You even said you looked up to her father and family like they became your own. Although it seems like control issues, you needed to posses this girl all to yourself which manifests itself into controlling actions.


::gives F.E.A.R. two thumbs up for deflowering a model::

😉

To: tollboot
42 years old male from NY

"gives F.E.A.R. two thumbs up for deflowering a model::"

You're pathetic

Ariesgirl-4:20, typical of a "me first arian attitude" not to comment on the main point of my response to FEAR.

Instead you blurt out the first thing that comes across your face, errrr, I meant mind

{muah!}

I think your conception of ?classy? is my misconception of ?slutty??
I said there is appropriate types of skirts. Let me put it to a level where you might understand this. A business woman walks in to her bosses office wearing a short skirt (where you can see her underwear while standing up, in those terms), she gets fired, her excuse IT WASSSS HOTTTTT. Give me a break. That might be an odd example but it should decode the msg.

I didint say to fell bad for me. It seems that way but i am just saying there is two sides to everystory. If your looking for this: "Me and marina, when we went out two years ago i was helllla controling, no doubt" Better?

***Me being a Pisces, I am sensitive to my mans needs and wants. I would never wear a skirt that short... single or not, summertime or not, and I can understand how a man can be uncomfortable with that.***

First of all he never said booty shorts or skirt past the thighs, short can be to the knee or maybe a little shorter. Again, you can wear a short skirt with class.

Being sensitive to your man's needs is not giving up your own... If she wants to wear a damn short skirt she should be able to, with taste. I am in my 30's so, no I don't wear anything above my thighs in public anyway. LOL!!! Although my body would look good in something that short. I have too much class to do so, but I do wear short dress/skirts, even to my corporate job. Again with taste.

FEAR, you are an imature person. Grow up first, then make comments about class and sluttiness, because you clearly don't have a clue about much of anything.

Queenscorpio you really do read between the lines, i said there is what is considerd apropriate and many would agree with this. 30 and calling me imature? Class? Taste?

Starfish225, again i admit to that. And again this is a while back, its my leson to reshape my attitute. I was thinking it would make a good story. To some it did i supose.

Queenscorpio, i am sorry i dont meet your standards but you really need to read everything to paint a flashy picture. If i am imature, hell your not to far behind 😉

tollboot you can never say anything without having someone objective to that. To some extent its good, sometimes its not 😄

To add: I don't want to seem defensive, I do respect constructive feed back, good or bad. I despise know it all people who tend to remote others, to their "level"

***Queenscorpio you really do read between the lines, i said there is what is considerd apropriate and many would agree with this. 30 and calling me imature? Class? Taste***

Bottom line, learn to love not control. Control doesn't equal love. She is grown she can wear what she likes, you can make a suggestion but it is her ultimate decision. If she seems too slutty or dresses inappropriate for you. Move on, but don't try and change her. That my dear is immature.

By the way. There are attributes about a scorp man that I love dearly, but the possessive controling of others aspect just isn't necessary. It causes more harm than good in the long run.

My godfather is a scorp and I ador him. I also have a friend who is one.

"theres no need to shoot him down anyway."

Ah, but we're Scorpios, see?! 🙂

QS has been especially nasty of late. She's always carried an agenda against male Scorpios anyhow despite throwing us a few bones from time to time. 😉

LMAO@SR, actually I am becoming more keen toward Scorp guys daily and as we speak 😉

Not nasty, like all scorps brutally honest. Sorry but I am who I am no harm intended.

So all of this was going on, she obejed every command neversaid a word

HAHA she obeyed!!! 😆

but deep down, still, with no regret love her.

hmm..if you love her then I guess you gotta go get her and maybe try to work on being so possessive. I know b/c I'm that way 2. But sometimes we have to find ways to deal with these feelings instead of letting them control our lives. I can honestly say when I'm jealous..it makes me feel so bad inside and it eats away at me like acid. But then again I can't even explain it so maybe she just needs to understand you and your needs =)

To add: I don't want to seem defensive, I do respect constructive feed back, good or bad. I despise know it all people who tend to remote others, to their "level"

I despise know it all people who tend to remote others, to their "level"

REALLY!

O I got an idea!!! Why don;t you go shopping for her and don't go to those cheap "slutty" places either. You need big time classy wear...Polo...Guess...you name it go and re-dress her in style =D You may need a couple of hundreds whilest you go there SCORPIO!!!

Wow..she would love new clothes!!!

Tell me what is wrong with this. I dated a girl, cancer for about 8 months. Everything was good, i had absolute control, way i like it. For example, if she needed to talk to a guy, i would be that guy no other, no wearing short skirts that are to revealing, all the passwords that you use (myspace aim etc) give it to me dont hide it. Tell me eveything you did, and you better be able to recap that in few days time. No hanging out with girls that i think are cheating...o yeah and number one dont talk about guys or cheat on me. So all of this was going on, she obejed every command neversaid a word. I would ask her if there is anything that she dosent like, that i can possobly change, she said no. I dont know if i shuld be saying this, but after i took her virginity everything crashed. She started texting other guys, i found out. SHe tryed to wear skirts behind my back i found out, her mom started pitching in how i am to controling (i cant help it) then i just LOSTTTT it, and put out WMD. Her mom made her break up with me. She told me she would not find another guy etc....and over a course of a year she kept telling me that she is single and loves me, but i had proff that she had a bf/s...at least six. THat buggs me to point of....i dont know...why is she doing this? Why cant she just come out and tell me, i have a bf....why lie its ben a year we dont even talk? More she does it more i hate her....but deep down, still, with no regret love her.

Good GODS!!! You sound just like my an ex-scorpio of mine. We were young back then but he loved having control. Yeah, I kinda got out while I still could too. No one made me break up with him, I did that on my own.