@dadjokes
7 Years
Scorpio husband doesn't want me having lesbian/bi friends
I think generally men and women should just stop actively seeking out to too many new acquaintances once they settle down. I have not seen that work out very well longterm.
OMG LOL
No wonder they call marriage an "institution"......nobody has the right to tell you what to do
Suffocating and a slippery slope
I would just do what he says. It’s not like these are your long term friends. They are just people you met. If it makes him uncomfortable then why be pushy?
Really?
Sounds like hes super insecure.
Has he been cheated on before?
His ex flirted with other guys in front of him, but he dumped her immediately for it, so I don't think he had the chance to be cheated on.
He insists that he trusts me, he just doesn't trust others' intentions.
LOL wut?
How long have you guys been married?
Is there really any other way to handle it than to find two gay men for him to hang out with?
lol now there's an idea.
Is there really any other way to handle it than to find two gay men for him to hang out with?
Jesus comes up with a genius idea again
And then when he tells you about them, you can tell him you don't want him to be friends with them 😛
Ugh marriage hey?
I would just do what he says. It’s not like these are your long term friends. They are just people you met. If it makes him uncomfortable then why be pushy?
Really?
Yeah lol
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Wow I can't stand the thought of being told what I can and can't do, it's like being a child again
As a Scorpio Sun with a cancer moon, I’m telling you, it’s bad to justify the paranoia of a Scorpio/Cancer.
Talk to him. Ask him why he feels friendships will threaten the relationship. He doesn’t feel secure. So either its a personal insecurity he needs to talk out or something is missing in the relationship. Maybe both. Either way talking through it will help.
Based on discussions with him, it's a safety thing. Maybe I could get some bear spray.
Is one of them a Taurus with an Aries moon?
Sounds like an inside joke, but one of them is a Taurus actually LMAO. But I don't know what her moon sign is.
Is he a conservative christian? I sense a bit of homophobia...
He's not religious, but he is from a rural part of the most conservative province of my country, so he didn't grow up with many openly LGBT people like I did. He swears that it's not that though.
Seriously, the more I experience Cancer personal placements, the more I want to stay well away from them. Whether it's the sun, moon, Mars or Venus, they're all clingy, highly-sensitive and paranoid to the nth degree, harbouring anger and resentment for even the most trivial of things (sometimes for months and years). And then, one day when you least expect it, they'll explode and switch to irrational psycho mode.
Couple that with a suspicious/paranoid Scorpio sun and... oh, boy...
Haha don't fear the crabs. He definitely doesn't harbour negative feelings. He's extremely communicative, which means that issues are easily resolved and everything is fine, aside from weird things like this that come up once in a blue moon.
Honestly, I don't see why be friends with them.. Sounds silly.
You and these women have nothing in common.
I don't believe they are a threat, like he thinks they are a threat.. Because it's only up to you if you wanted them or not, and nobody could stop you - except yourself and the desired party.
But that is like having male friends, as he said. I just think a woman doesn't need male friends once she has a man.. Especially when already married to a man.
Men and women aren't friends the same way men and men or women and women are friends.
I couldn't allow myself to feel that my relationship is threatened by a bunch of chicks, like he did....
But I would definitely say it's a pointless friendship to have, and they could introduce you to behaviors and socialism you have no business in.
Hanging out with lesbians could get real "spontaneous".
A married women shouldn't be partying like that.
I would just do what he says. It’s not like these are your long term friends. They are just people you met. If it makes him uncomfortable then why be pushy?
Really?
Yeah lol
Wow I can't stand the thought of being told what I can and can't do, it's like being a child again
I mean if I’m in love with someone and we’re in a serious committed relationship and they don’t feel comfortable with me talking to someone then I don’t mind, especially if I just met this “friend.” It’s not even worth it to me.
I feel like with relationships you just have to pick your battles.
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I think if you truly love someone you wouldn't need to control who they chose to be friends with, if not it shows you have no trust in them...
Why do straight people have this weird misconception that EVERY gay person wants their genitals??!
Furthermore they are a couple. Meaning they want to fuck each other, not you. Tell your husband to get over himself.
Why do straight people have this weird misconception that EVERY gay person wants their genitals??!
Furthermore they are a couple. Meaning they want to fuck each other, not you. Tell your husband to get over himself.
Exactly! Scorpio dude needs to realize that just cause a women is gay/bi doesnt mean shes into every woman, please dont flatter yourself, we have prefences and standards lol. Vast gay/bi women are not into straight women...cause ya'll straight.
And op your husband sounds like an insecure control freak, as well as bordering homophobic (regardless of his denial) Not sure how you manage that being a Sag. If my partner said that to me that would be the end of a relationship. Nobody tells me how to live my life, what to do, or who I can be friends with. Not my parent, not a president, not even if a freaking sky puppet came down from the heavens and started spouting his brainwashy mumbo jumbo.
And all the peeps in here saying that once a couple commits they shouldnt have need of friends especially ones that have a sexual interest in thier gender, you need to get a reality check. Thats absurd and screams desperate, controlling, and clingy.
lmfao
^ Yeah
No wonder they call marriage an "institution"......nobody has the right to tell you what to do
Suffocating and a slippery slope
Why do straight people have this weird misconception that EVERY gay person wants their genitals??!
Furthermore they are a couple. Meaning they want to fuck each other, not you. Tell your husband to get over himself.
Exactly! Scorpio dude needs to realize that just cause a women is gay/bi doesnt mean shes into every woman, please dont flatter yourself, we have prefences and standards lol. Vast gay/bi women are not into straight women...cause ya'll straight.
And op your husband sounds like an insecure control freak, as well as bordering homophobic (regardless of his denial) Not sure how you manage that being a Sag. If my partner said that to me that would be the end of a relationship. Nobody tells me how to live my life, what to do, or who I can be friends with. Not my parent, not a president, not even if a freaking sky puppet came down from the heavens and started spouting his brainwashy mumbo jumbo.
And all the peeps in here saying that once a couple commits they shouldnt have need of friends especially ones that have a sexual interest in thier gender, you need to get a reality check. Thats absurd and screams desperate, controlling, and clingy.
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It’s great the ops hubby thinks her shit don’t stink...but yeah. Just cause people are friendly...doesn’t mean they are thirsting after your ass. Js.
And agree with everything you’ve wrote here, 💯. Although I gotta say if a sky puppet came down from the heavens I’d for sure listen to its every command 😂😂😂
He probably watches too much lesbian porn.
I would just do what he says. It’s not like these are your long term friends. They are just people you met. If it makes him uncomfortable then why be pushy?
Really?
Yeah lol
Wow I can't stand the thought of being told what I can and can't do, it's like being a child again
I mean if I’m in love with someone and we’re in a serious committed relationship and they don’t feel comfortable with me talking to someone then I don’t mind, especially if I just met this “friend.” It’s not even worth it to me.
I feel like with relationships you just have to pick your battles.
I think if you truly love someone you wouldn't need to control who they chose to be friends with, if not it shows you have no trust in them...
Yeah in a Disney Utopia, but it doesn't work like that and you know it. People have imperfections and insecurity's, no relationship is perfect and trusting and 100% . Relationships are about compromise. Divorce culture is built around the idea that everyone deserves this perfect 'true love 100% trust freedom non controlling bullshit and no one should have to compromise in a relationship' Any thing less than that and people just split. It's pathetic.
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Haha your Disney comment made me laugh. When we were in Edinburgh last week, I walked past a bridal shop and in the window there was a sign "and they lived happily ever after", I almost went in and said "almost fifty percent don't actually" but decided against it
Lol
I would just do what he says. It’s not like these are your long term friends. They are just people you met. If it makes him uncomfortable then why be pushy?
Really?
Yeah lol
Wow I can't stand the thought of being told what I can and can't do, it's like being a child again
I mean if I’m in love with someone and we’re in a serious committed relationship and they don’t feel comfortable with me talking to someone then I don’t mind, especially if I just met this “friend.” It’s not even worth it to me.
I feel like with relationships you just have to pick your battles.
I think if you truly love someone you wouldn't need to control who they chose to be friends with, if not it shows you have no trust in them...
Yeah in a Disney Utopia, but it doesn't work like that and you know it. People have imperfections and insecurity's, no relationship is perfect and trusting and 100% . Relationships are about compromise. Divorce culture is built around the idea that everyone deserves this perfect 'true love 100% trust freedom non controlling bullshit and no one should have to compromise in a relationship' Any thing less than that and people just split. It's pathetic.
Haha your Disney comment made me laugh. When we were in Edinburgh last week, I walked past a bridal shop and in the window there was a sign "and they lived happily ever after", I almost went in and said "almost fifty percent don't actually" but decided against it
Lol
The dress company and the divorce lawyers are living happily ever after lol
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Great business scam 😆
Seriously, the more I experience Cancer personal placements, the more I want to stay well away from them. Whether it's the sun, moon, Mars or Venus, they're all clingy, highly-sensitive and paranoid to the nth degree, harbouring anger and resentment for even the most trivial of things (sometimes for months and years). And then, one day when you least expect it, they'll explode and switch to irrational psycho mode.
Couple that with a suspicious/paranoid Scorpio sun and... oh, boy...
I'm not a fan of Cancerian placements either for the reasons stated above, and I'm a Scorp! I tend to stay clear.
Aye Chica. Question. Did they invite you only? Or you and your husband? I can see if they wanted to do a couples outing. But if they made no regard to your husband, then that's odd.
They invited me to go to a sample sale with them, at a very girly store, right in front of him. They didn't invite him, but they probably didn't think he'd be interested in going shopping. 😂
Just assure him that if you will cheat on him it’ll be with man...and he shouldn’t be worry...lmao
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I've met a few cool ladies at badminton over the past few weeks, including a lesbian couple...who my husband saw me talking to when he met up with me after I was leaving the centre.
On our way home, he asked about them, and generally didn't seem too pleased, but when he saw me texting them later that night, he freaked out that I had given them my number, and doesn't want me to meet up with them outside of badminton.
I asked him why he's so worried, and he said that it's the equivalent of being friends with guys, and thinks I'll end up in a rape dungeon or something. I told him he's watched too many horror movies, but he maintains that he only wants me to be friends with straight women. No men or women who are attracted to women.
I've tried suggesting that he accompany me, so we go on a double date, but he said no, they'd just be biding their time.
He has a Scorpio sun with a Cancer moon. What's a good angle to take to reassure him that his stranger danger concerns are unfounded?